Okay, this isnt because you said it, blissanity, but anytime someone says they orgasm 5 times per session or they can orgasm on the bus etc hasnt really had an orgasm. For the first 1-2 yrs of sex, I thought I was orgasming all the time (2-4 times per session). Then I had a real orgasm. I think those women are in that boat.
This is more about the people on DrPhil or Geraldo that say they can orgasm due to a bumpy road. Dont believe it.
Yes! I used to think I was reaching orgasm multiple times per session, til I met H. He's the first person to ever really get me off, and I can tell you hands down all that other crap was just child's play.
Okay, this isnt because you said it, blissanity, but anytime someone says they orgasm 5 times per session or they can orgasm on the bus etc hasnt really had an orgasm. For the first 1-2 yrs of sex, I thought I was orgasming all the time (2-4 times per session). Then I had a real orgasm. I think those women are in that boat.
This is more about the people on DrPhil or Geraldo that say they can orgasm due to a bumpy road. Dont believe it.
I can't O on a bumpy road...but
I disagree. I can have 1 maybe 2 clitoral orgasms, but multiple G spot. Sometimes it is like one long orgasm. I KNOW what one feels like. Sometimes it is impossible to get a clitoral one out (during sex and no toys), but I can count maybe 1 or 2 times with SO where I was a total no show
The best is when I get a clitoral and G spot at the same time. A rare but awesome moment
I can O from nipple play.
That's why girl on top is too much for me. It's too much clitoral and G spot at the same time. 1-3 I can handle but more than that and I'm dying. Too much.
here's another, flameful I think. Maybe not so much here but definitely would be in the mom's groups I'm in.
I think people that don't vaccinate their kids are bad parents. Refusing a vax here or there, ehhh I side eye a bit. But those that just plain old don't vaccinate because they "don't trust science" or think our healthcare system is in on some big conspiracy, they are sucky people.
This flameful brought to you thanks to the woman in a mom's group I'm in that's "just got a feeling" that the whooping cough vaccine is CAUSING whooping cough.
I agree with you and tend to take it one step further and argue that it is abusive to not vaccinate your children.
I HATE being skinny. I can't gain weight to save my life. It sucks. And people comment on it all.the.time.
So I was saying....
Ahem, I agree. But I also think people shouldnt be ashamed to say that they think they are thin and are happy about it. Dont rub it in, but if it is a fact, say it. This is towards the women on the Today Show not people on here.
I miss the days of being constantly accused of being anorexic. I really, really wish I could go back to being super skinny.
I agree! I loved my days of being a rail without trying at all. I am curious about what sucks about it.
What sucks? Well, clothes don't fit me, I look like a child, and everyone thinks it's awesome to be "super skinny". Oh and random strangers tell me I need to eat more. People ask me if I have an eating disorder. People assume I do drugs. And comments like these; like because I'm skinny I'm not allowed to be upset/annoyed/uncomfortable by it. My feelings aren't valid because I'm suppose to LOVE being skinny.
Just because I'm skinny doesn't mean I'm comfortable in my body or enjoy being skinny. It may be awesome to you but when your body doesn't change from 15 to 25 it's a little depressing.
I miss the days of being constantly accused of being anorexic. I really, really wish I could go back to being super skinny.
And this really annoys me. Anorexia isn't something to be coveted or accused of. It might be fun to be "accused" of having an ED when you're just wanting to feel good about yourself but actually having one and being called out on it, isn't.
I never coveted anorexia, nor have I ever accused anyone of having it. But if I had to go back to the days that bliss is talking about, where because I was naturally very thin people thought it was okay to accuse me of being anorexic or too thin or whatever (even though that isn't a nice thing for people to say), I would take that hands down over my body at 33. That's what I was saying.
I agree! I loved my days of being a rail without trying at all. I am curious about what sucks about it.
What sucks? Well, clothes don't fit me, I look like a child, and everyone thinks it's awesome to be "super skinny". Oh and random strangers tell me I need to eat more. People ask me if I have an eating disorder. People assume I do drugs. And comments like these; like because I'm skinny I'm not allowed to be upset/annoyed/uncomfortable by it. My feelings aren't valid because I'm suppose to LOVE being skinny.
