I'm having all sorts of feelings about BFing/weaning lately. I go back and forth between wanting to be done just after a year and wanting to continue and let L decide when he is ready. I'm so sick of being bitten. He has bit me during at least 75% of sessions the last week or so and I'm so over it. It also doesn't help that he's been up 3 or 4 times MOTN lately. I guess my flameful is that I really don't know how to wean. He is so attached to his before naps/bed and MOTN sessions that I imagine it will be a week long scream fest with no sleep for anyone if I try and I just don't have the energy for that.
This is why I'm still BFing my almost (in a week) 2yr old. She's showing zero signs of giving it up peacefully. I weaned 2 others but it was 1) a trip away & 2) as an infant & just went all bottles. Waiting so long & not pushing the issue is making it more brutal.
If you wait until kid is 3, you just buy a scooter as a bribe and it's not brutal at all.
No idea how long I'll nurse DD, but probably not 3. She was sick yesterday, though, and I was so glad I could nurse her.
Meh, then I'm gross too. The first time, the dog found it before I even had a chance to get a paper towel. DD hasn't spit up in awhile, but after that, we started directing her to DD's spit up.
Your DD is FF, right? For some reason the fact that it's breast milk makes it grosser in my mind. But I'm also someone who's horrified at the thought of taking a sip of my own breast milk, which I learned on this board is a common thing to do, so this may just be my own weirdness.
I'm right there with you. The idea of my dog eating breast milk that's been in my baby's stomach is just too gross. And I feed my dog boogers.
Oooo I have an actual MM related one. We got a travel rewards card to earn points with all of the home purchases we are making. I really really want to use the sign up bonus points for a small beach vacation (Texas Gulf) instead of saving them for England next summer.
Everyone pretty much says to have wine, except your ridiculously out of date nurse(s).
I plan on drinking ALOT more alcohol this time around. I figure being relaxed while nursing is a good thing, right?
Since I read research that essentially says "don't get so drunk you drop the baby and you're fine", I stopped giving any fucks at all about drinking what I wanted (generally 1 and occasionally 2, rarely more than that because of the actual dropping the baby thing). I love science.
Post by SallySparrow on Mar 16, 2015 9:39:32 GMT -5
We have 16 year old parents at work and all I can think is "you have ruined your lives and you don't even know it yet". The mom (grandma) was all "I'm so proud of them". Uhh....why? Judgemental, party of 1.
I had to hold back the snark in a post the other day about what to bring to the hospital for birth. Someone said something about her mom smuggling in wine, which was ok bc she was formula feeding. Someone else said to bring formula even if wanting to breastfeed because it may take a couple days for milk to come in.
Yes, I know my reaction to want to snark will get me flamed.
I bribed my daughter to cut her nails. Normally I do it while she is asleep, but as she gets older that's not really a possibility. I bribed her with nail polish, so now she has a pink manicure and pedicure. It is super adorable. I'm not sure if that's a confession or not?
I constantly ask DD if she wants me to paint her nails. She always says no
I hate cleaning my house before a certain group of friends comes over. They don't take their shoes off when walking through the front door, they wait until they almost get to the carpet, and then spill crumbs everywhere. They are over about twice monthly because our house is in the middle. I deal with it because it keeps DS's schedule if they come here instead of us going there, but I'm going to start cleaning the floors after they leave instead of before. And yes I've asked about shoes before, but how many times do you ask before its awkward .
I started reading a Positive Discipline book and a bunch of the made-up parenting examples are dumb. Like, Jim takes his 18 month old twins to their sister's school concert and spanks them when they won't sit still. What could he have done differently? Ummmmm, no idea!
LOL, all parenting books are dumb. YWIA!
(This one is just dumb, but occasionally still relevant.)
Also, I made a $40+ order on next direct to get one shirt, which was then canceled and removed from the order because that size was sold out. So last night I made a new order with just the one shirt (in a bigger, not sold out, size) and paid $6 shipping for it.
Any chance you have the $20 off 50 code for new customers? Or need a referral? I'm about to place my first order
Post by chickens987 on Mar 16, 2015 9:50:56 GMT -5
Someone on my mom's email list posted today recommending a cheerleading program for 3 year olds. Her daughter has participated since she was 21 months old.
I totally believe that cheerleading is a sport, but it seems weird to do it without the actual "cheering" part...like do mascots just dress up and hang out together? If so, they're furries, not mascots. Maybe it needs another name besides cheerleading in that case.
This will probably get me shunned but I do not see the appeal of "The Shirt". Seems to be a lot of money for a t-shirt that looks kind of strange to me. But I will say lots of good looking MMM's wearing it this past week.
agree
If it looks good on you, go for it! But it doesn't appeal to me and I don't think would be the most flattering on my frame.
Most of the PIPs I have seen of ladies wearing it are cute.
And I don't think this board shuns people over a shirt.
I started reading a Positive Discipline book and a bunch of the made-up parenting examples are dumb. Like, Jim takes his 18 month old twins to their sister's school concert and spanks them when they won't sit still. What could he have done differently? Ummmmm, no idea!
We have 16 year old parents at work and all I can think is "you have ruined your lives and you don't even know it yet". The mom (grandma) was all "I'm so proud of them". Uhh....why? Judgemental, party of 1.
