But but... that's what parenting is! I didn't want to have a discussion with my kid when he was 2 about what happens to us after we die, but my grandfather died and so I had to. If you don't think your kid is mature enough for that discussion you can tell them so. Answer the basic question with basic information and move on. But how uncomfortable you are with talking to your kid about a certain subject (whether it be death, abortion, sex, politics, whatever) couldn't be any less of my problem. It's your kid, you figure it out.
*not you, like you specifically, you more so the parents in the room who are calling
I totally agree and I was actually typing up another post that I get that part of parenting is having uncomfortable topics of discussion thrust upon you before you or your child are ready. Kids talk, that is what they do. What I am bristling at here is the opinion that "it's uncomfortable, but too bad, you need to talk about it" should dictate when and how I lead this discussion. Abortion is a loaded topic and even the some of the most pro-choice amongst us may struggle with how we feel about it personally, because of past experience or religious upbringing. And while best-case scenario, I get to choose how and when I present this to my daughters, chances are, they will hear the word before I bring it up. But I don't have to be breezy about it. Just like I am not going to judge the parent of a child that has introduced the topic for doing it at (what I deem as ) an inappropriate age, I would hope that a parent who has chosen to wait to have the discussion would not be judged either. The very essence of "choice" is that the decision is deeply personal and individual to the situation.
The thing is, it has not been answered as to how the other children found out and I make no apologies for the fact that 10 is too young to learn someone else's opinion on this matter. My children have seen a lot of political ads in my home, when they question it, I explain to them to the degree that I KNOW my child is capable of understanding. I have a chance to offer up both sides of the issues and frankly, I do not want my child to learn about a very sensitive and personal issue from a classmates opinion.
I also hate the fact that some kids find out at 5 there is no Santa and feel the need to tell everyone in school (b/c there are a lot of parents out there who do not believe in Santa and feel the need to tell their kids about everything w/o telling them how someone else might feel) when I love for my children to believe in him for as long as they want to. If I feel that way about Santa, you can imagine why I feel this way about this topic.
I mean, kids are going to discuss a lot of stuff whether you like it or not. If you want them to hear it from you first you better get talking.
That's a very general answer. I just really don't think kids need to know everything about everything. I am just going to agree to disagree with you on this one.
I love that my kids believe in Santa and the tooth fairy. You only get to be a kid once, have it be special and magical for as long as you can. Real life bitch slaps you in the face soon enough, it doesn't have to do it when you are 5 or 10.
But but... that's what parenting is! I didn't want to have a discussion with my kid when he was 2 about what happens to us after we die, but my grandfather died and so I had to. If you don't think your kid is mature enough for that discussion you can tell them so. Answer the basic question with basic information and move on. But how uncomfortable you are with talking to your kid about a certain subject (whether it be death, abortion, sex, politics, whatever) couldn't be any less of my problem. It's your kid, you figure it out.
*not you, like you specifically, you more so the parents in the room who are calling
You must have a savant for a 2 year old. I do not know or have ever known a 2 year who needs to know or understand death and the hereafter. Most two years I know or have known understand trucks, toys, eating and sleeping and getting more toys.
Maybe I do shelter my kids.
I think he's a pretty typical kid. He left my grandparents house and my grandfather was in bed, dying, and when he came back my grandfather wasn't there. Of course he asked questions and of course I had to answer them. If you think your kid isn't mature enough for that specific conversation then you tell them so.
I mean, kids are going to discuss a lot of stuff whether you like it or not. If you want them to hear it from you first you better get talking.
That's a very general answer. I just really don't think kids need to know everything about everything. I am just going to agree to disagree with you on this one.
I love that my kids believe in Santa and the tooth fairy. You only get to be a kid once, have it be special and magical for as long as you can. Real life bitch slaps you in the face soon enough, it doesn't have to do it when you are 5 or 10.
I cannot, for the life of me, figure out why you keep bringing santas into a conversation about abortion.
I am not advocating sitting your kid's down and being like "this is what rape is! This is what incest is!" but there is a way to answer the basic questions delicately and in a way that won't ruin their childhood and strip them of all innocence. Or something.
But but... that's what parenting is! I didn't want to have a discussion with my kid when he was 2 about what happens to us after we die, but my grandfather died and so I had to. If you don't think your kid is mature enough for that discussion you can tell them so. Answer the basic question with basic information and move on. But how uncomfortable you are with talking to your kid about a certain subject (whether it be death, abortion, sex, politics, whatever) couldn't be any less of my problem. It's your kid, you figure it out.
