She has to constantly vocalize her rage and hatred for people she’s never met and who have no bearing on her wealthy, powerful life. I’ll never understand it.
I'd also probably ask, out of curiosity, why some people clock in and out and some don't.
From what I gather, no one really knows lol. When I was hired, I was told my job classification had to clock in and out. Some of my other coworkers also clock in and out, some don't.
It sounds like they have different job classifications if they don't need to clock in. Scheduling might be affected by those differences.
DH is a county employee. Some other people who do the exact same job, but were hired later, are contract. There are many differences in how the county handles the job classifications between the two groups even though the actual duties are the same. (different scheduling requirements, different retirement plans, different union membership, etc.) All doctors. Same patient base. Completely different for paperwork purposes.
(As Cville said, if you want to bring up your own situation, that's fine, but don't make it about your colleague. There are so many ways this could go wrong if you insert yourself. Can you imagine how shitty you'll feel if you found out that is when they take FMLA leave to go to chemo/takes her autistic kid to therapy/changes bedpans for grandma? Leave well enough alone.)
I save empty Bath and Body Works foaming hand soap bottles. Then I fill them with Dial foaming hand soap of a similar scent. (The Dial comes in 32 ounce and 52 ounce sizes, and is $.15 and $.17 per ounce depending on the price. So, much less expensive than B&BW, and also uses less plastic.) I use some for myself. I give some out to family members with large families who don't have the household funds to shop at Bath and Body Works. I don't tell them that it's actually Dial.
I’m confused. No one notices that the soap doesn’t smell like Sunkissed Sunflowers or whatever? I mean hand soap is hand soap but it would be so strange to me if someone gifted me BBW soap and it smelled exactly like the Dial foaming soap, which we use at work and I’d recognize in a second.
Of course they do.
And they all think of her as their crazy aunt who refills soaps and then regifts them. It's odd enough (but common) to see this happen in a public bathroom setting (like a restaurant or something). In that setting I always assume they started with the real thing and then are too cheap/lazy to replace the empty bottle with something generic when they switched brands.
This sounds similar to a book I just read about female code breakers in WWII in that they were so trained to keep what they were doing secret that their 60+ year old kids only learned about it during the interviews for the book. These women were geniuses and heroes, and their loved ones just thought they'd been secretaries to male military officers (no offense at all to secretaries or their contributions, but you know what I mean).
PS. Let me know if you want me to delete the quote.
My great aunt did this. I only found out at her funeral. I bring her up with my the kids every Memorial Day
tell me you are right handed without telling me you are right handed. lol.
it doesn't smudge, like say a whiteboard would, if thats what you mean? It does take about 1 second to dry but you won't mess it up with your hand if that's what you mean.
If it works for you, that's great
Most writing implements function and feel different if you are pushing rather than pulling and most ink or gel pens are much more smudgy than the average right hander realizes. White boards are awful, but anything that takes a whole second to dry/absorb is going to smudge.
I started using a Rocketbook for my do lists and other quick notes. I love that i can erase and start all over without going through tons of paper. You can also scan/photograph the pages to save digitally but I don't generally save the things I use it for.
RockNVoll , yep. Religiously watered it every few days until she found out. I can't help but chuckle every time I think about it. My sister.. the SMART one.. watering a fake plant. I die.
She never noticed it didn’t grow or change?? Hahaha
Some can take this as evidence the plant was hyperrealistic. I take is as an explanation for why she killed every other plant she owned. She literally can't tell what a plant is, even when up close/touching/watering it for a year.
"Dunaway had published the first English-language book on the subject of no-knead and was furious: She believed that the Times had rewritten history, not once, but twice."
"Who gets to be a revolutionary? Throughout the history of bread-baking, female bakers toiled in domestic settings, making bread for their families (or white women’s families), a fact that people like Michael Pollan have often encouraged home cooks to romanticize. “Don’t eat anything your great-great-great grandmother wouldn’t recognize as food,” Pollan says, forgetting the often hidden unpaid labor that women and people of color had to perform for generations to get that kind of food on the table. The lionizing of domestic recipes tends to happen when they are translated into a mainstream professional sphere, frequently by male chefs."
