Is anyone familiar with Irvine, California? H has to go there for work in June and he wants me and David to come with him for the week since David will be out for summer. He said he'd like us to do a long weekend so we can go off somewhere within a couple hours drive. Anything fun around there? H is there for work quite a bit but knowns nothing about the area because he's in the office all day. eta: Other than San Diego/Los Angeles. I've spend a ton of time there both on my own and with H so not wanting to do that again.
During the week, you could visit nearby beaches, Nixon Presidential Library, San Juan Capistrano or Disney. Personally I find OC to be a hassle to navigate because of traffic. For the weekend, how about Idyllwild, an artsy mountain town)? Or Santa Catalina Island (catch the ferry from Dana Point or Long Beach)
My coworker told me she never tests for covid because it's just a cold. The fuck it is. She probably gave me covid back in January when it was spreading through our workplace. Between that and her all people should use the bathroom that corresponds to their sex at birth stance... I will be cordial because I'm a nice person.
Is anyone familiar with Irvine, California? H has to go there for work in June and he wants me and David to come with him for the week since David will be out for summer. He said he'd like us to do a long weekend so we can go off somewhere within a couple hours drive. Anything fun around there? H is there for work quite a bit but knowns nothing about the area because he's in the office all day. eta: Other than San Diego/Los Angeles. I've spend a ton of time there both on my own and with H so not wanting to do that again.
Irvine, specifically doesn't have a lot of fun stuff, but it's pretty close to the beach and Disneyland. I live really close to Irvine so feel free to PM if you would like some suggestions.
Thank you! I might take you up on that. I can't decide if we're staying just for a long weekend or also staying for the workweek. If we tag along for the week I'd be happy to get good restaurant recommendations (my H says there's a lot of good restaurants there).
Is anyone familiar with Irvine, California? H has to go there for work in June and he wants me and David to come with him for the week since David will be out for summer. He said he'd like us to do a long weekend so we can go off somewhere within a couple hours drive. Anything fun around there? H is there for work quite a bit but knowns nothing about the area because he's in the office all day. eta: Other than San Diego/Los Angeles. I've spend a ton of time there both on my own and with H so not wanting to do that again.
During the week, you could visit nearby beaches, Nixon Presidential Library, San Juan Capistrano or Disney. Personally I find OC to be a hassle to navigate because of traffic. For the weekend, how about Idyllwild, an artsy mountain town)? Or Santa Catalina Island (catch the ferry from Dana Point or Long Beach)
Oh, Catalina is a great idea! We've been before but only for a day and would love to go back.
Is anyone familiar with Irvine, California? H has to go there for work in June and he wants me and David to come with him for the week since David will be out for summer. He said he'd like us to do a long weekend so we can go off somewhere within a couple hours drive. Anything fun around there? H is there for work quite a bit but knowns nothing about the area because he's in the office all day. eta: Other than San Diego/Los Angeles. I've spend a ton of time there both on my own and with H so not wanting to do that again.
It really kind of depends on what you like to do, and what is normal for you every other day. I enjoy walking around the Spectrum because the outdoor mall and shops are all different than what we can find where I live. I always like Golden Spoon frozen yogurt when I'm at the mall (if it's still open). Great Orange Park has a big balloon that you can go up in on nice, calm days. It's a pretty unique experience.
If I had a little time, I'd drive down to the Rainbow store (in San Clemente, I think). It's nothing super special, but we can't buy them here, and they carry my H's size. It was a fun little stop for us.
For beaches, I loved going in the little shops in Laguna Beach and Newport Beach. (Remember the water is generally pretty chilly.) If you want to go to the beach, don't go to main beach at Laguna, go down the main street a little ways and find stair access to the beach. The beach there is quieter and really pretty. Huntington Beach will give you the stereotypical beach experience. It's fun to see the distinct personalities of Laguna Beach, Newport Beach, and Huntington Beach...they really are VERY different!
My coworker told me she never tests for covid because it's just a cold. The fuck it is. She probably gave me covid back in January when it was spreading through our workplace. Between that and her all people should use the bathroom that corresponds to their sex at birth stance... I will be cordial because I'm a nice person.
You are completely correct ! I got Covid last month. I know it was Covid because even though it felt like a cold (runny nose, headache), I tested because I was planning to meet my parents for a trip the weekend. Thought I’d “rule out” Covid. Nope! Bright red line in the test.
I am pretty sure I got it from the person at work who was coughing all week because of “a cold”.
