I'm thinking of more things like when my husband thanks me for letting him sleep in on the weekend. But then when he let me sleep in last weekend I came down still grumpy and didn't say anything.
Cara, I think we need to be on that show "wife swap". After 2 weeks with me, your husband will be BEGGING for you to return home lol.
LOL!! Heheh. I 2nd this, with my lot too! I've been ditching H all week due to rehearsals and he's had a reality check, kid-wise. The house is a disaster, the kids are eating takeaway, and watching movies! Sometimes husbands just need to experience real life sometimes. Cara you are a wonderful mother. I'm sorry he's making you feel less than that. (((Hugs)))
I'm so sorry about the hurtful comments and that you don't feel as appreciated as you should!
I haven't read all of the posts, so you may have answered this. Have you ever talked to him about the fact that you need to hear you are doing a great job? (You really are doing a GREAT job.)
Seriously. You were so good with the boys when I saw you. I feel you on Lincoln being a handful recently. He reminds me of H. Do you guys have a timeline for L preschool or some kind MDO?
I 100% agree with this. I'm sorry your husband isn't appreciating all that you do.
Post by imimahoney on Nov 21, 2014 16:36:20 GMT -5
I'm really sorry about all the assholish husbands in this thread. Dh says I'm a great mom fairly often even though I don't really feel like I am. But I also say the same thing to him.
From the beginning I was very upfront with him that he needs to be a co-parent. I expect a lot from him and call him on his laziness if he doesn't pull his own weight. If I come off as botch I often apologize for my tone but still say things honestly. It doesn't help our situation if I just let him slide by and not help, he needs to help.
I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope he starts to appreciate you more. I agree that he can't fully sympathize with what you do all day if he hasn't been there himself, so hopefully that can start soon. I think it will get better in time.
I'm totally feeling you on the hard time youre having with L. 2 1/2 is rough and I'm constantly feeling overwhelmed with E and wondering if I am handling things right. H works a lot so a lot of that falls on me and it's hard. Hes not stressing all the time, wondering if he's doing the right thing or parenting the best way like I am, because I am the one always here. I do have a car, but with all three mobile and just Elias at this stage, I pretty much just stay home. It's hard, and I totally get how trapped and lonely it feels! And I also don't have friends that I see often. Dealing with kids all day, alone at home, and then having a non appreciative H is a lot to handle. Hugs!!
I only get recognition in anniversary, birthday, or Mother's Day cards. Other than that he doesn't really tell me to my face. It would be nice to hear, but I don't tell him he's a great dad either. I do thank him for the things he does for B and around the house though, and he does the same. Cara, I'm sorry you are dealing with this. The ladies here have given great advice. You are an awesome mom with those two little boys day in and day out!
My H doesn't say it nearly enough. Those comments are few and far between. When he does say them, I make sure to make a big deal about how good it makes me feel.
My H doesn't say it nearly enough. Those comments are few and far between. When he does say them, I make sure to make a big deal about how good it makes me feel.
My H doesn't say it nearly enough. Those comments are few and far between. When he does say them, I make sure to make a big deal about how good it makes me feel.
He did give you the ultimate weekend!
This is VERY true! He doesn't know how to speak his feelings, but he does do nice things every so often! That weekend was amazing!