Post by emilyinchile on May 16, 2024 9:58:51 GMT -5
That sounds SO frustrating, tacokick. So not the same level, but the other day I had to schedule a non-urgent doctor's appointment for L and asked something in the afternoon on one of the 3 days a week that I only work half days. I was told "the doctor prefers to work in the morning." Ok well, since she DOES work some afternoons I am not about to take off work, so how about you just tell me when she has availability during one of the time slots that is convenient for me, your client? Totally agree that so many medical professionals act like you have nothing else going on in your life.
Employee A has been helping Customer via email. Customer asks, "Does anyone on your team know about XYZ and can chat with me about it?" Employee A replies to Customer, CCing Employee B - "Hey Customer, I'm copying my coworker Employee B to introduce the two of you. They would be happy to answer any questions you have."
Whose court is the ball in to continue this conversation? Should Employee B reply, "Hi Customer, what can I do for you?" Or should Customer email Employee B?
If the questions they had were included when you CCd emp B, I think B should reply to customer with answers. If not, I would have emailed emp B saying to contact the customer because they have questions.
That sounds SO frustrating, tacokick. So not the same level, but the other day I had to schedule a non-urgent doctor's appointment for L and asked something in the afternoon on one of the 3 days a week that I only work half days. I was told "the doctor prefers to work in the morning." Ok well, since she DOES work some afternoons I am not about to take off work, so how about you just tell me when she has availability during one of the time slots that is convenient for me, your client? Totally agree that so many medical professionals act like you have nothing else going on in your life.
Yes! It’s so strange to me because don’t most people have things going on in their life? Doesn’t the staff? We can’t be the anomaly!
Wouldn’t it be easier for them to not have to do this weird back and forth? You are free in the afternoon, the doctor works some afternoons, pull up those times and move on!
I only have a little bit of end of school scheduling to complain about. Tomorrow is field day. K parents are to be there (if they want) from 9:30-10:30. Then parents can come to lunch at 11:20. What am I supposed to do with that?? I'm asking my kid which one he wants me to do, because I can't do both.
Ok so we can go to field day too. I have no idea what parents do at field day-- do you?
pixy0stix , sproctopus , ours has parents help out with stations that are setup. It's pretty easy stuff.
Our field day is the day after memorial day. I have no clue who thought that was a good idea for a working parent, but hopefully they get enough volunteers.
Ours is then too and H volunteered. I think he'll regret spending the day outside with ~80 kids.
Employee A has been helping Customer via email. Customer asks, "Does anyone on your team know about XYZ and can chat with me about it?" Employee A replies to Customer, CCing Employee B - "Hey Customer, I'm copying my coworker Employee B to introduce the two of you. They would be happy to answer any questions you have."
Whose court is the ball in to continue this conversation? Should Employee B reply, "Hi Customer, what can I do for you?" Or should Customer email Employee B?
Employee B should initiate, but in my experience most of the time the customer initiates.
I’m taking inventory on some Sharepoint libraries and pages to prep for a huge project. It looks like the teams are abandoning their own projects. It’s weird like where are you putting working files now??
I’m so behind with my garden and seedlings. I really need to get stuff into the ground and pots or else all that work in April will be a waste.
Post by mrsslocombe on May 16, 2024 10:24:24 GMT -5
tacokick, this has been my experience as well, I truly don't understand what they expect people to do. When my FIL was in rehab, they told us he's only authorized to stay until he's no longer making progress, and then we'd have 24 hours notice to come pick him up. At that point he couldn't even get out of bed on his own to get the bathroom. H is an only child, we live 3 hours away, and FIL at that point lived in a 3 story house.
It makes me wonder how much elder care is going to have to change. My parents generation, they were retired and their kids were grown by the time their parents were in need of care, so they had a lot more flexibility. But now that people are having kids at an older age, have fewer children, and are more likely to live away from their home town...people just can't take care of their parents 24/7. But all these facilities are still operating like people have 4 kids in town to manage their care.
tacokick , this has been my experience as well, I truly don't understand what they expect people to do. When my FIL was in rehab, they told us he's only authorized to stay until he's no longer making progress, and then we'd have 24 hours notice to come pick him up. At that point he couldn't even get out of bed on his own to get the bathroom. H is an only child, we live 3 hours away, and FIL at that point lived in a 3 story house.
