I sort of liked having my friends take picts, it seemed like a long wait until we got the pro ones back and sorted. As for the reception, I loved having friends' photos from that.
ETA: I would definitely respect a no social media request, at least until the bride or groom can post. Much like I think parents should be the first ones to share their newborn baby picts.
Her reasoning was that it would prevent disruptions during the ceremony and keep people from being distracted/unengaged during the reception. She seemed a bit surprised when her FI thought it was a terrible idea.
She expects people to give up their phones for the ENTIRE event??? LOL. Good luck w/ that. I can see people complying for just the ceremony, but if they plan to keep them for the reception too... uh, yeah.
For me, it's my camera. Before phones, I took a camera everywhere because I like to take pictures. I could survive w/o being "connected" but I'd be pissed to not be able to take pictures.
ETA: I'm respectful of the photographer. I actually avoid taking pics when official pics are being taken. Ilike taking pictures of the fun, unexpected moments!
Her reasoning was that it would prevent disruptions during the ceremony and keep people from being distracted/unengaged during the reception. She seemed a bit surprised when her FI thought it was a terrible idea.
Post by autumnfire on Oct 21, 2014 10:50:47 GMT -5
I think it's better if guests are reminded to turn off their devices and why it is they're asking that. Overall, nothing is more annoying than dealing with 'that guest' who is trying to play photographer while I'm trying to get the shot.But I think asking to turn off all devices is going a bit far. If I was asked to hand over my phone I would unless my child isn't with me. It's the only way I can be reached and wouldn't in that case.
If I knew about it I just wouldn't take my phone with me. Every single person on my FB that has gone to a wedding in the last couple of years has posted photos before the couple and it pisses me the hell off. My guess is if you asked people to not take pictures and post there would still be a few people who would.
DD is almost 7. When she was 6 months old, I went to a wedding without a smart phone - just a cell I didn't check very often because the battery would die. I gave the name and number of the location I was going to be at in case my parents (the babysitters) needed to get in touch with me. I had no doubt that if my parents called, the staff would find me, if needed.
Six years ago - the olden days. It was just like living on Little House on the Prairie!
I'd comply and it's reasonably unlikely that something serious enough to require an emergency phone call is going to happen to your kid during the ceremony.
What if there was an emergency? I would lie and keep it. It's unrealistic to expect people to do this now.
If it was the ceremony only, you'd find out about it an hour later. Much like if you kept it in your purse with the ringer turned off. Unless you're constantly checking your phone to see if it rang, which defeats turning off the ringer.
Post by thebuddhagouda on Oct 21, 2014 10:56:24 GMT -5
Douchiness aside, it sounds like a logistical nightmare to keep all of those phones and ensure that nobody that turned in an iPhone 4 doesn't decide to upgrade to the fancy 6+ they see in the pile o'phones. That's a LOT of money to replace if somebody steals them or spills a bucket of water on them or simply misplaces them.
You can't force someone to be "engaged" in yourwedding. Taking away their phones won't help.
Just like you can't force people to mingle, etc.
I just went to a wedding last week for a part of the family who, other than the mother of the groom, I haven't seen in almost 10 years. And I really had no desire to catch up with most of them. Having my phone was kind of nice because I could be "busy".
If they had taken my phone, all they would have done is made both DH and I even more bored AND we would have left earlier than we did (and as it was, we were the first ones to leave!).
If I knew about it I just wouldn't take my phone with me. Every single person on my FB that has gone to a wedding in the last couple of years has posted photos before the couple and it pisses me the hell off. My guess is if you asked people to not take pictures and post there would still be a few people who would.
Oh, come on! Every single person on your FB that has gone to a wedding?
I didn't realize how much guest cameras can mess up the professional shots until I started taking pictures myself on manual. It's not just jumping in the shots or blocking things, even the smallest flash (like a camera phone) can ruin the exposure on the professional's shot, so much so that it can't be recovered. Now I feel bad for ever bringing my p&s camera back in the day.
I would not hand over my phone. I would turn it off/on silent, as I do for any public event where I am an observer/audience member. Asking people to hand it is a bit excessive. And it really sets you up for a clusterfuck when it comes to getting them all back to the appropriate owner. I trust no one.