*not you, like you specifically, you more so the parents in the room who are calling
You must have a savant for a 2 year old. I do not know or have ever known a 2 year who needs to know or understand death and the hereafter. Most two years I know or have known understand trucks, toys, eating and sleeping and getting more toys.
Maybe I do shelter my kids.
I think you are either underestimating children or you are thinking that things are being discussed at a college level. The vast majority of 2 year olds have had experience with death, even it it was just a dried up worm on the sidewalk, and are capable of having a basic understanding of death. As far as what happens after, it's as simple as "you go to heaven" or "nothing" or whatever your family believes.
You must have a savant for a 2 year old. I do not know or have ever known a 2 year who needs to know or understand death and the hereafter. Most two years I know or have known understand trucks, toys, eating and sleeping and getting more toys.
Maybe I do shelter my kids.
I think he's a pretty typical kid. He left my grandparents house and my grandfather was in bed, dying, and when he came back my grandfather wasn't there. Of course he asked questions and of course I had to answer them. If you think your kid isn't mature enough for that specific conversation then you tell them so.
That's a very general answer. I just really don't think kids need to know everything about everything. I am just going to agree to disagree with you on this one.
I love that my kids believe in Santa and the tooth fairy. You only get to be a kid once, have it be special and magical for as long as you can. Real life bitch slaps you in the face soon enough, it doesn't have to do it when you are 5 or 10.
I cannot, for the life of me, figure out why you keep bringing santas into a conversation about abortion.
I am not advocating sitting your kid's down and being like "this is what rape is! This is what incest is!" but there is a way to answer the basic questions delicately and in a way that won't ruin their childhood and strip them of all innocence. Or something.
It was a comparison, an analogy if you will, apologies if that made you uncomfortable. Abortion is a very heavy topic for anyone much less a 10 year old.
*I*, *ME* just feel in my opinion that it is not something that should be discussed in class or as an opinion piece. Just how I feel.
I am bringing Santa up b/c most 10 year olds I know are still at the Santa innocence level, that's just me so that's why I brought it up, does that make sense? If it doesn't, that's fine, again it is how I feel.
My 8 year old heard the word rape the other day. The parent on duty deflected and my son did not bring it up later. What am I supposed to do? "Son let me crack open your skull and paint your brain with an illustration of this horrific crime." Why should I do that? Because he has to learn some time? Hell no.
Dick is saying it a hell of a lot better than I am.
My 8 year old heard the word rape the other day. The parent on duty deflected and my son did not bring it up later. What am I supposed to do? "Son let me crack open your skull and paint your brain with an illustration of this horrific crime." Why should I do that? Because he has to learn some time? Hell no.
Well of course not. I don't think anyone is saying that at all.
My 8 year old heard the word rape the other day. The parent on duty deflected and my son did not bring it up later. What am I supposed to do? "Son let me crack open your skull and paint your brain with an illustration of this horrific crime." Why should I do that? Because he has to learn some time? Hell no.
Not at all. What I (and I think meganew) am saying, is that if he DID come home and ask later, you as the parent can decide how much explanation, if any, you want to give him.
It would be great if we could shield our kids from big words that we aren't ready to talk about, but it's just not possible.
My 8 year old heard the word rape the other day. The parent on duty deflected and my son did not bring it up later. What am I supposed to do? "Son let me crack open your skull and paint your brain with an illustration of this horrific crime." Why should I do that? Because he has to learn some time? Hell no.
Not at all. What I (and I think meganew ) am saying, is that if he DID come home and ask later, you as the parent can decide how much explanation, if any, you want to give him.
It would be great if we could shield our kids from big words that we aren't ready to talk about, but it's just not possible.
You're absolutely correct that it's not possible to shield our kids forever, HOWEVER, what I think HRH Queen Dick I and chchchia (and myself) are saying is that WE want to be their source of information, not a classmate, even if it is based on a research/opinion paper. For all we know, their classmates could be the most conservative ever and lead them to believe that abortion is murder and they'll end up in jail if they were faced with that choice. A 10 year old, with or without guidance from their parents, is not the most reliable source of information on such a heavy/controversial topic.
Not at all. What I (and I think meganew ) am saying, is that if he DID come home and ask later, you as the parent can decide how much explanation, if any, you want to give him.
