TWW 11/6

[gigem]

Is it okay that I started this thread? I am just barely into the TWW but we’ve got a lot going on and time seems to fly for me so I am hoping it won’t be a too “long” cple of wks for me. I’m vowing not to test before 14dpo, I worry that’s even too soon as I’ve never tested before that with my previous pregnancies. Who else is in the tww?

[seeyalater52]

Here I am! 3dpIUI. gigem, how many dpo are you? This time the wait isn't killing me as much early on because I'm testing out my trigger shot every morning. Having something to do makes me feel less annoyed and helpless.

I don't think 14dpo is too early, that's when my RE says to test. The vast majority of pregnancies will show up by then, particularly if you're sure about the day you ovulated.

[gigem]

seeyalater52 i figured you’d join me! Glad ur RE justifies my waiting til 14dpo. Im barely 1dpo i guess, I got my pos opk yest morning but im still giddy from that so im thinking i jumped the gun a bit with this thread haha. I promise i wont post everyday until then.

[seeyalater52]

Post as much as you want! I'm still so early too with a looooong wait ahead.

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I'm smack in the middle of my TWW here. AF is due on Sunday. I'm actively trying not to get my hopes up. I guess that is easier this month, because I'm having...minimal if any symptoms. I notice my breasts are a little tender (and maybe bigger? But that might be me over-analyzing again), but not like last month or my CP month...mostly just when the cats decide to walk on them with their pokey little kitty feet. And I've fairly positive now that the on-and-off nausea over the weekend had more to do with my poor dining choices than anything else.

And then the other part of my brain -- that eternally hopeful part that I'm trying to shut up right now -- is like "well, when you had that CP, you didn't REALLY get SUPER nauseous until your period was almost a week late."

I dunno. I want to keep my hopes up, but it's also exhausting when they get shattered. But I know you guys understand where I'm coming from!

[seeyalater52]

I know what you mean, @writererin. I’m also trying not to get my hopes up.

And the symptom spotting! I’m on day 3 of progesterone so at the very least you’d think I’d have some symptoms from that! But no.... nothing.

[HoneySpider]

14 DPO seems so late to me to wait and test but my LP is generally only 11 days and my BFPs (4) have all come by 11DPO at the latest

Im 7DPO right now, will probably start testing at 9 or 10 DPO. My face is severely broken out which can go either way....otherwise no major symptoms one way or another.

[compassrose]

gigem, of course you can start the thread! There’s no rule. Jalapeñomel and I have just been here a long effing time, but we don’t have a monopoly on TTC.
Good luck to all of you!

[seeyalater52]

I'm feeling moody and sad today. Maybe that's a progesterone side effect. I just hate how NORMAL I feel right now. Aside from being hungry af I feel a whole lot of nothing still. At 4dpo I wouldn't expect to feel anything but being on meds I kind of expected to. 

My trigger is disappearing pretty quickly, the line was a lot lighter yesterday. This morning I had a dye run so it was hard to assess. I'm going to test again this evening with a 4 hour hold to see if I can get a better line. 

[tacom]

@seeyalater how long did they say to expect a positive test following trigger? I️ imagine that would throw my brain for a loop, but it’s likely I’m totally projecting 😜

[seeyalater52]

Nov 7, 2017 19:09:38 GMT -5 tacom said:

@seeyalater how long did they say to expect a positive test following trigger? I️ imagine that would throw my brain for a loop, but it’s likely I’m totally projecting 😜

The trigger can stay in your system up to 14dpo (that's usually 16dptrigger) which is why you're not supposed to test before 14dpo. By that time it's definitely out. But some people metabolize it much faster than that, usually it's gone by 9dpo or 10dpo. Mine might be gone even earlier if it keeps decreasing as rapidly as it has! It's kind of a mindfuck I'll admit but I'm a huge line progression nerd so I've got all my teeny wondfos taped into my pregnancy journal along with my notes about my follicle scans and other musings. I just hope sometime next week the line starts getting darker instead of lighter!! 


My tiny bladder failed at producing a 4 hour hold this evening so I'm just going to call today a loss and test again tomorrow. 

[pickel]

Nov 6, 2017 9:44:49 GMT -5 gigem said:

Is it okay that I started this thread? I am just barely into the TWW but we’ve got a lot going on and time seems to fly for me so I am hoping it won’t be a too “long” cple of wks for me. I’m vowing not to test before 14dpo, I worry that’s even too soon as I’ve never tested before that with my previous pregnancies. Who else is in the tww?

I also have quit testing before 14 dpo. Too many pee sticks wasted and the blank area where I want a line feels kind of like a gut punch. Boo.

