My kid hates the highchair now. She just cries and says "chair chair" to sit in the regular one. If we agree, then we spend the whole meal getting her to sit in the chair and eat. Ugh.
My mom is bringing a booster down, I hope that this shiny new thing will get her to sit in it. It's not like she's in a separate high chair even. We have the FP one that attaches to the chair.
Post by thebreakfastclub on Dec 19, 2014 8:29:35 GMT -5
My kid eats a lot of his meals in his tiny IKEA table/chair set. It's a lot like what they have at daycare.
He will do breakfast in the high chair, but he is annoyed with it at dinner. I also think having the freedom of movement gets him to sit longer and eat more.
I'm excited because H is getting me a Christmas gift! We often don't do gifts, and I've been jealous of all the "what do you want" threads, and lo and behold, we decided to swap small gifts. It won't be a surprise, exactly, because I gave him a list with links, but I don't know which of the items he will choose. So slightly surprising.
My kid eats a lot of his meals in his tiny IKEA table/chair set. It's a lot like what they have at daycare.
He will do breakfast in the high chair, but he is annoyed with it at dinner. I also think having the freedom of movement gets him to sit longer and eat more.
H and I are going out tonight with our friend and his new g/f. We had plan to go out and get drinks but I need to take J to H's work tomorrow for breakfast with Santa. Pretty sure showing up hungover will be frowned upon.
My dad and I are painting my garage door today. I think my moms going to hang with J today.
My kid eats a lot of his meals in his tiny IKEA table/chair set. It's a lot like what they have at daycare.
He will do breakfast in the high chair, but he is annoyed with it at dinner. I also think having the freedom of movement gets him to sit longer and eat more.
No room for something like that in my house.
Bummer. We do have a booster / tray set from Target that straps directly on to a chair. It has multiple levels so you can add/subtract to the height as the kid grows. What about something like that, but at the lowest level and put directly on the floor? Then she has a little chair to sit in and eat at?
Just a thought. I just know that if yours is like mine, she will be less and less tolerant of that high chair as time goes on. The last thing I want to do at 6pm is have a battle over it. So annoying.
I finally did it. DH was snoring SO BADLY, I woke him up and made him sleep on the couch. First time ever. It was 1:30am, he'd been snoring for hours, no matter which side he slept on. As he was leaving the bedroom, he said "if you feel GUILTY about this, come get me and invite me back to bed." I did not do that :-O
Now this morning he's extremely angry with me. One word answers, in an angry tone. How the fuck am I supposed to respond to that?!? Am I supposed to apologize for moving him so PREGNANT me could sleep? Should I have gone to the couch myself?! Should I have laid in bed and dutifully listened to him snore all night?! WTF, DH.
I've now ruined probably the whole weekend. He'll be angry at me for days. Was last night's sleep worth that? Maybe I need to sleep on the couch instead. Goddamit.
I walked in the door and before I could even get my coat off and log into my computer my boss was asking for a specific report. Chill the F out, dude. It's already on my calender to do the first thing this morning.
But on the plus side, one of my coworkers left a Christmas gift of a bottle of bubbly on my desk. Woot! Maybe I'll try making the French 75 cocktails that someone mentioned last week.
Post by bananapancakes on Dec 19, 2014 9:01:48 GMT -5
Sometimes my H's cluelessness when it comes to baby things is beneficial. We were talking the other day about how we've been bleeding money lately and also discussing upcoming purchases. I mentioned that we'll need to get a new car seat for L soon (and I really want the Foonf!) He said, "So what will that cost? A grand or 2?" Ha! When I answered, "Nope, only about $500 or so.", he actually said, "Oh, that's not too bad then." My H is notoriously stingy so the fact that he is cool with a $500 car seat is super surprising. Little does he know that there are much cheaper options out there. I'm certainly not telling him!
dude @supergreen. I have so many many words that are not appropriate for right now. All I'll say is you need to start standing up for you and your family.
I have to make about 50 bacon wrapped water chestnuts at some point today to split between a potluck tonight and an early Christmas dinner here tomorrow. Hopefully ds2 naps well this afternoon. Not sure how to give attention to an awake baby when I'm covered in raw bacon grease...
@supergreen, we spent a couple years sleeping apart. Eventually, he admitted that snoring IS a problem and got a mouthguard from his dentist that minimized it. Then he lost a bunch of weight last year, and now needs nothing to not snore.
He never acted like a douche about it. He was sad to not sleep together, but I would kill him if I had to listen to that all night, every night. I need sleep.
@supergreen If he wants to spend the weekend in a tantrum, let him. Make plans to enjoy yourself. Emotional blackmail should not fly with you, ever.
Good idea. I'm high tailing it to my moms house right now actually. Unfortunately since DS will only sleep in his crib I have to come back for naptime.
For the record my husband and I are both flawed and bicker more than most MMMs claim they do but it is the ruining the weekend thing that makes me mad.
I hear you. Loud and clear. H and I can bicker like no other sometimes. Over the stupidest of sh*t. However, it's a 10 minute thing, we both own, we both move on. It just gets to me that MrSG seems to tantrum over everything and then dwell for days in an attempt to make his point known.