I don't have fake plants. (To me, it makes about as much sense as a plastic pet or a very realistic baby doll. Keeping it alive and watching it grow is half the point *for me*)
But I'm sure I have things you wouldn't choose.
Just don't get hung up on whether it always passes for real, lol.
I don't mind a fake plant in someone else's home. I do find it strange if they actively pretend it's alive. The hostess of my bridal shower went on and on about how amazing it was her orchid "just happens to be in bloom right now." The "plant" was pretty, and was great both in person and in the photos. But it wasn't "blooming." It was super awkward. lol.
It’s behind a paywall, but I’m guessing it’s the same database you can pull from the UCOP site. The UC system has only compiled the data through fall 2022. I heard 2023 was really bad.
It's broken down by each public high school - what percentage of seniors applied to each UC, what percentage of those who applied were admitted, and what percentage of those admitted chose to attend. It gives the average GPA for each of those as well. So it's the same data, but in a much more useable form (and different pieces of info aggregated).
But truth is, I have friends with current seniors who have 4.2 GPA or around there and didn't get into any UC schools this year. California public universities are really hard to get into these days. Luckily, his list includes all types of schools.
So true. Did you see this from the Chronlcle? Yikes.
Eh. Twitter enabled and created modern Trump in many ways. Let's not lionize it. It feels like celebrating Pence on Jan 7th...
Well, I didn’t mean it like that! Lol. I was thinking of the resources that were previously difficult. Posters have discussed them previously, but I’m thinking things like medical stuff. I’m not really expressing myself well here, and my apologies for that.
I think we’ve discussed this before, but do you think tanking Twitter was by design? I mean, it’s a business loss, and a tax reduction, it disables a good info stream from many reputable and otherwise hard to find sources. It also diminishes liberal efforts, such as voting rights, medical care, education resources, etc etc etc.
I am asking because if it is really by design, it’s genius in just the most evil way.
Also, I know they’ve sold Twitter and it’s gone forever, but can they replicate the platform in some way to re-establish any good that can be salvaged? I do realize I might be coming across as naive or dumb. I accept that with the pushing the “create post” button.
Eh. Twitter enabled and created modern Trump in many ways. Let's not lionize it. It feels like celebrating Pence on Jan 7th...
I'm sorry. Is it this Saturday? If so, it's probably Easter weekend reasons.
It’s next Saturday, but RSVP date is tomorrow. Maybe I’ll get a flurry in the next day, we’ll see.
Can you reach out personally via text to a few of the kids who matter most to him and ask if they can make it? I find some people don't track email invites well but will respond to a personal text.
It may not be a perfect help, but every parent I suggested this to with an impulsive kid, found this book helpful to use. I'm guessing it's in the US as well.
Thanks everyone! I think our budget per night is a little low and that could be why we are seeing limited inventory. We are looking at popular destinations in Mexico (and considering Guatemala) so that's why I've already started looking.
That should be plenty of time for Guatemala. I was considering that for spring break as recently as last month and found good prices for the places we like to stay. I didn't book because of political considerations. But I still see a ton or options for August, which is the next time we are considering (with a few days in Panama since Copa let's you add without adding cost).
(As that suggests, I don't plan vacations a year in advance. 3 months is a lot of lead time for me. Many of our trips are booked on much shorter notice, Often under a month. But as a kid and adult, I've moved internationally four times with less than a month's notice so I'm used to quick planning).
I feel like these threads have been posted a lot lately, so here’s my usual reminder that taxes are important and fund necessary things like services, education, infrastructure and, super important for retirement, healthcare! I guess to each their own, but I’d think long and hard about what your retirement would look like in places like those mentioned that may have seriously underfunded government programs.
I saw a few news stories recently about medical students not wanting to train at hospitals in states that have outlawed Roe v. Wade. So that’ll be just great when we’re retirement age and local hospitals in those states haven’t been able to recruit a pipeline of doctors.
I’d prioritize a progressive state over no taxes any day. Taxes generally support social programs and the public good, even when I don’t directly benefit.
This article made me think of your post and inequalities in healthcare by state.
"Life expectancy is hugely unequal across U.S. regions, with major coastal cities not looking much worse than Europe but the South and the eastern heartland doing far worse."
I'm so sorry. Did the doctor give you a timeline for the antibiotics? How long before you should either feel better or contact them for a different prescription?
