Another update! Measuring 7w2d at 8 weeks. My doctor wasn't in this morning. The tech and the nurse thought that looked okay, so we'll wait and see. They were impressed with the strong heartbeat at 144 bpm. Also, the tech is great, but the equipment was off for some reason, and things were fuzzier than normal, so who knows. STILL a waiting game, no definitive answers ever, you know?
Also, they're asking me about an OB because they'll have to transfer me in a few weeks if all goes well. I honestly don't know who I want to use and I don't want to jinx it - I've scheduled appointments before only to have to cancel.
I also feel like crap today (likely from little sleep) and I can't just mainline coffee!
Thatβs a great heartbeat! It sounds like asking about an OB is a great sign. The equipment issues are so frustrating, especially when you just want a clear answer at this point. Everything is still crossed for you!
Another update! Measuring 7w2d at 8 weeks. My doctor wasn't in this morning. The tech and the nurse thought that looked okay, so we'll wait and see. They were impressed with the strong heartbeat at 144 bpm. Also, the tech is great, but the equipment was off for some reason, and things were fuzzier than normal, so who knows. STILL a waiting game, no definitive answers ever, you know?
Also, they're asking me about an OB because they'll have to transfer me in a few weeks if all goes well. I honestly don't know who I want to use and I don't want to jinx it - I've scheduled appointments before only to have to cancel.
I also feel like crap today (likely from little sleep) and I can't just mainline coffee!
Fingers crossed for you. Scheduling with the OB is so hard. I bit the bullet and scheduled mine after my last scan but it's fucking terrifying to worry about having to go back and cancel things. I hope little one keeps growing.
Post by lovelyshoes on Feb 27, 2020 10:50:16 GMT -5
I think a strong heartbeat is a great sign. I completely understand the nervousness about picking and scheduling the ob and I put it off the longest. I think you can put it off until you feel comfortable. Most of them are compassionate enough to squeeze you in when you call. In any case, thinking good thoughts for you.
GREAT update I think!! And it seems weird that they would have you graduate so early--we were still in there care until our 10/11 week ultrasound. Then we basically waited until we were 14 weeks to be seen (longest month ever!)
Please also note: tell your OB about your loss history. They should be aware of this, even at the front desk. They will hopefully let you come in earlier just for heartbeat checks to reassure you, as your mental health is a big factor in a healthy pregnancy.
also, does the RE not want to see you again? Or do you have another appointment?
Oh no, I do. He'll see me until at least 10/11 weeks. The nurse just wanted to put an OB in my file for when they actually plan to transfer me, hopefully several weeks from now. I think last week my RE mentioned 3 more appointments, so now I'm at 2 more appts - week 9 and week 10. I have another scheduled for next Thursday.
also, does the RE not want to see you again? Or do you have another appointment?
Oh no, I do. He'll see me until at least 10/11 weeks. The nurse just wanted to put an OB in my file for when they actually plan to transfer me, hopefully several weeks from now. I think last week my RE mentioned 3 more appointments, so now I'm at 2 more appts - week 9 and week 10. I have another scheduled for next Thursday.
Today's update is... not great. Not over, though. It looked like there was minimal fetal growth this week. Some, but maybe not too much. The heartbeat was still there. Sac measuring 8 weeks and I'm 9 weeks today. It's kind of just below/bordering on the acceptable growth curve. I've also had NO symptoms this week. No cramping (just a little back pain yesterday), not really any nausea (like momentary flashes, but if I wasn't pregnant I would think it's normal). Not overwhelming tiredness, just wanting to go to sleep by about 10.
They will call me if my bloodwork shows my numbers have dropped. I have another appointment next week. A week feels like a year. I wish I could go in every other day to be reassured (or at least have answers). I have a LOT of anxiety around pregnancy now.
It's going to be hard to know how to move forward if this doesn't work out. It seems like SOMETHING was working this time, and maybe the embryo just never attached as well as it should have? Or something else was up? (PGS normal, BTW.) If so, maybe we should try this transfer again. Downside: transfer and immune protocol meds are about $10k, which might just be throwing money down the drain if it's not going to work, and the thought of trying to get pregnant again is really difficult for my mental health.