It would be great if we could shield our kids from big words that we aren't ready to talk about, but it's just not possible.
You're absolutely correct that it's not possible to shield our kids forever, HOWEVER, what I think HRH Queen Dick I and chchchia (and myself) are saying is that WE want to be their source of information, not a classmate, even if it is based on a research/opinion paper. For all we know, their classmates could be the most conservative ever and lead them to believe that abortion is murder and they'll end up in jail if they were faced with that choice. A 10 year old, with or without guidance from their parents, is not the most reliable source of information on such a heavy/controversial topic.
I agree with you too. And this is not abortion specific. I would feel the same way about gun control, death penalty, euthanasia, legalizing of drugs, prostitution, and various other topics. I am introducing them to my kids as I feel appropriate and ATTEMPTING to be proactive rather than reactive. We've talked about guns, homosexuality and gay marriage, and I am currently wading through how to approach pornography and masturbation. My kids go to Catholic school so I want to ensure we have a healthy balance of them learning about these things from an early age so they aren't "scary" topics, and having a healthy respect for what the church teaches as opposed to what they are learning at home so they can handle topics appropriately in the classroom when they come up.
Post by emoflamingo on Oct 27, 2016 14:49:47 GMT -5
I think 8 is definitely too young HRH Queen Dick I. A few years older and yeah, I may have asked if he wanted to discuss it so I can make sure he isn't hearing things from his friends that we as his parents feel are incorrect (like that rape culture doesn't exist, abortion is murder, etc.). I can't imagine that if my oldest came home talking about rape I would get too detailed about it either. My kid knows ABOUT periods, but his knowledge is just that after a certain age, women bleed every month and that if they are pregnant, it stops. I didn't go into detail about Fallopian tubes or eggs and all that, it was what I felt was a good age appropriate explanation.
Not at all. What I (and I think meganew ) am saying, is that if he DID come home and ask later, you as the parent can decide how much explanation, if any, you want to give him.
It would be great if we could shield our kids from big words that we aren't ready to talk about, but it's just not possible.
You're absolutely correct that it's not possible to shield our kids forever, HOWEVER, what I think HRH Queen Dick I and chchchia (and myself) are saying is that WE want to be their source of information, not a classmate, even if it is based on a research/opinion paper. For all we know, their classmates could be the most conservative ever and lead them to believe that abortion is murder and they'll end up in jail if they were faced with that choice. A 10 year old, with or without guidance from their parents, is not the most reliable source of information on such a heavy/controversial topic.
Hell I cannot rely on my 10 year old to tell me the truth about whether or not he cleaned his room and his hearsay if abortion were to be discussed, that horrifies me.
Didn't anyone play telephone in school and how it shows how far we get from first statement to last statement?
Post by countthestars on Oct 27, 2016 14:56:56 GMT -5
mel, to be clear, I agree with you in that I want all of that information coming from me. I guess I just don't understand what that has to do with LittleSpeedy writing (or not writing) this paper that only her teacher will see.
This line of thinking just doesn't make sense to me. I think the obvious answer as to how they all knew was that someone said "hey what are you doing your paper on?" and kids shared their topics with each other. If your kid comes home and asks you about it then unfortunately you have to answer them- just like you would if they asked you about anything else. I mean with the election going on if you have the news or radio on at all around your kids chances are they're picking up a lot of information- unless you shelter your kid's from everything I doubt this is the one and only place they'd hear the word abortion.
But you being uncomfortable with having to answer that question for your child doesn't mean someone else's child can't do a paper on it.
The thing is, it has not been answered as to how the other children found out and I make no apologies for the fact that 10 is too young to learn someone else's opinion on this matter. My children have seen a lot of political ads in my home, when they question it, I explain to them to the degree that I KNOW my child is capable of understanding. I have a chance to offer up both sides of the issues and frankly, I do not want my child to learn about a very sensitive and personal issue from a classmates opinion.
I also hate the fact that some kids find out at 5 there is no Santa and feel the need to tell everyone in school (b/c there are a lot of parents out there who do not believe in Santa and feel the need to tell their kids about everything w/o telling them how someone else might feel) when I love for my children to believe in him for as long as they want to. If I feel that way about Santa, you can imagine why I feel this way about this topic.
