This is total bullshit. Unless you have GD, carbs are fine. My doctor made one comment about my weight gain (62 pounds by my induction at 39 weeks) and I shut her down. Really, wtf did she want me to do about it at that point, anyway?
Even with GD, you are still supposed to eat a certain amount of carbs at every meal and snack.
OP - don't lie to your MWs, but tell them about how much anxiety they are causing you. Stress isn't good for you either.
ETA: and the constant berating is why I would switch. Not just mentioning it.
I know, I wasn't referring to her when I said excessive weight gain.
Sorry if it appeared that way.
Full disclosure, I had gained like 22 but lied to make it look like 20. And I still got the lecture.
I'd say that "only" 75% of my diet is healthy and I'm definitely not as active as I was in my first pregnancy. So I feel like part of the anxiety I have is due to me feeling like they're right and I could be doing more. Still I completely disagree with their stance on carbs and think that their focus on my weight gain is taking a lot of the joy out of my pregnancy, LOL. It's Christmas. I just want to enjoy my cookies in peace.
Or give me a $10 caribou gift card! I love coffee!!
I feel so bratty but it's just depressing.
No one with a December birthday wants Christmas junk!
Yeah, they're screwing you out of a gift! DS's birthday is Dec 28. (now)XH said "We can just combine his birthday with Christmas!" I told XH we could also combine his birthday with Thanksgiving, and for once in his life he saw the light.
No one with a December birthday wants Christmas junk!
Yeah, they're screwing you out of a gift! DS's birthday is Dec 28. (now)XH said "We can just combine his birthday with Christmas!" I told XH we could also combine his birthday with Thanksgiving, and for once in his life he saw the light.
DH's is the 29th. Once I wrapped his bday gift in Christmas paper. ONCE
@booby This is a recurring theme in our arguments too. H says I'm contrary to be contrary, but really I just think he's wrong sometimes. Then when he's proven wrong, I get the whole "You just LOVE being right, don't you?" Well, yeah. But I was trying not to be smug about it.
Also it drives H insane when people ask his advice and don't take it, and I'm always like seriously? What's the big deal? And that drives him crazy too. So I get this.
This is why I loved both of my old, white-man OBs when I was pregnant. lol. I feel like old white men are less likely to get all stern about your weight for some reason. Also both of them laughed like the dickens when I asked about restricted foods and told me I was being ridiculous.
yep. My young, female doctor that I had for Henry told me to gain 20 lbs MAX. My old, white doctor that I had with Clare just said, "you can't be a skinny girl and have a baby". Lol. I started at about 118 both times.
I think 3 pages is enough for me to bury this. We just got an email that one of my coworkers had her baby last night. I am happy for her.
But I am also insanely jealous. I spent yesterday afternoon at our departmental holiday party where there were fucking SEVEN women pregnant (not including the one who gave birth last night). Out of a 30 person party. I heard so many "it must be in the water!" jokes that I wanted to scream. Ugh
I don't know if you have a back story to why your jealous, but when my best friend told me she was pregnant after I got off the phone I cried. We were suppose to have kids around the same time ( haha a pack we made 10 years ago lol) and I knew then I was nowhere near having a kid anytime soon. I'm so happy for her! I had a day long pity party and moved on. 10 weeks till babies is here and I'm so excited. We can't control how we feel but we can control how we deal with those feelings you know? And dude scream! Scream in your car!
I know, I wasn't referring to her when I said excessive weight gain.
Sorry if it appeared that way.
Full disclosure, I had gained like 22 but lied to make it look like 20. And I still got the lecture.
I'd say that "only" 75% of my diet is healthy and I'm definitely not as active as I was in my first pregnancy. So I feel like part of the anxiety I have is due to me feeling like they're right and I could be doing more. Â Still I completely disagree with their stance on carbs and think that their focus on my weight gain is taking a lot of the joy out of my pregnancy, LOL. Â It's Christmas. I just want to enjoy my cookies in peace.Â
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, I really do understand. I've definitely been one to obsess and stress about weight, and I think the fact that you lied to the midwives really shows how anxious you are about it. Again, been there (in a different context). Be honest with them, and if they are still insensitive about how much stress it's causing you, maybe find a new practice.