I'd comply and it's reasonably unlikely that something serious enough to require an emergency phone call is going to happen to your kid during the ceremony.
Reasonably, sure, but not guaranteed. That's why they're called emergencies. They're not expected.
I don't understand why anyone cares if you take pictures of the ceremony/reception. Absolutely don't get in the way of the professional photog, but other than that, why does it matter? Isn't that sort of why people used to put disposable cameras on the tables?
I don't understand why anyone cares if you take pictures of the ceremony/reception. Absolutely don't get in the way of the professional photog, but other than that, why does it matter? Isn't that sort of why people used to put disposable cameras on the tables?
Because a bajillion (or even one really) flashes going off from amateur photogs can ruin the professional photography they spent a shitton of money on
I don't understand why anyone cares if you take pictures of the ceremony/reception. Absolutely don't get in the way of the professional photog, but other than that, why does it matter? Isn't that sort of why people used to put disposable cameras on the tables?
What if there was an emergency? I would lie and keep it. It's unrealistic to expect people to do this now.
If it was the ceremony only, you'd find out about it an hour later. Much like if you kept it in your purse with the ringer turned off. Unless you're constantly checking your phone to see if it rang, which defeats turning off the ringer.
I want to think about what you posted by I'm too scared by your sig pic to read it again. Pennywise freaks me the hell out.
I'd comply and it's reasonably unlikely that something serious enough to require an emergency phone call is going to happen to your kid during the ceremony.
Reasonably, sure, but not guaranteed. That's why they're called emergencies. They're not expected.
It's just part of the over parenting/protection of this generation of parents. Sure things happen but if it's a true emergency I'm sure the sitter is aware of where the parents are. Not long ago parents would leave their kids with sitters completely unplugged. Needing to be reached 24/7 is a new thing.
I didn't realize how much guest cameras can mess up the professional shots until I started taking pictures myself on manual. It's not just jumping in the shots or blocking things, even the smallest flash (like a camera phone) can ruin the exposure on the professional's shot, so much so that it can't be recovered. Now I feel bad for ever bringing my p&s camera back in the day.
I would not hand over my phone. I would turn it off/on silent, as I do for any public event where I am an observer/audience member. Asking people to hand it is a bit excessive. And it really sets you up for a clusterfuck when it comes to getting them all back to the appropriate owner. I trust no one.
Agreed, also to your point what will they do if someones phone is lost/damaged in the process? Are they prepared to cover for damages?
late to the party but how would I take pictures of my husband and I at the reception if my cell was taken?. It's a night out, with husband, and friends, all dressed up. I WANT DRUNKEN SELFIES DAMNIT.
Edit: LOL at my awful typing - on a conference call, not drunk
I don't understand why anyone cares if you take pictures of the ceremony/reception. Absolutely don't get in the way of the professional photog, but other than that, why does it matter? Isn't that sort of why people used to put disposable cameras on the tables?
Because a bajillion (or even one really) flashes going off from amateur photogs can ruin the professional photography they spent a shitton of money on
Her reasoning was that it would prevent disruptions during the ceremony and keep people from being distracted/unengaged during the reception. She seemed a bit surprised when her FI thought it was a terrible idea.
I can absolutely see doing it during the ceremony. The reception... meh.
I mean, I need some way to entertain myself when the father of the bride launches into a 20 minute slideshow.
If I knew about it I just wouldn't take my phone with me. Every single person on my FB that has gone to a wedding in the last couple of years has posted photos before the couple and it pisses me the hell off. My guess is if you asked people to not take pictures and post there would still be a few people who would.
Oh, come on! Every single person on your FB that has gone to a wedding?
it appears so - multiple people each weekend are posting pics of a wedding they attended, while they are there.
Reasonably, sure, but not guaranteed. That's why they're called emergencies. They're not expected.
It's just part of the over parenting/protection of this generation of parents. Sure things happen but if it's a true emergency I'm sure the sitter is aware of where the parents are. Not long ago parents would leave their kids with sitters completely unplugged. Needing to be reached 24/7 is a new thing.
Yes, but parents usually left a few numbers for emergencies, be it the church or grandparents or something. At least that's what I always saw on TV and movies.