Or February bdays don't want valentines stuff....MIL! Stop
Baby Sparky's due date is Feb 12 and I hate Valentines Day. I really hope she does not end up born on the 14th, because the next person who is all "Valentine's Baby to me!" is getting punched.
But isn't this judging too? Somehow this person is looking at another person and deeming them "not enough" so much that they need to give them "encouraging" smiles.
I guess that's not how I look at it. Being as I was the person getting lapped on the track by a woman with a cane, I'll take any encouragement I can get. I can't tell if a smile is a smile or an encouraging smile. Eye of the beholder, I guess. I smile at people at the gym, guess I'm a judgy creepster.
TTTC is a nice board We're not puppies and rainbows like the GP board can be. Its nice to know your not alone going through IF. Plus there's a ton of knowledge, in case you have questions as you start the testing process. Its normal to feel overwhelmed and hesitant to begin the process. ((hugs))
TTTC is awesome. I have been avoiding because I am sad that I have a shitty diagnosis and TTC may not be in the cards again for awhile. But anyone who is on the fence should check it out. Those ladies are beyond amazing.
It can be hard to even hang there occasionally when your on a long TTC/treatment break or if there is a sudden BFP boom (which is nice and hard to see when your not part of it). I've had times where I will still lurk but have to step away for a few days or weeks, because I feel I have nothing to say. I've been around since TTTC separated from the GP board a few years ago. Some days are hard for me because I feel like I will always be part of the welcoming committee and never move on.
((hugs lady)) I'm sorry your dealing with shitty IF news.
Well fat shaming, IF and super sweet coffee this post really has hit all of my insecurities/sad bullshit. I feel sad after reading this for everyone that is struggling. I hope you everyone is able to find their peace whatever it may be.
I think 3 pages is enough for me to bury this. We just got an email that one of my coworkers had her baby last night. I am happy for her.
But I am also insanely jealous. I spent yesterday afternoon at our departmental holiday party where there were fucking SEVEN women pregnant (not including the one who gave birth last night). Out of a 30 person party. I heard so many "it must be in the water!" jokes that I wanted to scream. Ugh
This time of year is harder than most for stuff like this. No flames, just hugs.
I assumed karma meant it is hard to wrap your head around that type of incident happening to 2 people on the same message board, I think 'sign' was a poor word choice.
So much this and not a sign. Just random scary awfulness that's hard to understand but I try too since I'm such a worrier. I can plan forever but it doesn't mean anything. It scares me.
Thank you for understanding what I meant and not what I posted. You have done that a few times now. I appreciate it so much.
I'm probably more emotional about this right now because just this last weekend, a friend (while drunk) informed me a mutual friend told her that he thinks my IF is caused by my weight and that I really need to lose weight.
Ends meat?
He is an idiot.
And unless he is a RE, he has no business commenting on what could be possibly causing your IF.
AND if he is SO FUCKING SMART he should realize that like, 30%, of IF is "unexplained".
ALL our tests came back 'normal'. There was no 'reason' for not getting pregnant, except that it just wasn't happening.
Also, your friend who passed along his comment needs to shut her trap.
Co-signing on this. We have unexplained secondary IF and are starting IVF in Jan.
This guy is a fucking dick. FUCKING DICK. WTF is with the friend who told you this? Why on earth would she pass it on?
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
and hugs to jillianashley6 too. I hated that "it's in THE WATER!" phrase bc here I'd be, depressed as fuck that no, my water was not resulting in a damn pregnancy. And it sucked and hurt even more when I started to get lapped. It's really so hard. Love ya girl.
@booby I’ve been there where you are, for a long time and for the same reasons. I LOVE our life with one, and I was so WHAT IF about a potential #2. I still don’t know if we’re making the right decision going for #2 (we’re in an FET cycle right now with ET on Thursday) logistics wise and practically speaking. This may be fucking dumb but we just decided that if this works and #2 happens, we’ll make the most of it and same if it doesn’t happen.
But I do get it, Noah is the only only on our street of like almost 30 kids. He gets so sad and disappointed when it’s time to go inside from playing in the street with everyone and has said “I have no friends at home!!” He calls our dog his sister, and now he calls his junk ass carnival stuffed animal puppy dog his brother. He saves clothes and toys for what he calls “our baby” and fuck if I’m not crying just typing all of this out right now.
So, big huge hugs. Whatever you decide to do will be the right decision. I understand you and sympathize, you’re entitled to all the feelings about this.
this was painful to read. i know you are trying to sympathize with me and i certainly thought it would help to hear some stories of people in similar positions. but it doesn't help. (that's on me, btw, not you! lol). your post breaks my heart. for both of us, i guess. hugs.
I know I'm super late, but I feel for you guys. When I was in DD's classroom last week I almost started crying when I looked at all the kids' family pictures and realized DD is the only one without a sibling. It sucks.
Post by liverandonions on Dec 9, 2014 23:55:03 GMT -5
So many things in this thread but I'm going to just say in my family of 3, our birthdays are Christmas Eve, 12/30, and the day before Valentine's Day. We're all around holidays. It can suck.