Post by cherry1111 on Feb 25, 2023 21:15:37 GMT -5
If we had a guest room I’d probably use it. But I have figured out a combo of ear plugs and ear buds that allows me to sleep through his snoring most nights. It took years to get it figured out though.
When we started dating his snoring was outrageous! He ended up having his tonsils, uvula, and part of his soft palette removed, this was a two day hospital stay. He had the worst sleep apnea, he’s had so many sleep studies, and now his cpap is recalled! 😩
He still has horrible apnea, it’s worse when he first falls asleep and gets better as the night goes on. This makes me falling into a quick and deep sleep very important lol.
Last Edit: Feb 25, 2023 23:30:21 GMT -5 by mofongo
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
Yes, we sleep in the same bed. We have a firm tempur pedic king sized bed so we have plenty of space and the mattress doesn’t move if someone is restless or gets up. I’m very particular about my sleep so if for some reason sleeping together caused it to be disrupted I’d have no problem with one of us sleeping in the guest room.
We have an adjustable bed with 2 halves, so they’re next to each other but separate. I usually sleep flat and he sleeps with his head and feet up. But several times per week I move to another bed because I can’t sleep and want to read or watch tv.
Post by prettypitties on Feb 25, 2023 21:52:13 GMT -5
We sleep together in a queen with a dog, and like it that way. Both of us snore, although he's worse than I am. Maybe a couple of nights in our almost 3 years together he's slept on the couch due to illness.
Post by fivechickens on Feb 25, 2023 22:10:10 GMT -5
I sleep in D1 & D2 room because they have an extra bed in there (all three use to share a room until D3 moved into her own room) during the week. On the weekend I start off in my bed with H but always end up back in my kid’s room because he snores.
Post by notsopicky on Feb 25, 2023 22:33:48 GMT -5
We did for 20+ years. We just recently got a new bed for one of our guest rooms in case my mom has to come live here with us (that's within the realm of possibilities). In January I got COVID and then 3 weeks later I got RSV, so I've been sick for like a month and a half straight. I've been sleeping in there...and I don't know that I want to move back to the primary. It's only a full, but I love the sheets and the blankets I picked out and I reeeeally love that my sleep is undisturbed. For work I go to sleep pretty early and I get up stupid early, and this guest room is where I get ready for work in the morning (my bathroom is the hall bath, I don't use the primary bath--that's H's). We will sleep separate when we're sick, but this is the longest we've gone sleeping separate. I usually dread the time that H comes up to get ready to go to sleep--he wants to take a shower when I'm trying to fall asleep (which I can't do if he's clanging and banging around in the bathroom--we fought about it for 10 years, no joke), he's just really loud (dropping shoes, opening/closing doors & drawers) and I just need peace and quiet and alone-ness when I am winding myself down to go to sleep.
He did ask me about it tonight at dinner. I said, "I wondered how long it would be before you asked me if I'm going to stay in there forever." I don't know that I want to sleep in the primary ever again. That feels weird to say, but I like sleeping by myself.
We’ve always had separate blankets/bedding, but have only been sleeping apart since I got Covid in May. I started sleeping in the guest room because I was sick, and then DS started sleeping in the bed. It’s kinda cute because they have these conversations and plan trips and talk about history. (DH listens to books to fall asleep and they’re often about historical topics) I’ve been content in the guest room, so it’s just been our thing. Eventually I’ll go back to the bed, I think?
Nope. It happens very rarely. At this point, he really only sleeps in bed with me if we are on vacation. I can’t remember the last time he slept in bed with me at home. He sleeps on the living room couch.
He feels like he tosses and turns too much and is disruptive. And I did tell him that he can’t come to bed after 2am because it wakes me up and I have a hard time going back to sleep.
I find it weird that he’s fine sleeping on the couch every night, but it otherwise doesn’t bother me anymore and I’m pretty open about the fact that we rarely sleep in the same bed.
One of us sleeps in the guest room at least once a week. Usually DH due to staying up way later than me to work and then not wanting to move the dog out of his spot lol. Whenever one of us is sick or really needs a good night’s sleep we go to the guest room. Between the two of us being on different sleep schedules, him snoring, sharing a bed with a 70 pound dog, and me having weird peri menopausal night wakings we will do a lot for a good nights sleep these days.
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
Other. We have a small house with a sleeper sofa in the extra bedroom so no way to sleep separately. We got a King Sized bed because me being woken up constantly was ridiculous. We have a vacation house with a guest bedroom and we sleep separately there.
Nope. It started when I was pregnant with twins, and I just never went back after they were sleep trained.
He has terrible sleep apnea (much improved with his cpap), and he is a night owl and I am a morning person. I am too light of a sleeper to deal with him coming in late, the dog moving around, and then getting up early.
So now the dog and I share a queen in the guest room (and if I had my way, I wouldn’t even have the dog in there lol).
My mom used to move in the middle of the night nearly every night. I prefer this method where my sleep isn’t disturbed 🤷🏻♀️
I am shocked at how many people I meet who are the same way.
Post by abbeylayne on Feb 25, 2023 23:58:36 GMT -5
Nope. Nearly the same situation as isabel. My H has insomnia and chronic back pain so it is for both our best interests to sleep separately. It started gradually about 8 years ago as some nights he'd move to the couch because he couldn't sleep. It bothered me at the beginning but now I DGAF and have embraced it. I like my king bed to myself and our marriage is solid. If we want to be intimate, we just go visit each other lol 🤷♀️
We only have a queen and our 7 yo comes in during the night. Apparently I also snore lol.
Some nights I feel like we play musical beds and move around multiple times, and other nights one of us falls asleep on the couch.
Ideally we would have a king bed and both sleep in it but we can't fit one in our room. I really don't mind being separated because we sleep better apart and are totally different about how we like to sleep.
I hate being touched when sleeping so we got 2 beds. I wish we had an extra bedroom because DH does snore frequently but at least we are about 6 feet apart.
Mostly yes. I like to spread out and honestly sleep better alone but we have no 3rd bedroom. If I'm sick or he's sick, he sleeps on the couch. We have a queen size bed and I've basically trained him to sleep on the edge of it lol. Feel sorry for my H!
Our couch isn't long enough for any of us to sleep on (maybe the 9 year old) and we don't have a guest room /spare bed so even if we wanted to, we don't have options. lol.
Post by trytobearunner34 on Feb 26, 2023 6:05:58 GMT -5
We share a bed but he will fall asleep watching tv and it’s a crapshoot whether he will then come up to sleep in bed or stay on the couch until morning.
Post by mrsukyankee on Feb 26, 2023 7:15:14 GMT -5
Yes, we do sleep in the same bed. It's a King so we don't have to touch each other while sleeping (can't sleep while in contact with anything other than sheets). Dog sleeps with us too, which we're trying to change (because he tries to cuddle us at 4am and it's not cute at 4am). We will sleep apart if one of us is coughing a lot or ill.
No, we each have our own bed but sleep in the same room. Although for the past year DH has been sleeping in our basement guest room since DD was born. She’s a terrible sleeper and still up multiple times a night, so he’s staying in there for now.
I don’t really like people seeing our room and which is the only big downside of it. When we have out of town family come in, for some reason people want a house tour or feel like our home is for browsing, so it’s awkward to be like, uh no I don’t want to show you around upstairs.