At least she isn’t a jerk bathroom monitor. Shut up, jerk. Do you know what someone looks like after they transition ?? Not the gender assigned at birth! Do you know if you’ve never been in a bathroom with someone of a different gender? NO YOU DO NOT. THATS THE POINT.
DS was playing with a neighbor in the alley between our houses tonight. His mom was in the yard (away from the kids) and having a cigarette (yes, this is Central PA where this is still common lol). I guess DS said to her "just be careful around me, because I don't like people smoking around me." LOL. I need to remind him again about not needing to comment on other people's choices...
Is anyone familiar with Irvine, California? H has to go there for work in June and he wants me and David to come with him for the week since David will be out for summer. He said he'd like us to do a long weekend so we can go off somewhere within a couple hours drive. Anything fun around there? H is there for work quite a bit but knowns nothing about the area because he's in the office all day. eta: Other than San Diego/Los Angeles. I've spend a ton of time there both on my own and with H so not wanting to do that again.
It really kind of depends on what you like to do, and what is normal for you every other day. I enjoy walking around the Spectrum because the outdoor mall and shops are all different than what we can find where I live. I always like Golden Spoon frozen yogurt when I'm at the mall (if it's still open). Great Orange Park has a big balloon that you can go up in on nice, calm days. It's a pretty unique experience.
If I had a little time, I'd drive down to the Rainbow store (in San Clemente, I think). It's nothing super special, but we can't buy them here, and they carry my H's size. It was a fun little stop for us.
For beaches, I loved going in the little shops in Laguna Beach and Newport Beach. (Remember the water is generally pretty chilly.) If you want to go to the beach, don't go to main beach at Laguna, go down the main street a little ways and find stair access to the beach. The beach there is quieter and really pretty. Huntington Beach will give you the stereotypical beach experience. It's fun to see the distinct personalities of Laguna Beach, Newport Beach, and Huntington Beach...they really are VERY different!
Good point! I love to hike, I hike about 30 miles per week and would love to keep that up during the week with David. We could also walk along the beach, David loves water. Newport Beach is one I've never been to as an adult, that'd be a great pick. We also love food- all kinds, all price points. I prefer more healthy/seafood, love California fish tacos. David loves ice cream/sweets/cakes. I always try to find him a good sweets place when we travel. And I'm always up for shopping, good coffee, good wine. I'm a glutton, lol. Thanks for your recommendations! I'll be googling the Rainbow store!
DS was playing with a neighbor in the alley between our houses tonight. His mom was in the yard (away from the kids) and having a cigarette (yes, this is Central PA where this is still common lol). I guess DS said to her "just be careful around me, because I don't like people smoking around me." LOL. I need to remind him again about not needing to comment on other people's choices...
David did this too. One time he loudly said something about someone smoking (he was about your son's age) and the lady started profusely apologizing. I just awkwardly smiled and kept walking, lol.
It really kind of depends on what you like to do, and what is normal for you every other day. I enjoy walking around the Spectrum because the outdoor mall and shops are all different than what we can find where I live. I always like Golden Spoon frozen yogurt when I'm at the mall (if it's still open). Great Orange Park has a big balloon that you can go up in on nice, calm days. It's a pretty unique experience.
If I had a little time, I'd drive down to the Rainbow store (in San Clemente, I think). It's nothing super special, but we can't buy them here, and they carry my H's size. It was a fun little stop for us.
For beaches, I loved going in the little shops in Laguna Beach and Newport Beach. (Remember the water is generally pretty chilly.) If you want to go to the beach, don't go to main beach at Laguna, go down the main street a little ways and find stair access to the beach. The beach there is quieter and really pretty. Huntington Beach will give you the stereotypical beach experience. It's fun to see the distinct personalities of Laguna Beach, Newport Beach, and Huntington Beach...they really are VERY different!
Good point! I love to hike, I hike about 30 miles per week and would love to keep that up during the week with David. We could also walk along the beach, David loves water. Newport Beach is one I've never been to as an adult, that'd be a great pick. We also love food- all kinds, all price points. I prefer more healthy/seafood, love California fish tacos. David loves ice cream/sweets/cakes. I always try to find him a good sweets place when we travel. And I'm always up for shopping, good coffee, good wine. I'm a glutton, lol. Thanks for your recommendations! I'll be googling the Rainbow store!