I thought about putting this in the confessions but I feel so much shame around it I didn't.
Honestly, the fact this has you so sad suggests your kid is generally rocking it and so are you.
Tying shoes is just one of the many body awareness/small motor/gross motor things my kid struggles with. This weekend I learned they legit don't know where their feet are in space (I tried to teach them to snowplow and discovered they literally don't know whether their toes are pointed in, out or straight. And they have little control over it).
Frankly, not being able to tie shoes feels like something many fourth graders struggle with, even if many others can do it easily
I think he would like A better because that is what is he doing in his HS BOCES program (with a little bit of B thrown in) and loves it. And it's what he's been leaning toward when talking about college. Job placement rates are similar; internships might be a little easier with A - but there's no internships required; support services and school reputation are similar.
He's excited about going to college - most of the time. And then he talks about staying home and doing BOCES Adult Ed in the same fields. I have conflicting feelings on the distance. Choice B - I worry he would come home too much and not really get into campus life. Choice A - I worry he wouldn't find as much to do and stay in his room and not really get into campus life.
What kind of sense did you get on student body when you were there? Where are the kids coming from? What percentage of kids live at home versus on campus? I went to a small private college. There were plenty of kids from the area and within a shorter drive, but freshman were required to live on campus and it was very much a “campus life” experience. No one went home on the weekends. My friend’s boyfriend went to an applied technology school nearby and it was a totally different experience. Very little weekend campus engagement, dorms emptied out on the weekends. A school like that and he will be coming home all the time just for lack of options. So I’d definitely try to get a feel for that.
sonrisa , Yes, it's a sure thing. It's for the same league he participates in now. He's spoken with the coach who would love to have him help when he is available. Practices are typically just Saturday mornings. It's mountain biking - so either he rides as an assistant coach with the team, or he rides by himself. So I'm not sure the time spent would be a lot different. And as a coach I feel like he would feel compelled to go - and less likely to just sit in his dorm and have his depression creep back up.
Ah. I see. Your kid is my BIL - very introverted, loves to mountain bike (and snowboard in his case), suited to hands on, applied fields, just welding rather than drafting. For him, college friendships have been crucial for all his (happy) adult life. (Not all his friends came from then, but those friends had deep enough bonds to connect him to other people - he's not the type to naturally reach out and connect.)
I would push for whichever campus had the most engaged, social student body, with on campus housing, dining and general community building. In someways he needs that more than the extroverts do. He needs a roommate/dorm neighbor down the hall who drags him out to do things and make those connections.
How far are the closest mountain biking trails to Option A (*if* that is the more engaged school)? If it's within 90 minutes and he loves it, he'll go. And when he doesn't he'll end up doing things with the people around him instead. Win, win.
(Mountain biking is a life long sport, so considering it when considering college makes more sense to me than sports that basically stop after graduation).
a team that he could volunteer as an assistant coach for
Is this a sure thing? I don't know his sport or your region, but around here a lot of those positions are about who you already know and your connections within the community. I would be careful to factor this in unless someone has reached out to him and specifically asking him to join them as an assistant coach.
And even if it is, will he have time to be an assistant coach for something that involved and out of town? (Is 30 minutes the drive time during peak hours like sports practice? Often drive times are cited at the low end while kid activities happen at peak traffic.)
Both those interests sound like he would spend a lot of time mentoring younger kids. Which is sweet, but will take away from his time and opportunity to connect with peers going into his field and make same age friends.
The kids will still be there to mentor in 2 years, but the window to connect with college peers won't.
Any chance we'll see you guys at day camp this summer? (I can't remember exactly where you are but kids come in from all over the bay area, some from out of state and stay locally.)
Hmm, I doubt it. Is that a special camp for LGBT kids? Feel free to PM me the name!
PDQ because I'll edit this down to be even less specific in a few days. Eternity on the internet and protecting our kids aren't the same
Trans and GNC day camp with all trans GNC staff!
Kids are grades K-12 (not all in the same group, obviously, lol. There are so many kids that every age gets it's own cohort and they do different activities). They have parent education sessions in the mornings and afternoons (right after drop off and right before pick up).
It's is fantastic! Seriously life changing for my kid. I'll PM you
They have a Boulder location as well if anyone else here wants a PM