No, only because of his snoring. I'm trying to get him to do a sleep study but he's not interested. Also, up til covid he got up about 2 hours before me and started work when I was just getting up. Now he WFH - still at 7am, but regardless he doesn't wake me when he gets up and showers in the other bathroom. We all sleep better and are happier this way.
Post by purplepenguin7 on Feb 26, 2023 15:43:42 GMT -5
Also no over here due to snoring. My husband is terrible and I’m 100% sure he has sleep apnea but refuses to get tested. We went though a few years of starting in the same bed and then one of us moving to the couch when we got desperate but finally moved to just him straight sleeping on the couch.
I will say that unfortunately it basically killed our sex life. Sometimes I regret it and wish we could sleep next to each other but it’s not even possible for me.
DH travels some for work and when he does I put pillows next to me so it feels like he’s there.
Lol I do this same thing.
We sleep together because we like to, but also, neither of us would want to give up the king tempurpedic. Lol. My H does snore but only on his back, if I poke him he rolls over and stays on his side for the most part. I have to poke him to roll over maybe 1-2 times a night.
Post by wanderingback on Feb 26, 2023 17:03:48 GMT -5
Yes, I like sleeping in the same bed. In the mornings when I don’t have to get up for work we do a lot of talking and cuddling in bed off and on and sometimes fall back asleep. Now we bring the baby in our bed sometimes in the morning to join the bonding!
I did make him get a sleep study when we first started dating and he has sleep apnea and now wears a cpap. I told him it was pretty much a deal breaker for me if he didn’t take care of his health and the long term problems that untreated sleep apnea can cause. Thankfully he took me seriously.
Sleep is so important so people need to do what’s best for them with no guilt or judgement!
Post by Doggy Mommy on Feb 26, 2023 19:17:17 GMT -5
Mostly, but sometimes dh ends up in the spare room. If either of us is sick, he sleeps in there. Sometimes he can't sleep and will go in there so he doesn't wake me up.
Post by midwestmama on Feb 26, 2023 20:22:08 GMT -5
We sleep in the same bed, a queen size. We prefer the queen size over a king size, actually. I am usually cold at night, and DH runs hot, so he keeps me warm. And when DH is gone, our 100 lbs. German Shepherd sleeps on DH's side of the bed and keeps me warms. Only when one of us or the kids are sick will we sleep elsewhere (if we're all at home).
We do. We are also in a queen. I wouldn’t mind a king, but our bedroom is in the third floor attic space and the sloping of the ceiling makes a king not possible. We also sleep with our 30 lb dog. My husband does snore, which is sometimes annoying, but I don’t sleep well when he’s gone for work or on a guys trip.
Post by Leeham Rimes on Feb 26, 2023 21:15:38 GMT -5
Usually yes unless H falls asleep on the couch. We have a king size bed so we both have our space. I wouldn’t mind having an extra bedroom though just for those times when you need some time on your own. But we’ve never lived in a house with that much room.
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I had no idea sleep apnea was so common! I am really going to push H to go get tested.
Super common! i work for ENT doctors and it’s one of the top things they treat. The snoring is just the tip of the iceberg of the diagnosis. An untreated person with apnea is subject to so many other health issues. Knowing this made it especially hard for me when my H was just ignoring the diagnosis.
I really don’t sleep well. DH snores and twitches violently and tosses and turns, and I wake up every single time he moves. So after a while I couldn’t fall asleep at all, because I’d just be waiting for the twitching to start.
So now I sleep in my office in a queen bed and DH sleeps on the giant king bed in our room. It takes me hours to fall asleep every night and I often wake up for hours in the middle of the night. Now we don’t have to worry about waking up the other one.
Even when we didn't have a separate bedroom, one of us slept on a bed in the unfinished basement. The desire was that strong. I'd do it again in a heartbeat if we had to give up the extra bedroom for some reason.
I have no extra room of any kind. I'd sleep on an Aerobed in the living room but my people think that would be weird. I'm stuck. 😭 🤷♀️
my hope of space for myself would be to swap our bed for bunk beds. Sometimes it’s been tempting.
So, DH decided to come upstairs last night. I pretty much always wake up when he comes in, but didn’t last night, so I was very confused when I woke up to pee at 3am and could sense someone in the room with me. Lol
Here I go tell you guys we don’t sleep together and then he shows up.
I dislike feeling like I need to be extra quiet when I wake up in the middle of the night or turning off my alarms quickly when it’s time to get up.
I'm violently envious of those who have separate bedrooms.
This is the ideal scenario. I love the idea of us each having our own room and decorating how I want. Only 10 years until the oldest graduates and we can give his room to dad! 🤣
We do not sleep together and haven’t for about three years or more. He sleeps on a pull out sofa bed in our living room because of his sleep apnea. He’s getting a new Cpap machine soon, but I really don’t think he’ll move back to our bed. I sleep on a king all to myself and like it that way.
The looks I get when I say that make me feel awful. Like it’s shameful or something. Then I get into over-explaining. Ugh.
Same. Except I'm in our guest room/my office. I've tried a few times plus when we travel, and my quality of sleep is absolutely terrible. I hate that I'm embarrassed by it. It doesn't help that DH makes me feel like crap for it either.
H works out of town so I chose 'other'. We do when he's home but Monday through Friday, at least 9 months out of the year, he's in a hotel. So yes, but no. I sleep better when he is gone because I don't like to be cold and he does.
Post by fluffycookie on Feb 27, 2023 13:27:53 GMT -5
We do now, but before when MH was dragging his feet about getting tested for sleep apnea he would sleep in the guest room because I am a light sleeper and his snoring was awful. Now that he is diagnosed (about a year and a half since diagnosis) and has his cpap he is back in the room and I like it. He actually slept in the guest room on Thursday night and it was odd not having him in the bedroom.
Post by somersault72 on Feb 27, 2023 14:06:51 GMT -5
I said other because my husband will sometimes go sleep on the couch if his back is bothering him or if our 4 year old climbs in our bed and takes up valuable real estate as she is known to do.
Post by doggielover on Feb 27, 2023 16:26:35 GMT -5
I'm also other. DH snores and I have sleep apenea. We tend to start out in the same bed but it's usually me who gets up to go in the other room. I also have insomonia so there's days when I don't get to bed until 4am when DH has been asleep for hours by that time.
Post by basilosaurus on Mar 2, 2023 10:07:21 GMT -5
I really dislike sharing generally. I don't like to be touched plus it's too damn hot. And the snores kill me. I'm fully anticipating one day being accused of violence at the 50 the move/roll over push and shove.
I'm grateful the cats only get on the king bed when there's only one human.
I upgraded to a king shortly after getting married. The big dog had slept with me from the beginning, many years before there was a partner. She still wanted to be touching me so I functionally had less than a twin.
We do sleep in the same bed, but use different blankets. That was a good compromise for us. We both have had sleeping issues in the past, and he has a cpap as well. A king bed is a must, as well.
I voted other because our 7 year old insists that H lay down in bed with him as he's falling asleep and 85% of the time H will fall asleep and then not come out until closer to midnight.
Prior to DS2 being born, I used to put our oldest to bed, I was just better at not falling asleep so I could get out of there and have time to myself.