I successfully pulled off H's 40th birthday! (I posted about planning it a few weeks ago). It was a really nice time. I'd say there were probably 50ish people there at the brewery. My friends and my parents really pulled together to help me with food and setup, and it looked really nice. We had some dips and a charcuterie board and some other munchies. I did use a drink ticket system and probably spent about $350 on beer (way more once I tipped though), which wasn't horrible. Plenty of people wanted to continue the party and bought more, though. My H's parents took DS for the night then and we continued the party on the patio of a restaurant with a few friends and had dinner and listened to live music. Such a great night! H and I are going to go to brunch here now since we're kid-free and then back to his hometown for our nephew's 4th birthday party where we'll pick up DS then.
I have a recurring nightmare that I'm stuck looking for a usable toilet in a bathroom maze. A never-ending pathway of no doors, overflowing toilets, and filth. As soon as I think I've found one that's partly okay to use, a huge group of people come in which means I have to keep looking.
I have never managed to find my way out of the maze 😵💫
I have a version of this dream, too! I really thought I was the only one who ever had these weird bathroom dreams, haha. It’s so disconcerting!
I think what bothers me the most about it (enough to call it a nightmare) is that I can't wake myself up. I tell myself, "Oh it's this dream again. You should wake up and go to the bathroom." But my brain is like, "we're already in a bathroom!! Must find clean toilet!@!"
I feel like I have spent decades looking for dream toilets that are clean 😂
We have severe weather coming in tonight and I’m still in such a bad place from the hail storm and the tornado we had in May and June.
Please just leave us alone.
I’m sorry. It’s very difficult to move past bad storm trauma. Something we do now is have a basket with shoes, snacks, water, and lights. We grab it hours before the storm and place it by our sheltering area. It helps ease the anxiety for us. Could this help? I wish I had more to offer to help. Just know you aren’t the only one who hates storms now.
We have severe weather coming in tonight and I’m still in such a bad place from the hail storm and the tornado we had in May and June.
Please just leave us alone.
I’m sorry. It’s very difficult to move past bad storm trauma. Something we do now is have a basket with shoes, snacks, water, and lights. We grab it hours before the storm and place it by our sheltering area. It helps ease the anxiety for us. Could this help? I wish I had more to offer to help. Just know you aren’t the only one who hates storms now.
We have all of the emergency preparedness stuff. We’ve always lived in tornado alley, so it’s just what we do. It’s more just being anxious about the damage. Might have to invest in a dome 🤣
I have a recurring nightmare that I'm stuck looking for a usable toilet in a bathroom maze. A never-ending pathway of no doors, overflowing toilets, and filth. As soon as I think I've found one that's partly okay to use, a huge group of people come in which means I have to keep looking.
I have never managed to find my way out of the maze 😵💫
I have a version of this dream, too! I really thought I was the only one who ever had these weird bathroom dreams, haha. It’s so disconcerting!
Yes, this sort of dream is not out of the blue for me. I've been having some version of this dream for as long as I can remember.
This is my first normal weekend in several, due to vacation & then my grandfather passing/going home for a few days to be with family. It is a relief to be back in my usual routine.
DH was itching to set up our outdoor movie screen, so we did that last night and invited some neighbors over to watch Guardians Vol. 3. We are having a bigger party next week where we'll do the same thing -- swimming & outdoor movie, and I'm going to put together an awesome s'mores bar. I ordered a bunch of homemade flavored marshmallows off of Etsy.
I am not ready for school to start (not because of my kids, because of PTO stuff). SIGH. BLERG.
DD is so nervous about middle school and is just driving the entire family insane. It's manifesting through school supply anxiety and I spent way too much to make her feel secure yesterday at Target.
It's a good thing that she's going to my parents for 11 days before orientation. Hopefully it will get get mind off of things and let her enjoy the dregs of summer. We'll have her home for four days before the school year starts so I'll have to think of a few things to keep her occupied over that weekend.
I have a recurring nightmare that I'm stuck looking for a usable toilet in a bathroom maze. A never-ending pathway of no doors, overflowing toilets, and filth. As soon as I think I've found one that's partly okay to use, a huge group of people come in which means I have to keep looking.
