Kind of wedding S/O-any drama at your wedding?

[sadlebred]

My BM was late to do my hair b/c she went to the mall to buy the "perfect" gold high heels to wear with her BM dress.

We had someone show up that wasn't on the guest list (only 70 people on the guest list. See: budget wedding). Turns out she was another invited friend's "friend-date." That friend was caught on the interstate with all lanes closed b/c of a major wreck. She never did make it. Said person that showed up was also our friend, and we were glad to have her there!

My MOH and BM's job was to keep my MIL away from me while I was getting ready. I didn't want the drama. Thankfully she hung out with ex-H and his brothers except to say hi, which was fine. MOH ushered her out after about 3 minutes.

[jackie011]

ETA: The most drama occurred in planning the wedding and me being opposed to FIL’s coworker’s toddlers being invited to the wedding. I was fine with family children (there were a few in the elementary age range), but I just didn’t think we needed to invite the toddler children of someone neither of us had ever met.

It started pouring right before I was supposed to walk down the aisle. My dad remembered something that was in the car and was about to go out and get it. Thankfully a family friend was walking in at the same time and said absolutely do not go out there, you’ll get soaked.

The band leader announced us as Jackie & my sister’s name when we walked in. My H & sister both start with the same letter, so I get it, but it’s forever captured on our dvd.

People got really drunk…really drunk at our open bar. One friend (who was actually not drunk) was cut off because the bar tender didn’t think he was of age (he was 30) and was pissed and yelling about it to everyone.

[janegold]

A groomsman hooked up with a wedding guest in our bridal suite during the after party. When we went up at the end of the night, the door was locked from the inside. He had been one of my H’s best friends but things were never really the same after that.

[janegold]

Also, the guest that the groomsman hooked up with was a bit of a third wheel to begin with. A different groomsman was dating a girl from Italy, who was visiting the States with a friend at the time of our wedding. The groomsman asked if he could bring the friend to the wedding, in addition to his girlfriend. We said no as we were already cutting our own friends list down to make room for everyone. And then the groomsman’s mom started badgering my MIL to invite the friend.

Finally we gave in and said he could bring the friend as well. They chose the seats right across from us at the head table - two women we had never met before who spoke not a word of English.

And as thanks, the friend had sex with a stranger all over our wedding suite.

[mofongo]

Jan 24, 2023 23:06:18 GMT -5 janegold said:

A groomsmen hooked up with a wedding guest in our bridal suite during the after party. When we went up at the end of the night, the door was locked from the inside. He has been one of my H’s best friends but things were never really the same after that.

O.M.G.

[joy]

Jan 24, 2023 22:13:20 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

Between the ceremony and the reception, a friend from college ended up breaking up with her boyfriend and they left in very dramatic and visible fashion . Two co-workers who were in a relationship with each other broke up (much more privately) after the reception. We did get married on Friday the 13th.

Have done.

Still sorry about it.

[gastro]

DH took a long lunch and we went to the courthouse. My mom was our witness and we have a few photos on a flip phone.

The drama was other people being pissed we didn’t have some big to do.

I’m so thankful to this day we did what we did.

[janegold]

Also, one of my MIL’s friends had an aneurysm during our cocktail hour. She credits our wedding with saving her life, as we were right down the street from some of the best hospitals in the city. Doctors told her that if she had been at home, she would have died.

God, our wedding was full of drama.

[sadlebred]

Not my wedding but the wedding of good friends at the time. The couple was "John" and "Ann." The wedding was at her childhood church where her parents were still rather active members. It's a very old rich church locally. The entire day started out like it was going to be amazing. The pastor called them John and Ann for the first two times. After that he must have had his notes from another wedding and called them "Richard and Cynthia." Totally wrong people. The first time the groom corrected the pastor. He called them the right names once more the the wrong names the next 20 times. You would think the congregation erupting in laughter each time would be a clue, but nope. It was Richard and Cynthia. They were able to laugh about it at the reception.

Wedding #2 I was a guest at was a coworker and her long time partner. Both were early 50s at the time. Her H's youngest was a Junior or so in HS, and she is raising a nephew who was about 13. Her son was grown and out of the house. It was an Episcopalian ceremony. The pastor got to the part about "creating children in God's image or something." He paused for a breath, and the entire sanctuary was doubled over in roaring laughter that would not subside. The bride & groom were laughing as well, and the bride and shouted something about "that won't happen unless hades freezes over." It took a minute to get the ceremony back on track.

