Yeah I've worked for some pretty big ass holes. People who will make you miserable if you take off because your kid is sick. But I highly doubt all these people who are saying sometimes you "have" to send them would get fired if they called in. People get sick. And who is keeping their kid home every time they have a cold? Not even me. But a normal cold and contagious gunk oozing out of you are not the same thing.
I agree. will they make you miserable and feel like shit for taking a day? absolutely fired? it's rare. very rare.
Post by andrewsgal on Jan 30, 2015 19:15:52 GMT -5
Honestly I can't believe that keeping home a child with bodily fluids coming out of his eyes from an infection isn't a unity horse. I get it if it's financial or you will be fired but this wasn't the case.
Honestly I can't believe that keeping home a child with bodily fluids coming out of his eyes from an infection isn't a unity horse. I get it if it's financial or you will be fired but this wasn't the case.
My mom was a nurse and had little sympathy for small illnesses. I had horrible sinuses that would come out in my eye a few times a year. She knew it wasn't contagious but she still had me stay home because it was gross and very visible.
Honestly I can't believe that keeping home a child with bodily fluids coming out of his eyes from an infection isn't a unity horse. I get it if it's financial or you will be fired but this wasn't the case.
Lol. Why so dramatic?!
I said when he woke up he had a tiny bit of drainage/eye boogers on the corners of each eye. Usually when you have full fledged pink eye your eyes are basically glued shut when you wake up. His didn't look anything like that.
I gave him his eye drops and kept checking him to see if they were draining. I texted his teacher a couple of times in the morning to check and make sure they still weren't draining. He had been on eye drops for 20 hours at that point.
I understand if you don't agree, but the bolded is just dramatic.
Honestly I can't believe that keeping home a child with bodily fluids coming out of his eyes from an infection isn't a unity horse. I get it if it's financial or you will be fired but this wasn't the case.
Lol. Why so dramatic?!
I said when he woke up he had a tiny bit of drainage/eye boogers on the corners of each eye. Usually when you have full fledged pink eye your eyes are basically glued shut when you wake up. His didn't look anything like that.
I gave him his eye drops and kept checking him to see if they were draining. I texted his teacher a couple of times in the morning to check and make sure they still weren't draining. He had been on eye drops for 20 hours at that point.
I understand if you don't agree, but the bolded is just dramatic.
You back track and change your story more than any poster I have ever seen why would I be surprised you are doing it again? You specifically said he had stuff coming from his eyes. You also said he had pink eye. Trying to figure out where I am being dramatic?
I sent my kid to daycare this morning on the tail end of a pink eye infection.
He started the eye drops yesterday and this morning he woke up with just a tiny bit of drainage in both eyes. I truly don't think he is contagious, but I still feel guilty about it.
this is what I said originally. He woke up with a tiny bit of drainage. Are eye boogers not dried up drainage? How is that changing my story? His eyes were not actively draining when I sent him. It was left over from a night of sleep.
Yes I said he had pink eye, but if you read a little further ahead, I said I didn't know what kind of pink eye it was --whether it was contagious or not. Once again I don't see how this is backpedaling, but you are not exactly one to reason with.
Post by andrewsgal on Jan 30, 2015 19:42:25 GMT -5
Drainage and eye boogers are not the same thing no. Neither are snot (nose drainage)and boogers you know that you are just doing your best to back track. But whatever.
And let me guess I am not one to reason with because your logic is always flawed when you try to back track and I call you out on it right?
Team Keep your sick kid home. It's part of having kids when you work. Have a back up plan. Have a back up plan for your back up plan. There's enough stupid shit going around that you spread not knowing you have it. Sending someone to school/daycare when you KNOW for a fact they're still sick just sucks. I get it. We both work. We have no family/friends close by. But we know that and our job knows that and we plan for it.
My confession:
I think I might need to go back to therapy. My best friend is pregnant and I can't even talk to her about it because I'm so flipped out and convinced something terrible is going to happen to the baby. She's fine. The baby is fine. There are no problems. But I've had a pit in my stomach since I found out. I'm pretending to be excited for her and deep down I'm just a ball of nerves. I think Mallory has convinced me that horrible things happen at every delivery and I really can't get past it.