It makes me wonder how much elder care is going to have to change. My parents generation, they were retired and their kids were grown by the time their parents were in need of care, so they had a lot more flexibility. But now that people are having kids at an older age, have fewer children, and are more likely to live away from their home town...people just can't take care of their parents 24/7. But all these facilities are still operating like people have 4 kids in town to manage their care.
I'm sorry you are going through this.
I think part of it is that Boomers aren't doing anything to help themselves either. They're not downsizing houses, or prepping to age in place. They're not future planning for what happens when/if they get sick. The world has always bent itself to accommodate them so they think that's going to keep on happening.
My MIL is absolutely not budging from her large house, even though she can already barely manage the stairs. I keep talking to her and H about trying to plan when she's not mobile and all I get is, "I don't want to sell my house!!! sob sob!!" Bruh, I also don't want you living with us, so let's find a plan that we can agree on that doesn't involve you in a house that can't accommodate you.
pixy0stix , sproctopus , ours has parents help out with stations that are setup. It's pretty easy stuff.
Our field day is the day after memorial day. I have no clue who thought that was a good idea for a working parent, but hopefully they get enough volunteers.
Ours is then too and H volunteered. I think he'll regret spending the day outside with ~80 kids.
It is for this reason I shall not attend. I'm always happy to donate or send things in, but volunteer I shall not. I know my limits.
In a followup to my adhd post awhile back. Since then, I’ve had my annual thyroid blood work, and that is slightly out of whack. But only slightly, and within the range of normal, but higher than I like it. And, I haven’t had a period since early March. So, you know, my inability to get my brain to function could be… Any one of those? All of theme? A three car pile up? All I know is something is off. My endocrinologist was willing to adjust my dose a smidge to see if that helps. But we also talked a lot about peri/menopause, and the whole what I’m describing is normal.
But, I’m still stuck on… ok, this is within range of normal. But I have realize my question - is it permanent? Like, is is a temporary period where you adjust to new hormone levels and eventually I’ll get my mojo back? Or is this shift forever? I’m not having hot flashes (*knocks wood*). But I guess it’s that “brain fog” they talk about.
I think part of it is that Boomers aren't doing anything to help themselves either. They're not downsizing houses, or prepping to age in place. They're not future planning for what happens when/if they get sick. The world has always bent itself to accommodate them so they think that's going to keep on happening.
My MIL is absolutely not budging from her large house, even though she can already barely manage the stairs. I keep talking to her and H about trying to plan when she's not mobile and all I get is, "I don't want to sell my house!!! sob sob!!" Bruh, I also don't want you living with us, so let's find a plan that we can agree on that doesn't involve you in a house that can't accommodate you.
My ILs thankfully prepared financially for their care, but their problem was they waited too long. Basically, when they were mentally and physically healthy enough to live independently, they didn't think they needed to move. They refused things like a stair lift, home health aids, etc. Then their cognitive health and physically abilities went to shit together, so they weren't able to understand what they were and weren't capable of anymore. They just lived in denial for so long and truly destroyed their relationship with their only child because of the burden they put on him.
Plus they waited so long that my MIL was overwhelmed by the idea of having to empty out their giant home. So now she's dead and my H and I are trying to get rid of their 4 tea seats, 3 sets of China, 5 sets of silverware, etc etc etc while my FIL lives at assisted living.
As my friend who is in his 60s said, "the truth is, you have to move before you are ready, and before you HAVE to. It's the only way."
And that the school just took 4 years of their tuition and hard work and then essentially said "Not so fast, gotta knock you women a peg. Your place is actually at home. Also, men are more important than you and shall lead us."
