YOUR SILENCE SPEAKS VOLUMES

[kaybee85]

I'm really sorry, @stilljustash. I'm sure the silence in response to your post is deafening, so I couldn't just 'x' out of this. I know this is inadequate and fixes nothing.

[Bernadine]

There's no excuse, and I know that nothing anyone says will make it better. I am sorry.

[Deleted]

I am so sorry. You are right. I have participated in threads on other boards but I didn't create a thread here and that was wrong.

[cleo29]

I was discussing it elsewhere and forgot to bring it here. I think there was yet another murder, heard about it on the news, unless the murder of Terence Crutcher has brought to mass media.

And I am appalled that cops are still paid while on leave during an investigation.

eta: I looked it up because I could not remember the name. Keith Lamont Scott in NC. He was reading in his car. I am sickened. And I want the press to call it what it is, a murder. Not just a shooting, but a murder. A crime.

[cbwm1]

I'm sorry we've failed you, Ash.

I posted on P&CE last night and I'm fighting the fight on FB (to the point where I'm pretty sure a majority of my "friends" have blocked me because they're sick of listening to it but whatever...fuck them and this isn't about me), but I can do better on ML.

[bcv513]

I'm sorry ash.

[silva]

Sept 21, 2016 9:13:44 GMT -5 mofongo said:

@stilljustash - I am at a point where I don't know if it's better to speak or not speak. I don't want my words to sound like lip service, but the silence is deafening as well. The last thing I want to do is cause you anymore pain.

This is where I am.

eta: I'm horrified and feel helpless about this all. I'm sorry.

[JLV]

You are absolutely correct and I am a guilty party. I became complacent in posting on other threads on the shootings but they really need to be discussed everywhere.

[calle28]

I just discovered the WOC board a few days ago, I'm really glad it's there.

My mood is terrible too @stilljustash. But we have to smile and act like everything's A-okay. God forbid someone asks me how I'm doing and I tell them the truth.

[pantsparty]

I am sorry. I am trying to avoid the "ally theater" but being silent is shitty.

[BaliHai]

I understand, and I'm sorry for my part in this. I just finished the CEP threads, but we should absolutely be talking about it here, too.

[mekia]

I'm here. Didn't want to not respond. I've been reading about the shootings and it's awful. And people are still complaining about Kaepernick not standing up?

My friend works at a deaf school in California and one of her students was shot over the weekend and died. He was black and deaf. ETA: they still don't know exactly what happened or who shot him. 

I have no words about this except how terrible it is that it's still happening. It is happening everywhere, it feels like some people watch the news and go like "oh that would never happen here".

[SKP82]

I'm so sorry, Ash.

[BaliHai]

I was also just reading Luvvie's most recent post, about what we white people can do/have a responsibility to do, so I want to share it here.

www.awesomelyluvvie.com/2016/09/white-people-anti-racism.html

[Deleted]

Sept 21, 2016 9:13:44 GMT -5 mofongo said:

@stilljustash - I am at a point where I don't know if it's better to speak or not speak. I don't want my words to sound like lip service, but the silence is deafening as well. The last thing I want to do is cause you anymore pain.

This is where I am, but you are right, it's no excuse and I'm sorry.

[Deleted]

Sept 21, 2016 9:13:44 GMT -5 mofongo said:

@stilljustash - I am at a point where I don't know if it's better to speak or not speak. I don't want my words to sound like lip service, but the silence is deafening as well. The last thing I want to do is cause you anymore pain.

This is where I am too, but I'm sorry that my silence is hurting people. I just don't know what to say anymore. 

[bittybomb]

It is so sad. And the fact that it keeps happening over and over and over again is horrific. I don't know where we go from here, but we need to do something.

[happyholiday]

Sept 21, 2016 9:23:03 GMT -5 BaliHai said:

I was also just reading Luvvie's most recent post, about what we white people can do/have a responsibility to do, so I want to share it here.

www.awesomelyluvvie.com/2016/09/white-people-anti-racism.html

I just read this, and I think we should all read it. Luvvie said these are state-sanctioned killings, and she's right. And it is up to white people to fix this, because white people created this. 

[lust2hart]

Sept 21, 2016 9:20:23 GMT -5 calle28 said:

I just discovered the WOC board a few days ago, I'm really glad it's there.

My mood is terrible too @stilljustash . But we have to smile and act like everything's A-okay. God forbid someone asks me how I'm doing and I tell them the truth.

I hate this for you. One of my friends is an administrator for our university's Office of Multicultural Affairs and posts about how his office is a place for students to come and get support, but where can HE go for support? It must be absolutely exhausting. 

[acceptthegood]

I'm surprised there hasn't been a post here, because I've been blowing up my FB feed about why aren't officers ever charged with murder? Which is very unlike me to post, but I'm outraged.

