❤️ I know how scary it is to get a call back (I had 13 procedures over the course of two years before I had a prophylactic mastectomy due to being high risk). Try hard not to stress. The vast majority of the time it’s benign.
Thanks - I've read the statistics and know that this is common, but as am I'm sure you understand, hard to keep my brain from going to worst case scenario here.
I absolutely get it. ❤️ Can they put you on a wait list for getting in sooner?
Bernadine, his surgery sounds like it's going to lead to big changes in your lives, and it's utterly reasonable for you to have fears and feelings about how those changes will play out. Is he doing any counseling around the surgery? I know that type of procedure/treatment sometimes includes it. If so, is there any support they can offer you?
And definitely don't be afraid to let him know how you're feeling, I'm sure he's focused on himself and recovery/adjustment, but this clearly affects both of you.
Post by NewGirlNic on Feb 10, 2023 10:33:25 GMT -5
It's been a rough week. Lots of crap at work (for both H and I... we've both had nights this week that have went past 5 which is very uncommon for us) and DS got his report card and failed science. We were shocked. He's typically a good student. He didn't turn in 3 assignments which is what caused him to fail. He just got a 96 on his midterm last week, so I know it isn't because he's struggling with the subject matter.
I have been craving an ice cold dirty vodka martini with blue cheese stuffed olives. I grabbed everything to make them last weekend, or so I thought (I bough the wrong olives and they were not pitted so I couldn't stuff them with blue cheese). Today I'm going to buy the correct olives and cannot wait to shake up a strong drink.
Thanks - I've read the statistics and know that this is common, but as am I'm sure you understand, hard to keep my brain from going to worst case scenario here.
I absolutely get it. ❤️ Can they put you on a wait list for getting in sooner?
I actually moved it from Wednesday (the morning of my 1 pm webinar) to Friday because it seemed like a very bad idea to try to do both in one day. At least preparing for the webinar is keeping me somewhat distracted.
I had a mammogram on Monday and was just notified that they need more imaging and have scheduled another mammogram and ultrasound for next Friday. So now I have to keep myself from panicking for a week, which is complicated by the fact that I am doing a national webinar on Wednesday that I'm already stressed about.
Oh hey, I am going the same day for a second round of imaging post-mammogram as well. And I also have a webinar on Thursday, lol. Here's hoping it all goes well and smoothly for both of us!
Bernadine, his surgery sounds like it's going to lead to big changes in your lives, and it's utterly reasonable for you to have fears and feelings about how those changes will play out. Is he doing any counseling around the surgery? I know that type of procedure/treatment sometimes includes it. If so, is there any support they can offer you?
And definitely don't be afraid to let him know how you're feeling, I'm sure he's focused on himself and recovery/adjustment, but this clearly affects both of you.
He did have some counseling, I’m not sure if it would extend to me, I’ll have to ask.
He is of course reassuring me, but I’m still scared.
It's been a rough week. Lots of crap at work (for both H and I... we've both had nights this week that have went past 5 which is very uncommon for us) and DS got his report card and failed science. We were shocked. He's typically a good student. He didn't turn in 3 assignments which is what caused him to fail. He just got a 96 on his midterm last week, so I know it isn't because he's struggling with the subject matter.
I have been craving an ice cold dirty vodka martini with blue cheese stuffed olives. I grabbed everything to make them last weekend, or so I thought (I bough the wrong olives and they were not pitted so I couldn't stuff them with blue cheese). Today I'm going to buy the correct olives and cannot wait to shake up a strong drink.
This is my favorite cocktail and I usually have one on Fridays after work We are going out tonight and I'm driving, so I won't get it today, but I am sure I'll have one sometime this weekend. I hope yours is delicious! Cheers!
Post by midwestmama on Feb 10, 2023 11:15:00 GMT -5
DD woke me up last night at 2:15 am because "things mysteriously turned off in her room." What happened was her CD player that is usually on repeat all night didn't get set to repeat, so it shut off after the entire CD played, and then somehow her clock got unplugged. So I got everything back on, but then couldn't fall asleep for 2 hours. I'm tired and woke up irritated because the whole weekend is going to be exhausting. DH's excuse for not helping was that he only had underwear on. I guess maybe I need to use that tactic in the future.
This morning I got to communicate to my one team member that he was rated as Exceptional performance, and it was wonderful to be able to do that. He was so appreciative. Because of our roles, we have access to the merit matrices, so he's probably already checked his merit increase and calculated his new salary, which is what I would totally do too, lol.
DD and her Odyssey of the Mind (OM) team will be participating in the regional competition. Thankfully we don't have to travel, as it's at a middle school in our school district. It's going to be a fun day, but will be exhausting as I'll be at that for most of the day (7:30-5), as I have to volunteer for 2 hours (starting at 7:30 am) in addition to being there to watch DD and team perform plus the awards ceremony at the end. I'm debating running home for a little while in the afternoon to tackle a few chores, since we're having friends over Sunday evening for the Super Bowl.
Sunday afternoon I'm taking DD to a local pinball/video game place to meet a few friends for a birthday outing. Hopefully I'll have all my chores done before that so I only have a few small things to do (like setting out plates, napkins, etc.) before our friends start arriving.
I did not consider that today is 2 days before the Superbowl when I scheduled my tires to be replaced at Costco this afternoon. Whoops.
It would never occur to me that Super Bowl would affect tire replacement (or is it the crazy Costco parking lot getting to the tires?)
At least at our Costco, it takes a while for them to actually replace the tires so the nice thing about it being at Costco (aside from price) is that you can shop while you're waiting, or get food to eat there while you wait. Not as much fun if it's a zoo!
Last time I was there for a tire replacement on a weekday night for over 2.5 hours, so godspeed. Our Costco is a mess all the time though.