Post by starburst604 on May 16, 2024 11:08:19 GMT -5
Ok I love volunteering at Field Day! It's my favorite memory from being in school and I love getting to be in the experience again. But, this year when they sent out the sign up, I clicked it maybe 15 minutes after receiving it and all 50 spots were filled, wtf! Her old school was always struggling for enough volunteers. Our current school is known as the one with the super competitive sports parents and I guess that extends to Field Day volunteering.
Last night I slept in my new bed for the first time and it was glorious. Having STBX out of the house for good has made me feel so much lighter. When I come home, there's no mess that wasn't there before. No feeling angry because the dishwasher hasn't been emptied while he's been watching TV for 3 hours. No dozens of empty beer bottles in his basement dungeon. I could go on and on....GOOD RIDDANCE! I feel bad knowing DD misses him, but God I do not, not one little bit.
I think part of it is that Boomers aren't doing anything to help themselves either. They're not downsizing houses, or prepping to age in place. They're not future planning for what happens when/if they get sick. The world has always bent itself to accommodate them so they think that's going to keep on happening.
My MIL is absolutely not budging from her large house, even though she can already barely manage the stairs. I keep talking to her and H about trying to plan when she's not mobile and all I get is, "I don't want to sell my house!!! sob sob!!" Bruh, I also don't want you living with us, so let's find a plan that we can agree on that doesn't involve you in a house that can't accommodate you.
My ILs thankfully prepared financially for their care, but their problem was they waited too long. Basically, when they were mentally and physically healthy enough to live independently, they didn't think they needed to move. They refused things like a stair lift, home health aids, etc. Then their cognitive health and physically abilities went to shit together, so they weren't able to understand what they were and weren't capable of anymore. They just lived in denial for so long and truly destroyed their relationship with their only child because of the burden they put on him.
Plus they waited so long that my MIL was overwhelmed by the idea of having to empty out their giant home. So now she's dead and my H and I are trying to get rid of their 4 tea seats, 3 sets of China, 5 sets of silverware, etc etc etc while my FIL lives at assisted living.
As my friend who is in his 60s said, "the truth is, you have to move before you are ready, and before you HAVE to. It's the only way."
This is my ongoing battle with my parents. Planning financially? Good. Actually doing shit? Not so good. They say with their words that we don't need to keep anything of theirs after they go. They're not horders. But they're using literally every bedroom closet in the house because they kept their work clothes and then bought more retirement clothes and then bought travel clothes.
And my mom is like "if I go first, get your dad into a graduated care facility asap." WHY IS SHE PUTTING THAT ON ME. Do it together! Now! So it's not yet another thing I have to handle while dealing with grief and, oh yeah, being the executor of the estate.
Post by midwestmama on May 16, 2024 11:20:54 GMT -5
@@tw@@ school threats
My kids are in middle school. Yesterday after school they told me that a student made direct threats to k*ll other students. Not one word from the school, not one email was sent to parents. I ran into a parent at the grocery store last night whose child was directly threatened. That parent did not receive a single communication from the school regarding the situation. The superintendent sent a very flippant and dismissive email last night to say that "there was not threat." I am SO mad right now. It is 2024 and these types of threats need to be taken seriously!! I am trying to formulate a response to the superintendent that doesn't include a bunch of 4-letter words. While my kids were not directly threatened, I kept them home today out of an abundance of caution.
Post by Jalapeñomel on May 16, 2024 11:42:26 GMT -5
Has ML mostly moved on from the baby phase of life? I remember when everyone was having babies, and now we seem to be trending to talking about our kids graduating and retirement. Wild.
My youngest has preschool graduation tonight. She is so so excited! I am thinking about getting her flowers, that would feel really special to a 5 year old, right?
awwwww, yes this is great! My dad had flowers sent to me at school every year on my birthday starting in kindergarten and it made me feel SO special. I love those memories.
My son's play starts tonight. It's so much work, especially tech week. I think everyone wonders what they were thinking getting involved, but then the day comes and it's all worth it. They got their cast shirts last night which is earlier than usual so they can all wear them instead of uniforms today. He's excited! Somehow I have never seen Annie, so I'm excited too. We do an optional dinner theater where you can have a catered dinner before the show and get better seats. Tonight we'll attend just watch. Then back to volunteering for tomorrow's show!
my favorite musical of all time; I just showed S (6) and hadn't seen it in decades and I still knew every single word from the film.