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Nov 7, 2017 19:50:07 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Nov 7, 2017 19:09:38 GMT -5 tacom said:

@seeyalater how long did they say to expect a positive test following trigger? I️ imagine that would throw my brain for a loop, but it’s likely I’m totally projecting 😜

The trigger can stay in your system up to 14dpo (that's usually 16dptrigger) which is why you're not supposed to test before 14dpo. By that time it's definitely out. But some people metabolize it much faster than that, usually it's gone by 9dpo or 10dpo. Mine might be gone even earlier if it keeps decreasing as rapidly as it has! It's kind of a mindfuck I'll admit but I'm a huge line progression nerd so I've got all my teeny wondfos taped into my pregnancy journal along with my notes about my follicle scans and other musings. I just hope sometime next week the line starts getting darker instead of lighter!! 


My tiny bladder failed at producing a 4 hour hold this evening so I'm just going to call today a loss and test again tomorrow. 

So, I'm curious, because I've never done trigger shots or anything.  What kind of test are you having to do to see if it's out of your system yet?  Is it a pregnancy test or some sort of progesterone-specific test?  I like learning things.  lol

[seeyalater52]

Nov 8, 2017 20:33:23 GMT -5 @writererin said:

Nov 7, 2017 19:50:07 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

The trigger can stay in your system up to 14dpo (that's usually 16dptrigger) which is why you're not supposed to test before 14dpo. By that time it's definitely out. But some people metabolize it much faster than that, usually it's gone by 9dpo or 10dpo. Mine might be gone even earlier if it keeps decreasing as rapidly as it has! It's kind of a mindfuck I'll admit but I'm a huge line progression nerd so I've got all my teeny wondfos taped into my pregnancy journal along with my notes about my follicle scans and other musings. I just hope sometime next week the line starts getting darker instead of lighter!! 


My tiny bladder failed at producing a 4 hour hold this evening so I'm just going to call today a loss and test again tomorrow. 

So, I'm curious, because I've never done trigger shots or anything.  What kind of test are you having to do to see if it's out of your system yet?  Is it a pregnancy test or some sort of progesterone-specific test?  I like learning things.  lol

I am a total nerd too! The trigger shot is a shot of hcg that induces ovulation. Since the presence of hcg is the same thing that a pregnancy test tests for, it turns the pregnancy test very positive if you take one right around your time of ovulation (after the shot) and then gets lighter and lighter as your body processes it during the TWW. Since it causes positive home pregnancy tests some people test out the trigger like I’m doing so that they can be sure a positive hpt is a real positive and not just leftover trigger. That’s why when you do a trigger shot you’re recommended to wait until 14dpo to be sure it’s really a real positive, although it’s out of most peoples’ system before that.

So basically i just have a giant giant package of cheap wondfo pregnancy tests that i waste every day.

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Nov 8, 2017 21:36:49 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Nov 8, 2017 20:33:23 GMT -5 @writererin said:

So, I'm curious, because I've never done trigger shots or anything.  What kind of test are you having to do to see if it's out of your system yet?  Is it a pregnancy test or some sort of progesterone-specific test?  I like learning things.  lol

I am a total nerd too! The trigger shot is a shot of hcg that induces ovulation. Since the presence of hcg is the same thing that a pregnancy test tests for, it turns the pregnancy test very positive if you take one right around your time of ovulation (after the shot) and then gets lighter and lighter as your body processes it during the TWW. Since it causes positive home pregnancy tests some people test out the trigger like I’m doing so that they can be sure a positive hpt is a real positive and not just leftover trigger. That’s why when you do a trigger shot you’re recommended to wait until 14dpo to be sure it’s really a real positive, although it’s out of most peoples’ system before that.

So basically i just have a giant giant package of cheap wondfo pregnancy tests that i waste every day.

That's really interesting!

[seeyalater52]

Trigger was so faint this morning. I think it will be gone in a couple of days. 6pdIUI today and starting to get nervous about the second week of waiting and whether I should keep testing daily after my trigger is out or wait to test until closer to day 14.

[gigem]

I was just gonna check in again with the others in tww! I hope lots of good news around this cycle.
I am still way too far out, i havent thought about testing but i know ill b hypersensitive to any “symptoms” in a wk or so, that makes me less crazy than testing and getting bfns haha.

[Deleted]

I'm anxiously awaiting and simultaneously dreading Sunday. That is when AF will be due if it's coming. I'm anxiously awaiting in the hopes it doesn't show up. I'm dreading, because I know the likelihood is that it will, and I'm not looking forward to THAT emotional roller coaster again.

[seeyalater52]

Fingers crossed for you @writererin! This seems like a lucky month in the board so I am hoping you get good news this weekend!

