TR, my H went to college in Brighton and we visited a few years ago when we were in England. It was such a cute, fun town! We had bad weather but I still really enjoyed my visit and would love to go back. Obviously be sure to visit the boardwalk and then just walking around town is also really cute.
lust2hart I prefer chairs without arms, so I vote that you get at least a couple.
My daughter and I busted our butts this weekend to clean out the garage and start setting up the home gym out there. My Peloton was in the basement and worked fine, but some how when moving it, the power wires for the monitor stopped working. I ordered the part and it's supposed to be a "member friendly" repair, which is fine, but I already miss riding my bike
I know this isn’t the point, but how did you move the Peloton? We want to move ours but it’s so heavy, I wasn’t sure how to do it…
(((bsp36))), I’m sorry your MIL is being a pain. I don’t know if it’s helpful, but I couldn’t take the anti-nausea meds during chemo, relying on just what they gave with the infusion. They basically backed me up so bad I almost went to the ER, but managed to solve the problem (TMI warning) with an enema and glove. As an oversharer, I own that, but I can see why someone would not want to talk about why they didn’t like it. Chemo, IME, is basically an exercise in GI system maintenance.
(((bsp36))), I’m sorry your MIL is being a pain. I don’t know if it’s helpful, but I couldn’t take the anti-nausea meds during chemo, relying on just what they gave with the infusion. They basically backed me up so bad I almost went to the ER, but managed to solve the problem (TMI warning) with an enema and glove. As an oversharer, I own that, but I can see why someone would not want to talk about why they didn’t like it. Chemo, IME, is basically an exercise in GI system maintenance.
Thank you for that viewpoint! I truly appreciate it. I know that was a minor issue the first round so maybe she is just scared. And I get that. I think I am also just super defensive for H, he is truly trying his best to help her and wants what is best.
tennisgal they sell cuticle oil in the nail section of most stores. I would try that.
I don't know if we are the AH but my SIL is organizing a cemetary ceremony, with a priest, for her 12-week old miscarriage. I heard they will be spreading some ashes? Anyway, we have swimming lessons for our kids during that time and we decided our kids and us will go to swimming lessons. I understand their pain but I don't think we need to be there.
I had a 17 week loss and chose to have a burial and planted a tree, we included a little family and had a pastor there. Coming from my obviously biased perspective, I am going to say you are the AH here. You say you understand their pain, but you seem dismissive of it and it sounds like you think they should hide their pain and not share it with their family and have their family with them to support them during this difficult time. One of the hardest things for me was that people wanted me to move on when they were ready, not when I was ready, and they forgot while I never did.
lust2hart I prefer chairs without arms, so I vote that you get at least a couple.
My daughter and I busted our butts this weekend to clean out the garage and start setting up the home gym out there. My Peloton was in the basement and worked fine, but some how when moving it, the power wires for the monitor stopped working. I ordered the part and it's supposed to be a "member friendly" repair, which is fine, but I already miss riding my bike
I know this isn’t the point, but how did you move the Peloton? We want to move ours but it’s so heavy, I wasn’t sure how to do it…
does the base not have wheels on it? We just moved one for my friend from storage, so two of us carried it from the storage unit in their yard down into the basement, but then we could put it down and wheel it.
I know it's technically April still but it definitely feels like we've already entered the busy month of May season for sure. We have baseball 5 days this week, plus I have some other appointments, plus homework and teacher appreciation week activities, it's not going to be relaxing whatsoever lol. At least this year, my H is not a high school principal anymore so he doesn't have as many of the mandatory "end of school year" activities to attend and can help me out more with stuff.
I'm struggling with some anxiety this morning. DS has been a little challenging as of late. I almost made my own post about it for people's thoughts but then I held off. He's always been kind of extra but now I am starting to wonder if something else is at play, like ADHD or some other neurodivergence, or maybe he's just a typical 7.5 year old boy that needs more coping strategies and I'm not parenting him well (I know I get frustrated and yell too much, etc). I don't know. His peer relationships seem OK overall but he seems to be struggling with keeping his hands to himself (more so than other kids), and he is so bothered by other kids behavior and what they are doing, and cannot take a joke at all. Someone is always aggrieving him in some way and he can't seem to let things roll off his back. He also gets more angry than situations call for (but calms down very quickly, like he's not having tantrums or anything). But then sometimes he's incredibly sweet and awesome, so I don't know if he's like this because he is tired or hungry or its late in the school year and he's just done, or if really something more is going on. I just feel like there are so many things that we have to tell him not to do, that should be a given at this point. Teaching someone to act like a human is a lot more challenging than I thought it would be.
