I have all the kids I want but if I wanted more, yes I would. I just had one at 37.5yrs old & it feels/felt exactly the same as when I was pg with my first at 28. I had no issues due to my age either.
Post by expatpumpkin on Sept 30, 2013 12:18:29 GMT -5
Yes, I think I would. We're 35 and 39 this year and haven't started yet. We take good care of ourselves and are in good health. We both FEEL ten years younger. So if I feel 33 at 43, why not?
ETA: My answer would probably be different if I'd started in my early 20s and had a tween or two right now, hahaha.
Post by Yankees21 on Sept 30, 2013 12:21:06 GMT -5
Since I am starting young, I can't picture that. However, if I didn't have my first until later and wanted another, I don't think I would let that age stop me.
I had my first at 42. We've been TTC for 17 months now. I'm 45. Truthfully I'm starting to question if I can go through the infant stage again. It's a mind fuck. All of it.
Post by lolobeth802 on Sept 30, 2013 12:25:25 GMT -5
No way. If I had a child at 43, my oldest child would be 23 and I would already looking forward (In a few years) to being a grandmother and getting my girls through their teenage years. It would kind of be my worst nightmare, starting over and all. Sometimes, with 3 children I already feel 100 years old! But that is me and I've been a mom since I was 20, I will be ready to not have kids in my house.
If I were in her position I probably would. I will say that when I was younger I could not have fathomed having a baby around 40'ish but now it doesn't seem so crazy to me. I had my last baby at 30 years old and I will be 39 soon...I do know several moms my age who started in their late 20's like me and have babies/toddlers ones. It's not uncommon around here at all. My DD loves all the babies and is bugging me to have another..she would actually be a great sitter.
Post by MixedBerryJam on Sept 30, 2013 12:26:58 GMT -5
I had my first at 40, second at 41. I thought about trying for number 3 but had my tubes tied instead. Maternal age is not what stopped me. And really, someone should come up with a different term than "elderly primapara" to describe a woman having her first after 35 because, really, people? You don't think I might cut you if I hear you say that?
If I wanted another at that age, I probably wouldn't let my age stop me. I could see it if I didn't have my first until late 30s/40. Since I had my first at 31 and am having my second at 33, no. I'm done.
Yeah, exactly. Considering the boys will be 18 when I'm 43 I will not want to bring more into the mix.
But had I started later I wouldn't let my age alone be the factor.
Sure, if I wanted another kid. But, no. I have no immediate plans to be pg after 40. I'd definitely keep the baby if I got pg accidentally even though I am very, very done having babies.
eta- Clare would only be 5 when I'm 43, so it wouldn't be too much of a gap. But no. NO MORE BABIES.
Post by juliahenry on Sept 30, 2013 12:28:08 GMT -5
Nope. No way. Never.
I'm an older mom, but being pg in your mid-late 30s is very different from your 40s IMO. The risks are higher and for many people, life has moved beyond the baby stage.
I love that my kids are in school, and I couldn't go back and do it again. I've also got all the kids I've ever wanted. Perhaps I would feel differently if my family didn't seem complete.
Post by mnirishgirl on Sept 30, 2013 12:28:39 GMT -5
We had our first when I was just shy of my 32nd birthday. I'm 33 now and we'd like two more. Hopefully I'll be younger than that, but if it takes that long then I guess, yes.