However, here, I don't want to look like I'm engaging in "theater" as that one article addressed, so I'm more careful what I post here as to not seem disrespectful. I'm not sure what to do here.

[Deleted]

Sept 21, 2016 9:23:03 GMT -5 BaliHai said:

I was also just reading Luvvie's most recent post, about what we white people can do/have a responsibility to do, so I want to share it here.

www.awesomelyluvvie.com/2016/09/white-people-anti-racism.html

Thank you for this.  We all need to read this

[Yankees21]

Sept 21, 2016 9:23:03 GMT -5 BaliHai said:

I was also just reading Luvvie's most recent post, about what we white people can do/have a responsibility to do, so I want to share it here.

www.awesomelyluvvie.com/2016/09/white-people-anti-racism.html

Thank you for sharing this. I definitely need to do more.

[silva]

Sept 21, 2016 9:44:02 GMT -5 @sloanpeterson said:

Sept 21, 2016 9:23:03 GMT -5 BaliHai said:

I was also just reading Luvvie's most recent post, about what we white people can do/have a responsibility to do, so I want to share it here.

www.awesomelyluvvie.com/2016/09/white-people-anti-racism.html

Thank you for this.  We all need to read this

I signed up for Color of Change. There are many petitions worth signing. 

[Deleted]

Sept 21, 2016 9:47:29 GMT -5 silva said:

Sept 21, 2016 9:44:02 GMT -5 @sloanpeterson said:

Thank you for this.  We all need to read this

I signed up for Color of Change. There are many petitions worth signing. 

Im doing the same now

and I am not stopping there. This article has spelled it out for me. How can I NOT act. Again thanks for posting this.

[Jermys]

I feel like that in real life. Like, it's the same few people on my racial injustice posts on Facebook. But then I post something about my kids and the likes and comments are rolling in like crazy. I'm fucking tired. Do they not realize that the kids they proclaim to love have a fucking target on their backs? And it's only getting bigger as they age? My son is more likely to be murdered because his skin has more melanin. My daughter is more likely to be sexually assaulted because her skin is brown. I was sick dropping Freddie off at school yesterday because I'm seriously depressed and I'm scared that one day he'll leave my house and the next time I see him will be identifying his body. And I only have a few years before people see him as a threat worthy of death. And white people as a whole just go on with their days and keep their mouths shut. And I get it, because I did that too, and I'm ashamed of that, but goddammit, even if you don't know what to say, post one article without commentary. Send a check to BLM or the NAACP or SPLC. Just do something.

[iammalcolmx]

YUP I was thinking the same thing about this board and the MM Moms board @stilljustash ,

ETA: I see there is kinda a thread about it on MM Moms.

[emoflamingo]

I posted in the confessions thread about this this morning. The radio was discussing the Brad/Angelina split and asked callers if they were Team Jen and Team Ang and thankfully the second caller was the one who said "really guys, this is what you're discussing?!"

The third caller made me turn it off, though.

[silva]

act.colorofchange.org/sign/terence-crutcher-justice/?sp_ref=231373676.176.175436.o.1.2&referring_akid=.2886048.gYlgzr&source=c2c

[puddleofgrace]

I'm going to be real honest. I go to CP&E for all news stuff, serious discussions and to learn about different POV's.

I read pretty much every thread on CPE. I don't comment much because I am at a loss for what to say.

I'm sorry you aren't feeling supported here, Ash. Not my intention AT ALL.

[bittybomb]

Sept 21, 2016 9:50:47 GMT -5 Jermys said:

I feel like that in real life. Like, it's the same few people on my racial injustice posts on Facebook. But then I post something about my kids and the likes and comments are rolling in like crazy. I'm fucking tired. Do they not realize that the kids they proclaim to love have a fucking target on their backs? And it's only getting bigger as they age? My son is more likely to be murdered because his skin has more melanin. My daughter is more likely to be sexually assaulted because her skin is brown. I was sick dropping Freddie off at school yesterday because I'm seriously depressed and I'm scared that one day he'll leave my house and the next time I see him will be identifying his body. And I only have a few years before people see him as a threat worthy of death. And white people as a whole just go on with their days and keep their mouths shut. And I get it, because I did that too, and I'm ashamed of that, but goddammit, even if you don't know what to say, post one article without commentary. Send a check to BLM or the NAACP or SPLC. Just do something.

My heart breaks especially for the mothers, and the fathers.  I never really considered it before I was a mother because I was in my white as rice privileged bubble, but now that I am one, I don't know how mothers and fathers and grandparents of brown skinned people have the strength to carry on with this.  I'm so worried about making sure my white children do not become part of the problem, I can't even fathom the worry and burden carried by parents of brown skinned people.  That Luvvie article is a good one.  Even though it shouldn't have to be spelled out to us how to help, I'm grateful to the people who share their perspective and experiences.