DS was both sensory seeking and avoidant at that age. We went to OT, and it was very helpful with some of those weird sensory behaviors. I will say he didn't totally outgrow the touching everything stage until about 5th grade. 7.5 is still young, so you have a few more years of that, but he should outgrow it. DD is the one who gets more angry than situations call for and likely she needs therapy, but we haven't started that yet. But I definitely think she will need it at some point since it runs in families as a personality trait and DH and his sister both have that.
We haven't done an ADHD evaluation on DS because he has some tendencies but they aren't strong enough to really be clinically diagnosed. That being said if someone wanted to do an evaluation, I would encourage it for the information.
tennisgal they sell cuticle oil in the nail section of most stores. I would try that.
I don't know if we are the AH but my SIL is organizing a cemetary ceremony, with a priest, for her 12-week old miscarriage. I heard they will be spreading some ashes? Anyway, we have swimming lessons for our kids during that time and we decided our kids and us will go to swimming lessons. I understand their pain but I don't think we need to be there.
Yes, you are the AH. At a minimum your DH should attend. I'm guessing you've never had a miscarriage or you wouldn't have written this like you did.
tennisgal they sell cuticle oil in the nail section of most stores. I would try that.
I don't know if we are the AH but my SIL is organizing a cemetary ceremony, with a priest, for her 12-week old miscarriage. I heard they will be spreading some ashes? Anyway, we have swimming lessons for our kids during that time and we decided our kids and us will go to swimming lessons. I understand their pain but I don't think we need to be there.
I do hope the universe returns to you this kind of energy.
I know this isn’t the point, but how did you move the Peloton? We want to move ours but it’s so heavy, I wasn’t sure how to do it…
does the base not have wheels on it? We just moved one for my friend from storage, so two of us carried it from the storage unit in their yard down into the basement, but then we could put it down and wheel it.
I think it has wheels? We do need to carry it over a step and then up three steps - I was worried that two people wouldn’t be enough for that.
lust2hart I prefer chairs without arms, so I vote that you get at least a couple.
My daughter and I busted our butts this weekend to clean out the garage and start setting up the home gym out there. My Peloton was in the basement and worked fine, but some how when moving it, the power wires for the monitor stopped working. I ordered the part and it's supposed to be a "member friendly" repair, which is fine, but I already miss riding my bike
I know this isn’t the point, but how did you move the Peloton? We want to move ours but it’s so heavy, I wasn’t sure how to do it…
I'm not gonna lie, it was really heavy and awkward. It took myself and my two teenagers to get it up a flight of stairs, and it was really awkward with how we had to lean it to get it to fit because the ceiling was really low. We just took it really slow and made sure to only lift by the base and not anything that is a moving part. I actually wasn't surprised that the monitor wires stopped working. I've read lots of stories about people moving their Peloton and something minor breaks. Apparently it's pretty common because they aren't really designed to moved, so don't be surprised if something similar happens to you.
I know this isn’t the point, but how did you move the Peloton? We want to move ours but it’s so heavy, I wasn’t sure how to do it…
does the base not have wheels on it? We just moved one for my friend from storage, so two of us carried it from the storage unit in their yard down into the basement, but then we could put it down and wheel it.
I had to move mine up a flight of steps from the basement, the wheels only help when you need to move it on a flat surface.
beerlover, I was talking to my therapist about Little Kid maybe having ADHD. She's just turned 6 but she has some behaviors that seem to point to ADHD. According to her (so by all means fact check this) the biggest indicator of ADHD in kids that young is emotional disregulation. Big reactions to seemingly small things. I've also realized that Big Kid also shows all the signs of ADHD, including emotional disregulation which she has struggled with all her life (and I've been told repeatedly she'd grow out of but she hasn't). Now I struggle with knowing when to have them evaluated. I don't think either needs to be medicated or have accommodations yet, but knowing how their brain works would be a big help to both them and us as parents.
tennisgal they sell cuticle oil in the nail section of most stores. I would try that.