Fashion Island will have "better" shopping if you like higher end stuff, too. It's great people watching! Balboa Island is also an experience that might be enjoyable for you.
There's a state park right off of the 133 between Irvine and Laguna Beach that we used to hike in. There are some nice views from there.
The Aquarium up in Long Beach is amazing...or if you're willing to drive a little further, the Getty Museum is phenomenal, even if you're not a huge museum person.
There's really a lot of little things to do in that area. We used to live there and people would often come out to visit, so we got pretty good at finding the little (usually free) things to do. I'm not good for food recs anymore because it's been so long since we've been there.
Post by basilosaurus on Apr 29, 2024 21:24:02 GMT -5
eb777888 , I kept looking for a specific Irvine thread and thought I was losing my mind
Anaheim has more than Disney, so don't rule it out if you're not wanting a disney trip. The packing district (and old produce packing plant) has tons of great food stalls. It's like a massive fancy food court but also just a chill place to hang out.
Huntington and Newport beaches. Santa Ana has a nice little arts district. It's right near the discovery cube. I don't have kids, but that might be fun from what I've heard.
I used to live in the belmont region of long beach, so I'm more familiar with the food there and downtown, although all my knowledge is pre-covid as I left in 2018. But we often went to these towns specifically in search of different foods. Like, we'd go to Tustin just to have great Greek food. So if you have a specific food in mind, I can point you to the town. Or if you have towns, I can tell you what's good there (or used to be). Basically, my entire short time in that area, with the exception of some museums and the aquarium, all my sightseeing was centered around food.
My impression of Irvine is only corporate office parks. I'm sure there's more there, but that's all I personally saw. Will you have your own transportation? There's no real public transport.
Post by basilosaurus on Apr 29, 2024 21:28:32 GMT -5
Oh, I missed shopping. That's not really my thing, but near the packing district in Anaheim, walking distance, is the best 2nd hand store I've ever seen. High end stuff, much with tags still on. Rich people castoffs I'm assuming.
eb777888 , I kept looking for a specific Irvine thread and thought I was losing my mind
Anaheim has more than Disney, so don't rule it out if you're not wanting a disney trip. The packing district (and old produce packing plant) has tons of great food stalls. It's like a massive fancy food court but also just a chill place to hang out.
Huntington and Newport beaches. Santa Ana has a nice little arts district. It's right near the discovery cube. I don't have kids, but that might be fun from what I've heard.
I used to live in the belmont region of long beach, so I'm more familiar with the food there and downtown, although all my knowledge is pre-covid as I left in 2018. But we often went to these towns specifically in search of different foods. Like, we'd go to Tustin just to have great Greek food.
My impression of Irvine is only corporate office parks. I'm sure there's more there, but that's all I personally saw. Will you have your own transportation? There's no real public transport.
Haha, Yep!! That's exactly what my H said it is. But he said there's really good restaurants there, a few he has in mind he wants to take us to which will be a great option for weeknight dinners. I will have transportation, we're renting a car. I'm familiar with so many major cities around there, but have never been to Irvine so looking for little areas I haven't really explored. Like, I don't think I've ever been to Tustin and I love Greek food so I'm totally up for something like that. I'm really up for anything, especially for a long weekend side trip!
Oh, I missed shopping. That's not really my thing, but near the packing district in Anaheim, walking distance, is the best 2nd hand store I've ever seen. High end stuff, much with tags still on. Rich people castoffs I'm assuming.
Ohhhhhh!!!!! I will totally take rich people's castoffs!! Yes please!! lol
So many fancy mother's day plans. We used to go to 8 am mass and then head to Shoneys, so mom wouldn't have to cook. We were often the first ones there and had the buffet to ourselves! FWIW, my parents considered Shoney's "fancy." I think it was the only sit down style (ok not quite but...) restaurant I went to til high school.
beerlover I feel like I always relate to your parenting posts. My kid is a little younger (6) but I feel like sometimes it's such a struggle! Partially I feel like so much stuff is aimed at toddlers I can never figure out if behavior is age appropriate or not, and how to deal with it past toddler consequences. And when out and about I always feel like everyone else's kids are so chill while I'm running around yelling at everyone.
And then I also feel like maybe I'm just not as chill as everyone else so I go 0 to 100 faster then necessary and yell or get stressed more then I should. So is it me or is it my kid? Or both of us 🤣 it's rough tbh I'd take a toddler over this age most of the time I felt like I could handle those behavior issues vs now it's so WTF I don't know what to do.
