I'm giggling because my DH is super quiet and doesn't communicate much. But the minute we got married, he started calling me once or twice during my work day...for no reason at all. It was so perplexing to me that this man that doesn't have much to say all of a sudden wanted to chat during my workday. LMAO!
I have a soft spot for teachers. My mom was a teacher/school counselor and I heard all of the stories of crazy parents. I can totally see what a huge obstacle cell phones has brought to the classroom.
However, I have to admit that when I read the OP, my thoughts went to, "what a sweet, supportive mother. I hope one day my DS will want a quick pick-me-up from me every once in a while."
After reading this thread, I can see the distractions it causes and the frustration the teacher must have by not having their students' undivided attention. All this to say, every once in a blue moon (especially during crazy COVID) a puppy picture from mom in the middle of a school day isn't the end of the world (so long as it's done during breaks/lunchtime).
Is this a girl vs boy thing too? I’m not texting my kids during the school day anyway (it’s not allowed, plus I’m a big believer in letting kids figure stuff out on their own so they can become functional teens/adults) but also DS1 would be MORTIFIED if I texted him gifs or dog photos during the day lol. Even though no one would see it but him. He lives in a constant state of mortification these days
Totally unrelated to phone use, but my 14 year old boy lives in a constant of mortification. I do not know how he gets through the day! Once in while I make his lunch, he requests that the sandwich not be cut in half in case somebody sees it and thinks 'his mommy is making his lunch'. He had spin class outside last night and wore his hood up in case a friend in passing car happened to glance over. LOL It must be exhausting.
yes! I feel so badly for him and how hard it must get to get through the day assuming every person on earth is watching and judging. The other day he was super embarrassed because we were walking together and “I moved my hands to much while I talked”. Omg.
I see I am also ECB ’s son. “I don’t want to return to five days a week at work. I like sleeping in on my work from days, employer!”
My 14 year old agrees. They go back full time on April 26th. He is not happy. According to him he 'has become accustomed to a certain lifestyle'. The lifestyle of sleeping in and watching youtube at lunch.
Post by penguingrrl on Apr 20, 2021 10:21:57 GMT -5
I’m surprised to hear some of you can email school email accounts! Ours are set up so they can only send and receive internal emails, so parents can’t email during school (unless kids are surreptitiously using personal accounts but they aren’t supposed to).
I’m surprised to hear some of you can email school email accounts! Ours are set up so they can only send and receive internal emails, so parents can’t email during school (unless kids are surreptitiously using personal accounts but they aren’t supposed to).
This has become an issue for us because my kid is virtual and sometimes I need to get her something via email from one device to another. I log into her email and then e-mail from her and to her and put From Mom in the subject.
Also for those of you who feel like kids need a “pick-me-up” during the day maybe you can find a way to do this that doesn’t involve electronics. For instance back when my kids were in school, I used to write a lame joke every few pages in my daughters school assignment book. Same purpose - gives her a smile and lets her know I’m thinking of her - but no disruption to the class.
I’m surprised to hear some of you can email school email accounts! Ours are set up so they can only send and receive internal emails, so parents can’t email during school (unless kids are surreptitiously using personal accounts but they aren’t supposed to).
This has become an issue for us because my kid is virtual and sometimes I need to get her something via email from one device to another. I log into her email and then e-mail from her and to her and put From Mom in the subject.
This. Or they can do a personal Gmail account and toggle between that and the school one. Or, if they have a phone anyway, put the personal Gmail on the phone and turn off email notifications. Then it can be checked at an appropriate, non-class time.
I’m surprised to hear some of you can email school email accounts! Ours are set up so they can only send and receive internal emails, so parents can’t email during school (unless kids are surreptitiously using personal accounts but they aren’t supposed to).
This has become an issue for us because my kid is virtual and sometimes I need to get her something via email from one device to another. I log into her email and then e-mail from her and to her and put From Mom in the subject.
Interesting! We haven’t had to do any of that when fully virtual, but I could see it being an issue. Our kids are required to use school issued chromebooks for virtual school, not personal devices, and the security on them prevents a lot.
I’m surprised to hear some of you can email school email accounts! Ours are set up so they can only send and receive internal emails, so parents can’t email during school (unless kids are surreptitiously using personal accounts but they aren’t supposed to).
our kid’s emails aren’t even enabled until high school. So they have the account and it’s how they use it to log in to canvas etc, but you can’t get or receive emails to it.
