Week of 7/30

[shauni27]

grover, fingers crossed it is just one!

[Mushe]

icedcoffee, we had Cigna when we did IVF, and didn’t receive any kind of written pre-authorization. I think it all depends on the plan, though. H’a insurance didn’t have any criteria to qualify, beyond the RE saying it was necessary. I am maybe too trusting, but I just rolled with what the financial team at the RE told me.

[pooh8402]

icedcoffee, we have BCBS Anthem, and we didn't get any written preauthorization either. I chose to trust the finance people in my RE's office. In fact they were the ones who told us we had coverage. We were planning to go OOP again.

[icedcoffee]

Thanks Mushe and pooh8402.

I may just confirm with my RE one more time and then go with it. I have no reason to doubt them. They probably know my plan better than the call center guys at Cigna. LOL

[icedcoffee]

My H just met with his urologist to get a Clomid prescription and apparently he didn't believe my H had fathered a child in the past 2 years. He said the exact same thing my RE said when we got a notmal(ish) sperm analysis 2 years ago after 3 months of clomid that "That's unbelievable and sometimes doctors don't have explanations".

For those that don't remember the backstory my H had a sperm count of zero (yep, zero!) when we first went to the RE in August of 2015.

[mpc]

DD is starting the 5th week of having a bad cough. Finally had a chest X-ray done yesterday and it shows bronchitis. Doc says it might've been whooping cough earlier, but she's had 2 rounds of antibiotics and a round of steroids that probably knocked it out. Basically at this point we are doing a nebulizer twice a day and waiting it out. He says it could last another couple months. Poor girl. 95% of the time she sounds fine but when she does cough it's ugly and it's waking her up at night.

DS start kindergarten in 2 weeks! Crazy!!

11 days (hopefully) til this project is over and my life goes back to normal! I was working second shift all last week and it kicked my butt. I didn't see my H or kids practically all week. The only reason I'm working regular hours in the office this week is because the work has moved to a different, slightly more hazardous location and my boss and lead have told me not to go there. I'm kind of offended because I don't agree that I should have to stay away. They are overreacting based on their own skittishness. But on the other hand I'm like, eh, I get to sleep normal hours again. lol. But now I am in charge of scheduling people from my team to cover to the work and it's hard to know what is happening when if you're not there in the thick of it. oh well.

[mpc]

I'm excited for everyone who is cycling again! Good luck!

[kellikans]

I hope there's a baby boom 2.0 coming! Good luck to everyone!

We're just chugging along over here. Leo is 4 months now and doing so well. He's such a happy baby. Daycare has been going really well. No more crying inconsolably when he sees me. He really loves the teachers there. He's been sleeping through the night since about 2.5 months, which has been wonderful. He slept 10 hours last night!

I need to make some major changes regarding my eating. I went a little overboard after I had L since I wasn't allowed to eat a lot of stuff when I was pregnant due to my GD. After I stopped pumping, the weight just started piling on. I weigh as much now as I did when I was 36 weeks pregnant. Granted I only gained 17 pounds by the end of my pregnancy, but I need to lose it big time. I had to buy jeans in a bigger size today and it made me very sad. And I still wear my maternity jeans because they're the only things that are comfortable. I need to start going on walks, but it is so freaking hot here right now.

[Mushe]

kellikans, I’m glad L is doing so well! The transition from pumping is so hard, so be kind to yourself! And yes, it is beastly hot all over the state right now.

[boiler717]

Jul 31, 2018 17:28:06 GMT -5 kellikans said:

I hope there's a baby boom 2.0 coming! Good luck to everyone!

We're just chugging along over here. Leo is 4 months now and doing so well. He's such a happy baby. Daycare has been going really well. No more crying inconsolably when he sees me. He really loves the teachers there. He's been sleeping through the night since about 2.5 months, which has been wonderful. He slept 10 hours last night!