[katb]

My stepmother had a fit we were having a Friday evening wedding. I was a single mom teacher and my DH at the time was an apprentice for a trade - we saved over $5k (20 years ago) having a Friday night wedding. Told her if she wanted to pay the difference to let me know - never heard a peep about paying money but lots of complaining.

No kids (except my own DD and my 2 flower girls - my nieces- and my teenager nephew) - don't care.

My father/stepmom bartered/paid for my wedding cake and photographer. My wedding cake ended up being a lopsided, see through frosting nightmare - I wish I would have just gone to the local grocery store and gotten a sheet cake for the back to cut and a simple one round cake for me to cut.

I think that's it. Overall, I loved my wedding and anyone who didn't - after these 20+ years can fuck off, lol.

[janegold]

Jan 24, 2023 23:18:57 GMT -5 janegold said:

Also, one of my MIL’s friends had an aneurysm during our cocktail hour.

And who, 14 years later, sent me a FB friend request literally 60 seconds after I posted the above…

[JayhawkGirl]

3 yo niece was our flower girl, very light pink dress. My sister and mom wanted to just have her wear black shoes when I said light shoes ie white/cream/silver. Truth was they wanted her to wear the black shoes in her Christmas pictures (November wedding). My best friend went to Payless, got some $10.99 white shoes and bam, done. It’s still weird to me how much my mom and sister fought those damn shoes.

Sister’s wedding a guest got stupid drunk and hadn’t eaten all day/night. They were all 21-22and this was the first wedding for most of them. I found her in the bridal suite next to my sister’s detachable train. I looked at her, said you’re not puking on my sister’s dress, get outside, don’t let our grandma see you, don’t drive and eat something for the love. A couple years later I saw her again and she thanked me for getting her out before she got sick everywhere. Which she did. In the trees beyond the parking lot where nobody could see.

[Patsy Baloney]

Can I spin-off further with drama that i caused at a wedding?

My BIL (may he Rest In Peace) got married on a Wednesday and he and his bride insisted on the biggest wedding ever even though it was a Wednesday and they did not live near anyone. So, horribly inconvenient at the jump. Their demands were always over the top. They asked our 2 year old to be their flower girl. Insisted on a $150 dress for her, I talked them down to a compromise $80 dress (still fucking ridiculous). Had a tacky gofundme for their wedding, just all kinds of bad looks. Did not want a shower but wanted the presents, so they did a “long distance” shower where they assigned everyone a date night to pay for - another cash grab.

We were literally days away from flying out for the wedding when we got the groomsman schedule for my H - they expected him to party it up for a week and explicitly told me that I would be responsible for solo parenting my 2YO for that week in a city I’d never been to holed up in an overly expensive hotel room. I wasn’t invited to the rehearsal, just my H and daughter. It was so ridiculous and rude.

So, my H canceled our trip and converted it into a vacation for the 3 of us. He flew in on a red eye for the wedding by himself and flew back out on the red eye the next morning.

The only thing to come of it was a shitty voicemail left on my phone by the bride screeching about how, “We already printed the programs!!!!”

They got divorced pretty quickly after. I think BIL’s terminal illness played into a lot of the demands/entitlement, but I never understood being absolute twats about everything. Of course we want to get together as family and celebrate you. No need to be jerks about everything and make us not want to!

[ellipses84]

Not at my wedding, but leading up to it.

We had a destination wedding in a central location in the US since all of our friends and family were spread out and not many were in our city. We originally wanted it in Mexico but that idea and not getting married in my hometown (which would have been 3x further for DH’s family) both caused a lot of drama. We knew not everyone would / could come to a destination wedding but we were definitely sad about a few people who didn’t make it. One of our groomsman decided not to bring his kids because he wanted a fun kid-free trip, but they were our godchildren who we also asked to be in the wedding (and we would have paid all expenses including another relative to come as a babysitter).

I didn’t want to pick between my sisters for MOH so I chose my BFF and it caused drama between her and them for years (yay!)

We had the bachelor/ bachelorette parties 2 nights before the wedding and they were great but the only rehearsal time we could get was the morning after which was a mistake. Hungover DH was so late because he had to play chauffeur to the the flower girl because her mom wouldn’t take our advice and stayed in a hotel far from everyone else and at the last minute said she had no plan to send her to the rehearsal unless DH picked her up. I was in tears by the time they finally arrived and the rest of the wedding party was there waiting. I was also tired / hungover and it was overwhelming.