I’m surprised to hear some of you can email school email accounts! Ours are set up so they can only send and receive internal emails, so parents can’t email during school (unless kids are surreptitiously using personal accounts but they aren’t supposed to).
our kid’s emails aren’t even enabled until high school. So they have the account and it’s how they use it to log in to canvas etc, but you can’t get or receive emails to it.
Ours are in 4th but only internally their entire time in district (preK-8 district). They do lessons on how to send a proper email to teachers in 4th and 5th, which I think is good. But we can’t send or receive emails between us and them or even their personal email accounts.
I see I am also ECB ’s son. “I don’t want to return to five days a week at work. I like sleeping in on my work from days, employer!”
OMG yes. We just got the notice that we'll probably be back in June/July.. but I like not dealing with traffic, boss man. How about I come in after the carpool lanes open up for the rest of us? Which means I can sleep in and workout..
Post by formerlyak on Apr 20, 2021 10:47:40 GMT -5
I wanted to add that DS participates in a lot of school-based extracurriculars; so much so that I had to tell him to stop joining stuff at one point in 8th grade. Pick up times were often a moving target, but there was never a case in his 2.5 years of middle school prior to the covid shut down that the teacher who changed the schedule didn't give the kids a few minutes to contact their parent or whoever was giving them a ride to let them know of the change.
As the kid of a teacher, and the mom of a high schooler, I have a hard time thinking of an example where there isn't a solution outside of texting your kid during class.
This has become an issue for us because my kid is virtual and sometimes I need to get her something via email from one device to another. I log into her email and then e-mail from her and to her and put From Mom in the subject.
Interesting! We haven’t had to do any of that when fully virtual, but I could see it being an issue. Our kids are required to use school issued chromebooks for virtual school, not personal devices, and the security on them prevents a lot.
It has been more “non-academic” stuff. For example last week I took pics kd my kid building something for her passion project. I took the photos on my phone but then she wanted to put them in a google slide show for her presentation. Or once she did an extracurricular cooking club and the link to the zoom room came to my email instead of hers. That kind of stuff.
Interesting! We haven’t had to do any of that when fully virtual, but I could see it being an issue. Our kids are required to use school issued chromebooks for virtual school, not personal devices, and the security on them prevents a lot.
It has been more “non-academic” stuff. For example last week I took pics kd my kid building something for her passion project. I took the photos on my phone but then she wanted to put them in a google slide show for her presentation. Or once she did an extracurricular cooking club and the link to the zoom room came to my email instead of hers. That kind of stuff.
Ah! We send it to their phones, which have google classroom and they upload that way.
Post by formerlyak on Apr 20, 2021 10:54:29 GMT -5
To get photos from a phone to a locked down school account, if the school account is based in Google, you can add either the school email to your phone and then email the pictures from the school account to the school account (so basically like you are emailing yourself). Or, you can sign in to the school Google Drive from a phone and upload the pictures to Google Drive and then access them from the school Chromebook or device. If your school uses Canvas, you can log in to your Canvas account on a phone and put the Canvas app on your phone. Once logged in, there are three bars in the top left corner that open a menu. One of the menu items is "files". If you click that, you can add a photo. Then it will be accessible when you log in to Canvas on the school device. I teach in Canvas and my kids' schools use Google, so we have had to figure out work arounds.
It has been more “non-academic” stuff. For example last week I took pics kd my kid building something for her passion project. I took the photos on my phone but then she wanted to put them in a google slide show for her presentation. Or once she did an extracurricular cooking club and the link to the zoom room came to my email instead of hers. That kind of stuff.
Ah! We send it to their phones, which have google classroom and they upload that way.
Makes sense! My kid doesn’t have a phone yet - see my post about middle school and phones 🤣
I’m surprised to hear some of you can email school email accounts! Ours are set up so they can only send and receive internal emails, so parents can’t email during school (unless kids are surreptitiously using personal accounts but they aren’t supposed to).
Ours are just Gmail with our school domain. We want them to have access to the outside world. They get emails from colleges and other outside orgs that are school related.
eta: As a HS teacher I like that my students can email with outside domains. It is very common for parents and the student and I to be on one email chain to discuss something. Its nice to have everyone in one convo. I couldn't do that if a school blocked parents!
I’m surprised to hear some of you can email school email accounts! Ours are set up so they can only send and receive internal emails, so parents can’t email during school (unless kids are surreptitiously using personal accounts but they aren’t supposed to).
i can't email dd to her school account bc it'll get bounced back as 'undeliverable' ... she has her own gmail account if i need to email her something.
