I am sure if this is flameworthy or makes me look like an ahole but my husband seriously needs to lose some weight. He has gained about 50 lbs since we got married. I am concerned and I have no way to kindly go about it (thanks to his mom who was on him about his weight all his life). I do 90% of the cooking and all of it is healthy but when he goes for seconds, how do I tactfully say, "don't eat so much." He refuses to exercise I have been working my ass off trying to lose weight. Part of me wishes that if he sees the progress I make, he will do the same. I know, wishful thinking.
Sometimes I have the same problem with H getting 2nds... and 3rds.... and 4ths. If it is something he really likes then he will eat the entire dish until it's gone. This bugs me sometimes because he already has cholesterol problems and he's only in his 20s. I will sometimes fix his plate and give him 1 large serving, and put the dish in the fridge before I even tell him dinner is ready. I leave out the sides (usually salad or some other vegetable dish).
I would also suggest portioning out plates and putting the rest in the fridge right away.
maybe only make dishes that serve 2? So there is nothing to go back for? But then he might load up on snacks, but you could just keep only healthy food in the house.
honestly though I am not one to talk considering my food issues.
I am sure if this is flameworthy or makes me look like an ahole but my husband seriously needs to lose some weight. He has gained about 50 lbs since we got married. I am concerned and I have no way to kindly go about it (thanks to his mom who was on him about his weight all his life). I do 90% of the cooking and all of it is healthy but when he goes for seconds, how do I tactfully say, "don't eat so much." He refuses to exercise I have been working my ass off trying to lose weight. Part of me wishes that if he sees the progress I make, he will do the same. I know, wishful thinking.
Sometimes I have the same problem with H getting 2nds... and 3rds.... and 4ths. If it is something he really likes then he will eat the entire dish until it's gone. This bugs me sometimes because he already has cholesterol problems and he's only in his 20s. I will sometimes fix his plate and give him 1 large serving, and put the dish in the fridge before I even tell him dinner is ready. I leave out the sides (usually salad or some other vegetable dish).
oh, that is a good idea! I might say, "oh the other portions I have put together for our lunches tomorrow." I will try that. Thank you.
This is possibly the most flameworthy thing I've ever said here.
I am judging FSIL's parents for driving a 7 Series but not helping BIL and FSIL pay for their wedding.
I would too!
I judge my in-laws for making my husband take out $20,000 of loans for college: (a) after paying for him to go to Catholic school for 13 years, and (b) at the exact time they were paying the down payment on his sister's condo (she was a third-year law student at the time).
maybe only make dishes that serve 2? So there is nothing to go back for? But then he might load up on snacks, but you could just keep only healthy food in the house.
honestly though I am not one to talk considering my food issues.
I like this idea. I got rid of all the baked goods in the house I made. In fact, they are here at work where they were all eaten within an hour. I thought maybe him going up a pants size and me down a pants size would be something to motivate him. Then again, maybe I should say something that I am concerned for his health given we will (hopefully) doing IVF next year and I want us to be healthy for our future child(ren).
I will say he has changed his views on eating fruits and veggies (from none to 3-4x a day). Now its the portion control that is an issue.
Thank you for letting me vent and giving me suggestions.
Sometimes I have the same problem with H getting 2nds... and 3rds.... and 4ths. If it is something he really likes then he will eat the entire dish until it's gone. This bugs me sometimes because he already has cholesterol problems and he's only in his 20s. I will sometimes fix his plate and give him 1 large serving, and put the dish in the fridge before I even tell him dinner is ready. I leave out the sides (usually salad or some other vegetable dish).
Yup, MH too. He's always been a large man. But he has gained 50+ over the years. He has tried some dieting but doesn't stick with it. Stuff like no soda, no juice, half portions, etc. It's a lot of yo-yoing.
When we first started dating he told me "Don't ever let me get like that" when we saw a very large man walking by. He's almost there. And I don't know how to tell him. I'm sure he knows already but doesn't want to put in the effort of exercise and eating healthier.
I ask him all the time if he wants to just go for a walk with me. Nope. Never happens. I can't make him change. He has to do it himself.
While his blood tests still show healthy, they're not going to be that way forever. He just doesn't get it.
Me too. Sigh. Sometimes I make something he really likes and he'll just keep eating it which makes me go up for seconds too. I can put the rest in the fridge but he stays up way later than me and will just heat it up later. I haven't cooked much lately so we've actually been eating like Lean Pockets and PB&J for dinner so maybe that will help.
My FIL gets a new BMW every two years and he did not help pay for our wedding. It did not occur to me to be upset about this.
We were grown adults who wanted to throw a party celebrating out marriage. No one was obligated to pay for it but us.
So I guess my flameful opinion is that I judge people who think their parents have any sort of obligation to financially support them beyond the age of 18.
(To be clear, I am not judging the SCRU group - or whatever the acronym is. If your parents want to give you money- yay for you!)
My officemate told me earlier that she got the new job she wanted. I am extremely excited for her and cannot wait to see her boss and mine scramble to deal with what they should have seen coming a mile away. Her boss is currently on maternity leave and told her to "train" her new superior, who is starting after the new year. This is the same position that officemate asked her boss if she could interview for a promotion and her boss didn't even give her the courtesy of a yes or no. Boss just told her a few days later that she would be on the interview committee
Also, I am daydreaming of walking out of the door/giving notice the same time as officemate just because I am going to be screwed at work now. Heh
I need to read more to remember some of my truly flamefuls. The last thread like this, I didn't get to participate since I got to it too late. Lots of posters made me want to call them out :-)
Post by SusanBAnthony on Dec 18, 2012 19:18:16 GMT -5
When we are at the in laws for Xmas, we always go to DH's extremely rich cousin's house for Xmas day dinner. I am talking 15,000 sq ft, indoor pool, 6 car garage, etc. the nice thing is that we get to swim and stuff. And hopefully lose the kids for an hour or two in the ginormous house.
The not nice thing is that the cousin's husband will try to talk politics the whole time, and it is painful. He is a millionaire, at least, and talks to us about why all these various social programs are horrible, as if we make anywhere near what they do, or as if any of the tax stuff he whines about comes close to affecting us. He would probably go into a dead faint if we told him what our take home is in a month. He is completely oblivious that most people aren't rich. He makes me raged, but I mostly just hide from him bc I don't want to be crazy and I can never think of anything witty to say to him.
There's a poster on H&G that makes me want to stab my eyes out.
There are posters on this board who make me want to stab my eyes out. And I don't just mean the ones who make everyone want to stab their eyes out... my list definitely includes members of the MM in-crowd.
There's a poster on H&G that makes me want to stab my eyes out.
There are posters on this board who make me want to stab my eyes out. And I don't just mean the ones who make everyone want to stab their eyes out... my list definitely includes members of the MM in-crowd.