Birth signs have zero to do with why you are the way you are. You are not impatient and quick to irritate because you are (insert astrological sign). It’s just the way you are.
it’s so bizarre to me that the zodiac signs are still in the cultural conversation in modern times. of all the woo stuff out there, this feels the least moored to reality.
Personally, I strive to be an adventurous eater less than I strive to be a polite one. As a guest, I would eat almost anything served by a host and teach my kids to do the same. I feel that skill is falling out of fashion.
Well, I would hope someone wouldn’t serve me grasshoppers! Lol, especially since we only eat at close friends houses really. Not that I wouldn’t eat at someone else’s house, but we’re just not invited to much like that.
I don't expect grasshoppers, either. lol.
I think the most useful "adventurous" eating isn't crickets, it's smiling through Marge's mediocre casserole.
Personally, I strive to be an adventurous eater less than I strive to be a polite one. As a guest, I would eat almost anything served by a host and teach my kids to do the same. I feel that skill is falling out of fashion.
Thank you for sharing that, I wasn’t aware but am not surprised. There was one single line in the movie alluding to the contribution of Native Americans (that the US took their land for the tests.)
the movie was very much told from his perspective rather than an attempt at objectivity. I took it as a ‘glimpse inside the root of destruction and see the complexity ’ style film. Like hearing McNamara’s thoughts in Fog of War.
I have low spice tolerance. I've tried to raise it over the years, but anything "medium" spice level at a decent Indian or Thai place just tastes like pain to me. I also have lost my interest in some organ meats and won't eat any animal I've had as a pet/cared for (or their "relatives")
But other than that, I eat most things when offered. But I don't think those specific crickets would make the cut and I've never had a pet cricket so that isn't the issue.
This is related to the UO thread but is a question: do ADHD meds help if the diagnosis is incorrect? That is, if someone self-diagnoses and is able to get the rX, will they feel like the meds are working for those issues?
the issue is that people can misuse ADHD meds. They have a street value because stimulants have an effect on everyone. Just a different one on ADHD (hyping you up v calming you down)
It’s why we pushed to get the kids diagnosed by 12. After that, some doctors will assume you are med seeking. Kaiser barely agreed to diagnose DD because she was 12 (we’d been asking for years).
Don’t tell people they can use your pool anytime. Seriously, people. Even adults who are great swimmers can drown if things go sideways.
DH swam in the lane next to a man every morning who died last year (he skipped that morning and unfairly blames himself and thinks it might have gone differently if he’d been there). And he isn’t the only athletic, strong swimmer adult I’ve ‘known’ who died swimming in a pool.
Oooh! This is unpopular: I’m fine with my ADHD being self diagnosed.
Teachers wanted me tested as a kid but my mom didn’t because of the stigma. (She felt like I should just ‘do better’). I’ve now gone through the process for two kids and know all the literal boxes I check (things like getting calm/sleepy from stimulants.Impulsivity to the point I’ve moved countries twice on short notice - once within 48 hours, etc.). Most relevantly, my husband specializes in ADHD.
Kaiser has said they won’t diagnose adults so it’s not worth trying to jump through the hoops. I put that energy into getting the kids what they need so they don’t go thorough what I did. At this point, it’s mostly too late for me anyhow.
The self/family diagnosis is enough to make me feel a little less like shit about myself. That has value to me even if it’s just a weird self narrative fairy tale.
‘Sex is a funny word’ has been recommended to us as inclusive. I never plan to have a ‘p in v’ centeric conversation. Neither when talking about how babies are made nor how people interact. It’s only one part of the equation.
I asked at the hospital when they were born and the nurse said she wasn't allowed to tell me.She said too many people used it to try and figure out paternity and it was an issueso they only told in certain cases of medical need.She reiterated that if I told a doctor or ER what blood type they were, they would retest anyway so it was irrelevant.
Lol. This seems like ridiculous and outdated reasoning on the hospital's part in the age of easy, reliable genetic paternity testing. (Ridiculous reason to refuse to tell.)
Kaiser knows but I don't. They told us when the kids were born but it was all such a blur. I think they were O+. I should ask the pediatrician at the next appointment (she'll know where to look in the record).
I'm like chilerellanos . it's not that I like my appearance or body, it's just that I don't have any energy to think about it after all the general self loathing is done. Who really cares what I look like?
I have a running negative monologue about myself that I basically ignore and try to focus on getting shit done instead. Perhaps the world *would* be a better place if I never existed. But I do. Thinking about that isn't going to help anyone who actually is in my life. For example - I'm the mom my kids are stuck with, so I'd better be the best version of that I can be. That's the only option.
As a general rule: Don't over mix, don't over work nor roll it out too much.
As a beginner, a pretty crust probably means you did one of the above. If it comes together enough to get in the pie pan but looks a little ugly, it'll likely taste fantastic
I don't. I can remember staying awake for a 28 hour travel time that started as an evening flight out of SFO to Asia. Same for an SFO to Africa trip. Meds/alcohol have made me nauseated or hyper. I just write off the first day or two of any far flung trip.