Just because I'm skinny doesn't mean I'm comfortable in my body or enjoy being skinny. It may be awesome to you but when your body doesn't change from 15 to 25 it's a little depressing.
How do you know what we weren't in that exact position from 15-25?
(Well, except for the drug thing -- no-one accused me of that).
What sucks? Well, clothes don't fit me, I look like a child, and everyone thinks it's awesome to be "super skinny". Oh and random strangers tell me I need to eat more. People ask me if I have an eating disorder. People assume I do drugs. And comments like these; like because I'm skinny I'm not allowed to be upset/annoyed/uncomfortable by it. My feelings aren't valid because I'm suppose to LOVE being skinny.
Just because I'm skinny doesn't mean I'm comfortable in my body or enjoy being skinny. It may be awesome to you but when your body doesn't change from 15 to 25 it's a little depressing.
How do you know what we weren't in that exact position from 15-25?
Perhaps you were. Doesn't change the fact that I'm allowed to feel this way. I'm allowed to hate being skinny. I don't have to like it. Just because "you" enjoyed it and miss doesn't mean that I will.
I'm allowed to take offense when someone tells me I should enjoy being skinny and that it's not hard.
I am LOL at people who think one can't have orgasm after orgasm. I can have clitoral orgasms until every muscle in my body hurts, vaginal orgasms not so much.
How do you know what we weren't in that exact position from 15-25?
Perhaps you were. Doesn't change the fact that I'm allowed to feel this way. I'm allowed to hate being skinny. I don't have to like it. Just because "you" enjoyed it and miss doesn't mean that I will.
I'm allowed to take offense when someone tells me I should enjoy being skinny and that it's not hard.
I did not enjoy those comments. I did not say I enjoyed those comments. I said that I wish I could go back to those days because I'd definitely take super skinny + obnoxious comments over how I feel now.
I also never said that you weren't entitled to feel the way you do. Just that even though I was annoyed by those comments back then, I'd personally prefer to be unable to put on weight and dealing with comments over feeling how I feel now. Your experience obviously may differ (although you won't know whether yours does for many, many more years).
I feel like I'm really behind life-wise. Everyone my age seems to either be married, pregnant, or already has kids. I feel like i will be the only one at my class reunion that hasnt started a family. I wish I could just get married tomorrow, but my mom is still being weird about talking about it. I know that unlike those people, I have a career and I should be happy, but I'm not. Part of me wants to ignore my family's feeling and just elope, but I don't know if I could handle a lifetime of backlash.
I think I might skip out on FI's family's holidays. I don't want to be bugged about when we are going to have kids when it seems like we will never be able to have a wedding. Let us live at our own pace damnit!
What sucks? Well, clothes don't fit me, I look like a child, and everyone thinks it's awesome to be "super skinny". Oh and random strangers tell me I need to eat more. People ask me if I have an eating disorder. People assume I do drugs. And comments like these; like because I'm skinny I'm not allowed to be upset/annoyed/uncomfortable by it. My feelings aren't valid because I'm suppose to LOVE being skinny.
Just because I'm skinny doesn't mean I'm comfortable in my body or enjoy being skinny. It may be awesome to you but when your body doesn't change from 15 to 25 it's a little depressing.
How do you know what we weren't in that exact position from 15-25?
(Well, except for the drug thing -- no-one accused me of that).
Did anyone say that? No snark, I just must have missed it.
I can have multiple O's, but now I actually know what an O is and what 'damn that feels pretty good but I'm not over the hump yet' is.
Perhaps you were. Doesn't change the fact that I'm allowed to feel this way. I'm allowed to hate being skinny. I don't have to like it. Just because "you" enjoyed it and miss doesn't mean that I will.
I'm allowed to take offense when someone tells me I should enjoy being skinny and that it's not hard.
I did not enjoy those comments. I did not say I enjoyed those comments. I said that I wish I could go back to those days because I'd definitely take super skinny + obnoxious comments over how I feel now.
I also never said that you weren't entitled to feel the way you do. Just that even though I was annoyed by those comments back then, I'd personally prefer to be unable to put on weight and dealing with comments over feeling how I feel now. Your experience obviously may differ (although you won't know whether yours does for many, many more years).