Especially during my first pregnancy where I gained more and was unbelievably swollen, I was anxious constantly that I would never get my body back. It will happen! Don't let this ruin your holiday.
My flameful is fitting considering the weight topic though I am not pregnant. A coworker brought in pastries from Whole Foods. I ate a huge one even though I stopped for DD on my way and got a donut because WF pastries are soooo good. I am now considering eating my donut in addition to the almond pastry that was the size of my head.
The flameful part of this is you went to Dunkin Donuts. I hate that place. Overpriced and underwhelmed, every damn time.
Full disclosure, I had gained like 22 but lied to make it look like 20. And I still got the lecture.
I'd say that "only" 75% of my diet is healthy and I'm definitely not as active as I was in my first pregnancy. So I feel like part of the anxiety I have is due to me feeling like they're right and I could be doing more. Still I completely disagree with their stance on carbs and think that their focus on my weight gain is taking a lot of the joy out of my pregnancy, LOL. It's Christmas. I just want to enjoy my cookies in peace.
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, I really do understand. I've definitely been one to obsess and stress about weight, and I think the fact that you lied to the midwives really shows how anxious you are about it. Again, been there (in a different context). Be honest with them, and if they are still insensitive about how much stress it's causing you, maybe find a new practice.
Especially during my first pregnancy where I gained more and was unbelievably swollen, I was anxious constantly that I would never get my body back. It will happen! Don't let this ruin your holiday.
Thanks! I really appreciate this. I will bring it up at tomorrow's appointment.
My midwives have never said anything about my weight. I gained over 60 with sofia, 9 lbs with Theo, and so far 6 lbs with this one. Actually, they don't even weigh me.
(I weigh myself at home before appts. Sometimes they ask, but usually they don't)
My midwives have never said anything about my weight. I gained over 60 with sofia, 9 lbs with Theo, and so far 6 lbs with this one. Actually, they don't even weigh me.
(I weigh myself at home before appts. Sometimes they ask, but usually they don't)
My flameful is fitting considering the weight topic though I am not pregnant. A coworker brought in pastries from Whole Foods. I ate a huge one even though I stopped for DD on my way and got a donut because WF pastries are soooo good. I am now considering eating my donut in addition to the almond pastry that was the size of my head.
The flameful part of this is you went to Dunkin Donuts. I hate that place. Overpriced and underwhelmed, every damn time.
Not even the OP's crabby midwives could come between me and DD's chocolate long johns this pregnancy. Nope.
cookies I totally get it. My first OB lectured me at almost every visit. I left there in tears more often than I care to admit. It really did take some joy out of being pregnant.
As hard as it is, you just have to do your own thing. Do what you know is healthy. I gained 32 and tried to let my OB's comments just roll off me. It's hard.
OMG @booby she sound so much like my exSIL. And her and her mother would spin intricate stories. When he tried to get out, it got even worse. Like you cannot believe the shit she did. She left her first husband in the middle of the night and cleared out his bank account to come live with BIL... and everyone told him to run... I won't even put the stories on the internet... bitch is scary.
I hope he is able to stay safe. Physically and financially.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Dec 9, 2014 11:10:38 GMT -5
I need to concur with @que and @booby on the husband front. My husband is in a shitstorm all his own right now basically because he didn't listen to me. And he knows it, so he's furiously trying to fix it without "stressing me out" about it, and in my head I'm all "I TOLD YOU SO, DUMBASS...' Husbands, man.
I've been meaning to make pierogies for months, but I've been lazy. I LOVE the fruit filled pierogies. Top with some sour cream and a little fresh honey, OMG so good.