Chat week of Jan 29

[Mushe]

mpc, I went back yesterday. 🤗 Everything looks good, now 8w and ticking. My new OB is awesome. He said for a normal patient, he’d schedule me in 4 weeks, but he let me choose when I want to come back, so I’ll go next Friday. I got all the requisitions/lab slips to do the routine blood work and Panorama testing.

[pandora89]

Mushe - omg yesss! so happy to read that update

kellikans - boy names are the worst! We had a few picked out that we don't know a single child with these names. When I checked the list for most popular names of 2017 or whatever, they were all like top 5 so those were vetoed. I like the name we decided on because its classic but not overly popular. I am not the biggest fan of any nicknames the name has but whatever, Ill get over it.

[cactuscookie]

Feb 1, 2018 10:50:05 GMT -5 mpc said:

I still feel unsure about my daughter's name, and she's 9 months old now. Oh well, she's stuck with it

I second guessed my daughter's name until she was at least a year old!

[loira]

Feb 1, 2018 12:31:01 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Feb 1, 2018 10:50:05 GMT -5 mpc said:

I still feel unsure about my daughter's name, and she's 9 months old now. Oh well, she's stuck with it

I second guessed my daughter's name until she was at least a year old!

Oh, but it goes so well with A's name! Like, there go A and H, BFFs, always getting into trouble!

I'm sure that's why you chose it, lol.

[loira]

I am at my wit's end with A and daycare. I need to take her teacher out for coffee to ask a bunch of questions about exactly how A behaves when she gets "sad". Because yesterday her teacher told me she cried hard and got all blotchy and made herself gag. I was like, uh, that's not A being sad. That's my kid manipulating you. Plus she's got my thin, pale skin, so all crying makes her blotchy.

Here I was thinking she had been crying these sad little cries and just feeling really down, but no. I think she's figured out exactly how to get the most attention from her teacher. I also think her 2 year molars are causing her to be a lot more sensitive about things. She has a really high pain threshold, so nobody ever knows anything's bothering her until the pain hits that threshold and she turns into a hellbeast. I didn't even realise that could be a big factor because my experience of her being sick or in pain has been so limited (she's had 1 bad cold her entire life and other teeth never bothered her).

boiler717 cactuscookie, Pooh, dollyllama, anyone else have teething tips for toddlers? Is it okay to give her a dose of tylenol in the morning before daycare? I usually wait until I'm absolutely sure she needs pain meds, but the teeth thing seems to be ongoing and if it helps her get through the morning, it would make everyone's life so much easier.

[cactuscookie]

loira, she is too smart for her own good! H is not that savvy. I was thinking that the other day too, when you posted about A calling you back at bedtime because she was supposedly in pain. H's idea of stalling for bedtime is to ask to read another book, and when that fails, to run away. Very creative.

H has never had obvious issues from teething pain either. We mostly save tylenol for fevers, but I think I'd give it to her in this case. It seems similar to an adult taking painkillers for a headache, which most of us wouldn't think twice about.

[mpc]

loira, we have given tylenol or ibuprofen for teething plenty of times, usually at bedtime and/or first thing in the morning before school. In my experience, 1 and 2 year molars are so much worse than the teeth they get during their first year.

[janegold]

kellikans and pandora89, we had such a hard time with boy names too. There were a million girl names we both liked and basically only two we could agree on for a boy. God help us if we ever have another boy because we used both of those two names on B's first and middle names, lol. I'm dying to know what you guys chose!

[pandora89]

janegold PDQ but right now we are leaning towards Elliott James.

We had our girl name picked super in advanced and both loved it, went through some names we were both meh about for the boy and then I landed on this one.

[janegold]

Love it pandora89! The first name is one of my favorites but is also our dog's name...I shouldn't have wasted it on a dog, lol! It was still a runner up for a middle name though.

[kellikans]

janegold, we're probably going to use our 2nd choice for the middle name as well (Leo Sebastian).

Our last embryo is a girl, so it better work so that we don't have to worry about finding another boy name. We already have a girl name picked out (at least a first name), so that'll be easy.

[pandora89]

kellikans - your middle name was the leading contender for our first name for the longest time! I love that name.

[janegold]

Another good choice, kellikans! This board is killing it with the boy names!

I hope we get a chance to use our girl name someday too, we chose it like 10 years ago. We didn't PGS our remaining embryos though, so we'll see!

[loira]

If A were a boy, we would have named her Rafael. I also love the female version, Rafaella, but since it was a top contender for V, I felt weird using it for A. Also because when I was about 7 weeks pregnant with A, and before I learned the sex, I had a dream that I was in the OR, having a little girl by c-section. The doctor pulled her out and I said "there you are, A. I've been waiting a very long time to meet you." My DH didn't know it, but after that dream her name was set.

I do wonder if her personality would have been different if we'd named her Gabriela, like my DH wanted.

[loira]

cactuscookie, A also has an elaborate before bed stalling routine that includes wanting one more story and running away shrieking, just like H. I love how 2 year olds think they're being so sneaky. Lately, she's been stalling by using the toilet, which is an effective ruse since I obviously want her to use it. To make matters worse (better?), we've actually had some success with poop (she otherwise usually poops in bed after I put her to bed) so I keep letting her use that to stall because I benefit too. But I can see the evil plot forming in her mind, and she's already trying to tell me she wants to sit on the toilet at other times of the day right when we're doing something she doesn't want to do, like nap or cleaning up after breakfast. Being outsmarted by a toddler is embarrassing.

[thoseareradishes]

Oh my goodness loira, she is too much. Your stories make me both smile and worry that E is going to be similar!

