Ugh, I'm terrible remembering AEs and the correct story. I didn't read all the replies yet, but is this the poster who found the underwear in the laundry? Or someone else?
Either way...I'm so very sorry this happened. I'm glad you have a strong support system and you (and your children) will be in a much better place after all this.
Someone else. Her husband cheated via AshleyMadison and she found out. Counseling to try to make it work. Found out he was visiting the website and others and still in contact, as well as trying for threesomes and all kinds of fun stuff she was learning. He's a fuckhead who said it was all her fault because she was fat, didn't keep a clean house and their learning-needs child had "issues" because she would have bad days due to her needs; he followed up in counseling with all her faults and he wants a divorce because she doesn't measure up to his standards and he's not a douchebag because of all her faults.
In other words, he's a total douchebag, fucknugget and whatever else and deserves to be castrated (true dat) because he's faulting her for things that are not faults, are not *her* faults, and are completely his issue.
Ugh, I'm terrible remembering AEs and the correct story. I didn't read all the replies yet, but is this the poster who found the underwear in the laundry? Or someone else?
Either way...I'm so very sorry this happened. I'm glad you have a strong support system and you (and your children) will be in a much better place after all this.
Someone else. Her husband cheated via AshleyMadison and she found out. Counseling to try to make it work. Found out he was visiting the website and others and still in contact, as well as trying for threesomes and all kinds of fun stuff she was learning. He's a fuckhead who said it was all her fault because she was fat, didn't keep a clean house and their learning-needs child had "issues" because she would have bad days due to her needs; he followed up in counseling with all her faults and he wants a divorce because she doesn't measure up to his standards and he's not a douchebag because of all her faults.
In other words, he's a total douchebag, fucknugget and whatever else and deserves to be castrated (true dat) because he's faulting her for things that are not faults, are not *her* faults, and are completely his issue.
Post by laurenpetro on Sept 24, 2012 15:21:15 GMT -5
jesus fucking christ.
i kind of wish you weren't handling this so gracefully, mcgee, because i would LOVE it if you gave him a good hard nut-punch. no one. NO ONE deserves this shit. ever.
i have family in your area if you want someone to kick the shit out of him. i'm italian. it's what we do.
I hope your stbxh realizes there are 100s of women reading this right now wishing that his penis gets gangrene and falls off. If there is such a thing as karma, 100s of women around the country hope it finds him.
Take solace in the fact that he will never find a woman as good as you. His life will be miserable by his own hand. But you will flourish. You are ridding yourself of a cancer. Your life will be better w/out him.
I'll just add my voice to the chorus: i am so so sorry you are going through this and I wish you all the best. I hope that things are only up from here.
And your H completely deserves the dick in a blender treatment.
Well. I think that sums it up for me.
McGee I'm just so sorry to hear you are going through this.
i have family in your area if you want someone to kick the shit out of him. i'm italian. it's what we do.
LMAO. One of my Italian friends said pretty much the same thing. That, and I'm way too nice and handling this with too much grace. I know she meant that as a compliment, and she'd gladly punch my H in the nuts too.
I took DD to see a counselor today to talk about her emotions regarding the divorce. The counselor says she thinks DD is handling this all really very well and that I've done a great job with her so far. She thinks DD can see her intermittently or on an as-needed basis between now and us leaving the state. It was a big relief to hear that she's not all that worried about DD. Honestly, I'm not overly panicked about DD either - she is verbalizing her feelings and talking through her emotions with me.
I am meeting with a lawyer soon to talk about everything. The realtor is coming over tonight to give us his opinion on the house as well. We still have things to finish (places without baseboards, paint to touch up, cabinets to paint, spaces to declutter), but we've made a lot of progress on the house. This house was such a labor of love for me, and it looks SO good now. It is almost everything we talked about wanting in a house, and it breaks my heart that the kids will not grow up here. I am trying to remind myself that a house is just four walls and a roof, and it's the people inside it who make it a home.
Post by basilosaurus on Sept 24, 2012 18:08:36 GMT -5
[quote author=heyjude board=general thread=62724 post=1017584 time=1348523454 Take solace in the fact that he will never find a woman as good as you. His life will be miserable by his own hand. But you will flourish. You are ridding yourself of a cancer. Your life will be better w/out him.[/quote]I think this is a perfect summation. You will flourish.
Post by bronxgirl on Sept 24, 2012 20:56:57 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I wish I could do something to make things easier for you, but you sound like a strong woman and a great mom. I'm glad to hear you have family support.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
Post by vanillacourage on Sept 24, 2012 21:43:03 GMT -5
Omg, HULKSMASH on his nuts.
You are a classy lady and you are setting a great example for your kids on drawing a line on what you will tolerate in this life. It may seem they are too young to pick up on it right now, but I guarantee your bravery will shine through for them in the end.
Met with the Realtor tonight. He loves the house, loves everything we've done with it, but he agrees that we need to replace the countertops before we list it. Ugh. I knew that would be the case, but it was still depressing to hear (we tore out a built-in desk in the kitchen, and we need to put new cabinets there, and if we do that, then we have to put a counter top on it, and we can't find a match for the ugly mauve laminate on the rest of the counters). The decor snob in me cringes at installing cheap granite, but whatever. I'm very close to no longer caring as long as the house sells for a good price.
On the upside, the average days on market before houses in our neighborhood go under contract? 31 days. OMG. I was worried we might sit on it for months, but apparently we're in a good location, and the subdivision is now built out, so no one is competing against the builder anymore. Realtor wants us to finish the house ASAP so we can get it listed. He is calling tomorrow to let us know when his stager can come over.
The visit tonight lit a fire under H, and he's working hard to finish stuff. I packed several boxes tonight and decluttered some more. It's coming along. The house really is gorgeous.
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what you're going through, but I'm very glad you have such a supportive family to carry you through this. Best to you and your beautiful kids.