Post by somersault72 on Apr 20, 2021 11:42:46 GMT -5
I sent a text to my 7th grade DS (thinking he'd see it at lunch) asking if he was OK (he had not been feeling well after his track meet the night before and I was just checking on him) and he was like, "mom! don't text me at school!" So I don't ever now, but I never would have before unless I felt it was important, and even then I figured he could text me during his lunch. I certainly wasn't planning on having a conversation with him during class time. I can and do email him occasionally, and vice versa.
Given how many grown ass adults come in my office on their phones I'd like to tell you I'm surprised, but I'm not.
I’m surprised to hear some of you can email school email accounts! Ours are set up so they can only send and receive internal emails, so parents can’t email during school (unless kids are surreptitiously using personal accounts but they aren’t supposed to).
Ours are just Gmail with our school domain. We want them to have access to the outside world. They get emails from colleges and other outside orgs that are school related.
eta: As a HS teacher I like that my students can email with outside domains. It is very common for parents and the student and I to be on one email chain to discuss something. Its nice to have everyone in one convo. I couldn't do that if a school blocked parents!
I think that makes sense for high school kids for sure! My experience is with a K-8 district, which is a time when strict restrictions make sense! I assume that when my oldest starts HS next fall the paradigm shifts dramatically on this!
My son isn't embarrassed by me texting him. But I try to keep things at minimum if he is with friends or at school. I text him more when he is in the house lololol.
but lord help me if I walk downstairs while he is doing a live stream of video games. /biggest eyerolls
Ours are just Gmail with our school domain. We want them to have access to the outside world. They get emails from colleges and other outside orgs that are school related.
eta: As a HS teacher I like that my students can email with outside domains. It is very common for parents and the student and I to be on one email chain to discuss something. Its nice to have everyone in one convo. I couldn't do that if a school blocked parents!
I think that makes sense for high school kids for sure! My experience is with a K-8 district, which is a time when strict restrictions make sense! I assume that when my oldest starts HS next fall the paradigm shifts dramatically on this!
Our middle school does too. I used to teach 8th (and my Daughter is now in middle). Its nice! they have filters and such but parents can still email their kids.
I think that makes sense for high school kids for sure! My experience is with a K-8 district, which is a time when strict restrictions make sense! I assume that when my oldest starts HS next fall the paradigm shifts dramatically on this!
Our middle school does too. I used to teach 8th (and my Daughter is now in middle). Its nice! they have filters and such but parents can still email their kids.
Interesting! I’ll admit, emailing my kid has never come to mind for me LOL! I also don’t text during school. I assume she’s at school and busy and safe.
Our middle school does too. I used to teach 8th (and my Daughter is now in middle). Its nice! they have filters and such but parents can still email their kids.
Interesting! I’ll admit, emailing my kid has never come to mind for me LOL! I also don’t text during school. I assume she’s at school and busy and safe.
Generally they email the teachers and students together to talk about school. As a teacher I haven’t noticed an epidemic of parent emails to students during the day. I’ve done it twice (emailed my daughter) to let her know about a schedule change.
Interesting! I’ll admit, emailing my kid has never come to mind for me LOL! I also don’t text during school. I assume she’s at school and busy and safe.
Generally they email the teachers and students together to talk about school. As a teacher I haven’t noticed an epidemic of parent emails to students during the day. I’ve done it twice (emailed my daughter) to let her know about a schedule change.
My son isn't embarrassed by me texting him. But I try to keep things at minimum if he is with friends or at school. I text him more when he is in the house lololol.
but lord help me if I walk downstairs while he is doing a live stream of video games. /biggest eyerolls
Omg, I walked behind lucy while she was on Google meet for school. In MY living room, on MY laptop. Like, I think they know you have a mother, kid
Post by downtoearth on Apr 20, 2021 15:17:34 GMT -5
My kid is a 9th grader (my 6th or 2nd grader don't have phones yet), and no, I try not to text unless it is an emergency. Teachers are so sick of trying to decide what text is "important" and what are distracting, and I hear from my teacher friends that it's best to wait and try to communicate before and after school if it's just a thoughtful or logistics text. It also shows your child that their focus should be on school, just like yours should be on work when there (although we all know we get distraction time that kids don't get in school ).
Post by Queen Mamadala on Apr 20, 2021 17:40:13 GMT -5
When my oldest was in middle school, their phone policy had students keep their phones in their locker during class. They were allowed to use them during break and lunch. I don’t remember sending her messages during school hours, but she did message me during break or lunch on occasion.
Her high school is pretty lax and not really traditional. Apart from advisory and year (grade-level) meetings, students are left to study or complete tasks independently, unless there’s a group project. But even then, she doesn’t message me much, and I don’t remember the last time I sent her a message during school hours, unless it was to remind her about something.