I have never managed to find my way out of the maze 😵💫
I have a version of this dream, too! I really thought I was the only one who ever had these weird bathroom dreams, haha. It’s so disconcerting!
I get variations on bathroom dream, it’s always trying to get to a bathroom and something blocks the way. And eventually, I wake up and I have to pee, like painful bladder pee need. It just took a bathroom nightmare to wake me up to it. It hasn’t happened in awhile
I have a version of this dream, too! I really thought I was the only one who ever had these weird bathroom dreams, haha. It’s so disconcerting!
I get variations on bathroom dream, it’s always trying to get to a bathroom and something blocks the way. And eventually, I wake up and I have to pee, like painful bladder pee need. It just took a bathroom nightmare to wake me up to it. It hasn’t happened in awhile
may it never happen again 🤞 These are the worst dreams for me 😅
I’m sorry. It’s very difficult to move past bad storm trauma. Something we do now is have a basket with shoes, snacks, water, and lights. We grab it hours before the storm and place it by our sheltering area. It helps ease the anxiety for us. Could this help? I wish I had more to offer to help. Just know you aren’t the only one who hates storms now.
We have all of the emergency preparedness stuff. We’ve always lived in tornado alley, so it’s just what we do. It’s more just being anxious about the damage. Might have to invest in a dome 🤣
We are talking about a bunker! I never thought I would be someone who would even entertain a bunker.
I get variations on bathroom dream, it’s always trying to get to a bathroom and something blocks the way. And eventually, I wake up and I have to pee, like painful bladder pee need. It just took a bathroom nightmare to wake me up to it. It hasn’t happened in awhile
may it never happen again 🤞 These are the worst dreams for me 😅
Well, there was the one time I couldn’t make it because a (very minor) celebrity crush kept being there. Like, I was trying to get across the bar and he was at every table and would stop me to talk. And then I was like “do I want to talk to him more or pee?” 😂
This is my first normal weekend in several, due to vacation & then my grandfather passing/going home for a few days to be with family. It is a relief to be back in my usual routine.
DH was itching to set up our outdoor movie screen, so we did that last night and invited some neighbors over to watch Guardians Vol. 3. We are having a bigger party next week where we'll do the same thing -- swimming & outdoor movie, and I'm going to put together an awesome s'mores bar. I ordered a bunch of homemade flavored marshmallows off of Etsy.
I am not ready for school to start (not because of my kids, because of PTO stuff). SIGH. BLERG.
I'll be interested to hear how this goes. I've mad marshmallows before and they didn't hold up well for smores. IIRC they melted more than toasted. Maybe there's a trick to making the more resilient while still being delicious.
We got back yesterday afternoon from a week at Yellowstone, and I'm having a lot of feelings about the two lunches we had with MIL (whose town is directly between ours and the park) on our way there and back. For context, we haven't seen her since we made a similar trip two years ago. That time H drove separately due to work, and she said some incredibly hurtful things about me to him--along the lines of I'm obviously a CRT-pushing groomer because I'm a school librarian. I decided to give her a chance to be a better person this time, and she completely failed to rise even the smallest bit to the occasion.
Over the course of two lunches she all but ignored both kids and just talked to H even though we were all sitting at big tables. Not a single question about what they've been doing this summer, or what classes they liked in school last year, or what hobbies they currently have. It was almost like they weren't there at all.
The thing that's making me actively angry though is that Kid 1 came out as nonbinary over a year ago now, and this was the first time she was seeing them since. She consistently misgendered them--even after H forcefully corrected her--along with their cousin who is also nonbinary. Kid 1's 16th birthday is this week, and at one point she asked them what they wanted as a gift. They were uncomfortable (understandably) and sort of shrugged. To be fair, they've done the same to us and to anyone else who's asked; they're not really a material kid. They got up to use the restroom shortly afterwards, and she announced to me and H that she's not getting them a gift at all because they wouldn't tell her a specific thing they wanted. This, from a woman who's sent nothing but cash for every Christmas and birthday for virtually their entire life. We left pretty quickly after that.