Funny- there was a super popular wedding date a couple weeks before our wedding, think like 12/12/12. I handmade program fans and copied the wording from an example online. DH and MOH proofread it in a fancy font..and during the reception I heard my bridesmaids whisper don’t tell her…so I made them tell me…I put the wrong wedding date on our programs 😂

The craziest one PDQ! - halfway into our 1.5 year engagement DH found out he might have a kid he never knew about, conceived years before we met from a one-time rebound fling. The months leading up to our wedding were incredibly stressful with a paternity test (he is the father) and him starting a court case for joint custody/ visitation. DH said he wouldn’t blame me if I walked away from it all. We naively thought court wouldn’t take long and he’d be able to be at our wedding and we considered changing plans to make that easier. It took 3 years before he could even travel to our house. He’s grown now and things are all good.

[killercupcake]

The limo didn’t show up to take me and my bridesmaids to the church. Once we realized we had no time to wait, everyone had piled into different cars and took off. I almost got left behind because everyone thought I had gotten in someone else’s car. And my MOH had my phone because she was yelling at the limo drive a la MTV true life: I’m getting married. Luckily my parents noticed me running toward their car and let me in. Lol

We made it. So no real drama.

Oh. My moms cousin sent us a bad check for a gift. It cost $25 in returned check fees, so we lost money on that one. Lol

[pinkdutchtulips]

The groom arrived 25 minutes late by himself. His groomsmen were there, he was not. I tried calling he wouldn’t pick up, his best man aka his brother tried, no luck. His sister in law tried … NO ONE was able to get him to pick up. He strolled up 25 mins late no big deal … I.was.LIVID!

The other thing that went wrong, the DJ forgot the father/daughter dance. If/when J and I get hitched, I get my f/d dance !

[Nonny]

All of our wedding drama was the kind of eye-roll stuff that only mom's can generate.

The biggest thing, that thankfully didn't turn into anything, was when my mom thought my H's uncle was a wedding crasher, but she at least had enough sense to ask me before she tried to manhandle him out of the venue. He wasn't exactly dressed in traditional wedding guest attire (he was wearing clean jeans and a new flannel shirt). Our venue was very small and kind of in the slightly industrial area of a small town, and my mom thought he'd just wandered in off the street and sat down.

To be honest I think she was a little disappointed that he was an invited guest and not a crasher, because she was looking forward to having a story for later.

[rikki]

Not really drama, but for my first marriage I had 2 receptions, one here (that was lovely and perfect) and one in Venezuela. The Venezuelan one included 400 guests, of which I knew my MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL, one aunt, and 3 of my husband’s high school friends. Maybe 5 people there spoke English. I had no idea what the speeches said, the songs that the band played, etc. I have never felt so weird, out of place, and on display in my life.

[chchchia]

Well let's see, my ex mil came into town the day before with not only a boyfriend we didn't know about and was never told about but with his child as well. We had a child free wedding with the exception of MY child.
We had to spend time rearranging our seating chart while babysitting her boyfriend's child because they left him at our house, as in dropped him off and pulled out of the driveway the day before our wedding. I spent the hours leading up to our rehearsal dinner watching this child-monster while trying to get ready. Boyfriend proceeds to stand outside the church doors smoking pot while insulting the catholic church. I wanted to crawl in a hole and die.
At the actual dinner exmil and her boyfriend proceed to drink most of the wine we had and bf talks smack about the room temp red wine he was served, it was warm af to quote him, (and my parents paid for) while exmil was loudly and drunkenly telling my ex how she thought my best friend and bridesmaid was making "eyes" at him, all in front of my friend's husband.
Exfil told my mom he wanted to split the check of the rehearsal dinner with her which she did not want to do bc that was my parents gift to us and she relented, the check he gave her bounced. He never offered one word of apology or explanation and for years, and I mean years, told us the blanket and fire pit he ordered for us was on backorder. The thing is, we let it be known we did not want any gifts, we had everything.
I don't want even to get started on the shit they did at the wedding bc it would be too long to list and most of it my sisters prevented me from seeing or knowing about it until after the wedding. I know the one things they couldn't hide is that my exmil showed up to the wedding in a dress that was eerily similar to my dress but it was red and she wore a very large hat with it (my bm's dresses were red). Fun times, those should have all been red flags to me bc ex didn't see the issues.

[osulori]

The only drama we had was the reception venue not wanting to tap the fourth keg an hour before the reception ended, and the only person dramatic about it was my drunk dad who ran up to me all "ZOMG THEY WON'T LET US HAVE MORE BEER!!!111!!1!" (not as bad as it sounds, he rarely gets drunk and when he does he's a happy drunk thank god). We ended up switching to bottled beer and went through more than a keg's worth of those in that hour...and the next day my dad drove us to the airport muttering that he was never drinking again

[mokes]

Oh the memories.

