Ok, this is what happened

[missburlyq]

*DISCLAIMER*  If you don't actually care about my life/situation etc.... then please don't post in this. Save the smart ass gifs etc.. I don't think my anxiety could handle a shit ton of flames anymore.

This is a quick version of what transpired during my hiatus.

I ended up moving to another side of town to fight for custody/equal time share with my XH. My lawyer was very helpful and there is no way I could have done this without her. The whole process ended up costing me roughly 5000 dollars (which for me, is A LOT of money). I finally figured out that my XH is basically a misogynist. He actually came out and told me that if our DS had been a DD he wouldn't have even married me. He would have just helped take care of the baby but that's it. So, he basically used me as a baby boy making tool for him.

Long story short, we settled out in mediation. I have DS the whole summer and every other weekend. H has DS during the school year, this way DS can remain in Clay county. We both agree we don't want DS to live in Duval county because the schooling in that county is one of the worst in the state of FL. We use FaceTime to communicate daily. It's pretty hard and depressing honestly. However, I feel great relief in knowing its over and XH will stop trying to manipulate me. Now that the custody battle is over, I've been able to come off of the Xanax as well.

In between that time S/O has been there to help me through thick and thin. I really can't believe he's gone through all of this with me and not run for the hills. The whole situation has been an emotional nightmare.
Shortly after things were settled with XH, S/O asked me to marry him. He said he's wanted to ask me for a while, but wanted to wait until things were settled with XH. Knowing that S/O is willing to stick it out even during some of the most difficult times let me know that saying yes was a good decision.

So, S/O or I guess F and I are planning to get married in Oct of 2015. Also, when F is done with school, (he's getting his Masters in Business Admin) we are moving to New York. F lived there for 5 years a few years ago.

I know it may seem a bit cowardly, but I really want to leave all of this horrible stuff behind me. I want to move forward with my life and finally have some piece and happiness. I'm a bit scared to get married for a 3rd time. I'm 29 for God's sake, and feel like a broken person. I have confidence that this one is different though. Anyway, that's the gist of the situation.

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[eddy]

And on day three, there is light.

[katb]

Why NY? What will happen with your DS when you move?

[lilafowler]

You never fail to disappoint.

ETA: I meant amaze. You never fail to amaze me lol.

[ginandjucie24]

It's not Tuesday.

[poppyseed]

So you're moving away from your DS?

[cville]

Oh, this is Evee.

[Deleted]

How will you see your son if you move to NY? I'm genuinely confused.

[nomad100]

So how is that EOW that you fought so hard for going to work when you like 1000+ miles away?

[chchchia]

I missed the backstory. You are okay with leaving your son with a misogynist? Your lawyer too? No flames, curiousity (sp?). What is going to happen when you move to New York? How are you going to do the every other weekend thing?
I am just wrapping my mind around you and your female lawyer are okay with leaving your son in the care of a misogynist.
Good luck.

[venice2007]

Thank god I'm waiting on the AC guy.... :-D

[poppyseed]

Aug 6, 2014 9:37:52 GMT -5 mofongo said:

I find it that when I'm fighting to spend time with someone, it's best to move way out of state.

Makes the heart grow fonder.

[eddy]

But guuuuuysss...TRUE LOVE

[ginandjucie24]

I am confused. You say when you FaceTime with your son it's depressing, but you are going to move far away from him and see him when?

Why do you have to move? Can't you stay in your town and make your son a priority?

[CurlyQ284]

So you will get your DS during summer and that's it.

I'm a step mom who had this schedule for years. It was hard on the kids and for my DH (ETA and me too but I mattered the least in this issue). We were finally able to move close to my stepdaughters and its wonderful. I don't know why you would choose to move away from your son if you don't have to.

[cville]

Not a snarky question: with your son's visual impairment, can he see you on Facetime?

[poppyseed]

This may be premature and judgey, but I feel sad for your DS. I don't understand how you can pick up and move away from him.

[Deleted]

So are you going to NY to try and make it big in the burlesque industry?

[flex]

Hey, no reason to feel embarrassed about being married 3 times. I'm 54 and I've been married three times too.

So how does God feel about your decisions?

[hisno1girl]

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[lightbulbsun]

Does your FI have a job in NY? What's going to happen to your son when you move?

[Deleted]

So you're intentionally moving several states away from your son because....?

[hisno1girl]

Aug 6, 2014 9:41:17 GMT -5 toledo said:

TOO....MANY...JOKES.

MUST....NOT....GIF.

There was no specification on PIPs!

[ginandjucie24]

Aug 6, 2014 9:41:55 GMT -5 @ygmg said:

So are you going to NY to try and make it big in the burlesque industry?

Lol this is the first thing that I thought of when moving to NY was mentioned. 

[chedominique]

I kinda have the same opinion as everyone else. I'm glad that you figured out the true personality of your XH and you were able to work out an agreement to see your son more. But what happens once you move to NY? Why NY? Are you taking your son?

I know you are trying to leave everything behind you, but what was the purpose of your whole fight to see your son more and then just up and move?

[bcv513]

Aug 6, 2014 9:41:17 GMT -5 toledo said:

TOO....MANY...JOKES.

MUST....NOT....GIF.

Pffft. I'm a rebel

[verypunny]

Totally off topic but not all of ny is NYC, are you going to NYC? Because in that case, yes, the COL will be astronomical.

[iamali]

Ok. Dude. You've gotten engaged to this guy that you've known less than a year? You're concerned about being 30 and on you're third marriage?

Do you think these two points are shouting at you, trying to bash you about the head even.

It's awesome that this guy was there for you. You don't need to marry him because of that. Have you been to a counselor to discuss these things?

I can't remember the entire backstory, was xh#2 your night in shining armor too?

Sent from my defective S3.

[lsea0323]

I hope everything works out for you and your DS.

And maybe she isn't talking about NY, NY. Clarify?

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

Well. If you try to take your son with you to NY, good luck with your XH. If you're not taking him with you...that's pretty selfish and awful.