Friday Randoms

[wanderlustmom]

Oct 18, 2024 16:34:04 GMT -5 mofongo said:

We’ve had our new, adopted dog for a year today:)


Him as a chicken last weekend at Oktoberfest 😅.

blinded by the cuteness!

[wanderlustmom]

My dad is a big jerk and came from an abusive family so I was okay changing my name and I would never want his handwriting on my arm. So I get it. But I love that many women had wonderful fathers in which they would want their handwriting on their arms AND wouldn't feel bad keeping their surname. I love when I hear about my friends with great dads. I broke the mold and married a great man. I do hate however that my new last name is not phonetic. I stayed in the same letter which is kind of crazy too. Sorry to ramble

[wanderlustmom]

Oct 18, 2024 14:33:42 GMT -5 holly116 said:

Does anyone have a good mocktail recipe for a crowd?

We're hosting an event next weekend and I'm flying out of town the next morning so I'm going to drive a car load of us home at the end of the night and skip alcohol. I'd like something super fun to sip on, plus there are a few other guests who don't drink.

in a small saucepan combine 1 1/4 cups fresh grapefruit juice 1/2 cup fresh lemon juice and one 2 inch piece ginger (peeled and thinly sliced) 2 TB pure maple syrup and a pinch of cayenne. Bring to gentle simmer and then remove from heat and let step 10 min. Strain into jar cover and refrigerate until cold about 1 hour. I actually like a whole day. Divide among 6 ice filled glasses and top with chilled Fresca or plain seltzer. It's so good!

[7costanza]

Speaking of names, when I changed schools in the middle of elementary school my mom wrote on the registration form that I should not be called by my nickname, which I really liked and felt like “me.” I’m still bitter about it, no one in my life now calls me by the nickname but every once in an awhile a coworker or new friend will use it and it makes me so happy. But it feels weird to change the first name I go by in my 40s.

[macmars45]

Oct 18, 2024 11:09:17 GMT -5 bex1973 said:

Oct 18, 2024 11:02:40 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

I felt this way too! I had a W and upgraded to a B! 

I went from an A to an S.... womp, womp

I went from G to W... womp womp indeed.

[notsopicky]

I couldn't wait to ditch my maiden name. Nobody can ever say it or spell it, despite the fact that it's only 6 damn letters. Working in a school was the worst.

I've gone by my middle name my whole life, so I did a whole legal name change with a judge--I'm middle maiden married. I love it.

[notsopicky]

Oct 18, 2024 10:15:08 GMT -5 sometimesrunner said:

Oct 18, 2024 9:10:54 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

I regret changing my last name. DH didn't pressure me at all but I just did it because it seemed like what you were supposed to do. Its not a huge deal, but if I could go back in time I'd keep my maiden name.

Same. I really liked my maiden name. I should have kept it. 

DD asked me to eat lunch with her today, so I get the pleasure of eating McDonalds today for lunch. Ugh. I know the days where she wants me around are limited, so I'm going to enjoy hanging out with her at lunch, despite her poor choice in fast food.

But did you have a Chicken Big Mac?!? 

My son has been bugging me for 2 weeks to try them. 

[pandorica]

Today was a beautiful day! I got to do a ~2 mile hike for work and it was sunny and 57ish. Perfect weather for a hike.

I'm so glad it's Friday though, if I had to make lunches tonight I think I would have lost it 🤣

XH really wanted me to take his last name, but I kept pushing it off for excuses about when I would do it in the future. SO happy I didn't take his name. I really didn't want to give mine up. I kept my name when I married H, because my last name is way better and also fuck the patriarchy.

ETA I also gave all of my kids my last name for the same reasons (mostly fuck the patriarchy) and also because they will be B instead of K, and I loved being at the beginning of the alphabet at school!

[pandorica]

Oct 18, 2024 15:50:24 GMT -5 EvieEthelGarland said:

My maiden name is super Italian and at the time is was a plus that DH's name was pretty basic. Now, while I like having a family name, I kind of miss my maiden name.

