I agree about being torn about having another, booby. It doesn't help that EVERYONE is always "he needs a brother or a sister, he NEEDS one!" And the fact that he wants one so much. I just don't think it's going to happen for us and I wish everyone around me would STFU about it.
lol forever that the threshold for "overpriced" is dollar coffee at McDonalds. 1) this is what's wrong with America and 2) don't ever step foot in a Starbucks
The flameful part of this is you went to Dunkin Donuts. I hate that place. Overpriced and underwhelmed, every damn time.
Dead to me.
>I die. Negative Defense sends me to the graveyard pile. >I remember I have an Instant that will ressurect me. I check my Mana. It is sufficient. >I Emerald Lagasse the Instant card on the playing table. My opponent scowls. >I retrieve myself from the graveyard and return to my hand. >My opponent's mana is all tapped out. I survive another round.
I have like $18 in my account. But tonight is payday.
Still, I am side eying myself.
Im here, too. According to my bank account I was at Target 4 times in the last 3 days. I can't even remember what all I bought.
I'm convinced that our Target is some kind of black hole. I absolutely never get out of there with the one thing I went in for. I blame the setup, because I have to go past the women's section to get juice, which is across from the seasonal section, and then I see the dog toys on my way to get paper towels, and next thing I know I'm checking out with $89.64 worth of shit.
I need to concur with @que and @booby on the husband front. My husband is in a shitstorm all his own right now basically because he didn't listen to me. And he knows it, so he's furiously trying to fix it without "stressing me out" about it, and in my head I'm all "I TOLD YOU SO, DUMBASS...' Husbands, man.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. DH will ask for my input, then totally ignore whatever I suggested, until someone else (really, anyone else) comes up with the same suggestion. I don't even try any more, and when he asks what I think he should do, I just tell him he should ask the guys at work, since he's going to go with their advice over mine anyway. And then he's genuinely surprised when I want to bang my head against the wall.
My flameful is fitting considering the weight topic though I am not pregnant. A coworker brought in pastries from Whole Foods. I ate a huge one even though I stopped for DD on my way and got a donut because WF pastries are soooo good. I am now considering eating my donut in addition to the almond pastry that was the size of my head.
The flameful part of this is you went to Dunkin Donuts. I hate that place. Overpriced and underwhelmed, every damn time.
Don't tell all the New Englanders but I much prefer starbucks. However, it was raining and freezing and DD has a drive through.
lol forever that the threshold for "overpriced" is dollar coffee at McDonalds. 1) this is what's wrong with America and 2) don't ever step foot in a Starbucks
Nevarrr! My 12 pot coffee maker and I are snug at home, anyway. We're cuddling right now.
I need to concur with @que and @booby on the husband front. My husband is in a shitstorm all his own right now basically because he didn't listen to me. And he knows it, so he's furiously trying to fix it without "stressing me out" about it, and in my head I'm all "I TOLD YOU SO, DUMBASS...' Husbands, man.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. DH will ask for my input, then totally ignore whatever I suggested, until someone else (really, anyone else) comes up with the same suggestion. I don't even try any more, and when he asks what I think he should do, I just tell him he should ask the guys at work, since he's going to go with their advice over mine anyway. And then he's genuinely surprised when I want to bang my head against the wall.
I simply fucking LOVE it when he comes home with some "Great new idea! That someone at the firehouse suggested to him!" That I had nagged his ass about oh, you know, three months before? Sigh :-)
I hate Starbucks. If I want to spend $5 on a cup of coffee, I'll go to the coffee shop where they sell real coffee. Not some Yankee candle tasting bullshit. No thank you.
I'm beyond drowning at work and it's fucking ridiculous. I could cry, but instead I'm quietly GBCNing and praying the work fairies do all my work. seething over the secretaries I know on the 14th floor who spend their days reading romance novels at their desks.
OPs post is why I am SCARED to get pregnant again. I lost all the baby weight and BOOM gained it right back. DS is 3 and I am not a lb slimmer than the day he came home from the hospital. 30lbs up from when I got pregnant the first time ( I gained 50 total but DS was 9lbs 6 oz and so was the placenta and fluid and stuff so it ended up being 30lbs of actual weight).
Anyways I have it in my head that I CANNOT get pregnant this heavy. CANNOT. DEAL. With my past ED if they made a comment ( and they made a few during my first pregnancy) I would fucking lose it. NOPE.
If I don't lose the weight in the next 10 months DS might end up actually being an only child. For real.
Same thing happened to me when I was pregnant with DS. I was about 28-30 weeks and was shamed by the midwife at my OB practice for gaining a total of 20 lbs. She told me to stop eating carbs. I had just gotten out of the hospital for pre-term labor and she didn't even discuss that. She only talked about my weight gain. I was pissed! And I requested to never see her again. None of the other 5 doctors in the practice said a word about my weight.
That blows Serenity9, I've worked with people like that before. Some people really, really, really are not meant for management.
Congratulations on the raise though! (rose)
Thanks! I was so wrapped up in being upset about his comments for a while and almost forgot that I actually ended up with a good result. It just felt so negative.
There is a very hush hush conversation going on in the office next door to mine, which is occupied by the OM. I have paused my pandora, and have turned off my heater even though I am freezing because I am nosy and want to hear what is going on. I am even typing super slowly so that the sound of the keyboard isn't all click click click.
my kid is at the age where he is talking about having a brother or a sister all the time. he thinks that evan and layla (from his class? i guess?) are his brother and his sister.
fuck. i really want another baby. but i don't. i want a bigger family, but i don't really want to do IVF again (mainly b/c i will be devastated if it fails or i m/c) and we would no longer be financially set if we added another. and i know my H doesn't want another b/c he is worried about his own health.
my heart is just so torn and i hate this feeling. i am scared of regret. i'm worried i will really regret not having another, but i also think i will really regret having another. i don't know how to find peace here.
eta: i think about this probably 10 times a day and it's really affecting me.
You don't know me but this is my life exactly. My kid talks about being a big brother every day-his friends at school are his "siblings". Last night he said, "Mom, if you get another baby in your belly, then I'll be a big brother. I'll be a great big brother." Cue tears. I'm terrified to spend the $$ on IVF again-we are okay now financially but wouldn't be if we did another round. And it's all for a big, fat, maybe. Ugh. The only difference is that my H definitely wants another. IF sucks. Good luck trying to find peace with your decision.
I'm really bummed today-some are real reasons and others are vague (even to me).
Why so sad LILA?
The weather maybe. It sucks here.
And I'm sorry @booby That is a tough one and no real answer. Does he have close cousins? I know it's not the same as a sibling, but if a sib isn't in the cards, maybe play up the closeness of cousins, friends, etc. I hope you are able to come to a resolution soon. I can imagine the feelings there and it's no way to live, it weighs so heavily. Take care.
Yeah, they're screwing you out of a gift! DS's birthday is Dec 28. (now)XH said "We can just combine his birthday with Christmas!" I told XH we could also combine his birthday with Thanksgiving, and for once in his life he saw the light.
DH's is the 29th. Once I wrapped his bday gift in Christmas paper. ONCE
I get a Christmas ornament from MIL for my birthday every year.