Post by mysteriouswife on Apr 29, 2024 22:39:15 GMT -5
My stepdad’s niece has been married 3 times. It’s not the amount of times that makes me turn my head.
Backstory- she lives in a different state and we have not interacted in years. Just FB friends and the random appearance at funerals.
The first husband was lovely, kind, and well mannered. Outside of a few family functions I never interacted with him. He became a pastor. Not sure what caused the demise of their relationship, but he’s no longer around.
Second husband met only once. No visible red flags. Seemed okay given we were at a funeral. He gave himself to the Lord and became a youth minister. They went their separate ways. Have a few kids together. As far as I can tell they co-parented well.
Husband three. You guessed it. Is now an ordained minister and reformed man. He’s been with her 5 years. She posted his 4 year anniversary as a minister on FB.
She is a big believer and loves her lord. But how in the hell to you convert 3 men into the ministry?
I know guys in college who said that church was the best place to pick up chicks. AFAIK, they all outgrew it pretty darn quickly.
I knew only one who "converted" to Catholocism and cheated on her all throughout their dating, engagement, the night before the wedding, and the entire year of their marriage. She knew about it all, too, so I don't know what possessed her to continue.
So many fancy mother's day plans. We used to go to 8 am mass and then head to Shoneys, so mom wouldn't have to cook. We were often the first ones there and had the buffet to ourselves! FWIW, my parents considered Shoney's "fancy." I think it was the only sit down style (ok not quite but...) restaurant I went to til high school.
Same. We went to Applebee's occasionally in high school and it was like $$$$$$$ whoa fancy.
I remember I picked Shoneys for my elementary school graduation celebration meal.
I had a 17 week loss and chose to have a burial and planted a tree, we included a little family and had a pastor there. Coming from my obviously biased perspective, I am going to say you are the AH here. You say you understand their pain, but you seem dismissive of it and it sounds like you think they should hide their pain and not share it with their family and have their family with them to support them during this difficult time. One of the hardest things for me was that people wanted me to move on when they were ready, not when I was ready, and they forgot while I never did.
I just wanted to say that I remember when this fresh and that your son’s name was Miller. He isn’t forgotten.
beerlover I feel like I always relate to your parenting posts. My kid is a little younger (6) but I feel like sometimes it's such a struggle! Partially I feel like so much stuff is aimed at toddlers I can never figure out if behavior is age appropriate or not, and how to deal with it past toddler consequences. And when out and about I always feel like everyone else's kids are so chill while I'm running around yelling at everyone.
And then I also feel like maybe I'm just not as chill as everyone else so I go 0 to 100 faster then necessary and yell or get stressed more then I should. So is it me or is it my kid? Or both of us 🤣 it's rough tbh I'd take a toddler over this age most of the time I felt like I could handle those behavior issues vs now it's so WTF I don't know what to do.
Yes, this is how I feel! I feel like I'm constantly saying "don't do this, don't do that, don't say that" etc. while other kids are just standing around being normal lol. Maybe the problem is just me not being chill either. My kid is just goofy which is cute for a toddler but I feel like starts to get weird at this age. Like in baseball, you don't need to dance when you get to first base. Or use the baseball bat as an air guitar in between pitches at practice. No one else is doing this. Everyone else thinks he is funny and I'm just cringing lol.
beerlover I feel like I always relate to your parenting posts. My kid is a little younger (6) but I feel like sometimes it's such a struggle! Partially I feel like so much stuff is aimed at toddlers I can never figure out if behavior is age appropriate or not, and how to deal with it past toddler consequences. And when out and about I always feel like everyone else's kids are so chill while I'm running around yelling at everyone.
And then I also feel like maybe I'm just not as chill as everyone else so I go 0 to 100 faster then necessary and yell or get stressed more then I should. So is it me or is it my kid? Or both of us 🤣 it's rough tbh I'd take a toddler over this age most of the time I felt like I could handle those behavior issues vs now it's so WTF I don't know what to do.
Yes, this is how I feel! I feel like I'm constantly saying "don't do this, don't do that, don't say that" etc. while other kids are just standing around being normal lol. Maybe the problem is just me not being chill either. My kid is just goofy which is cute for a toddler but I feel like starts to get weird at this age. Like in baseball, you don't need to dance when you get to first base. Or use the baseball bat as an air guitar in between pitches at practice. No one else is doing this. Everyone else thinks he is funny and I'm just cringing lol.
