Post by UnderProtest on Oct 19, 2015 21:07:47 GMT -5
I moved from a mcol to a vvhcol but we are just renting so I can't speak to that part. But I can commiserate with the unsettled feeling and the trailing spouse bit. Good luck. It sucks being the trailing spouse.
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 14, 2015 10:58:50 GMT -5
Me too. I've been trying to psyche myself up for another two hour drive with two four year olds. I am tired of traveling all over with the kids for people who can't make plans. I'm not doing this for fun and I gave you people five months notice. Why can't you make and stick to plans?
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 12, 2015 20:59:00 GMT -5
Today was a busy day and this weekend was busy too. I need a day of rest and now people want me to travel tomorrow because they can't make plans. I am aggravated and don't know what to do about it.
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 7, 2015 18:39:55 GMT -5
NYC, Tokyo, Hong Kong or anywhere super crowded. I also wouldn't pick any place that doesn't get a lot of sun. I've come to realize that sunshine is important for my mental health.
irene adler and Pom The dress fits today!!!! Apparently I just have to put it on before I eat and never take it off. Oh and and have a winch to get the zipper up the side where all the material is gathered.
What are the chances it will still fit in three weeks? I had originally intended to eat my way through the south.
Oh no, I can't believe it doesn't fit! I would be so pissed to forgo all the food I've been looking forward to though. Does any of the other bridesmaids maybe have a dress that's too large that you could swap with? Not ideal, I know, but think of the food!
It's so stupid because it didnt fit in the rib cage. I specifically ordered one that wasn't fitted on the stomach or thighs. All of the other bridesmaids got to try their dresses on so no one would trade with me. Plus the only one I know is a size zero so my fat size four would never fit in her dress.
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 7, 2015 10:21:31 GMT -5
irene adler and Pom The dress fits today!!!! Apparently I just have to put it on before I eat and never take it off. Oh and and have a winch to get the zipper up the side where all the material is gathered.
What are the chances it will still fit in three weeks? I had originally intended to eat my way through the south.
Can it be altered or a replacement ordered in time?
My mom is looking into altering it. Her first suggestion was to lose five pounds. Unfortunately I can't lose five pounds in the rib cage. I specifically picked a dress that was loose around the waist and hips and ordered two to three sizes bigger and it still won't zip. Ugh. It took three months to get so I doubt a replacement is possible.
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 7, 2015 9:31:41 GMT -5
Truthfully, I want to move back to the States right now. Preferably the southeast. Maybe at a different time in my life it would have been more enjoyable but right now it just seems so hard. I'm really liking being "home" right now despite the weather issues.
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 7, 2015 8:53:47 GMT -5
0-8 Cincinnati (moved for dads job) 8-18 Indianapolis (moved for dads job) 18-22 South Carolina (college) 22- 34 Charlotte, NC (first job, met husband there, had kids) 34- now London (moved for husbands job)
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 6, 2015 21:56:48 GMT -5
The beginning of my US tour started with Kiawah and Columbia, SC. Now my daughter is puking and the bridesmaid dress I'm supposed to wear in a couple weeks doesn't fit. Oh, sorry, this was supposed to be happy thoughts?
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 6, 2015 19:11:04 GMT -5
Some places were hit much harder than others, you really have to know the area where the house is. I was on Kiawah and our hotel and a lot of the villas were okay, but the roads were a mess. Supposedly someone ran over an alligator because the roads were a part of the river and lagoons. We had to take a school bus to get off the island (our car is still there). But when we got off the island, only certain areas were flooded. As long as downtown Charleston is open and the house is okay, you should be fine. Eat and shop! I didn't get to do that.
Post by UnderProtest on Sept 24, 2015 14:10:25 GMT -5
I am a SAHM and I admit it is really tough some days. Part of it is the twin thing, but a lot of it is the lack of family/friend support. But I really couldn't imagine it any other way. I don't know how working moms get themselves and two little beings out the door at a decent hour every morning. My husband and I always planned for me to be a SAHM and getting pregnant with twins only solidified that decision. Luckily he has an excellent career (I always considered myself to have a job while he had the career) which affords us the opportunity for me to stay home and not put our future at risk. The kids are now in preschool and do get sick, but I don't feel the pressure to send them to school during those times. We veg at home and try not to infect the rest of the world. I do struggle with the lack of goals and achievements (a good day is sometimes getting the kids fed and in bed without strangling one of them). Sometimes it is a little isolating because of the city I live in, but I'm also an introvert at heart.
Not sure if this answers any of your questions, I feel like I am rambling......another casualty to staying at home, the ability to form a coherent sentence. Please let me know if you have any specific questions.
Post by UnderProtest on Sept 22, 2015 15:13:40 GMT -5
I'm so annoyed at "friends" from home. I'm traveling across an ocean and will drive up to see you people. Is it too hard to pick a day/time to meet up? I'm not driving up there to not do anything. Okay, so maybe I will because I want to shop and eat, but I won't drag my kids with me. And don't tell me you are sad that I can't make your kid's event when I've been asking you for dates for two months and you never bothered to tell me about the event.
Post by UnderProtest on Sept 22, 2015 11:33:54 GMT -5
I think I've given up. My first thought was at least he got it. I have had at least 3 packages just never arrive courtesy of the Royal Mail. No one here is surprised or upset by this common occurrence. But yeah, I would be annoyed.
Post by UnderProtest on Sept 22, 2015 11:32:18 GMT -5
There are Peanuts Halloween costumes online at Target right now. I haven't thought of them in ages and then both of these pop up (was looking earlier today).
Post by UnderProtest on Sept 21, 2015 11:16:04 GMT -5
I have twins that are nearly four and there are still some days that I want to strangle my husband. Give yourself both a break, things are extremely stressful now (not even including school). The first six months of twin motherhood is survival mode. You are a courageous woman for even considering school. It does sound like you may have some additional things going on that you may want to bring up with a trusted doctor or therapist. I didn't go through depression when I had my twins, although it was a MAJOR adjustment being a stay at home mom and I made the choice to do so. I have had depression issues since moving and it really does take over your life and your self esteem. Give yourself the freedom to let the house to go to shit and to not feel pressured to make dinner every night. And guess what, your kids won't remember that you didn't spend individual time with them. Don't put all those pressures on yourself. Hugs.