We didn’t invite children and H’s aunt totally lost it. Threatened to disown her sister (my MIL) if she didn’t somehow force us to invite her 3 kids. Called H and asked him to put them in the wedding party. We stopped engaging once we said no but MIL never did and fought with her for months.

Day of the wedding she shows up with the kids and I noted that they were all dressed in coordinating clothes, as if they were getting their Christmas photos, which I thought was odd. After the ceremony while we were taking photos, they ambushed us to get a formal photo. No other aunts/uncles/cousins were getting formal photos taken. My MIL snapped at me that they were her FAMILY. I asked the photographer to delete the photos afterward.

When we arrived at the reception, my MIL was waiting for me at the door to “discuss.” I cut her off, told her it was my wedding day and if she wanted to fight we could do it the next day. (She is normally very nice and we get along!)

It also snowed that day and in the morning on the way from my hair appt, my car slid, did a full 360 on the road, stopping when my back tire hit the curb. It was a slow slide and just remember thinking “Please don’t let my face get bruised.” Lol that that was my first thought.

Lastly my uncle who had cancer was supposed to walk my grandma down the aisle. He was too sick to come and I guess no one wanted to tell me. When there was all this discussion when we were lining up, I was asking what happened. My MIL said “oh they’re trying to figure out what to do since your uncle isn’t here.” Then bam music starts, time to go. I think she must have thought I already knew.

[expectantsteelerfan]

My mom STILL calls me a bride-zilla because she and my dad were still pretty newly divorced when I got married, and she wanted to look nice at the wedding and kinda show him what he was missing, so she put a LOT of thought and effort into finding a mother of the bride dress, but she was also struggling financially so it was tough for her. She found a dress she loved, but it was off-white/cream with gold accents. She sent the picture of it to me before buying to see what I thought. My first reaction was honestly, that with our relationship being as strained as it always was, her wearing off-white/cream to my wedding might send a different message to all the guests/my new in-laws than what she was meaning to. And so then I posted on a message board I was active on at the time (not the knot or here, but similar), and the consensus was OVERWHELMINGLY OMG don't let her wear that, everyone will think she's trying to upstage the bride!!!! so I told her that. And then my internet friends found the EXACT same dress in a shade of blue with gold tones and cheaper than she had found it! So I told her this and sent her a link to the dress. I told her I'd be ok with whatever she decided, but that I would feel more comfortable if she wore the blue dress. She did, but as I said, she still calls me a bride-zilla over this issue to this day, and this was something she threw in my face as recently as our most recent fight. I also think she was generally really hurt that I tried to avoid being around both her and my dad that day overall since it was the first 'big event' since they got divorced and I was just trying to navigate that by ignoring them and being around people who made me happy.

Other minor drama was that my hairstylist didn't realize that my appointment was only for an hour and thought it was for 2 hours, and she was supposed to do my MOH after, and ran late, so my MOH's hair was rushed and awful, then we missed her makeup appointment entirely and that threw off our schedule for the entire rest of the day a bit.

And dh's cousin got drunk and split his cheap thrift store pants (that he was bragging about being cheap thrift store pants) completely down the middle while dancing, and he wore his grandpa's 'extra' pants in case his colostomy bag spilled, so to this day we still joke that he wore grandpa's pee pants at our wedding.

The only other thing I remember standing out is that I insisted on doing outdoor pics, and it was 95 degrees in July, and I was dripping sweat and so gross by the time we were done and so overheated I couldn't drink alcohol or even enjoy the food at the reception and was mad at myself about that.

[mpm]

Funny planning story: my MIL got upset that we weren’t going to have children at our wedding. Not that children were specifically uninvited; there just weren’t any children in our family or friend groups since H and I were both the first in our generation to get married and our youngest cousins were all in HS. MIL had this fantasy of little kids dancing at a wedding and a flower girl/ring bearer being necessary so she kept trying to add people we didn’t even know and she barely knew to the guest list just because they had little kids.

[TR]

Jan 24, 2023 22:06:29 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Jan 24, 2023 22:04:01 GMT -5 TR said:

Lol there’s an entire thread on here giving a play-by-play of the drama of my wedding day/night

Please do refresh our memories!

Jan 24, 2023 22:06:40 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

Jan 24, 2023 22:04:01 GMT -5 TR said:

Lol there’s an entire thread on here giving a play-by-play of the drama of my wedding day/night

We will need the cliff notes in this thread.