Sorry, that wasn't specifically meant to be bitchy towards YOU. More of the general "YOU".
My experience may differ, it may be the same as your. I don't doubt that it could change. But as of right now, I truly hate being skinny.
I agree! I loved my days of being a rail without trying at all. I am curious about what sucks about it.
What sucks? Well, clothes don't fit me, I look like a child, and everyone thinks it's awesome to be "super skinny". Oh and random strangers tell me I need to eat more. People ask me if I have an eating disorder. People assume I do drugs. And comments like these; like because I'm skinny I'm not allowed to be upset/annoyed/uncomfortable by it. My feelings aren't valid because I'm suppose to LOVE being skinny.
Just because I'm skinny doesn't mean I'm comfortable in my body or enjoy being skinny. It may be awesome to you but when your body doesn't change from 15 to 25 it's a little depressing.
just because you created a new screen name doesn't mean everything you posted on your old screen name has been forgotten.
you've posted a few times about wanting to lose weight (3 pounds, but still) and you joined MFP and added some of us to help with your weight loss goal.
my confession: I can't remember the last time I gave SO a blowjob. he misses them too. or he did - but he stopped mentioning it. I seriously hate it! the only time I can handle it is when I'm drunk. I just think it's gross and I can't bring myself to do it.
the worst part is that he regularly does down on me - almost every time we're intimate.
What sucks? Well, clothes don't fit me, I look like a child, and everyone thinks it's awesome to be "super skinny". Oh and random strangers tell me I need to eat more. People ask me if I have an eating disorder. People assume I do drugs. And comments like these; like because I'm skinny I'm not allowed to be upset/annoyed/uncomfortable by it. My feelings aren't valid because I'm suppose to LOVE being skinny.
Just because I'm skinny doesn't mean I'm comfortable in my body or enjoy being skinny. It may be awesome to you but when your body doesn't change from 15 to 25 it's a little depressing.
just because you created a new screen name doesn't mean everything you posted on your old screen name has been forgotten.
you've posted a few times about wanting to lose weight (3 pounds, but still) and you joined MFP and added some of us to help with your weight loss goal.
get your story straight, girl.
Whoa bitch. I'm quite aware of that, thank you very much.
There's not really apps for gaining weight so yes I joined MFP to maintain my current weight. I'm not looking to lose weight. I'm looking to tone up and was hoping MFP would help. It's not.
As for wanting to lose 3 lbs, well, I don't recall that as closely as you do. I'd imagine I was feeling bloated or having a fat day. Which yes, skinny girls can have.
I don't trust women who don't have any female friends.
I suspect that sometimes girls like to brag about that even if it isn't true because they want people to think that there must be something about them that women are so jealous of that women won't be friends with them.
I think that a lot of girls treat gay men as tokens, and I hate it.
I agree in women claiming this like it is some sort of thing of which to be proud. And I agree with your second point as well.
my confession: I can't remember the last time I gave SO a blowjob. he misses them too. or he did - but he stopped mentioning it. I seriously hate it! the only time I can handle it is when I'm drunk. I just think it's gross and I can't bring myself to do it.
the worst part is that he regularly does down on me - almost every time we're intimate.
This is us too. I just hate it so so much. Poor H.
2. 1-3 lbs. But this is probably more about toning. I'm not liking the state of my thighs right now. And the extra roll I'm sprouting on my tummy.
it's not a big deal dude, but seriously - the absolute refusal to acknowledge things that come out of your mouth makes my eyes bleed. or something.
Oh lordy. Taking things out of context =/= not owning them.
My tainted views, as quoted above, lead me to believe that tinier is better. I hate being skinny because it makes me have an unhealthy body image. Because people are always commenting on my weight, I feel the need to be tiny. I can't really explain it but I have such a tainted body image. Another reason I'm in therapy.
Again, I have a terrible body image. I hate being skinny because it's all I've ever known. It's what strangers comment on the most. It's what I was teased about the most in elementary school.
Finally, even as a skinny girl I'm still allowed to have fat days. I'm still a girl who doesn't always like the look of my thighs. I still have insecure days and hate my body.