I don't know if we are the AH but my SIL is organizing a cemetary ceremony, with a priest, for her 12-week old miscarriage. I heard they will be spreading some ashes? Anyway, we have swimming lessons for our kids during that time and we decided our kids and us will go to swimming lessons. I understand their pain but I don't think we need to be there.
Please do not let your SIL know you're not attending their memorial ceremony because you're going to fucking swim lessons. This post makes it sound like you've never understood anyone else's pain, let alone hers.
I'm still really mad about something that happened this weekend. XH signed C up for softball in the city where he lives, which is fine. Saturday was opening day for both softball and baseball. The baseball players (99% boys) got to march through the entire city in a parade led by police and fire, live bands, etc. The softball players (100% girls) had to wait until 4:00 when the boys were done, and their opening ceremony consisted of a recording playing the national anthem and the mayor's wife throwing out the first pitch.
Unless someone can provide me with a REALLY good reasoning for this, I would be really pissed too!
tennisgal they sell cuticle oil in the nail section of most stores. I would try that.
I don't know if we are the AH but my SIL is organizing a cemetary ceremony, with a priest, for her 12-week old miscarriage. I heard they will be spreading some ashes? Anyway, we have swimming lessons for our kids during that time and we decided our kids and us will go to swimming lessons. I understand their pain but I don't think we need to be there.
I would think arms would be most comfortable for the majority of people if they want to lounge and read. I feel like you have to basically sit up straight without arms to lean against. But definitely having a chair or two that is extra wide would be a good idea to accommodate sizes.
I booked appointments with a travel clinic to get a typhoid vaccine today before our upcoming trip, then thankfully called to ask about pricing. For myself and my H to get these vaccines would be just over $700. Um, I think we'll roll the dice on that one. Or maybe I'll call our doctor and ask if they do them, I guess. We both got that before we went to Thailand 7 years ago and I'm pretty sure they were covered by insurance, but we also both worked at a university with a hospital at that time.
I am 95% sure I saw a coyote in my neighborhood last night. I just caught its back legs and tail before it disappeared, but it was the right size and tail shape. I know they are around but I didn't really expect one in our neighborhood. That makes me a little nervous with a small dog, especially since I'm a bit of a control freak when it comes to pet health and we're going on vacation in 3 weeks so I'll have to trust a dog sitter not to let him get eaten by coyotes. He does get pretty barky around other dogs so hopefully that would scare it off? He was in the middle of pooping when I saw it so he didn't notice this one.
Yes, see if you can get your Dr to give you a prescription for the oral version. It's a little bit of a pain as it has to stay refrigerated and you take it every other day for five days, but it lasts longer and is cheaper. We needed it last year and I used goodrx to find the cheapest place to fill the prescription. It was still $$, but not $700. I think it was around $200ish for both of us.
I'm all over the place this morning. DD had surgery on Friday, so she's home recovering. Our puppy was bugging our guinea pig cage, and that's when I noticed one of them couldn't walk up the ramp to get to the water. I picked him up, and he was very lethargic and gasping. LSS, our 6-year-old Lighting, passed in my arms. So we're pretty sad today. Worried about his brother, we have an appointment scheduled to make sure his health is ok.
I know it's technically April still but it definitely feels like we've already entered the busy month of May season for sure. We have baseball 5 days this week, plus I have some other appointments, plus homework and teacher appreciation week activities, it's not going to be relaxing whatsoever lol. At least this year, my H is not a high school principal anymore so he doesn't have as many of the mandatory "end of school year" activities to attend and can help me out more with stuff.
I'm struggling with some anxiety this morning. DS has been a little challenging as of late. I almost made my own post about it for people's thoughts but then I held off. He's always been kind of extra but now I am starting to wonder if something else is at play, like ADHD or some other neurodivergence, or maybe he's just a typical 7.5 year old boy that needs more coping strategies and I'm not parenting him well (I know I get frustrated and yell too much, etc). I don't know. His peer relationships seem OK overall but he seems to be struggling with keeping his hands to himself (more so than other kids), and he is so bothered by other kids behavior and what they are doing, and cannot take a joke at all. Someone is always aggrieving him in some way and he can't seem to let things roll off his back. He also gets more angry than situations call for (but calms down very quickly, like he's not having tantrums or anything). But then sometimes he's incredibly sweet and awesome, so I don't know if he's like this because he is tired or hungry or its late in the school year and he's just done, or if really something more is going on. I just feel like there are so many things that we have to tell him not to do, that should be a given at this point. Teaching someone to act like a human is a lot more challenging than I thought it would be.
