You are about to enter into a major legal agreement, which affects your business, all of your property, the lives of your children, your schedule from now until they are all 18 and where the other party is non-communicative and impulsive. Neither of you has relevant expertise to navigate the system nor draft well crafted and binding documentation.
and you are considering *not* hiring a professional? Do it for your kids.
our save the date was a cd. lol. For years, friends would pull it out occasionally.
We had two versions - one to send to the "grown ups" and a sarcastic one for the "kids"
Andar conmigo was on it because I really loved that song around the time I was wedding planning. I haven't thought of that song in years but I'm playing it now
Something in heavy rotation for us because everyone likes it and it's easy: Antipasto Pasta/"What's in the cabinet?" dinner.
1) Put the pasta water on to boil.
2) I cut a package of Italian chicken sausages into rounds and then brown them in a skillet. (then remove from heat. I usually dump them into one of the bowls I will be serving dinner in.)
3) Deglaze pan with a touch of white wine or chicken stock, then dump in whatever I have on hand of the following: jar of cut artichoke hearts, julienned roasted red peppers, halved olives, capers, halved cherry tomatoes or a can of diced tomatoes, a few spoonfuls of olive tapenade, etc. (Sometimes pesto - but then add it late). Mostly I'm looking for three factors: (i) enough of everything to make a sauce for the amount of pasta I'm making, (ii) balanced flavors and (ii) something that will make it a little thicker and saucy, not thin like a pasta with clams or primavera sauce).
4) simmer on low until pasta is cooked (most shapes work).
5) Dump al dente drained pasta into skillet and toss to coat.
6) serve onto plates/bowls, top with reserved browned sausage and parmesan.
When we are talking about numbers, it's important to remember not all trans kids are out. For some kids, being stealth is very important (for safety, for preference, cultural acceptance, whatever). These laws are also one more way to try and out kids.
Kids aren't being stealth to evade sports rules or get some sort of "benefit." In fact, participating in sports is that much harder for those kids (it's hard to be stealth in a locker room). They are just a kid, living their life, who happens to also like playing volleyball/soccer/softball/whatever. They usually aren't the best player on the team - just one more kid out there on the field. (there is so much sexism bound up in the idea that the average trans girl would somehow have a big advantage over her teammates.) Despite what is implied by these laws, if they started transition early their hormones are likely to have created sports disadvantages (a side effect of blockers can be reduced height as well as lower bone density).
Age range would be a factor for me. Kids from 3-16 love bounce houses. However many bounce houses, you'll want alternating shifts (so the 5 and unders have their time, then the 6-9, then the big kids.
Couching the hate as an effort to protect women is rich. They give zero shits about women.
Right? The people claiming to want to protect women are the very people I feel I need to be protected from.
I don't need protection from trans people, I need protection from Christian nationalists and wannabe fascists.
the map for states restricting abortion and reproductive health access, the map of states with anti transgender healthcare laws and the map of places where people die younger because of lack of healthcare have a lot of overlap.
NC is considering a similar bill. There is no language to keep trans boys from playing on boys teams. At least here, the rhetoric is mirroring trans-exclusionary feminism (from people who clearly don’t give a damn about actual feminism or women).
But you can be damned well sure all these fuckers will be keeping trans boys/non binary kids from playing on girls'/women's teams soon (if they have done *anything* to transition away from cis visions of femininity)
Some new “first” every day. This is the first explicitly anti-trans bill that has passed a chamber of Congress. Yay.
Things are going to get so bad in so many ways if we can’t hold these narrow majorities. I am genuinely scared.
FUCK. THEM.
I had just had a first - the first family who moved here because their kid could no longer get medical care in their former home state I have met a number of families who relocated for a more affirming environment, but this is the first time I've met someone who moved because of these new laws.
The growing possibility these laws could go national is So. Fucking. Awful.
Following because I just booked a trip there with my mom this fall.
My only experience is my husband and I had a long layover there a few years ago. We saw the canal and wandered around Casco Viejo. We liked drinks on the rooftop at Tántalo.
Well, this was a bust
I'm thinking of making it a few day stop over on our way to Guatemala. We'll probably stay with friends in Panama City. I'd love to spend a few days in the San Blas islands again.
I work in an almost all male department. We have someone visiting today and one of them referred to myself and another female staff as "girls" as in "The girls can show you that later"
It rubbed me the wrong way. I'm not a girl, I'm a 40 year old woman.
Also, I'm kind of cranky. Would you be annoyed?
"Okay, grandpa"
If you refer to women as "girls" I assume you are around 80 years old. Is he? If it wasn't a professional setting, I'd be tempted to tell him that makes him sound old - fought in WWII old.
I was an overworked, overextended, overachiever with very little free time. But when I *was* able to get out I had a favorite bar in North Beach from around age 16 where I was regular (during summers, and infrequent regular year round).
Out of curiosity, why Tylenol? I think of Tylenol as the pain medicine that doesn't do anything (unless combined with something else) and yet is easy to overdose and become dangerous.