Not to be Debbie downer, but when my SIL was pregnant with her first I was a ball of anxiety because of my loss and DS NICU stay. She is pregnant again, and is a week past her due date. I'm not as anxious as I was last time, but it sucks. I'm paranoid. I want that baby out and safely in her arms already.
Post by amynumbers on Jan 30, 2015 21:37:06 GMT -5
I dying that people give this many shits about pink eye.
Yes, I think everyone should have back up care. But honestly shit fucking happens, and no one who has the luxury of being home with their kids gets to lecture people in the workforce.
If you want someone to blame for parents sending sick kids to school, start with your elected officials who will not support mandatory paid sick leave in this country.
I dying that people give this many shits about pink eye.
Yes, I think everyone should have back up care. But honestly shit fucking happens, and no one who has the luxury of being home with their kids gets to lecture people in the workforce.
If you want someone to blame for parents sending sick kids to school, start with your elected officials who will not support mandatory paid sick leave in this country.
I do work full time. which is why this gets under my skin so badly.
The doctor did give her antibiotics and I had to take them too. We were cooped up the last 2 weeks and couldn't enjoy the warm weather here that never happens. Now it's back to winter.
Um you don't take antibiotics for colds. Either you have no idea what your child had, or something is wrong with your ped.
She had an infection and seriously if your kid has a terrible cough and an ear ache they need to stay home. And these kids that are in her preschool class have stay at home moms so there really isn't any excuse in my book. Yes if a kid has the sniffles by all means let them go to school - but this wasn't a normal sniffle case.
I'm only on page 2, so I apologize if we're not talking about it anymore, but KC, shut the fuck up.
If my kid is sick, my H or I stay home. (not for colds. if we stayed hoe every time someone had a cold I'd still be a SAHM in the winter in MN)
If one of us can't, they go to DC and our provider keeps them separated as much as possible. I don't know of anyone who would take my kids at the drop of a hat, sick (actually, louie probably would), my ILs live 4 hours away, I'm an only child, my mom works and my dad is dead. So no, I don't have another option.
I mean, we're not talking "mommy has a job, so she can't ever stay home" we're talking, H is in trial and mommy is giving standardized tests or being observed by her boss. bean had to work because she did "the right thing" last time.
Uh what? No less than five other people agreed with the idea working families need a backup plan. Why the call out to me but not to cj, AG or kimbus who all said the same fucking thing? Just because you're in a pissy mood doesn't mean you need to cuss at me.
If you don't have people that can help out now is the time to start looking. I was raised by a single parent who had multiple jobs and I never went to school sick. If my regular after school care wasn't available for the day a family friend with school age kids would come park her butt on our couch while her own kids were in school. If you don't have friends who wouldn't do this it doesn't mean there aren't people who won't for pay. Our generation is lucky we have the internet to easily meet people.
Um you don't take antibiotics for colds. Either you have no idea what your child had, or something is wrong with your ped.
She had an infection and seriously if your kid has a terrible cough and an ear ache they need to stay home. Â And these kids that are in her preschool class have stay at home moms so there really isn't any excuse in my book. Â Yes if a kid has the sniffles by all means let them go to school - but this wasn't a normal sniffle case.
Those kind of infections aren't spreadable like a virus though. Not that I'm saying kids who feel crappy shouldn't be at home but if my kid were on antibiotics, still had a bad cough but was feeling better it would be a school day. Ds had a cold with a bad cough that lasted 3.5 weeks. I couldn't wait until he was cough free to send him to school.
Honestly I can't believe that keeping home a child with bodily fluids coming out of his eyes from an infection isn't a unity horse. I get it if it's financial or you will be fired but this wasn't the case.
I dying that people give this many shits about pink eye.
Yes, I think everyone should have back up care. But honestly shit fucking happens, and no one who has the luxury of being home with their kids gets to lecture people in the workforce.
If you want someone to blame for parents sending sick kids to school, start with your elected officials who will not support mandatory paid sick leave in this country.
This chick works one day a week if she is a working mom then so am I.
Yeah I've worked for some pretty big ass holes. People who will make you miserable if you take off because your kid is sick. But I highly doubt all these people who are saying sometimes you "have" to send them would get fired if they called in. People get sick. And who is keeping their kid home every time they have a cold? Not even me. But a normal cold and contagious gunk oozing out of you are not the same thing.