I've been getting pushed a lot on SM of folks wondering why a woman would keep/should be "allowed" to keep her exH's name or why a woman would choose her father's name over her new husbands. When do our names just get to be ours?

YES to your last sentence. I was discussing this one day with someone and she was like "either you keep your father's name or take your husband's name". Fuck that BS. Definitely helped push me towards keeping mine and giving it to our kids as well.

[mccallister84]

Oct 18, 2024 10:11:08 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

My first name and maiden name started with S, so as a kid who was always in the back, I wished to marry someone with a last name in the first half. I got to M 😂

Exactly the same. I moved up to B 😂. I tell my girls they will never understand my pain.

[circa1978]

wanderlustmom if we don't throw enough, she throws the ball *at us*. She hit me in the head tonight, lol. I may have found a used one on marketplace. I've never met a dog so into fetch.

[noodleoo]

Oct 18, 2024 15:50:24 GMT -5 EvieEthelGarland said:

When do our names just get to be ours?

Sorry, day got busy. I didn’t mean to post and run on the tattoo thing.

Yes, my parents and my dad specifically were extremely controlling. They did not approve of my marriage (for racist and cultural/traditional reasons) so I guess that colored my opinion since the tattoo thing came up in the context of marriage and name changes. My dad basically told me that I should obey him because he’s my father, so the idea of tattooing my name in his handwriting on my body conveys ownership to me and I’m just sick of the idea that women aren’t allowed to be in control of their own lives/bodies. I guess it touched a nerve for me.

I have too much baggage to see it in a positive way. Basically, fuck the patriarchy. I’m sick of it.

[wanderlustmom]

Oct 18, 2024 21:19:12 GMT -5 circa1978 said:

wanderlustmom if we don't throw enough, she throws the ball *at us*. She hit me in the head tonight, lol. I may have found a used one on marketplace. I've never met a dog so into fetch.

That's a new one! Yes she's obsessed! We've never had a ball dog before either. About to go throw with her now

[mrsukyankee]

Oct 18, 2024 16:18:46 GMT -5 momin2013 said:

It never occurred to me to take my DH’s surname. His name is very Persian and I am not, so it would have felt weird to me to have a name that’s not of my own ethnicity. Thankfully neither of our cultures are married name-assumers, so it was never an issue.

My Dad is still around, but if he were not it would absolutely bring a smile to my face to look down and see a tattoo of his handwriting.

My current surname is very Indian (as I married an Indian guy) and it's fine, but it can lead to some funny looks - yesterday, the guy giving me my flu shot was calling out the surname and when I raised my hand, he looked at my weirdly. I acknowledged where my surname came from and we had a giggle. The Indian students who come to me for counselling always ask about it and it makes for a cool connection - they feel that I might understand some of the cultural stuff that they are dealing with. So, even though it doesn't 'fit', it actually helps me connect to people in a different way. (I went from a very British name to an Indian name and it's fine for me)

[sometimesrunner]

Oct 18, 2024 19:12:06 GMT -5 notsopicky said:

Oct 18, 2024 10:15:08 GMT -5 sometimesrunner said:

Same. I really liked my maiden name. I should have kept it. 

DD asked me to eat lunch with her today, so I get the pleasure of eating McDonalds today for lunch. Ugh. I know the days where she wants me around are limited, so I'm going to enjoy hanging out with her at lunch, despite her poor choice in fast food.

But did you have a Chicken Big Mac?!? 

My son has been bugging me for 2 weeks to try them. 

I didn’t know that was a thing! Darn.

[notsopicky]

Oct 19, 2024 10:50:19 GMT -5 sometimesrunner said:

Oct 18, 2024 19:12:06 GMT -5 notsopicky said:

But did you have a Chicken Big Mac?!? 

My son has been bugging me for 2 weeks to try them. 

I didn’t know that was a thing! Darn.

We're going tomorrow night to get one b/c H will be at a football game. I'll report back!