I deleted the content in case it was too @@ but this is shocking. Our middle school found a "k*ll list" last year with a handful of kids names on it and the child was immediately removed from school and parents were notified.
This whole thing is crazy. What's really bothering me is that the Chief's haven't issued a response yet. Even the NFL put out a response distancing themselves from this craziness and stating that they do not share the same opinions as Butker.
I think part of it is that Boomers aren't doing anything to help themselves either. They're not downsizing houses, or prepping to age in place. They're not future planning for what happens when/if they get sick. The world has always bent itself to accommodate them so they think that's going to keep on happening.
My MIL is absolutely not budging from her large house, even though she can already barely manage the stairs. I keep talking to her and H about trying to plan when she's not mobile and all I get is, "I don't want to sell my house!!! sob sob!!" Bruh, I also don't want you living with us, so let's find a plan that we can agree on that doesn't involve you in a house that can't accommodate you.
My ILs thankfully prepared financially for their care, but their problem was they waited too long. Basically, when they were mentally and physically healthy enough to live independently, they didn't think they needed to move. They refused things like a stair lift, home health aids, etc. Then their cognitive health and physically abilities went to shit together, so they weren't able to understand what they were and weren't capable of anymore. They just lived in denial for so long and truly destroyed their relationship with their only child because of the burden they put on him.
Plus they waited so long that my MIL was overwhelmed by the idea of having to empty out their giant home. So now she's dead and my H and I are trying to get rid of their 4 tea seats, 3 sets of China, 5 sets of silverware, etc etc etc while my FIL lives at assisted living.
As my friend who is in his 60s said, "the truth is, you have to move before you are ready, and before you HAVE to. It's the only way."
I really wish my parents would start to think about moving. They're in their early 70s and have a small farm. I know they love the farm and it keeps them active. I'm not looking for them to move into an elder community or anything... but a more manageable property and less stairs. They live in a raised ranch. That thing is all stairs. I'm an only child and I live about an hour from my folks. I definitely can't drop everything to care for the farm if something happens. I have a life and a career. It doesn't keep me up at night yet, but in a few more years it will. I'd be thrilled even with a general plan to downsize in the next 3-5 years.
tacokick, this has been my experience as well, I truly don't understand what they expect people to do. When my FIL was in rehab, they told us he's only authorized to stay until he's no longer making progress, and then we'd have 24 hours notice to come pick him up. At that point he couldn't even get out of bed on his own to get the bathroom. H is an only child, we live 3 hours away, and FIL at that point lived in a 3 story house.
It makes me wonder how much elder care is going to have to change. My parents generation, they were retired and their kids were grown by the time their parents were in need of care, so they had a lot more flexibility. But now that people are having kids at an older age, have fewer children, and are more likely to live away from their home town...people just can't take care of their parents 24/7. But all these facilities are still operating like people have 4 kids in town to manage their care.
I'm sorry you are going through this.
Thank you. Elder care is a wild ride. What puzzles me is that neither of our situations are unique so why do they keep acting like that are?!
I guess it’s like schools still having the expectations that everyone has a stay at home mom! You’d think these major systems would have caught up to what life is actually like at some point.
I'm using the stopwatch on my phone to time how long it takes my Teams status to go from Green to Yellow. It feels like it's doing it faster recently. Or I'm slacking off more which is totally possible lol
This right here has been my level of productivity lately. It is very bad as a person who has to charge billable hours!
My Dad's perspective is for 99% of his generation, by the time they're ready to move, it's already too late.
My parents moved into a house where they don't have to use the upstairs at all. It's my mom's craft room and another guest bedroom.
My ILs are another story. My MIL is redoing their porch into something more permanent for a cat the neighbor left when they moved out of state. What they should be spending money on is the assisted living place that's about to open right by her 2 sons.