Are they actually proud that they got pregnant, or are they proud at how they've stepped up afterward? If my 16 year old got pregnant, of course I'd be sad and disappointed, but at a certain point, what's done is done and acting ashamed of your kid or grandkid doesn't benefit anyone.
We have 16 year old parents at work and all I can think is "you have ruined your lives and you don't even know it yet". The mom (grandma) was all "I'm so proud of them". Uhh....why? Judgemental, party of 1.
Are they actually proud that they got pregnant, or are they proud at how they've stepped up afterward? If my 16 year old got pregnant, of course I'd be sad and disappointed, but at a certain point, what's done is done and acting ashamed of your kid or grandkid doesn't benefit anyone.
No, she's excited they got pregnant and happy to be a grandma. At 35.
We have 16 year old parents at work and all I can think is "you have ruined your lives and you don't even know it yet". The mom (grandma) was all "I'm so proud of them". Uhh....why? Judgemental, party of 1.
I'm always amazed at the proud grandparents in these situations. I understand being supportive, but these grandparents act like this is the best thing ever.
One of the grandpas said, "I love the baby and I will do anything for him, but this should never have happened". That I understand. But being legitimately excited that your child now has a child? Nope.
why is this a dumb example? We have had to do this several times with dd2 because dd1's school has a concert for like every holiday.
I agree that a lot of parenting book examples are dumb but this one is very relevant to me IRL lol.
It was dumb because the dad resorted to spanking. I just feel like most examples end "and then the mom or dad spanked out of frustration". I might be explaining this poorly - I think the book is offering good tips but the examples are like "should Garry have murdered his wife or asked her to change the toilet paper roll when it runs out?" Hmm, I wonder!
lol. Got it. Agreed.
ETA though now I am thinking about it and I'm sure many kids do get spanked over stuff like this. Ugh.
Are they actually proud that they got pregnant, or are they proud at how they've stepped up afterward? If my 16 year old got pregnant, of course I'd be sad and disappointed, but at a certain point, what's done is done and acting ashamed of your kid or grandkid doesn't benefit anyone.
No, she's excited they got pregnant and happy to be a grandma. At 35.
My son had loose threads on his pants today that he noticed as we were putting his shoes on. We were already late, so I told him they were fine and not to worry about them. He looked at me very accusingly and said "Papa help." Yes, I know Grandpa would help. Grandpa loves getting rid of loose threads, but Mommy doesn't have time for that!
Also, I was totally judged by the 19 year old daycare employee for not feeding Nathaniel more "Shouldn't we be feeding him more often?" "No, once a day is enough." "Oh. So we should probably be scheduling his bottle feedings more, right?" "No, let's keep feeding him on demand." She rolled her eyes. Don't mess with me on a Monday morning, you 19 year old with no kids! My baby has lost 1.5 pounds in the last week - we're not going to suddenly not feed him on demand!
Since our life is kind of a mess I'm reading this organization book (The life changing magic of tidying up) and dreaming of throwing out like 60% of what we own because it really is just clutter. But I know as soon as we're back to our house I'll be tired and overwhelmed and ya know, taking care of 2 infants during the day, and therefore it'll never get done. So my confession is clutter and laziness I suppose lol. And also that I'm reading a book about organization - that's probably the biggest confession
This is not a confession. I've been in your shoes with two infants and a toddler and all I could do was dream of organization and peace amongst the chaos! I remember having a mini breakdown one day running upstairs as soon as H walked in the door and I just kept repeating " I cant get control, I can't get control" I felt like everything was just, well, chaos.
Post by jeaniebueller on Mar 16, 2015 10:11:00 GMT -5
There is a post on ML about what are the top 3 things to pack in a hospital bag and I am laughing and laughing because a bunch of people are listing all kinds of useless or frivolous stuff.
Also, I thought a lot of the examples in the Love and Logic book were ridiculous and basically made to set up the child to fail. I like the love and logic philosophy and try to use natural consequences, but some of the scenarios in the book are out there.
One of the grandpas said, "I love the baby and I will do anything for him, but this should never have happened". That I understand. But being legitimately excited that your child now has a child? Nope.
Post by catsarecute on Mar 16, 2015 10:14:11 GMT -5
I'm Facebook friends with a former coworker and his wife. Every time she post pictures of the two of them she includes the caption how extremely handsome he is. Every single picture of the two of them includes this caption. The flameful part is that I don't think he is all that handsome at all and she's overcompensating.
He eats solids once and has 4-5 bottles. We only feed solids once a day since he's not doing great with them yet (he gets really upset stomach) and his adjusted age is only 6 months. We did solids twice one day last week and it really messed up his stomach. Also, since he's so small (with this sickness, he's dropped to the 5th percentile weight wise again), I'd rather he drink more breastmilk since it is more calorie dense than the veggies we give him.
Ohhhh solids once a day. This makes so much more sense. LOLOL.
I think some DCP just love to feed babies. Maybe they think (incorrectly) that solids will fill him up more? I told our DCP today that I was going to circle some soft foods from the school menu for them to feed to M, and she was really excited. Apparently she doesn't think the 20 oz. of milk/formula plus two containers of purees I'm sending every day are enough? (I will say that M is a monster with solids. He can just eat and eat and eat. LOL)