Post by Some Funny Name on Sept 30, 2013 12:33:07 GMT -5
I used to think it was no big deal. Then a very good friend of mine went into labor at 27 weeks, alone, in a city far from home. There were awful complications due to mom's age, and both she and the baby almost died. Thankfully, they both made it and are healthy and happy today. After seeing that, I'm sorry to say that I would not recommend it unless you really had no other choice.
I used to think it was no big deal. Then a very good friend of mine went into labor at 27 weeks, alone, in a city far from home. There were awful complications due to mom's age, and both she and the baby almost died. Thankfully, they both made it and are healthy and happy today. After seeing that, I'm sorry to say that I would not recommend it unless you really had no other choice.
Sure, if I wanted another kid. But, no. I have no immediate plans to be pg after 40. I'd definitely keep the baby if I got pg accidentally even though I am very, very done having babies.
eta- Clare would only be 5 when I'm 43, so it wouldn't be too much of a gap. But no. NO MORE BABIES.
I also have a Clare! She turned 6 yesterday. I was just about 36 when she was born and am almost 42 now. I'd have another if I could.
Post by scribellesam on Sept 30, 2013 12:43:36 GMT -5
Probably not, but that's just because I hope to be done having babies by 33. Starting over with a newborn when your next youngest is 10+ sounds exhausting to me! I have no issue with it for others.
Yes, sorry I was getting ahead of myself. I'm just still giddy that you are expecting.
To answer the OP, if I was married and hadn't had any children already yes. I would not try to get pregnant if I already had a child.
I know you are.
I mean, think of how things were when we first met, what, seven years ago?!
LOL to everything.
Has it been 7yrs? Holy shit. And Ya, 7 years ago the thought of kids made me want to toss my cookies. I'm done with 2 and D's getting snipped to solidify that plan.
Maybe. I'm not taking motherhood off the table, and at this rate it's probably not happening until I'm probably close to that age if at all.
ETA: "At this rate" meaning that I'm comfortably living a lifestyle that does not include a plan for children at the moment.
Exactly.
See, I'm having a baby at age 36.
Let's say I did want a second. Or a third. Or whatever.
It wouldn't be all that crazy to have a kid at age 43.
This is me. I had a baby at 37 and didn't decide that I'd like another until I was into my 40s. It didn't work out. We decided to foster newborns. I'm 45 and will be dealing with the newborn/toddler scenario soon enough. I think I can manage it.
Post by litebright on Sept 30, 2013 13:07:35 GMT -5
Newp.
Two newborn-stages in my early 30s were enough for me. I'm about to turn 36 and feel like I'm finally getting my life back on track and even have a little time to myself, and my girls are 3 and 5. I have zero desire to do it over again, ever. At 43, I will be dealing with the raising of two tween girls; it makes my head spin a little to think about adding a newborn to that.
I never thought I'd want children and here I am with twins. I had them at 32.
Sometimes I imagine an alternate life where I live in the suburbs and adopt a little girl when the boys are in school. I'd be 40+ years old then. I know its not the same as being pregnant, but if the question includes going through the infant stage all over again, then my answer relates to the question.
Post by missbella on Sept 30, 2013 13:09:11 GMT -5
I was just talking to DH about this the other day. We have been trying for 2 years and I told DH that if we didn't have any by 35 I think we should make that permanent. ( I'm 25 now) but then we were talking about it and I guess if I'm meant to have a baby in my 40's then who am I to stop it. Although we are working on adopting now and the thought that I could have a teenager and an infant is interesting.
Post by housewife on Sept 30, 2013 13:17:31 GMT -5
First, I would be pretty pissed my tubal failed!
I had my kids very young (the youngest will be 19 when I'm 43) so no, it wouldn't be for me. It's not something I would side-eye anyone else for though.
Post by flufferkitty on Sept 30, 2013 13:27:06 GMT -5
I don't think so. My mom is a twin and I am worried that the older I am when I get pregnant, the more likely I am to end up with twins. I am already tired in my mid-thirties with two.
Post by CrazyLucky on Sept 30, 2013 13:27:44 GMT -5
Not on purpose. I had two and then had my tubes tied. The doctor said there's a 1 in 150 chance we'll get pregnant anyway. If I get pregnant at 43, we'll have the baby (and love it to death!). But I'm hoping we're done.