OMG I am so HOT about this right now. Tuesday DD (6) tells me there's a new girl in her class. I tell her to be her friend, be nice, etc. Next day she says they're bff's and that she told her Santa and the toothfairy aren't real. WTMF new kid? I did you a solid by telling her to befriend you and THIS is how you repay me?
mel , to be clear, I agree with you in that I want all of that information coming from me. I guess I just don't understand what that has to do with LittleSpeedy writing (or not writing) this paper that only her teacher will see.
I think the OP derailed a bit. It was first thought that LittleSpeedy would be presenting to the whole class, thus the comments about how it may not be a topic that should be discussed to that particular audience.
mel, to be clear, I agree with you in that I want all of that information coming from me. I guess I just don't understand what that has to do with LittleSpeedy writing (or not writing) this paper that only her teacher will see.
You're absolutely correct that it's not possible to shield our kids forever, HOWEVER, what I think HRH Queen Dick I and chchchia (and myself) are saying is that WE want to be their source of information, not a classmate, even if it is based on a research/opinion paper. For all we know, their classmates could be the most conservative ever and lead them to believe that abortion is murder and they'll end up in jail if they were faced with that choice. A 10 year old, with or without guidance from their parents, is not the most reliable source of information on such a heavy/controversial topic.
I agree with you too. And this is not abortion specific. I would feel the same way about gun control, death penalty, euthanasia, legalizing of drugs, prostitution, and various other topics. I am introducing them to my kids as I feel appropriate and ATTEMPTING to be proactive rather than reactive. We've talked about guns, homosexuality and gay marriage, and I am currently wading through how to approach pornography and masturbation. My kids go to Catholic school so I want to ensure we have a healthy balance of them learning about these things from an early age so they aren't "scary" topics, and having a healthy respect for what the church teaches as opposed to what they are learning at home so they can handle topics appropriately in the classroom when they come up.
After all the discussions here, I decided to start teaching DD (6) about race issues. She had to read two biographies over the summer, so I had gotten her Harriet Tubman and George Washington. She was fine with those. Then I got a book of 12 slave stories that I thought was age appropriate and she broke down crying after the first one. I couldn't make her go on. Yes, it's a heartbreaking realization and something we need to teach our kids about, but I also felt I wanted her to stay little and innocent and truly believe that while some of her friends have different skin color, it's no different than her and I having different hair color. You're right about trying to be proactive vs. reactive, but man, it's a tough line to walk.
Post by lovebeingmama on Oct 27, 2016 15:42:31 GMT -5
I also think a lot of posters don't understand how a 5th grade classroom works. LOL that this was going to be "just between the student and the teacher." Even if it isn't presented in front of the class, it's likely that this is an assignment that is completed in class. I imagine much of the research is done in class. Kids do pre-writing activities - brainstorming, graphic organizers, etc. They peer edit. It's an active process. And the kids are writing about topics they are interested in or are "fun" to them - of course they are going to be discussing it! This isn't something that a teacher assigns, and the kids all go home and write a paper and quietly hand it in the next day.
I also think a lot of posters don't understand how a 5th grade classroom works. LOL that this was going to be "just between the student and the teacher." Even if it isn't presented in front of the class, it's likely that this is an assignment that is completed in class. I imagine much of the research is done in class. Kids do pre-writing activities - brainstorming, graphic organizers, etc. They peer edit. It's an active process. And the kids are writing about topics they are interested in or are "fun" to them - of course they are going to be discussing it! This isn't something that a teacher assigns, and the kids all go home and write a paper and quietly hand it in the next day.
This is all very true. I would assume the teacher wouldn't have her paper edited by a peer, but I totally recognize that they'll probably talk about it. I don't think the conversations would go quite as in depth as some others think, but even if they did- our kids are going to get tons of shit information from a lot of sources throughout their years. All we can do is present our side, explain the world to them as best we can, and hope they make good decisions with the information provided.
I mean, honestly, I would not be pleased if Ollie came home from school asking about abortion, but beyond making sure that this wasn't being taught by the school (like the teacher standing up and lecturing about it) it's out of my hands. I just don't get the argument that one girl's project topic should be changed due to how uncomfortable it makes the parents to maybe have to talk (or decide to deflect, which is fine) questions about said topic.
I have my students (7th and 8th graders) do position papers and they do present them to the class (student-run debate) and display them in the hallways. I allow kids to choose controversial issues, including abortion. I do help them find sources that are appropriate, and I help them with the debate question and will step in often to help run the debate if kids are making incorrect or offensive arguments. I have never once heard a parent complaint, and I've heard from several commending the school for allowing their kid to pick a mature topic. It models how to have a difficult conversation, how to listen to an opinion you might not at all believe in, etc.