I feel like every new build in the NYC metro has been billed as a "luxury" house/apartment/condo/whatever ever since I was an adult. So that was in 2005,
That was a real thing at that time. A bunch of shitty landlords figured out that if they pushed out their existing tenants (through intimidation and complete neglect) they could do a bunch of "luxury" renovations, tack those onto the legal rental rates and push rent control/rent stabilized buildings out of legal protections and into the free market rates. It was brutal. (I worked some tenant protection law at the time). During the 5 years I lived in NYC, the only time someone tried to rob me, they were NYPD on the job and the only time I feared for my safety it was goons sent by my tenants' landlord.
I’ve never heard of a car defaulting to your phone, my H’s car is a 2022 and you still have to hit media for it to play from your phone.
rubytue - check out VW, I have a golf GTI hatchback, they make one that’s slightly bigger than the regular size gold too.
When my phone is plugged in (like to charge) the car defaults to playing music from my phone. I have to go back and physically change it to a different source. It’s super annoying, and I can’t figure out how to not make it so this. I’ve been through all the settings. It’s an Apple CarPlay thing.
OMG.
My car defaults to playing from my phone when I step into the car (charging or not) - which is fine. My standard car ride is listening to podcasts. But heaven forbid DH gets in the car. The car kicks my phone off and defaults to his. And he doesn't use his phone for music *or* podcasts. It's one of those iPhones that came with U2 on it. So we'll pick him up and suddenly the speakers will start blasting one of those songs that no one wants to hear. I can't get him to remove the songs from his phone (even though he hates U2) and I can't get the car to stop favoring him.
It's like when the kids would only say "DaDa." lol.
Another cultural pressure was the "experiences not things" plus minimalism push a few years ago. It switched people's mindset to the idea that an expensive activity is worth it, even though it's fleeting. Add to it the rise fo social media and now any experience can be something you share widely and brag about, also making it seem less fleeting (especially the FOMO of seeing other people's experiences can feel more constant and less fleeting). The pendulum has swung back to more things, but people still expect to do a lot of activities.
So, something did happen, we just don’t know what actually did happen versus Carlee thinking she saw something that she mistook for a toddler or had a mental break. She left the engine running and the car door open so whatever she saw or thought she saw probably spooked her.
honestly, when I first read the description here, it sounded like self abduction to me. (Too many perfectly lined up things - calling. 911 before talking to the child and not keeping them on the phone while she stopped. Being on the phone at the time of the abduction so others would hear her scream, leaving the car still running even though she supposedly had gotten out or talk to the kid, etc.
I had started a reply along those lines until I opened the article and saw this wasn’t a white trumper type. Those have made headlines and the ‘abduction’ is always this level of dramatic and feed into that narrative of human trafficking.
Whatever is the case, I hope she gets the help she needs.
There are pretty much two cases where someone whose job isn’t wining and dining people can drink or look intoxicated and stay in my book. One is something medical that looks like intoxication but isn’t (think undiagnosed diabetes), the others is something like what happened to DH years ago. A client brought him a cookie that he happily snacked on before he realized it was a pot cookie. Once he did, he called me immediately and we talked though telling the front desk he had a sudden illness, having them cancel him patients and I picked him up. But boy was he paranoid as I walked him out of the building that day.
Background - My eldest got dropped by her friend group towards the end of the year. It started with one kid pulling an "invite everyone else" birthday party followed by a big group schism where the remaining half that would naturally fit my kid were mean girl about pushing her out (down to following her around school taunting her because "she looked sad.")
Luckily the school year ended. She has spent her summer with outside of school friends and all is going well enough.
Yesterday - The mom group text chain for the now defunct friend group dings with a text from one mom asking if any of us knew this specific boy in the 9th grade, because our daughters should steer clear. He has been horrible to her kid (aforementioned birthday girl). This is followed by a flurry of messages going around about other incidents at the school, other issues, blah, blah, blah. I initially stay out of it because I don't really want to get involved.
End of day today, every other mom has said *something* so I decide to say something innocuous to just close the loop (a few hours after the last text). I say it's great the kid has her mom in her corner for these tough times and hope the child's summer improves. Simple. direct. nothing personal or remotely rocking the boat, right?
Within seconds, one of the moms of the small group that excluded and targeted my kid, chastises me about how having our kids' back is not enough - we moms have to stick together because otherwise how will we ever stop our kids from getting made fun of or bullied, blah, blah, blah.
I'm annoyed at the hypocrisy but obviously not responding. My kid isn't even around right now and I intend to forget all about it by camp pick up time.
I never really played with barbies and find the cartoon mind numbing. I'm hoping this is something very different given who is involved. I plan to see it
My youngest is at trans camp this week. My heart sings daily - for my kid, for the love and validation they are getting there, for the amazing adults who make it happen, for the whole community. And I get to watch my kid bring others joy, too.