We thought we were going to go by a nickname for E (think Abby for Abigail), but ended up calling her by her given name. However, we told everyone in the NICU that we were calling her by the nickname, so they all did, except us. It kinda drove me nuts after a while but I couldn't be bothered to correct everyone!

[cactuscookie]

loira, to me, Gabriella and A have sort of the same "feel" to them, so I think A would have been A with that name too. I know what you mean though - I think the name Celeste is so pretty, but it sounds like it would go to someone more refined than any child of mine would be.

Sounds like A and H are on the same potty track. H sits on the potty at daycare, and she asks to at home, but we haven't gotten a little one for her yet and she's a little scared of the normal toilet. We're moving next week and I don't want to buy anything new or start any new routines right now, so she'll have to wait a few weeks.

[loira]

cactuscookie, I've decided I'm not going to do any hardcore potty training method until my DH is here for good and her little world is a bit more stable. That's great that H sits on the potty at school! Maybe we'll both luck out and the girls will train themselves?

[scm1011]

Yay, Mushe ! So happy to hear things continue to go well.

Great names, pandora89 and kellikans ! Truly.
DH latched onto DS' name right away (Calvin). and even though he got it from my list I was still super noncommittal. I love it now, and can't imagine him as anything else, but choosing a name is hard! We were team green with DS, but I think we'll find out for #2 (eta: if we get so lucky, I'm not pg) only because agonizing over names for 2 sexes stressed me out!

mpc , FWIW I love your DD's name and she just looks like that name to me. I think it was a great choice

[Mushe]

All this potty training talk makes me think of Homer backing into a bush. I think I have PTSD. 😂 Once we had a method and I wrapped my head around what to do, it was fine. FWIW, I highly recommend the ‘Oh Crap, potty training’ book. It was recommended to me from someone on MMM, and had a ton of tips that I intended to use for #2, such as how to recognize the window of opportunity for training.

[dellabear]

I need a potty training book! Thanks, Mushe!

loira, we medicate before daycare when R is teething. They want a dr note to do it themselves which is ridiculous for infant Tylenol IMO.

[pooh8402]

Feb 1, 2018 19:55:09 GMT -5 Mushe said:

All this potty training talk makes me think of Homer backing into a bush. I think I have PTSD. 😂 Once we had a method and I wrapped my head around what to do, it was fine. FWIW, I highly recommend the ‘Oh Crap, potty training’ book. It was recommended to me from someone on MMM, and had a ton of tips that I intended to use for #2, such as how to recognize the window of opportunity for training.

I also read the Oh Crap book and I found it helpful for the same reason.

[shauni27]

pandora89, I am just so happy that you are experiencing all of this wonderful pregnancy stuff! I miss being pregnant so much. As for names, I LOVE the one you chose--it was on my top contenders list but G vetoed it. Boys names were SO tough for us. We did not make a decision for nearly 24 hours after S was born. On our list was Sage, Theo, Ezra, George and Roscoe.

Mushe I am just so pleased you are here <3

[shoeless]

Feb 1, 2018 12:31:01 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Feb 1, 2018 10:50:05 GMT -5 mpc said:

I still feel unsure about my daughter's name, and she's 9 months old now. Oh well, she's stuck with it

I second guessed my daughter's name until she was at least a year old!

So much this!  DD is turning 2 and I'm now confident that I like the name but it wasn't until I really had to start using it that I felt like it fit her and I liked it.  (And by using it, every other statement these days is 'Yes, K', 'No, K', 'Please don't do that K',)

[Mushe]

Who here has done Panorama? The documentation from them says you can do it after 9w, but my OB said 10w. How long did it take to get results?

[shauni27]

Feb 2, 2018 12:17:41 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Who here has done Panorama? The documentation from them says you can do it after 9w, but my OB said 10w. How long did it take to get results?

I did. We did it at 9 w 5 days and it had to be redone because there was not enough of his DNA in there. We went back at 11 weeks.

It took exactly one week if I remember correctly. But maybe 2??

[kellikans]

Feb 2, 2018 12:17:41 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Who here has done Panorama? The documentation from them says you can do it after 9w, but my OB said 10w. How long did it take to get results?

I did it at 11 weeks. Had the results in 5 business days.

[pandora89]

Feb 2, 2018 12:17:41 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Who here has done Panorama? The documentation from them says you can do it after 9w, but my OB said 10w. How long did it take to get results?

I did! I did it just shy of 11 weeks, I think 10w5d. It didn't take very long at all, less than a week (including weekends). I actually think we did the test on a Thursday and I had the results Tuesday morning.

[knx9211]

pandora89 calling P by his name felt really weird and wrong when he was born. He’s a 4th and we actually call him by his middle name. I panicked thinking it felt weird because we made the wrong choice. So I called him James, his actual first name, a few times. It felt just as weird. I think it’s some weird thing where, while you can feel them in there, they’re sort of an abstract idea until you hold them. And it just felt weird that he was a real person with a real name.

This doesn’t make any sense. Haha

[knx9211]

Also my gut says that all of our children will be boys. Fine with me. Ha we’ve never been able to agree on a girls name anyway. I think we’ve already decided that our second boy would be Peter. I wanted George but DH vetoed it.

Raises the question though: do we then look like people who are weird and gave all their kids P names? If we’re lucky enough to have a third, it would not be a P name. So does baby 3 seem left out if we have Patrick, Peter, and Colin? I just randomly picked that last name out of my ass.

No, I’m not bored and overthinking while my baby is napping, YOU ARE.