DS was both sensory seeking and avoidant at that age. We went to OT, and it was very helpful with some of those weird sensory behaviors. I will say he didn't totally outgrow the touching everything stage until about 5th grade. 7.5 is still young, so you have a few more years of that, but he should outgrow it. DD is the one who gets more angry than situations call for and likely she needs therapy, but we haven't started that yet. But I definitely think she will need it at some point since it runs in families as a personality trait and DH and his sister both have that.
We haven't done an ADHD evaluation on DS because he has some tendencies but they aren't strong enough to really be clinically diagnosed. That being said if someone wanted to do an evaluation, I would encourage it for the information.
Thank you for the input! I won't claim to know a lot about this, and just did some brief Googling, but he does seem to have some of both sensory seeking and avoidant characteristics. He does seem to want to touch everything. But he also gets overwhelmed in large groups or with loud noises. And he's always hated scratchy clothing and tags.
I had been thinking ADHD since he is so freaking hyperactive, always moving, climbing over everything, accidentally hurting me sometimes because he doesn't know where his body is in space - but maybe that's actually sensory seeking? He does not exhibit some of the other ADHD characteristics like being inattentive or disorganized. I also wouldn't describe him as impulsive. I know there's a lot more to if of course. We haven't experienced any issues with him paying attention or getting his work done in school, either.
I don't know, maybe I'm trying to make something out of nothing. It's just hard trying to figure him out. And he's my only, so it's not like I have anyone else's development to compare to.
Mil has breast cancer 98% of her appointments, dr visit, follow up etc are falling on my H and myself. Fine. She had her second chemo last week and he told the PA she is not taking the anti nausea medication and she confirmed this(sorry she took it one time). PA stressed why to take it etc.
Yesterday we find out again she took one dose and “does not like it” but can’t tell us what she does not like.
Sigh. Then we found out she told son 4 that H and son 3 are “being to hard in her” about taking the meds.
Lady I am done. I will be happy to not run errands for you anymore or take more PTO for your appointments. Do not tell me ever again how you are not feeling well. I have tried to give her grace but no more.
beerlover , I was talking to my therapist about Little Kid maybe having ADHD. She's just turned 6 but she has some behaviors that seem to point to ADHD. According to her (so by all means fact check this) the biggest indicator of ADHD in kids that young is emotional disregulation. Big reactions to seemingly small things. I've also realized that Big Kid also shows all the signs of ADHD, including emotional disregulation which she has struggled with all her life (and I've been told repeatedly she'd grow out of but she hasn't). Now I struggle with knowing when to have them evaluated. I don't think either needs to be medicated or have accommodations yet, but knowing how their brain works would be a big help to both them and us as parents.
That is interesting. He does seem to have big reactions to seemingly small things. Like, if someone bumps into him, they must have done it on purpose. He wouldn't first think that it was an accident. Stuff like that. He attributes stuff as being purposeful or trying to hurt him when it isn't. But he also gets over stuff relatively quickly. But my gosh, it's embarrassing sometimes. Like no, you don't need to go sit down and sulk at baseball because a ball hit you in the leg, and say that that kid did it on purpose.
I'm worried this stuff will hinder him in making friends if everyone sees him as acting like a baby. (I know this isn't the nicest way of putting it but so you get what I mean).
$62 per person for a Mother's Day brunch that doesn't include alcohol is ridiculous right? We're basically MCOL.
Like, who is going to eat that much food?
Definitely not my DD. Last year, my H booked a reservation at restaurant for Mother’s Day brunch and my DD did one lap, took one plate of food, and ate 1/2 roll. She was thoroughly put off by all of the food sitting out and rare beef on the carving station.
She didn’t complain a bit. But being 15 years old, perfected the posture and demeanor of a stoic convict. In a prison cafeteria. In Siberia.