We talked about what happened in the car afterwards, and Kid 1 is okay. They've never been close to MIL and mostly brushed off her comments as Boomer ignorance.
I told H last night that I'm done making either of our kids see her after this. We gave her two opportunities to be a decent human being to them, and she was disrespectful both times. We only live three hours from her, but she's made zero effort to see or visit us since we moved here three years ago. It's her loss if she never gets to see them from here on out. I think H is a little torn because all of his parents are pieces of shit and she's the last one he has something of a relationship with, but he agreed that we need to let the kids decide if they want to see her from now on because of the way she acted. For my own part, I'm fully out.
On my way to the gas station this AM I witnessed a bit of road rage between two cars and a street parking spot. There were middle fingers flipped at each other and lots of honking.
The best part - they were parking to go into church.
Post by starburst604 on Aug 6, 2023 11:25:50 GMT -5
We are driving up to our week in NH now and H is in rare form. He’s hangry but in denial about it and losing his mind over the traffic. To add to that, the family we are renting the house with arrived yesterday and stayed in a hotel last night so the H could golf this morning with friends . But then their kids were being lunatics, his wife was freaking out about him leaving to golf (for like the 6th time this week) so he didn’t go. Now they’re all pissed at each other and the kids are being PITAS. So H is like is this going to be a shit show of a vacation? The weather is also looking less than ideal. I’m hoping that once we arrive, having DD there to play with will help the kids to chill.
We had hopes that now that their DS is about to turn 5 and starting K, he would be less….feral than he’s been in years past but it’s not sounding hopeful.
Post by mysteriouswife on Aug 6, 2023 11:37:10 GMT -5
My great aunt and her husband are still very active in our lives. My son adores Uncle L. They have a silly bond over hot wheels and trains. L started building a train depot above their garage. For the last few weeks we keep getting shipments for DS. It’s all the cars and pieces for the neighborhoods that L cannot use. I don’t have the heart to tell either one to stop. DS lights up with each new treasure and L gets excited whenDS calls. But holy shit how many cars does one kid need?
I get some meals from a local service. I'm very annoyed that the "eggplant moussaka" I heated up for lunch is vegan. Some vegan food is great! But I was expecting a lovely bechamel sauce and I have some sort of cashew glop instead. Apparently I need to start reading the ingredients before ordering.
ETA: cashew glop tasted wya better than it looked. Still would have liked to know ahead of time I was ordering vegan and not vegetarian.
Highlights from dinner with my MIL, her husband, BIL and his girlfriend last night:
- saying my kid is spoiled like me - saying I didn’t need to save for retirement because I’ll inherit my parents money -my MIL asking our plans for FIL’s 80th birthday
I honestly wondered if MIL secretly was drinking something in her tea. I have never heard such comments out loud before.
I shut it down as best as I could, but I calmly told DH it was not appropriate at all and he agreed. He didn’t hear the parent $ comment because he was at the other end of the table showing BIL something on his phone.
I have come to the conclusion that shopping for professional, court appropriate slacks is doing more to crush my body acceptance than anything. I’m on my third store and crushed. I wish I could just throw on the stuff I normally wear for work. Which is professional for my environment (and engineering lab). I’m at macys. Which usually comes through for me. But I feel like a slug.
Post by gretchenindisguise on Aug 6, 2023 12:14:14 GMT -5
Usually I'm really ready for school to restart, but this year the summer felt really short. We didn't even really go anywhere. The kids go back in just over a week. Craziness.
Usually I'm really ready for school to restart, but this year the summer felt really short. We didn't even really go anywhere. The kids go back in just over a week. Craziness.
Same! We did zero back to school prep until the Sunday before. It completely came out of no where
I know we talk about this every year but it still blows my mind how early others go back to school compared to MN. It is a state law here that school cannot start until the day after labor day, unless it is an underperforming district, then they can begin one week earlier.
On my way to the gas station this AM I witnessed a bit of road rage between two cars and a street parking spot. There were middle fingers flipped at each other and lots of honking.
The best part - they were parking to go into church.
If I got to the grocery store on a Sunday morning I have to time it just right to miss church traffic.
There is no one a worse driver than the person who thought they could make the 930am service and is running late.