I need to make some major changes regarding my eating. I went a little overboard after I had L since I wasn't allowed to eat a lot of stuff when I was pregnant due to my GD. After I stopped pumping, the weight just started piling on. I weigh as much now as I did when I was 36 weeks pregnant. Granted I only gained 17 pounds by the end of my pregnancy, but I need to lose it big time. I had to buy jeans in a bigger size today and it made me very sad. And I still wear my maternity jeans because they're the only things that are comfortable. I need to start going on walks, but it is so freaking hot here right now.

I gained so.much.weight in the post partum time. It look until T was 2 for me to want to want to work on it.

[icedcoffee]

Jul 31, 2018 18:42:13 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

Jul 31, 2018 17:28:06 GMT -5 kellikans said:

I hope there's a baby boom 2.0 coming! Good luck to everyone!

We're just chugging along over here. Leo is 4 months now and doing so well. He's such a happy baby. Daycare has been going really well. No more crying inconsolably when he sees me. He really loves the teachers there. He's been sleeping through the night since about 2.5 months, which has been wonderful. He slept 10 hours last night!

I need to make some major changes regarding my eating. I went a little overboard after I had L since I wasn't allowed to eat a lot of stuff when I was pregnant due to my GD. After I stopped pumping, the weight just started piling on. I weigh as much now as I did when I was 36 weeks pregnant. Granted I only gained 17 pounds by the end of my pregnancy, but I need to lose it big time. I had to buy jeans in a bigger size today and it made me very sad. And I still wear my maternity jeans because they're the only things that are comfortable. I need to start going on walks, but it is so freaking hot here right now.

I gained so.much.weight in the post partum time. It look until T was 2 for me to want to want to work on it.

Ditto this. I lost 10 lbs within a month of having DS and that was it. He’s 21 months now and I am just finding the motivation. Of course we’re TTC again, but I’m hoping to not gain as much with a second pregnancy. We will see.

[shauni27]

Jul 31, 2018 19:28:24 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

Jul 31, 2018 18:42:13 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

I gained so.much.weight in the post partum time. It look until T was 2 for me to want to want to work on it.

Ditto this. I lost 10 lbs within a month of having DS and that was it. He’s 21 months now and I am just finding the motivation. Of course we’re TTC again, but I’m hoping to not gain as much with a second pregnancy. We will see.

ugh. I only gained about 20# when I was pregnant and LOVED how I looked. And I lost the weight within the first few weeks and again, felt great. But I was so crazy and just eating crap. And then when I stopped breast feeding and drinking booze again I spiraled. I now, one year out, weigh more than I did when I was 9 months pregnant and I feel AWFUL.

I keep telling myself I am going to sign up for X race or do Y workout and Z diet and then say, fuck it. But this week I have now made it 3 days (lol, but longer than I have gone since having S) with tracking my calories and regular exercise.


kellikans,boiler717,icedcoffee, and anyone else, would there be any interest in a group daily/weekly check in separate from the weekly thread where we can touch base and support each other? I would be happy to do a weekly thread on that. Almost like the mom to be weekly threads on GP; like a check in, highlights, questions, suggestions, things that are working, things we need help with, etc? I certainly do not want to push anyone into it, just happy to do it if others are interested. Let me know

[ivy]

Good luck today grover!

Go easy on yourself kellikans. Your body has gone through a lot in just one year. I lost all the baby weight within 3 months, but gained 10 pounds almost immediately after weaning. It took some time to figure out my postpartum body and how to maintain my weight. You'll get there!

My BILs wedding was this past weekend. mpc and shauni27, you may be interested to know they paired their gray suits with brown shoes

Next ultrasound is this Friday. I've spent the morning googling vanishing twin syndrome. The twin news has been such a trip. There's so much more to be worried about.

[oneslybookworm]

Hey ladies! Not a ton going on here, just plugging away at work. G is going through a leap, a growth spurt, and cutting molars, so it's super fun in the house this week! Our family is doing a spending fast this month, and it's a competition between J and I, so this will also be a hoot. I have a trip to Orlando this month, and J is taking a "guys trip" to Las Vegas for a few days, so it'll be interesting to see how we balance those trips with not spending much money.