I found out this morning that there are houses IN Disney World. Like, a whole neighborhood called Golden Oak and the two houses that are currently available are listed for $6MM and $9.5MM. Do we think most people live there year-round or are these more likely the vacation homes of wealthy Disney superfans?
The COO of my last company took his family (4 kids) to Disney at least twice a year. I can 100% see him owning something like this for their trips. So I’m going with wealthy super fans.
tacokick I went to Costco last Friday over lunch and was horrified at how crowded it was. I don't understand why it is constantly INSANE. We have a Costco membership because it's worth it with rental car discounts,but only go to the store occassionally. I hate crowds and have such a hard time dealing with the chaos there.
I find Costco so stressful! I was really dreading it today because I thought it would be busy because of the Super Bowl but it was eerily empty! I was so relieved. A little puzzled but relieved.
You can’t predict it. Last time I was there on a random Friday at the same time, near no holidays it was so crowded I just kept driving.
I’m at the airport headed home today. I feel like this trip gave me some good clarity about some things in my life that have been nagging at me and I hope I am able to remember this as I re-engage at work and at home.
I’ve missed my kids like crazy and I cannot wait to see them this afternoon!
I’m glad I did this though and think it could be a great thing to try to do annually just as a reset for myself.
If anyone goes to Sedona, don’t miss the Subway Cave off the Boynton Canyon trail. It was my favorite spot.
We’re going out to eat tonight which is great but I feel like all of our budget these days goes to food. I should actually do a break down but I fear it’s going to be worse than I even think it is.
Also, I got some travel bottles for shampoo/conditioner and I ordered the 3.4 oz ones. They are HUGE! So I had to order the next size down which is only an oz less so I probably should have ordered the smallest ones. It’s just so hard to figure out how much I’ll need. Sometimes we go to the pool more on vacation and I have to make sure my hair is washed of all the chlorine.
tacokick I went to Costco last Friday over lunch and was horrified at how crowded it was. I don't understand why it is constantly INSANE. We have a Costco membership because it's worth it with rental car discounts,but only go to the store occassionally. I hate crowds and have such a hard time dealing with the chaos there.
I find Costco so stressful! I was really dreading it today because I thought it would be busy because of the Super Bowl but it was eerily empty! I was so relieved. A little puzzled but relieved.
You can’t predict it. Last time I was there on a random Friday at the same time, near no holidays it was so crowded I just kept driving.
I also have a BJ's membership and find it so much less stressful and less crowded. But Costco has some amazing stuff that you can't get anywhere else.
I am so happy it's Friday!! And we have no weekend plans except a few small things here and there.
Me and H were supposed to go on date night tonight but I got filler in my lips this week and they look crazy. They are very bruised and swollen (don't take fish oil for two weeks before botox or filler, FYI!!) . I went to Pilates yesterday and to get lab work done and felt ridiculous but, oh well! Definitely not doing date night tonight, lol.
I find Costco so stressful! I was really dreading it today because I thought it would be busy because of the Super Bowl but it was eerily empty! I was so relieved. A little puzzled but relieved.
You can’t predict it. Last time I was there on a random Friday at the same time, near no holidays it was so crowded I just kept driving.
I also have a BJ's membership and find it so much less stressful and less crowded. But Costco has some amazing stuff that you can't get anywhere else.
I agree about BJs being much less stressful. I had a Costco membership for a year because they had a really good deal on a specific exercise bike that I couldnt get elsewhere. But I would get super panicky if I tried to go by myself. I abandoned my cart and left more than once. It was better if I had someone with me.
I don't know why Costco triggered that reaction when BJs never has. Costco is always much more crowded and chaotic in my experience, even in the middle of a weekday.
Costco is a hellscape. We live about 5 minutes away so we go a lot - at least once a week usually more. It’s ALWAYS horrible. Maybe less crowded from a numbers perspective now and then but still rage inducing. Trader Joe’s is the same way. A mini version of hell.
Why do people think they are morally superior for not owning a TV? I go through weeks where I don't turn the TV on, but I don't think that makes me a better person.
My sister was on a video call with my kids last night and going on and on about how she doesn't own a TV and doesn't let her (much younger) kid use screens except in dire situations and it just irked me.
I found out this morning that there are houses IN Disney World. Like, a whole neighborhood called Golden Oak and the two houses that are currently available are listed for $6MM and $9.5MM. Do we think most people live there year-round or are these more likely the vacation homes of wealthy Disney superfans?
So I follow Collins Tuohy Smith on IG and her parents own in there. They are huge Disney people. Anyway it seems like the owners get a lot of perks and they have specific community events.
On a heavier note, my MIL stopped by yesterday to tell us that she had spread my FIL's ashes. She says he was very clear about where he wanted his ashes and that there was to be absolutely no "fuss", no gathering, not doing it as a group, etc. MIL seemed happy that she did it (it will be 2 years next month) and not sad that she was alone for it. But I can honestly say that in her shoes I'm not sure that I would honor the request to not mark the occasion in any way. There was also no funeral, no obituary, no big public notice. It was very very hard on my H not to have a formal way to say goodbye. He didn't seem bothered by not being there for spreading the ashes, but I really think he would have handled everything better if there was some kind of closure or way to mark his father's passing.
I'm very sorry. We experienced similar feelings when my MIL passed and had also requested no funeral (no gathering at all due to covid). I'm sorry you went through it, too. I really did not understand how important following our cultural norms around grieving can be until we didn't follow them at all; it was just something I'd never really considered.
We have a costco and Sams membership. My work pays for my Costco so I've kept it but I mainly go to Sams because its closer to my house, no lines for gas, its never crazy busy and the Scan N Go app is elite! I wish Costco would get that...would make it much more tolerable to go there.