I feel like I'm really behind life-wise. Everyone my age seems to either be married, pregnant, or already has kids. I feel like i will be the only one at my class reunion that hasnt started a family. I wish I could just get married tomorrow, but my mom is still being weird about talking about it. I know that unlike those people, I have a career and I should be happy, but I'm not. Part of me wants to ignore my family's feeling and just elope, but I don't know if I could handle a lifetime of backlash.
I think I might skip out on FI's family's holidays. I don't want to be bugged about when we are going to have kids when it seems like we will never be able to have a wedding. Let us live at our own pace damnit!
I don't mean this in a snarky way at all but it seems odd to fault FI's family for not letting you live life at your own pace when the first paragraph seems to indicate that you aren't doing that because you are living life at your Mom's pace.
I will say, I do find it interesting in light of the discussion upthread that in another active thread here, people are talking about the student body at an all girls' school being known for bitchiness and eating disorders. Kind of perfect timing on that one...
I feel like I'm really behind life-wise. Everyone my age seems to either be married, pregnant, or already has kids. I feel like i will be the only one at my class reunion that hasnt started a family. I wish I could just get married tomorrow, but my mom is still being weird about talking about it. I know that unlike those people, I have a career and I should be happy, but I'm not. Part of me wants to ignore my family's feeling and just elope, but I don't know if I could handle a lifetime of backlash.
I think I might skip out on FI's family's holidays. I don't want to be bugged about when we are going to have kids when it seems like we will never be able to have a wedding. Let us live at our own pace damnit!
you are 22ish and just out of college, no?
are you sure you aren't just wanting everything nownownow because it seems like the next big thing now that school is over?
you are free and happy and in love now. enjoy it! you will have your entire life for parenting and married life. this is the only time you get to enjoy being engaged.
I feel like I'm really behind life-wise. Everyone my age seems to either be married, pregnant, or already has kids. I feel like i will be the only one at my class reunion that hasnt started a family. I wish I could just get married tomorrow, but my mom is still being weird about talking about it. I know that unlike those people, I have a career and I should be happy, but I'm not. Part of me wants to ignore my family's feeling and just elope, but I don't know if I could handle a lifetime of backlash.
I think I might skip out on FI's family's holidays. I don't want to be bugged about when we are going to have kids when it seems like we will never be able to have a wedding. Let us live at our own pace damnit!
I don't mean this in a snarky way at all but it seems odd to fault FI's family for not letting you live life at your own pace when the first paragraph seems to indicate that you aren't doing that because you are living life at your Mom's pace.
Maybe I'm missing backstory.
I totally get what you are saying. I just feel like it is a different type of pressure. It is "I don't want to talk about it" vs "omg you should have been married within weeks of meeting and you should have given us multiple babies by now. Are you trying yet? Let me tell you about this position that helped me conceive 8689643589 kids before I was 25! You guys need to go home and make babies right now!!!". Not to mention that they feel like you should only be engaged for 6 months max.....that just adds even more stress to the situation my mom and I are ignoring.
I feel like I'm really behind life-wise. Everyone my age seems to either be married, pregnant, or already has kids. I feel like i will be the only one at my class reunion that hasnt started a family. I wish I could just get married tomorrow, but my mom is still being weird about talking about it. I know that unlike those people, I have a career and I should be happy, but I'm not. Part of me wants to ignore my family's feeling and just elope, but I don't know if I could handle a lifetime of backlash.
I think I might skip out on FI's family's holidays. I don't want to be bugged about when we are going to have kids when it seems like we will never be able to have a wedding. Let us live at our own pace damnit!
you are 22ish and just out of college, no?
are you sure you aren't just wanting everything nownownow because it seems like the next big thing now that school is over?
you are free and happy and in love now. enjoy it! you will have your entire life for parenting and married life. this is the only time you get to enjoy being engaged.
I know it is insane to feel this way. Well over half of my graduating class of 400-500 has a husband or kid by now. Seeing all these weddings and babies just gives me marriage/baby fever. I'm happy that I chose the career path, but I'm still not happy. I'm just at that awkward place in life where I still want to be young and fun, but everyone else my age is settled down.