I'd let her do it if she is reasonably mature and would accept help finding sources.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
I don't get what a parent's or child's comfort has to do with any of this. Life is uncomfortable.
My mom died when I was 6. I'm sure in a perfect world parents want to shelter their kids from death until older. My mom's situation probably made my classmates and some other parents uncomfortable. The school still discussed it because it was my reality. A very uncomfortable one.
When I was a little older we found out a community pillar (school master, Sunday school teacher) had been molesting girls for decades. My dad had to have a very uncomfortable conversation with us.
Sex ed with my parents was uncomfortable for me.
None of that makes these topics off limits.
But I'm a heathen who stooped believing in Santa at 7. Many of my classmates were Jewish which led me to question. My dad, when confronted directly, wouldn't outright lie to me. He was proud of my thinking that led to my conclusion though.
But at this point what difference does it make if the student is allowed to do it or not? OP's daughter had the idea and has shared it with her peers and these parents are now dealing with their kids asking about abortion even with the student not being allowed to write it. So...those wanting to protect their kids from this stuff by not allowing another student to do a project...that didn't really work out, did it? I don't get the connection.
There is a difference though, between confronting the death of a parent (a certain and inevitable part of life), and a super-charged polarizing topic like abortion. It's not even about comfort. I can get past that. I am a parent for God's sake. A rational, fair discussion about abortion can and should involve: 1. rape 2. incest 3. premarital sex 4. poverty 5. domestic abuse 6. fetal health 7. maternal health 8. religious beliefs
Just to name a few. Can an 8th grader handle that? Probably yes. A 5th grader? That's highly dependent on the child. A lot of these topics could be too much to handle at that age. Again, as a parent, I have to be willing to wade through that, but I do not think 5th grade is the appropriate place for this discussion to begin.
I also think a lot of posters don't understand how a 5th grade classroom works. LOL that this was going to be "just between the student and the teacher." Even if it isn't presented in front of the class, it's likely that this is an assignment that is completed in class. I imagine much of the research is done in class. Kids do pre-writing activities - brainstorming, graphic organizers, etc. They peer edit. It's an active process. And the kids are writing about topics they are interested in or are "fun" to them - of course they are going to be discussing it! This isn't something that a teacher assigns, and the kids all go home and write a paper and quietly hand it in the next day.
This is all very true. I would assume the teacher wouldn't have her paper edited by a peer, but I totally recognize that they'll probably talk about it. I don't think the conversations would go quite as in depth as some others think, but even if they did- our kids are going to get tons of shit information from a lot of sources throughout their years. All we can do is present our side, explain the world to them as best we can, and hope they make good decisions with the information provided.
I mean, honestly, I would not be pleased if Ollie came home from school asking about abortion, but beyond making sure that this wasn't being taught by the school (like the teacher standing up and lecturing about it) it's out of my hands. I just don't get the argument that one girl's project topic should be changed due to how uncomfortable it makes the parents to maybe have to talk (or decide to deflect, which is fine) questions about said topic.
I completely understand what you're saying, but I see it a few other ways, too. You mention that the conversations may not go as in-depth as we think they might. You're probably right, but it's a topic that is complicated and mature. It was already said that it would somehow be made less "sensitive" (I can't think of a better word right now) by taking out the concepts of rape and incest? I still don't understand how you can research and discuss abortion but leave these out - I think that already diminishes the subject, and then is the topic still a good one to research if you can't fully discuss/understand all the sides and nuances to it? This is part of the reason I don't think it's an appropriate 5th grade research topic. Anyway, by limiting the scope of the research to make it less sensitive, and then adding in the poor research skills of typical 10 year olds, as a parent and teacher, I would be concerned that even superficial discussions of it among the kids could spread inaccurate information.
As for the girl's topic being changed because of other parents, I know what you are saying, but the OP herself wasn't even sure if she wanted her daughter doing the paper anyway. Since the paper hadn't even been started (to my understanding), and the teacher and OP were still in discussion about writing it, I don't really see this as an angry mob forcing her to change the topic. In my mind, the concerns of the other parents are justified, and it helped the teacher make a decision regarding a topic that was already iffy enough that the teacher needed to get permission from OP.