I am not okay with that. But we have beat this horse. He is who he is.
But Supergreen. You have my hugs. I hope he snaps out of it for a change.
YES HE DID. A cocktail when he got home, wine with dinner, and a couple beers with a movie after DS went to bed. I reminded him of that this morning. He was all "well it was in the house. Why is it here if I can't drink it?" (It was leftover from a dinner party on Sat night). So I unceremoniously poured it out.
DD has been up since 715. She has done nothing but WHINE and cry big crocodile tears over nothing.
It's now 843.
Our last two weeks have been like this off and on, more on.
I want to run away.
Then one of my really smug mom friends (nice girl, just doesn't realize how she sounds) has this long "feel good" speech on FB about she feels guilty because she wishes her kids would all just go to bed some nights, and that her days are long but she should really enjoy it and appreciate it because kids are miracles she wasn't even sure she'd ever get."
Bite Me. DD can go to bed right now and that'd be fine with me.
dude @supergreen. I have so many many words that are not appropriate for right now. All I'll say is you need to start standing up for you and your family.
He often asks me if he snored, and I rate it 1-10. This morning I said "most nights your snoring is a 2 or 3, so not so bad. I've ignored plenty of 5s and 7s. Last night was a 9! Because you had wine and a bunch of other alcohol mixed together. I listened to you for 3 hours before waking you. And YOU'RE mad at ME?"
Post by cincodemayo on Dec 19, 2014 9:52:45 GMT -5
I am in such a freaking mood this morning. The ONE night I get to bed before midnight my kid wakes me up at 5:30. All I want to do is go home tonight and watch TV and go to bed early but we have a surprise 30th birthday party to go to. There isn't enough coffee in the world for me to get through this weekend I am afraid.
@supergreen, we spent a couple years sleeping apart. Eventually, he admitted that snoring IS a problem and got a mouthguard from his dentist that minimized it. Then he lost a bunch of weight last year, and now needs nothing to not snore.
He never acted like a douche about it. He was sad to not sleep together, but I would kill him if I had to listen to that all night, every night. I need sleep.
I'm sure his weight is a big contributing factor. He needs to lose at least 50lbs. But I'm not dieting while PG or nursing, so I admit to being a huge bitch and not taking the initiative on helping him lose weight. He has no interest in losing weight.
He complains that he "already uses those terribly breathe right strips and saline spray. We bought a new mattress. I am DOING A LOT." Gee thanks.
He will not go to the dentist or do a sleep study. Will not. He is very angry to be sleeping apart. He said he wants his own bed. He's also very angry that apparently HE heard ME snoring last night. He says he laid there on the couch "seething with rage." I said "well now you know how I feel every night."
In somewhat good DH news, DH asked me to figure out my EFAP benefits to get him into a therapist because he's been feeling somewhat depressed/stressed/anxious and he should probably talk to someone about this.
This is HUGE. I suggested it a month or so ago, as he has been under huge stress and I think it's part of why he's been an off-and-on dick to me lately. I'm hoping we can arrange something fairly soon, although I guess Christmas is kind of in the way.
Thank you @justdairy and tulips. I know I bitch a lot on here about his snoring. Y'all are my only outlet. I don't discuss our marriage with anyone else b/c I don't want to paint him in a bad light to my friends or family. But this shit is RIDICULOUS. I told him so this morning. "I've listened to you snore for months and this is the first time I've ever moved you. And YOU'RE mad at ME?!"
@supergreen: you need a spare bed, as solution #1. No one should have to sleep on the too small, uncomfortable couch in these situation.
And yes, you need marriage counseling. There's a pattern here, and the pattern is you walking on eggshells around him being an asshole. I get that you love him and you want to be with him forever, but if you'd like to enjoy that... shit needs to change. If he won't go, go without him.
@supergreen, we spent a couple years sleeping apart. Eventually, he admitted that snoring IS a problem and got a mouthguard from his dentist that minimized it. Then he lost a bunch of weight last year, and now needs nothing to not snore.
He never acted like a douche about it. He was sad to not sleep together, but I would kill him if I had to listen to that all night, every night. I need sleep.
I'm sure his weight is a big contributing factor. He needs to lose at least 50lbs. But I'm not dieting while PG or nursing, so I admit to being a huge bitch and not taking the initiative on helping him lose weight. He has no interest in losing weight.
He complains that he "already uses those terribly breathe right strips and saline spray. We bought a new mattress. I am DOING A LOT." Gee thanks.
He will not go to the dentist or do a sleep study. Will not. He is very angry to be sleeping apart. He said he wants his own bed. He's also very angry that apparently HE heard ME snoring last night. He says he laid there on the couch "seething with rage." I said "well now you know how I feel every night."
No. No. He is a grown adult. You shouldn't have to take the initiative for him on much of anything. And this all manipulation plain and simple. It needs to stop. He's trying to make you feel bad for wanting/needing something. I assure you 98% of MMM isn't telling the truth about how fabulous their marriages are but I assure you that if 98% of MMM asked their husband to go sleep on the sofa, they would go, they would sleep, they would get up and that would be the end.