WWYD??

[mokes]

Sept 24, 2024 10:56:13 GMT -5 dexteroni said:

Sept 24, 2024 10:54:50 GMT -5 Nugget T. Brain, The OG said:

His name is pretty unique, when I called the florist I confirmed the full first and last.  

Is your name common? He could have clicked on the wrong Nugget in his address book and entered that address. It seems unlikely, but who knows. If that was the case I would let him know he sent them to the wrong person.

This is what I was thinking, or he asked his admin (if he would have one, lol) to send them to someone else with your first name and somehow they were accidentally sent to you.

[mcppalmbeach]

There is 0% chance I don’t follow this through unless he gave you bad vibes back when you knew him. Since it looks like it came directly from a florist nearby I wouldn’t think they’re booby trapped.

I would text or Facebook message (however is easiest to get a hold of him) and say I received a lovely bouquet from you. But were they meant for me because I have no idea what I did to receive them. And go from there. Honestly I have had people years later mention gestures I made towards them that had really no meaning for me at the time, but obviously meant something to the other person.

[bittybomb]

See I think I'm watching too much FBI.  I was watching a marathon of it the other day and one episode was about a serial killer who would arrange "chance" meetings with his victims by infiltrating through their social media by pretending to be someone the person knew, though not well, but well enough to accept a friend request. 

This kind of thing is giving me alllllllll the creepy vibes.  If he didn't know you're divorced isn't it weird he'd send his friend's wife flowers? Like I would not be comfortable receiving flowers from any of my husband's friends.

ets - ok, the common name, mistaken person angle is making me feel much better, lol

[lavenderblue]

I generally think of myself as not very trusting, but this wouldn't even blip on my radar. I'd put the flowers in a place of prominence and enjoy them until they die. This post has me reevaluating my whole life LOL

[cuadrado]

My first thought was that if he was doing this in a creepy stalker kind of way then he would have known that you had gotten divorced and changed your name?

[tacokick]

Sept 24, 2024 11:26:49 GMT -5 bittybomb said:

See I think I'm watching too much FBI.  I was watching a marathon of it the other day and one episode was about a serial killer who would arrange "chance" meetings with his victims by infiltrating through their social media by pretending to be someone the person knew, though not well, but well enough to accept a friend request. 

This kind of thing is giving me alllllllll the creepy vibes.  If he didn't know you're divorced isn't it weird he'd send his friend's wife flowers? Like I would not be comfortable receiving flowers from any of my husband's friends.

ets - ok, the common name, mistaken person angle is making me feel much better, lol

I think sending flowers is a pretty common generic “thank you” gift especially for women.

Personally, I don’t think of flowers as being inherently romantic at all.

[circa1978]

Sept 24, 2024 11:26:03 GMT -5 mcppalmbeach said:

There is 0% chance I don’t follow this through.

This is me. I am the queen of not letting things drop. What about any mutual friends you can DM or stalk? Did you look at his accounts to see if he's had some sort of life altering event like rehab or facing death or something? 

[underwaterrhymes]

I’d be too curious to let this one be.

I would send a FB message to this effect: “Hey! Some flowers were delivered to me today from you with a cryptic message. My first thought is that it’s a mistake, and I thought I’d touch base in case you were either scammed or intended them for someone else. Hope you’re doing well!”

[cjcouple]

If I was weirded out, Id return them to the florist and just say not interested or incorrect recipient or something.

[mofongo]

Sept 24, 2024 11:51:46 GMT -5 cjcouple said:

If I was weirded out, Id return them to the florist and just say not interested or incorrect recipient or something.

That doesn't help with the legitimate concerns.

[mrshandy]

Possibly he meant to send it to someone with the same first name and just forgot what their last name was in his contact list.

[bittybomb]

Sept 24, 2024 11:43:41 GMT -5 tacokick said:

Sept 24, 2024 11:26:49 GMT -5 bittybomb said:

See I think I'm watching too much FBI.  I was watching a marathon of it the other day and one episode was about a serial killer who would arrange "chance" meetings with his victims by infiltrating through their social media by pretending to be someone the person knew, though not well, but well enough to accept a friend request. 

This kind of thing is giving me alllllllll the creepy vibes.  If he didn't know you're divorced isn't it weird he'd send his friend's wife flowers? Like I would not be comfortable receiving flowers from any of my husband's friends.

ets - ok, the common name, mistaken person angle is making me feel much better, lol

I think sending flowers is a pretty common generic “thank you” gift especially for women.

Personally, I don’t think of flowers as being inherently romantic at all.

I can see that.  Thinking back I have received flowers from my parents, and my best friends.  Even as a hostess gift.

I don't know though, for some reason this just seems off to me.  I still think I'd feel weird if any of my husband's friends sent or left me flowers. 

[cjcouple]

Sept 24, 2024 11:53:39 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Sept 24, 2024 11:51:46 GMT -5 cjcouple said:

If I was weirded out, Id return them to the florist and just say not interested or incorrect recipient or something.

That doesn't help with the legitimate concerns.

I was just thinking , if it was a mistake, I'd straighten it out. Or if it was intentional, it's a clear message of not interested.

I also don't think reaching out or ignoring it would help with concerns either

[waverly]

Do you want to talk to this person? If not, then I would pretend they sent it in error and toss them.

If they were a good person before, and you still think they would be a good person to talk to and you want to talk to them, then I might message them.

[pixy0stix]

I'd take it at face value and not try to contact. If it escalates then I'd do something.

[mofongo]

Sept 24, 2024 11:57:22 GMT -5 cjcouple said:

Sept 24, 2024 11:53:39 GMT -5 mofongo said:

That doesn't help with the legitimate concerns.