Scene: Morning of my supposed to be easy stress free borderline elopement with just our immediate family, so 11 guests. My mom and dad are my guests, they’ve been divorced 30 years. Times are approximate:

7am - Mom texts me that she’s been throwing up and can’t make breakfast and probably won’t make the hair appointment I made for us. I am emetophobic and immediately start internally freaking out. Advise her to go to the local clinic for fluids and Zofran because I know she ALSO is terrified of throwing up so I’m also really upset FOR her.
11am - Hair had been paid for so I invite niece, L, who is officiating to come with me instead.
11:30am - Mom texts me while I’m at hair appointment asking who has the keys to the rental car because she got sick again and Dad is taking her to the clinic.
12pm - In my room putting my dress on, get niece to stay and do up the buttons in a side room so H doesn’t see. H was supposed to have left in the rental car for his parents by now to get ready. Instead someone is coming to pick him and niece up and FIL will come get me in a bit. Mom is telling me they might not let her leave the clinic and she might miss the ceremony. I’m standing in the room, all dressed and made up, trying not to cry.
12:30pm - Mom says she’s signing out AMA, Dad is coming to get her clothes. I talk the front desk into giving me her room key and frantically gather her stuff into a bag for Dad to pick up.
1pm - FIL pick me up and we drive the 45 minutes out to the church on snowy mountain roads. About the same time, Dad is driving Mom out there with almost zero idea where they’re going, they get lost, but ultimately make it.
3:30pm - Wedding!
4pm - Pictures and then Dad takes Mom back to the clinic bc they made her promise to come back for more tests. This is when I find out they suspect a heart attack due to an elevated enzyme in her blood work from the morning.
7pm? - Back in town and at dinner, Dad is updating me that they’re drawing one more round of blood and if it’s elevated again she’s being sent to the bigger city an hour away overnight. So H and I pack up, I change into jeans and we head over to the clinic just as the Dr comes out to say she’s being sent to the other city. I decide I’m not letting her go alone and stay at the clinic and H goes downtown to find my dad who left when we got there because he hadn’t eaten most of the day. Finds him in a bar and has drinks with him.
10pm? Mom and I take an ambulance ride through a blizzard and I spend my wedding night on a hospital room couch.
Next morning - she has a heart cath and everything is fine. H and dad come pick us up.

Fin.

[chedifuen]

Our officiant locked his keys in his car, all the way across town, and was over an hour late to the ceremony. I was pretty pissed but not much we could do about it. The venue opened up the bar while we waited so people had fun.

We had a smallish wedding, less than 100 people, my MIL was salty that we couldn't include everyone on her list. The initial list she sent over had 85 people on it! 17 years later she will still make jokes about how crazy she was during our wedding planning. She's a good egg, she just temporarily lost her mind.

[shauni27]

H's cousin was so drunk at his own wedding he had to be held up at the alter so he did not fall during the ceremony. They divorced within 2 years.

[shauni27]

TR!!!! That is awful.

[eddy]

No drama. It was a really fun wedding. So the only drama was drunk hijinks after we had left. Our friends tried to pool money to keep the DJ going lol. My parents were like....no. :-)


BUT my mom drove me absolutey batty through the whole process. The wedding was in my hometown and my parents were paying for a good share of it. So of course I was happy to collaborate. But my mom was just an anxious mess the whole fucking time and it took a ton of shine off. My advice to others who were in my same predicament (parents paying so involved in the planning) was to have a handler for the mom for the day of lol. There needed to be more space between me trying to enjoy the day and my mom, who had annointed herself hostest with the mostest.

My younger sister go a wedding planner and that was the perfect barrier needed between our loving but crazy mom and her the bride lol.

[W.T.Faulkner]

The after-party got aggressive -- broken glasses, loud arguments, etc -- but that was only one couple out of a lot of people, and it was after 1 am. I was proud of us for holding it together before then.

[ssmjlm]

My IL's were absolute assholes leading up to and at the wedding. I could go through it all, but despite almost 15 years of marriage, it makes me so upset and I will hold this grudge until they cremate my body after death.

The worst part was, I wish they would have just been honest instead of saying they were going to do things and then doing them poorly or making it into something it never had to be.

I was pretty embarrassed my MIL offered to host the RD, then complained about the guest list of OOT people, then switched to cash bar, then told me she was happy less people were in reality on the guest list (we didn't cut it, she was just an idiot) and how this way she was saving money. BTW she did not get us a wedding gift, but did give BIL and his now ex a $500 camera a month later for the first anniversary. AYFKM?

I should have taken the money and used it on a down payment for our house and done a very small simple wedding with my sorority sister officiating because she was registered in our state to do that.