Something you wish was normalized…

[mysteriouswife]

Feb 24, 2023 18:41:37 GMT -5 Nonny said:

Women "having" to shave their legs. It's time consuming bullshit.

I shaved for the first time in weeks the other day. I forgot how energy goes into it

[sonrisa]

Feb 24, 2023 17:28:13 GMT -5 VillainV said:

Letting people exist ... without being shamed

I'm going to take your great comment and generalize it

[wanderingback]

Abortion

Naming genitals by their actual name instead of "down there"

[joy]

Feb 24, 2023 19:20:03 GMT -5 wanderingback said:

Abortion

Naming genitals by their actual name instead of "down there"

I taught my daughter “vulva.” She’s got some language issues so calls it her “oval.” I’m trying, wandering!

[keh2oblue]

The insane cost of college today.

My DD is still 4 years off, but in the little research I’ve done, the price of tuition is through the roof. Add to that students only get loans for like 10-20% of that and parents?!? are expected to pay the rest.

[mala]

Gender identity discussions, particularly as it relates to kids and their expressions of their own identities, but not limited as such.

[seeyalater52]

Liking your kids and not complaining about them constantly.

[minzy]

Talking and actually doing something about the climate crisis.

[cville]

In my industry, working a regular 40 hour week. Any hours beyond that are more about grind for the sake of grind and deliver only diminishing returns.

[emilyinchile]

Feb 24, 2023 19:23:30 GMT -5 joy said:

Feb 24, 2023 19:20:03 GMT -5 wanderingback said:

Abortion

Naming genitals by their actual name instead of "down there"

I taught my daughter “vulva.” She’s got some language issues so calls it her “oval.” I’m trying, wandering!

Haha L is only little, but he says something very similar so far! "Pene" (he uses the Spanish word) he's got down pat though 😂

[gardengal]

Not hugging. Even the people I know that are all “Consent! Consent!” expect me to hug to greet them or say goodbye. I really prefer not to touch people or be touched, let alone going thru this ritual many, many times entering or leaving a gathering. I always, ALWAYS dread & brace for impact.

I tried to advocate or avoid the hug & things got real awkward, real fast. I had hoped that Covid would bring an end to this but…nope.

[felicity]

Sleeping in separate beds from your partner. I feel embarrassed to tell people IRL but we both sleep so much better and good sleep is important!

[macmars45]

Same gardengal. I really only prefer to hug & be hugged by my H and DS.

Saving the planet
Abortion
Equal Right for everyone
Equity for all
Genuinely include people with disabilities because they are wanted & accepted exactly as they are

[sunnysally]

Being an introvert and what that means. I am not shy or afraid to speak up, but I need a lot of alone time. Why is this a problem for so many people?

Using all of your vacation and sick time. It is part of my compensation package and I shouldn't have to explain myself. My new company seems really great about this, but we shall see.

Women's health concerns and care, especially for women of color, being taken seriously, not legislated, and receiving the same funding for research.

[bdubs419]

Feb 24, 2023 20:09:28 GMT -5 felicity said:

Sleeping in separate beds from your partner. I feel embarrassed to tell people IRL but we both sleep so much better and good sleep is important!

Love this one! I swear we have a good marriage and it works for us. I wish we could sleep together but realistically it just doesn’t work. We still plan time together.

[mcmel]

Feb 24, 2023 19:56:57 GMT -5 gardengal said:

Not hugging. Even the people I know that are all “Consent! Consent!” expect me to hug to greet them or say goodbye. I really prefer not to touch people or be touched, let alone going thru this ritual many, many times entering or leaving a gathering. I always, ALWAYS dread & brace for impact.

I tried to advocate or avoid the hug & things got real awkward, real fast. I had hoped that Covid would bring an end to this but…nope.

As soon as I read the title I thought hugging, hand shaking, and blowing out candles on a birthday cake. We were so close with Covid!

[UMaineTeach]

Feb 24, 2023 17:31:27 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Doing things for enjoyment rather than mastery.

Yes, I like how you worded this.

Not everything in life needs a damn “growth mindset” sometimes, you can just do something without needing to get better. Not everything needs to require drive and determination.