DS was both sensory seeking and avoidant at that age. We went to OT, and it was very helpful with some of those weird sensory behaviors. I will say he didn't totally outgrow the touching everything stage until about 5th grade. 7.5 is still young, so you have a few more years of that, but he should outgrow it. DD is the one who gets more angry than situations call for and likely she needs therapy, but we haven't started that yet. But I definitely think she will need it at some point since it runs in families as a personality trait and DH and his sister both have that.
We haven't done an ADHD evaluation on DS because he has some tendencies but they aren't strong enough to really be clinically diagnosed. That being said if someone wanted to do an evaluation, I would encourage it for the information.
Thank you for the input! I won't claim to know a lot about this, and just did some brief Googling, but he does seem to have some of both sensory seeking and avoidant characteristics. He does seem to want to touch everything. But he also gets overwhelmed in large groups or with loud noises. And he's always hated scratchy clothing and tags.
I had been thinking ADHD since he is so freaking hyperactive, always moving, climbing over everything, accidentally hurting me sometimes because he doesn't know where his body is in space - but maybe that's actually sensory seeking? He does not exhibit some of the other ADHD characteristics like being inattentive or disorganized. I also wouldn't describe him as impulsive. I know there's a lot more to if of course. We haven't experienced any issues with him paying attention or getting his work done in school, either.
I don't know, maybe I'm trying to make something out of nothing. It's just hard trying to figure him out. And he's my only, so it's not like I have anyone else's development to compare to.
Whether he has ADHD or not, OT is helpful for climbing and where his body is in space. Not sure on the hyperactive part. OT does something called a crash pad so that can help with always moving, jumping those kinds of things. May have to think about how he can get movement out at home. Many kids with ADHD do OT. OT did a sensory eval for DS. DS is also particular about clothing and didn't like loud noises. We got him noise canceling headphones and he did eventually outgrow the noise part also although he still hates jeans. The good thing about OT and PT is it only helps. There would be no harm done, except maybe the time and financial part for the appointments. So there really isn't any downside to those kind of therapies.
tennisgal they sell cuticle oil in the nail section of most stores. I would try that.
I don't know if we are the AH but my SIL is organizing a cemetary ceremony, with a priest, for her 12-week old miscarriage. I heard they will be spreading some ashes? Anyway, we have swimming lessons for our kids during that time and we decided our kids and us will go to swimming lessons. I understand their pain but I don't think we need to be there.
Yes, you are the AH. At a minimum your DH should attend. I'm guessing you've never had a miscarriage or you wouldn't have written this like you did.
Yes, I've had miscarriages before. And SIL said she understands if people don't want to attend.
Mil has breast cancer 98% of her appointments, dr visit, follow up etc are falling on my H and myself. Fine. She had her second chemo last week and he told the PA she is not taking the anti nausea medication and she confirmed this(sorry she took it one time). PA stressed why to take it etc.
Yesterday we find out again she took one dose and “does not like it” but can’t tell us what she does not like.
Sigh. Then we found out she told son 4 that H and son 3 are “being to hard in her” about taking the meds.
Lady I am done. I will be happy to not run errands for you anymore or take more PTO for your appointments. Do not tell me ever again how you are not feeling well. I have tried to give her grace but no more.
Jesus. There's a lot of compassion in here today.
That is fair. I deserve that. I also know the fact that my BIL’s are not doing any of the helping and my H is the “bad guy” does piss me off.
does the base not have wheels on it? We just moved one for my friend from storage, so two of us carried it from the storage unit in their yard down into the basement, but then we could put it down and wheel it.
I think it has wheels? We do need to carry it over a step and then up three steps - I was worried that two people wouldn’t be enough for that.
we did it with two people with no issue. It was heavy and awkward, but overall nothing worse that moving any other heavy furniture piece. We had lots of stairs involved and all together took less than 5 minutes.
The one we usually go to is $100pp and I just couldn't bring myself to book it this year. It's too much money because you also need to valet, then alcohol, tip, etc. We booked a Brazilian steakhouse that's not doing a MD brunch, just their normal dinner menu and it will be much less. And David will eat enough for the three of us, lol.
Mother's Day brunch is such a racket and not particularly enjoyable to me. I do cocktails/apps with my mom friends in the afternoon instead while the kids stay home with the dads.
I told DS to try and pick up some hours at the restaurant that day. I waitressed for a couple of years and mother's day was always a huge day for us.