Post by starryfish on Apr 22, 2020 13:33:11 GMT -5
oh and I want to mention, when i was paying 50%, it was NOT publicized. You had to call and ask to pay the vacation rate. Several of us mom friends did, but it was not public. So i would definitely call and ask
Post by starryfish on Apr 21, 2020 15:46:39 GMT -5
i wouldn't pay more than 50% to hold my spot....but knowing they got PPP $, i would want to pay less, like 25%. I was paying 50% but then I withdrew my dd because my DH got furloughed. Since we are thinking we are TWing through summer, I am glad we withdrew bc my DD is not going back anytime soon
Post by starryfish on Apr 16, 2020 12:53:06 GMT -5
thank you for the honesty sunflower17, i am glad to hear that even if i dont bond right away, it should happen soon.
clseale, jorja,thank you! These stories all help me SO much to feel normal.
I think last week and the 1/2 half of this week were BAD emotionally. I am doing better and am more positive already. My DD is SUPER excited about being a big sister. I will be sad to have to give her less attention, but i know she will be a good helper too. Just wonder if she will ever go back to daycare by the time the baby is born!
Susie, thank you susie, sorry you had to go through that trauma as well. Mine will be the same genders and ages I think as yours. I thought I didnt care either since I already had a girl, but I just thought having 2 girls would be easier, since they would play together more than girl/boy.
I was a bit shocked when my second was a boy (in the delivery room!) and I worried about them not playing together or me or knowing “what to do” with a boy and they are best friends. They’re 6 and 4 now and they love each other so much. I think your feelings are all normal on a good day, never mind the pandemic and it’s added stress. ((Hugs))
Thank you! That’s helpful to hear! I grew up with just a sister but did have boy cousins that I adored and played with! Good reminder Bc I had more fun playing with my boy cousin then my sister as a kid
We have the hemnes and the drawers on it suck! The bottoms of the drawers fall out no matter how securely we attach them. I love the size and design but my husband hates it, hence why we are getting her a new dresser.
which one ? My DH has the tall chest of drawers and both me and DD have the wide dresser 8 drawer one. I prefer the look of the wide one. Both have been good. Getting a good installation on it is key. I would pay for the install on it if you get another one (my DH did ours but he is SUPER handy and has construction exp)
Post by starryfish on Apr 15, 2020 13:18:54 GMT -5
Susie, thank you susie, sorry you had to go through that trauma as well. Mine will be the same genders and ages I think as yours. I thought I didnt care either since I already had a girl, but I just thought having 2 girls would be easier, since they would play together more than girl/boy.
Post by starryfish on Apr 15, 2020 13:16:53 GMT -5
thanks all, this REALLY REALLY helps to read all of your stories.
I know this situation has added stress with Covid, but I am glad to hear that my feelings are normal. DD is SUPER excited about having a baby brother (she too had gender disappointment at first and told us NO she was having a sister multiple times, but got on board quickly lol)
Post by starryfish on Apr 15, 2020 10:37:16 GMT -5
Short version: When you were PG with second kid....did you freak out? Wonder if you had enough love for another child? Worried you were messing up your family, etc?
Long version: This second pregnancy was very much wanted. It took us 3 years to conceive through multiple failed IUI/IVF. But now that I am PG, its been HARD. I am SO much sicker with this pregnancy, so it makes it hard for me to be happy/bond with this pregnancy. We do have some gender disappointment I am trying to work through (expecting a baby boy). Also my DH got furloughed (works for airlines). Covid. SO much extra stress right now. Neither one of us is EXCITED about this pregnancy now....its just hard. I am worried I cant love another child as much as I love my DD and worried it will be too much for me to handle (DH is a pilot who will be gone for a few days at a time). Just looking for hair pats and wondering if anyone else had these feelings? I know we have extra stress due to COvid right now which super sucks.
Post by starryfish on Apr 12, 2020 20:10:55 GMT -5
My county has 330 cases but 1/3 of them are from one nursing home. But people in my area are still doing play dates, Easter family get together, etc. it’s annoying
No one is judging anyone who "might come in contact with anyone for any reason", and you know that, we are judging parents who cant tell poor little Susie that she cant go out and play with her friends.
I hear you.
I'm just saying don't be so quick to judge. I have seen SO much judgment here and in neighborhood groups when people don't truly know why other families have made the decisions they have made. Let's give people some benefit of the doubt. Let's not always assume people are being stupid and careless.
Perhaps there are essential workers who have no other options for childcare. Perhaps someone is struggling with mental health or addiction, so limited contact with another family is more of a necessity for them. Perhaps two families have agreed to quarantine together and are taking every other precaution possible in order to do so.
My point is we don't always know the full story. Also, keep in mind that the rules are different in different parts of the country. And in some areas, the shelter in place is brand new and people are still learning and adjusting and trying to figure out how to do this.
People are not all blatantly ignoring the rules just for fun. Sure, some people are, but I think for the most part people are trying.
I......So what is your excuse? You said you are playing with two different families right? Why?
My DH and my BFF both got approved for UE. 4/5 was the first date they both could request payment, and now for both of them it shows $0.00 (where before it showed they would get $521 from the state) and that UE is investigating to see if they should get paid or not. Seems weird this is happening to them both (different industries, both laid off bc of COVID).
Wondering if anyone else had this happen? Of course noone can get through the UE phone line bc its so busy.
Your child was sick, you can't make up due to your schedule. That's a you problem. They are offering a refund or makeup for the time they closed, they did their due diligence. Do not dispute with the credit card. You will burn their bridges faster than Sherman burned Georgia.
Did you take your 7 month old to the doctor or do a web visit? 104.8 is pretty high. ETA: glad he is doing better! I'm sure it's more challenging than ever to figure out when it's necessary to seek out medical care when a visit to the doctor's office can be riskier than staying home.
We called as soon as we knew it was that high on Saturday morning, but they had JUST closed for the weekend. They recommended we try to keep him comfortable until Monday and really discouraged pediatric urgent care unless his situation deteriorated. My pedi is doing carside visits so they encouraged that, but it wouldn't be until monday afternoon. We were able to keep his fever down to 102 by alternating tylenol and ibuprofen. He was eating plenty (lots of BM and even a bunch of purees). This morning when he woke up the fever was gone. Of course. LOL It was stressful. Poor guy. It also makes zero sense, because we haven't left the house in 2 weeks so where did this virus come from?
My 3 year old had this too. She hasn’t been pot of the house in 1.5 weeks. It was 24 hours. So weird.
i pulled my daughter but we paid 50% to them. I just gave my notice today to unenroll because my DH got laid off and will be out of work for several months, so we cant pay them if hes not working and hes home.
I would keep your baby at home. Ask to pay 50% or unenroll if you arent worried about a spot.
My loans are with Navient. I just logged in and it says "$0" due on April 4. But I don't know what it usually says. I also got excited last week when I read about the interest not accumulating on the federal loans and that my loans qualified! Then I dug deeper and found I owe $43 in interest total for the next 15 years. So basically I've been paying interest for the last 15 years. Great.
Be careful, I logged into my husbands navient and it said $0 for April 1 but we have auto pay set up. I canceled auto pay and then it says we owe our original payment April 1.