[icedcoffee]

I'd be down with that shauni27!

[grover]

Just posted in the other tread, but pulling my chair up on the TWIN couch. OMG @ 3 kids two and under. A turns two the week before my due date.

[pooh8402]

OMG! Congrats? What a lot to take in!

[loira]

Aug 1, 2018 15:22:26 GMT -5 grover said:

Just posted in the other tread, but pulling my chair up on the TWIN couch. OMG @ 3 kids two and under. A turns two the week before my due date.

That's intense. I would be feeling a lot of things with that news. Congratulations on a good ultrasound though!

[kellikans]

Wow, grover! Congrats!

[cherryvalance]

Wow, it's a twins boom around here! Congrats!

[thoseareradishes]

Oh my goodness grover! Hugs for you!

[Mushe]

Omg, grover! I did not see that coming. How are you doing? Congrats!

[cherryvalance]

My baby is one! Omg, whyyyy?! 😂😂

[shauni27]

grover !!!!! how are you feeling right now? I know it is a lot to take in, you have some AMAZING resources on this board (and a lot of other women who are also pregnant with twins right now, lol!)!

cherryvalance happy birthday baby cherry! I found that on S's actual 1st birthday I was ok; it was the days leading up to it that I would get weepy, lol.

[grover]

shauni27, I still feel like I'm in shock lol. I had a nagging suspicion but still can't believe it! Between all the ladies here, plus there's a knottie with older twins, two of my M17 friends also had twins, and my mom had twins lol. My mom when we told her the IUI worked last week was all "I hope it's not multiples. They're hard" HAHAHAHA.

I think I'm taking it better than H, who is completely freaking about finances. Daycare will run us $100/day, so we have to figure out if H would rather still work or stay home (I can't stay home- I make 30k more and have no interest in staying home full time- summers are enough.) And I just realized that shit, we're going to need to agree on TWO names (1 name last time was hard enough LOL)

[shauni27]

grover, there will be some challenges for sure. And to say I envy you would be a lie. But every twin mom I know (most of them on here!) kick ass and just get it done. It sounds like you have a good support system.

Also, is the daycare of $100 a day for all three kids? Because that is cheap to me, lol. We pay almost that for just 1.

[cherryvalance]

shauni27, I was laughing this morning that I felt absolutely nothing and then it just hit me. Why do they have to get bigger?! We always joke that hes practically a grown man now.

[grover]

shauni27, yes, $100/day for all three at a licensed in home. We were paying $200/week for just A until it got raised to $225 last month. H is just upset because he only brings home $1100 per paycheck, so he says he'd only be covering the daycare FSA and insurance- both of which are still huge. I tried telling him that daycare is a joint expense but he's not seeing it that way yet.

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) grover. You guys will get through this (it won’t be easy though, I can’t imagine)! My DH would be feeling the same as your DH. Finances are the main reason we aren’t having a third. But $100/day for all 3 is super inexpensive here (I get paid $100/day to take care of two boys, 4 yo and 2 yo and I had a coworker who was paying close to $3k/month for a baby and 2 yo...that was 10 years ago so I know prices are even more). If your DH decides to stay home, do you guys have any support so he will have help? I know you mentioned the other day that you don’t have good family support...we don’t either and it makes staying home really hard because I never get a break (you know how it will be for him because you are home during the summer).

[icedcoffee]

Oh man grover. That is a lot to take in. You guys will be ok. It sounds like you have a great support system though which is vital. Congratulations on a good ultrasound!

Would your H enjoy staying home with 3 kids? Because mine would be terrible at it and that alone would be enough to keep working even if it's just covering the cost of daycare. Just a thought.

I hope whatever water you and the rest of this board has been drinking is fully consumed, because I do not need twins. LOL