The thing is, it has not been answered as to how the other children found out and I make no apologies for the fact that 10 is too young to learn someone else's opinion on this matter. My children have seen a lot of political ads in my home, when they question it, I explain to them to the degree that I KNOW my child is capable of understanding. I have a chance to offer up both sides of the issues and frankly, I do not want my child to learn about a very sensitive and personal issue from a classmates opinion.
I also hate the fact that some kids find out at 5 there is no Santa and feel the need to tell everyone in school (b/c there are a lot of parents out there who do not believe in Santa and feel the need to tell their kids about everything w/o telling them how someone else might feel) when I love for my children to believe in him for as long as they want to. If I feel that way about Santa, you can imagine why I feel this way about this topic.
I mean, kids are going to discuss a lot of stuff whether you like it or not. If you want them to hear it from you first you better get talking.
And this is exactly why people should be talking to their kids about sex early and often. Waiting until *you* think they're old enough means that you've probably already missed the boat.
And this is exactly why people should be talking to their kids about sex early and often. Waiting until *you* think they're old enough means that you've probably already missed the boat.
Obviously parents should educate their children, but I don't think early and age appropriate sex education has to include abortion.
No, I agree with you. But there are a lot of posters talking about not wanting their kids to learn things like this from classmates and starting at a young age with appropriate stuff is the best way to ensure they're learning what you want them to know.
And this is exactly why people should be talking to their kids about sex early and often. Waiting until *you* think they're old enough means that you've probably already missed the boat.
Obviously parents should educate their children, but I don't think early and age appropriate sex education has to include abortion.
I don't even mind including it as it is defined, at a young age. It's the surrounding issues I don't find age appropriate. Likewise, my daughter knew what it meant to be gay at age 3. We talked about love and all that, and she even asked how the two daddies got babies. I did not feel the need to discuss anal sex or fertility treatments with her. Surrogacy was discussed as a nice lady who grows the baby, that's its. It's in the details. And a pro con debate involves hard details. You can't reach a conclusion without them
This is all very true. I would assume the teacher wouldn't have her paper edited by a peer, but I totally recognize that they'll probably talk about it. I don't think the conversations would go quite as in depth as some others think, but even if they did- our kids are going to get tons of shit information from a lot of sources throughout their years. All we can do is present our side, explain the world to them as best we can, and hope they make good decisions with the information provided.
I mean, honestly, I would not be pleased if Ollie came home from school asking about abortion, but beyond making sure that this wasn't being taught by the school (like the teacher standing up and lecturing about it) it's out of my hands. I just don't get the argument that one girl's project topic should be changed due to how uncomfortable it makes the parents to maybe have to talk (or decide to deflect, which is fine) questions about said topic.
I completely understand what you're saying, but I see it a few other ways, too. You mention that the conversations may not go as in-depth as we think they might. You're probably right, but it's a topic that is complicated and mature. It was already said that it would somehow be made less "sensitive" (I can't think of a better word right now) by taking out the concepts of rape and incest? I still don't understand how you can research and discuss abortion but leave these out - I think that already diminishes the subject, and then is the topic still a good one to research if you can't fully discuss/understand all the sides and nuances to it? This is part of the reason I don't think it's an appropriate 5th grade research topic. Anyway, by limiting the scope of the research to make it less sensitive, and then adding in the poor research skills of typical 10 year olds, as a parent and teacher, I would be concerned that even superficial discussions of it among the kids could spread inaccurate information.
As for the girl's topic being changed because of other parents, I know what you are saying, but the OP herself wasn't even sure if she wanted her daughter doing the paper anyway. Since the paper hadn't even been started (to my understanding), and the teacher and OP were still in discussion about writing it, I don't really see this as an angry mob forcing her to change the topic. In my mind, the concerns of the other parents are justified, and it helped the teacher make a decision regarding a topic that was already iffy enough that the teacher needed to get permission from OP.
I can absolutely see this side, and I do think it's a tough subject. I'm just more worried about my kids getting their info from crazy ass family members than a peer being guided through a topic by her teacher and parent. However, the more I'm thinking about this the more I'm realizing that it's an opinion piece and I'd really only be ok with my kid hearing about it if her classmate had the same opinion I do, which is super hypocritical. Lol.
Truly, changing the subject is for the best all around, I just hate putting restraints on other kids/parents based on what makes you comfortable. I get it though.