[krystee]

Aging being okay! The term “anti-aging” kind of drives me nuts, but I feel like if I don’t get on the anti-aging train and do all the things, I’ll look ancient instead of normal.

[cville]

Not turning hobbies into a side hustle.

I just want to sew or whatever because it's fun. Go away.

[gardengal]

Feb 24, 2023 20:10:20 GMT -5 macmars45 said:

Same gardengal . I really only prefer to hug & be hugged by my H and DS.

Yes, I should have clarified that I don’t mind hugs from my SO & kids. But my kids also aren’t huggers AND I DEAL WITH IT! So I know it CAN be done, lol.

”No hug for me?” <= worst

[lucybrown]

Feb 24, 2023 18:41:37 GMT -5 Nonny said:

Women "having" to shave their legs. It's time consuming bullshit.

ETA: to be clear, I want to normalize NOT doing this. My phrasing didn't match the original question.

Normalize body hair in general. Shave, don’t shave. Do whatever you want to do. But bodies have hair. It shouldn’t be abnormal for women to have hairy armpits.

Edited to add: hairy upper lips, chins, legs, pubic hair, and as mentioned above, unibrows. Women are held to impossible standards.

[fivechickens]

Feb 24, 2023 20:09:28 GMT -5 felicity said:

Sleeping in separate beds from your partner. I feel embarrassed to tell people IRL but we both sleep so much better and good sleep is important!

Yes!! My husband snores so badly. I sleep so much better when we are in separate rooms. During the week I sleep in DD1 & DD2 bed (3 twin beds) and in my room with H during the weekend but always end of up in their room.

[DotAndBuzz]

Being allowed to feel crappy about a crappy day/occurrence/situation without feeling like something is “wrong” with you.
The wellness industry has blurred the line on healthy, normal emotions and managing mental health for its own profit, and it pisses me off.

[moreace01]

The four day work week.

[Jalapeñomel]

Community college and public state schools. There should be no shame to going to either one (or both).

Kids getting grades that reflect what they know. Not every kid should get an A, and not getting an A doesn’t mean your kid is stupid or less than.

[macmars45]

Feb 24, 2023 20:17:01 GMT -5 UMaineTeach said:

Feb 24, 2023 17:31:27 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Doing things for enjoyment rather than mastery.

Yes, I like how you worded this.

Not everything in life needs a damn “growth mindset” sometimes, you can just do something without needing to get better. Not everything needs to require drive and determination.

My H only once mentioned to me that I shouldn't read YA. I shut that down so quickly because there is 0 shame in reading 'below your reading level' and/or just for fun! Not everything has to be about learning!

[mysteriouswife]

Feb 24, 2023 20:24:48 GMT -5 cville said:

Not turning hobbies into a side hustle.

I just want to sew or whatever because it's fun. Go away.

Another one I agree with! I want to make cookies and cakes because it brings me joy. I plan parties that I want. Stop trying to pay me to plan your party and make your dessert!

[cleo29]

Feb 24, 2023 19:23:30 GMT -5 joy said:

Feb 24, 2023 19:20:03 GMT -5 wanderingback said:

Abortion

Naming genitals by their actual name instead of "down there"

I taught my daughter “vulva.” She’s got some language issues so calls it her “oval.” I’m trying, wandering!

When C was 3 or 4 she had a rash on her vulva so I took her to the pediatrician.  When the doctor started the exam C said, "That's my vulva".  The doctor was pretty impressed. My younger one would just call it her "butt" which made for some confusing conversations. lol 

So yes to proper names and honest conversations about health, sex and how our bodies work. 

[cleo29]

A person deciding when to end their life. Honestly, whether it be due to a terminal illness or mental health, I think a person knows when they are done. Not everyone needs or wants to be saved.

[goldengirlz]

Men who show “soft” emotions like crying.

Men who are the primary parent. You want to invite my DC to your kid’s birthday party? There’s a field trip coming up that needs a signed permission slip? You’re better off sending that info straight to my H because I’m just going to forward it to him anyway. He’s the one that handles all that stuff.

(There was actually a mom in DC’s class who sent everyone a “reminder” to include both parents on all birthday party invites. I appreciated that!)