I could consult with the Braverman clinic/Dr Vidali. I feel like my case might be right in their wheelhouse. Cons: Will probably cost about $25k with meds, and while I might feel more confident using a true immune protocol with a LOT more testing, carrying a pregnancy myself will still be difficult.
Which then leads us to gestational carriers. My SIL might be able to do it (she mentioned it to my MIL, her mom), but she's 43 and has had at least 1 c-section (she has 3 kids under 5). And even with a family carrier, it's still $$$$. I'm thinking maybe $60 - $75k for the medical insurance policy, transfer of frozen embryos, legal fees, and any expenses for her. She also lives in a different state than us, and gave birth to all of her kids in yet a third state (she lives in CT on the RI border and used a hospital in Worcester, MA for New England people). And then if she can't do it, we're probably looking at $100k+ to find and compensate an unknown carrier.
Also, both my car and my husband's car need work to pass inspection (I got off with only $900, whereas my husband had over $4000 quoted by the dealership, so he's taking it to my mechanic), our washer broke two weeks ago and the cheaper one we ordered can't fit in the space, so we're going to have to end up spending $1000ish, and we owe DOUBLE in taxes this year than what we owed last year. So yeah, things are going great.
Oh man, Iβm sorry you are going through this. It is just too much. I wish I had some words of wisdom. Try to take it one day at a time for now. Lots of highs to you. Still hoping and wishing good thoughts for you.
I am so sorry for this continued uncertainty and stress. I am still hoping for a positive outcome, and wish you could have answers sooner. Big hugs to you.
Iβm so sorry. Check your insurance if Dr. Kwak Kim is in network for you. She was for me even though sheβs out of state. It sounds like if you are a distance away, she only asks you to come in 1-2 times. Sheβs right by the Chicago airport. It was significantly less expensive than The Braverman clinic
Iβm so sorry. Check your insurance if Dr. Kwak Kim is in network for you. She was for me even though sheβs out of state. It sounds like if you are a distance away, she only asks you to come in 1-2 times. Sheβs right by the Chicago airport. It was significantly less expensive than The Braverman clinic
Yeah, the sheet for Braverman clinic is about $900 for the initial appt, around $2k for testing (which has to repeated often), $3k for the initial protocol ($2k for any transfer protocols after that) and I think $3k (maybe $2k) for pregnancy monitoring. And that doesn't include meds. So almost $20k and then if they recommend IVIG, all bets are off... I think Aetna "covers" them (which I have), but they are out of network for all insurance and I would have to get reimbursed.
I live near Philly, so I have several options for direct flights to Chicago, and a close friend who lives right downtown if I needed to stay a night.
Post by seeyalater52 on Mar 6, 2020 9:42:57 GMT -5
Oh mery, Iβm just catching up on your latest update and Iβm just so sorry. It is frustrating not to have answers and I certainly understand feeling DONE after so many losses. I hope your exploration into next steps helps to make your path forward more clear. We are here for you every step of the way.
Iβm so sorry. Check your insurance if Dr. Kwak Kim is in network for you. She was for me even though sheβs out of state. It sounds like if you are a distance away, she only asks you to come in 1-2 times. Sheβs right by the Chicago airport. It was significantly less expensive than The Braverman clinic
Yeah, the sheet for Braverman clinic is about $900 for the initial appt, around $2k for testing (which has to repeated often), $3k for the initial protocol ($2k for any transfer protocols after that) and I think $3k (maybe $2k) for pregnancy monitoring. And that doesn't include meds. So almost $20k and then if they recommend IVIG, all bets are off... I think Aetna "covers" them (which I have), but they are out of network for all insurance and I would have to get reimbursed.Β
I live near Philly, so I have several options for direct flights to Chicago, and a close friend who lives right downtown if I needed to stay a night.Β
If youβre even questioning it, I would consider scheduling it because dr Kwak Kim schedules so far out. You can always cancel.