I had a shit day. I am about 7 weeks into a giant fight with my HR head and our insurer about their bullshit discrimination against same sex couples. HR head started out completely in agreement with me that their policy is bullshit but then caved the minute the insurance company insisted it wasn’t discriminatory. Because they have reasons and I am wrong and my doctor is wrong and their own benefits helpline employees are all wrong and there’s some other interpretation of their policy. Ok, so what is it really? Can they clarify? Well 7 weeks later they still have not answered the question of what other options we have besides the ones we are using. Which they already agreed would be discriminatory if it was the only option. Which their policy states it is.

My only recourse apparently is to give the insurer permission to comb through my file to review my claims. Which I will not authorize because a) we don’t file our fertility specific claims through the insurer because our plan specifically states that they’re excluded and we are therefore self-pay, and b) I’m not about to red flag the fact that I’m gay and doing fertility treatments so they can go back and decline the things that did get coded as non-fertility (mostly bloodwork and meds) but that wouldn’t be allowable if they knew they were fertility related. That would be stupid and potentially costly. So, no.

But as far as HR is concerned this is all resolved, no discrimination here. And she just sent out our benefits notice for next year and my request to switch insurers to literally any other insurer in the state (all of which have better coverage options for this than our current plan) has been ignored and we are staying with our current insurer.

And then one of my favorite coworkers who is also a lesbian contacts me to ask about our insurer’s policy on fertility for same-sex couples because her wife just got diagnosed with some pretty rough fertility conditions and she’s finding that what the insurer is insisting on doesn’t make any medical sense. I iust started bawling. I’m so so sad for them that they’re running into the same issues we are in this process (and then some). I’m so pissed for us.

I’m watching This is Us and crying.

[compassrose]

i'm so sorry seeyalater52. ((hugs))

[seeyalater52]

Thanks compassrose. Sorry for the rant. My supervisor is super pissed at HR head for this and I think we will go straight to her replacement to try to get this fixed for the year after next because we have 8-9 other coworkers who will likely be in the same situation in a few years and it would suck for this to remain an issue.

Because HR head is retiring in January. Because her daughter is pregnant and she is moving closer to them so she can provide full time childcare and support for them. Which she told me 30 seconds after I sobbed in her office about how frustrating this insurance situation is and how it may delay our ability to start a family because we are running out of money to spend on these treatments that are SUPPOSED TO BE COVERED.

Literally our organization’s mission is to improve access to quality affordable healthcare. It’s the height of sick irony. I’m so glad we are closed for the holiday today, I dont think I could stomach going to work right now.

I’m sorry I’m ranting again. I am 7dpIUI and I feel like I’m crawling out of my skin.

[gigem]

seeyalater52 i am so sorry about your situation and they way you are being treated. I do appreciate you sharing your story, it isn’t just ranting!

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I'm so sorry you're going through all that, seeyalater52. The way you're being treated is ridiculous. I wish I could give you a hug in person, but hopefully a virtual one will suffice. *hug*

Also, I feel ya on the crying during This is Us. I mean, that show is already emotional, but it's been even worse for me lately what with the pregnancy story line.

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I'm glad it's Friday, and I'm also glad that this week seems to be ending on a better note than it started on. DH survived some work drama this week, so I'm sure he's going to need a drink tonight, but it seems the drama has blown over for now without any negative consequences to his contract, so maybe he can relax this weekend. And my boss just randomly called me to tell me how much she appreciates the work I've been doing...and then I got a dollar raise (I work part-time for a start-up, so any raise I'm excited about lol).

On a slightly more depressing note, I just realized that, once again, I'm ringing handbells in church the same weekend my TWW ends. Last month, I ended up crying in the middle of church and hoping no one noticed (I'm willing to bet my mom, who is my stand partner and so sits next to me in the pew during the service, completely noticed and chose to pretend she didn't, since I was obviously trying to hide it). So here's hoping that I don't have to go through that this month.

[compassrose]

((@writererin)) I hope it’s joyous ringing instead!

[sarapocalypse]

*Hugs* seeyalater52 and @writererin

CD 1 for me today. Not surprised since our timing wasn't great this cycle, but still disappointing.

[gigem]

sarapocalypse Ugh so sorry to hear that

[gigem]

@writererin xfingers for you

[gigem]

Im not exactly sure where i am at since i dont temp. Pos opk was last sun so im maybe 4dpo max. Ive been obsessing a bit about our timing mostly based on my CM changes. Ill wait at least another 8days until testing if AF doesn’t come by then.

[compassrose]

I’m sorry sarapocalypse. It still sucks.