Well, I know they definitely don’t recommend ibuprofen or aspirin because they can cause more bleeding.
And now I know something new thanks for all the feedback and good luck with the tattoo!
Out of curiosity, why Tylenol? I think of Tylenol as the pain medicine that doesn't do anything (unless combined with something else) and yet is easy to overdose and become dangerous.
I wonder if it includes school libraries, or if it includes other actions intended to restrict books. In my district, a group has been requesting copies of all book orders so that they can monitor them— this has a chilling effect, but I’m not sure if it’d be counted in the number in the article?
It wouldn't be. The ALA's numbers are also self-reported, so districts or librarians who choose not to report bans are never going to be tabulated. This also doesn't include "soft censorship," or books that are not purchased or are preemptively discarded out of concern that they may be targeted. I confess that I didn't request replacements for any of our outdated nonfiction books on human anatomy or sexuality this year--even though I was weeding extensively in that section and updating it--because I knew I'd never get those titles past the parents who watch our purchase request lists like hawks. If I didn't have my purchasing requests emailed to parents every month (and then have to wait 30 days for comments before I purchase anything) I'd have updated those titles in a heartbeat.
COVID. India has that new strain of covid that affects your eyes and you clearly have it.
(or the antihistamine or something else. The above was tongue in cheek. I think it's itchy eyes and conjunctivitis that is showing up, so very different from what you describe).
Sleeping at your desk depends a lot on the work you are doing.
I remember being a new first year associate and sitting at my desk at 8 and then 9 and then 10 pm on a Friday waiting for the final set of signed documents to come through on a deal. I'd been there since 8am the previous morning. In retrospect, I should have set an alarm and taken 30 minute naps while everything rolled in from different parties in different countries, some of whom had clearly stepped out to eat their dinner before signing.
My first response would be to tell my kid how badly and irresponsibly she behaved towards her hosts in this situation - they kindly took her on vacation, and were responsible for her welfare. She took off in the middle of the night, to somewhere she'd never been, to see people she'd never met without telling them, enabling her irresponsible friend and putting a second person at risk. I would not let her off the hook and make her write an apology to that family. Things turned out okay - but only because she got lucky, not because she did the right thing.
This isn't Kristin Smart. Your daughter is 14, was out of state and snuck off at night to see a stranger via a car driven by another stranger (Uber). She actively left a place of safety to follow a bad decision rather than alert someone and get the help that would prevent the risk. Kristin was 5 years older and an adult. She was free to decide to go to a party.
The existing punishments are good but I'd want more personal responsibility for her role and less blaming the friend or parents. And some of her efforts should include a direct apology to her hosts.
I'm come from an Easter where I provided the food, but my mother (no dementia) provided the location. We arrived to find the dishwasher had broken that morning. She still wanted to use the good china/silver and wouldn't let us just move it to another house because, as someone above said, "hostess mode." She had literally hidden the dish soap and wouldn't let anyone wash anything.(despite us asking numerous times). I snuck out some things in the bags I'd brought things in and washed it at home and returned it - but I certainly wouldn't expect others to do that.
You've acknowledged your great aunt is an unreliable narrator due to dementia. The relatives in question are back wherever they live across the country (ie. unlikely to repeat this) and can't fix anything now. The info is coming third hand (the aide told your grandma who told you). While what we have heard suggests they were assholes, I'd want to talk to someone before coming out guns blazing.
While you may be able to negotiate a deal on the work they do, it's highly unlikely they'll pay money towards the work of a third party tradesperson, nor would I expect them to complete that work themselves.
Whatever needs to be done to correct the landscaping is likely to fall to you (unless, after looking through all the documentation and needed repairs, you feel this merits something like a small claims court case).
ETA: I misread that the same company did both the drainage and landscaping. I agree with those who say any remedial landscaping should be covered by them.
We've explained ad naseum that there's a difference between being mean (she dealt with that a lot last year) vs poking and prodding in jest.
In addition to not recognizing intent, she also seems to have escalated things here. Have you talked about things in terms of proportionality? It sounds like she had a level 6 or 7 response to a level 2 or 3 offense. Even if she doesn't understand it wasn't malicious, she can try to keep her response at the same level.
(You might take it further with examples of level 2/3/4/5/6/7/8 responses that are appropriate and the same level response that while proportionate are still not appropriate. From example, saying "knock it off" might be proportionate - but interrupting the teacher to say it may be inappropriate.)
In addition to proportionality, we talk about not inserting yourself into someone else's drama and not escalating things so *you* become the problem someone else started.
I generally don't report on every little thing that happens with the kids, including discipline. If something concerning happens, or if I see a pattern of behavior we want to address, I might raise that. But generally DH doesn't know the details of how I spend time with the kids. It's not a strategy as much as a reality.
Any medication that someone has an ideological opposition to could be on the chopping block.
or financial opposition.
let’s not forget that much of what hobby lobby didn’t like about the birth control mandate was the cost. They hung their hat on religious objection, but it was a financially motivated religious objection.