I was just thinking , if it was a mistake, I'd straighten it out. Or if it was intentional, it's a clear message of not interested.

I also don't think reaching out or ignoring it would help with concerns either

What do you mean by mistake?
There are def things she can do to help her feel safer if this is truly something to be concerned about.

[liverandonions]

Is your ex-h now his new boyfriend? Maybe your divorce made all his dreams come true

[TR]

Maybe this is a testament to how boring & suburban I find my life right now, but I think I would risk murder just to follow this mystery to its end.

[cjcouple]

Sept 24, 2024 12:03:42 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Sept 24, 2024 11:57:22 GMT -5 cjcouple said:

I was just thinking , if it was a mistake, I'd straighten it out. Or if it was intentional, it's a clear message of not interested.

I also don't think reaching out or ignoring it would help with concerns either

What do you mean by mistake?
There are def things she can do to help her feel safer if this is truly something to be concerned about.

Others were mentioning a common name mixup.

Absolutely she should take steps to make herself feel safer. I just wouldn't keep the flowers is all I'm saying.

If this person does have ill intentions, Keeping them might send a message of unintentional hope "oh, she kept my flowers, that's a good sign" or angry thoughts like "what kind of person doesnt thank me for sending flowers."

It's definitely creepy and I can why she is weirded out. My instinct would be to return them though.

[jinkies]

Sept 24, 2024 11:50:55 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

I’d be too curious to let this one be.

I would send a FB message to this effect: “Hey! Some flowers were delivered to me today from you with a cryptic message. My first thought is that it’s a mistake, and I thought I’d touch base in case you were either scammed or intended them for someone else. Hope you’re doing well!”

I think this is a perfect message. 

Unless he was super creepy when you knew him and you lost touch intentionally, I would really need to know what happened. 

[dexteroni]

Actually I agree with sending the flowers back. Whether the intent is creepy or just ill advised from a social standpoint, it’s an invasive gesture and is unwelcome. Even if your intent really is to genuinely thank someone, you don’t do it after 20 years of no contact, with no explanation, while reminding the recipient that you know where they live. If you absolutely must make contact, an email or FB message with a re-introduction and an explanation is how you do it.

[Nugget T. Brain, The OG]

Sept 24, 2024 11:22:06 GMT -5 mokes said:

Sept 24, 2024 10:56:13 GMT -5 dexteroni said:

Is your name common? He could have clicked on the wrong Nugget in his address book and entered that address. It seems unlikely, but who knows. If that was the case I would let him know he sent them to the wrong person.

This is what I was thinking, or he asked his admin (if he would have one, lol) to send them to someone else with your first name and somehow they were accidentally sent to you.

No my name is also very uncommon.  

[rachers]

Eeeh, that’s very creepy for sure.

I would maybe do the generic social media message like PP suggested but I wouldn’t let it take up too much of your energy. I wouldn’t mess with the returning them - just toss if they make you uncomfortable to look at.

[Nugget T. Brain, The OG]

He doesn't have a FB, both of my sisters are all over this and the one who is like a personal CIA agent and can find ANYONE hasn't been able to find anything on him other than an Insta with 10 posts that's locked.

She did find his address though and it looks like he's still living with his mom at the same place as when I last talked to him 20 years ago, so.....

[mrsslocombe]

Do I think this is creepy AF? Yes

Do I think there's any chance it was a mistake? No

Would I be contacting everyone we have in common to tell them about it and see if they have any insight about whether this dude boils bunnies or has women trapped in his basement? Absolutely.

I'm nosey and confrontational AF so no way could I just pretend this never happened, I'd be risking getting murdered just to find out.

[Nugget T. Brain, The OG]

I have to admit hearing "I would risk getting murdered to figure this out because I am just that fucking nosy" is making me feel seen lol

[Nugget T. Brain, The OG]

Bestie: ARE YOU ALIVE OR DO I NEED TO CALL JOE KENDA

[shauni27]

Sept 24, 2024 10:35:48 GMT -5 momin2013 said:

Sept 24, 2024 10:13:48 GMT -5 deadwing said:

Are you still living at the same address as when you last had contact with this person? If you've moved and he had to track you down, my concern level would be extremely high.

This was my first thought as well. If yes, I might reach out on Facebook to say thanks and see if he provides some context. If he had up track you down to send them, on the other hand, I’d be feeling a completely different, very freaked out way about it.

so years ago I was fb friends with someone from HS who I did not actually know, but it was a smaller school, so we were acquaintances. He liked one of my posts about my new baby, then would comment on them all the time. Message me about it. I believe he is neurodivergent and so I would just do the facebook version of smile and nod, thinking I was being polite.

Then he started trying to add me on other platforms (IG, Pinterest) and I would not accept but he would send messages, again, just commenting like trying to make an inside joke of a picture I posted months ago of said new baby. I blocked on those sites and FB.

Then, on my birthday, I came home to a birthday card from him. I have no idea how he got my address. I got super icked out. 

That was 7 years ago. Imagine my surprise that during covid, he got a job as a screener for my PCP office to like take temps and ask if we were healthy before going in to the building. He literally stopped me from entering and asked me why I no longer was his friend on social media. "just tell me!!!" I finally pushed past him and filed a complaint against him through the hospital he worked at. 

People are weird, man.

[shauni27]

Sept 24, 2024 12:05:11 GMT -5 TR said:

Maybe this is a testament to how boring & suburban I find my life right now, but I think I would risk murder just to follow this mystery to its end.

I just snorted. SO GOOD.

[shauni27]

Sept 24, 2024 12:38:01 GMT -5 Nugget T. Brain, The OG said:

I have to admit hearing "I would risk getting murdered to figure this out because I am just that fucking nosy" is making me feel seen lol

you have to update us to whatever you find out!!