Girl, whoosah on the goofiness. My husband is like this about our kids. I have to remind him regularly that being quirky or silly or not taking something inconsequential seriously at ages 10 and 14 is, like, yay. Better that than parentified kidbots. Plus they get to learn from their own mistakes that way. It's not indicative that they'll be anything other than awesome people with a vibrant sense of self when they get older. Like, full adults WISH for the chutzpah to do things like tell people not to fill their lungs with secondhand smoke.
I am a crap parent in many, many ways. But I'm good at that part.
Yes, this is how I feel! I feel like I'm constantly saying "don't do this, don't do that, don't say that" etc. while other kids are just standing around being normal lol. Maybe the problem is just me not being chill either. My kid is just goofy which is cute for a toddler but I feel like starts to get weird at this age. Like in baseball, you don't need to dance when you get to first base. Or use the baseball bat as an air guitar in between pitches at practice. No one else is doing this. Everyone else thinks he is funny and I'm just cringing lol.
I honestly don't see anything wrong with either of these unless he's doing it in a way that distracts/impedes others from continuing to play. I can see how maybe it's not the norm anymore at his age, but this feels like something that is better just let go instead of turning it into a potential battle if you tell him to stop and he doesn't want to. I know I've replied to a post of yours about your son's behavior during sports before with a similar "just chill" message, and I definitely don't mean to criticize you, but I do want to say in case it's helpful at all that from a caring, outsider perspective, the more you share, the more I think you guys might both benefit from you finding a way to let some of this go <3
I need to take some lessons from you, cville! I really try not to say too much about the quirky behaviors but I am internally cringing a lot lol. I need to work on being more chill.
I need to take some lessons from you, cville! (ETA and emilyinchile). I really try not to say too much about the quirky behaviors but I am internally cringing a lot lol. I need to work on being more chill.
H and I were both "do what the adults tell you" type of children and do not add extra flair to everything we do, so this is all new to us lol.
I need to take some lessons from you, cville! I really try not to say too much about the quirky behaviors but I am internally cringing a lot lol. I need to work on being more chill.
I'm not chill about lots of things. Trust. Very chill about quirks. I mean, I married #taftfacts. All the best people are a little weird.
Yes, this is how I feel! I feel like I'm constantly saying "don't do this, don't do that, don't say that" etc. while other kids are just standing around being normal lol. Maybe the problem is just me not being chill either. My kid is just goofy which is cute for a toddler but I feel like starts to get weird at this age. Like in baseball, you don't need to dance when you get to first base. Or use the baseball bat as an air guitar in between pitches at practice. No one else is doing this. Everyone else thinks he is funny and I'm just cringing lol.
I honestly don't see anything wrong with either of these unless he's doing it in a way that distracts/impedes others from continuing to play. I can see how maybe it's not the norm anymore at his age, but this feels like something that is better just let go instead of turning it into a potential battle if you tell him to stop and he doesn't want to. I know I've replied to a post of yours about your son's behavior during sports before with a similar "just chill" message, and I definitely don't mean to criticize you, but I do want to say in case it's helpful at all that from a caring, outsider perspective, the more you share, the more I think you guys might both benefit from you finding a way to let some of this go <3
Agree with this! I think I have also commented on a past post that it really seems like he's not doing anything wrong or bothering anyone else, so from another outsider's perspective, this is your issue and not his! My son is younger so we're not at this stage yet, but as a parent, I actually hope that my kids have the confidence of your son! I want them to be who they are without being so concerned about what other people think, and I don't want them to do things just for appearances - traits that we all have as young children, and then get them trained out of us, and now I am working on re-learning myself! Your son sounds like a fun kid!
rhian, that's a good way of looking at it. <3 He is a pretty cool kid. He has just been challenging me in other ways lately so the silly behaviors put things over the edge for me sometimes. I'm trying to stay chill. Always a work in progress for me lol.
Post by nancybotwin on Apr 30, 2024 9:25:00 GMT -5
beerlover I’ll agree that as an outsider these behaviors really seem ok. And I totally get why you feel the way you do. One of my parenting mentors once taught me that when her kids were little, she made the decision that she would never be embarrassed by her kids. It was a conscious decision that took effort but she found it benefitted her, her kids and their relationship. I have adopted this decision as well. It doesn't mean that all behavior is acceptable but I choose not to be embarrassed or to worry/fear judgement from others. It is really helpful (and freeing!)