It's not about getting fired -- it's about not getting paid.
Also kids have a "normal cold" with yellow or green snot all.the.time. Not clear.
I dying that people give this many shits about pink eye.
Yes, I think everyone should have back up care. But honestly shit fucking happens, and no one who has the luxury of being home with their kids gets to lecture people in the workforce.
If you want someone to blame for parents sending sick kids to school, start with your elected officials who will not support mandatory paid sick leave in this country.
This chick works one day a week if she is a working mom then so am I.
Once again, WTF are you talking about? I work 25-37 hours a week.
Yeah I've worked for some pretty big ass holes. People who will make you miserable if you take off because your kid is sick. But I highly doubt all these people who are saying sometimes you "have" to send them would get fired if they called in. People get sick. And who is keeping their kid home every time they have a cold? Not even me. But a normal cold and contagious gunk oozing out of you are not the same thing.
It's not about getting fired -- it's about not getting paid.
Also kids have a "normal cold" with yellow or green snot all.the.time. Not clear.
Did you read the post? No one except one person is saying stay home for a cold. But if your kid is sick and contagious and you don't have to be at work keep him home because you just got other kids sick and some of their parents do have to work.
Plus also with a lot of schools you CANT go when sick like they won't allow it. So those saying sometimes you have to send them no matter what are being ridiculous.
This chick works one day a week if she is a working mom then so am I.
Once again, WTF are you talking about? I work 25-37 hours a week.
Oh I apologize I must have misread. Then if you work that much it is absolutely irresponsible not to have a back up plan for care. And you yourself said you didn't need the money so no you should not have sent your kid.
I am still dumbfounded that people are like sure it's totes cool to send a kid with pink eye and discharge when the mom admits she will neither get fired or needs the money.
I am legit curious about what a "back up plan" looks like for the working poor.
People seem to think that care.com is teeming with people willing to come over and stay with your sick kid with an hours notice -- it's not. Both of my occasional sitters I screened through care.com have full time jobs. Or people are looking for full time jobs.
If you don't have family around and you have to go to work because you need the money, the $250 a day emergency back up babysitter service my husbands employer provides isn't feasible.
I'm not arguing that people should send sick kids to daycare or school -- I just think there is lots of misplaced rage about why they do.
It's not about getting fired -- it's about not getting paid.
Also kids have a "normal cold" with yellow or green snot all.the.time. Not clear.
Did you read the post? No one except one person is saying stay home for a cold. But if your kid is sick and contagious and you don't have to be at work keep him home because you just got other kids sick and some of their parents do have to work.
Oh, I know it was just one person. I just think that part was fucking ridiculous.
I am still dumbfounded that people are like sure it's totes cool to send a kid with pink eye and discharge when the mom admits she will neither get fired or needs the money.
Well, it's not really about her for me -- post it and all. It's more the "how dare anyone do that".
I am legit curious about what a "back up plan" looks like for the working poor.
People seem to think that care.com is teeming with people willing to come over and stay with your sick kid with an hours notice -- it's not. Both of my occasional sitters I screened through care.com have full time jobs. Or people are looking for full time jobs.
If you don't have family around and you have to go to work because you need the money, the $250 a day emergency back up babysitter service my husbands employer provides isn't feasible.
I'm not arguing that people should send sick kids to daycare or school -- I just think there is lots of misplaced rage about why they do.
And I am super curious about what kind of school these kids attend that let them come when sick. Because a fever, eye discharge or vomiting will get a child sent home and not allowed back for 24 hours. You keep saying that back up care isn't possible or is some magic unicorn but you are not allowed to send sick kids to school here so what do then.
Oh and care.com for our local area currently has 19 listings for occasional daily baby sitters. Weird we must live in magic unicorn land.
I am still dumbfounded that people are like sure it's totes cool to send a kid with pink eye and discharge when the mom admits she will neither get fired or needs the money.
Well, it's not really about her for me -- post it and all. It's more the "how dare anyone do that".
Oh I get why people do especially those living paycheck to paycheck. But beantrees fully admitted that was not the case as for others in this post saying back up care is impossible and sometimes you have to send a sick kid.