Yesterday some crazy woman on one of my twin fb groups posted about asking her 3yo questions from when they were in the womb and their first few weeks. She said they got all of the questions right - who was positioned on which side, who cried with heel stick in NICU etc. Then people started saying,oh yeah, up to age 3 kids can remember things from in the womb.
J was sitting next to me on the couch so I thought, wth and I asked him "hey J, do you remember how you were positioned when you were inside mama's belly? Where was your head?" You know, because he was breech. He looked at me like I was insane and said, "here it is!" While patting his head. LOL
Not so much a flameful/confession, as a dumb question: How likely is it that O is going to ask to taste breastmilk when he sees the new baby drink it. Is it weird to let him try some?
ETA - IN A CUP, NOT FROM MY BOOB.
I did this with DD, in a cup. She didn't like the taste, despite being the hardest kid to wean ever.
Losing the ability to pass off one kid to H and get free time is probably what I'm dreading the most about hypothetical #2. That and a potential horrific tear during pushing, lol.
Good news first: I didn't tear at all the 2nd time.
But yeah, the lack of passing off sucks. On Saturdays, DH takes DD out to her gymnastics class and then lunch while I hang with DS. By the time we all get back together around 3 or 4, DH and I both need a break, but all we can do is switch kids. We each get one weekend morning to sleep in or exercise and then we're "on" for the rest of Sat & Sunday.
It was dumb because the dad resorted to spanking. I just feel like most examples end "and then the mom or dad spanked out of frustration". I might be explaining this poorly - I think the book is offering good tips but the examples are like "should Garry have murdered his wife or asked her to change the toilet paper roll when it runs out?" Hmm, I wonder!
lol. Got it. Agreed.
ETA though now I am thinking about it and I'm sure many kids do get spanked over stuff like this. Ugh.
But are their parents really picking up this kind of book if this is their default method?
I know people who spank and they will generally defend the merits of spanking if it comes up. I'm the crazy hippie/liberal who will "regret" not teaching my kids more discipline, in their eyes.
Post by noodleskooze on Mar 16, 2015 10:33:58 GMT -5
This is probably flameful since this is MoneyMattersMoms...if I don't get this job I've been after, we might go ahead and TTC even though we will have far less money and will have to be super frugal for a while. That would also mean staying where I am job-wise. I just need something good. If it's not going to be this new job and financial stability, then I'd like to have another child like our original plan.
I think I have a strangely contrary personality. I'll see a thread where 99% are in agreement and I want to write in with the opposite opinion (like in the open kitchen thread on ML, lol) but don't because I know people on here love nothing better than an opportunity to get the pitch forks out, lol. I don't know why I'm almost always on the opposite side of the majority though, it's annoying.
Tell me more about this thread. I am the 1% of the population who hates open anything. The more compartmentalized the rooms in my home are, the better. We have two doors in our kitchen, despite many of my friends arguing that we should knock the walls down and have one big, open area with the living areas.
after a terrible first night of the girls room sharing with wakeups for both, they got up for the day at 5:30. I turned on the tv and went back to bed. By the time dd2 smacked me in the head with a book a little while later she'd already stolen and eaten a half of a tub of raisins. The big one.
Losing the ability to pass off one kid to H and get free time is probably what I'm dreading the most about hypothetical #2. That and a potential horrific tear during pushing, lol.
Good news first: I didn't tear at all the 2nd time.
But yeah, the lack of passing off sucks. On Saturdays, DH takes DD out to her gymnastics class and then lunch while I hang with DS. By the time we all get back together around 3 or 4, DH and I both need a break, but all we can do is switch kids. We each get one weekend morning to sleep in or exercise and then we're "on" for the rest of Sat & Sunday.
When will your dd be old enough to watch ds? That seems like it would be an awesome day.
Post by longtimenopost on Mar 16, 2015 11:20:02 GMT -5
We had to FF DD (26 months) in Europe last week because my ILs have a tiny car and she couldn't RF. She loved it and I was terrified she would throw fits when we came home and had her RFing again! Thankfully she's okay so far. We'll keep her RFing until summer, because (possible flameful) her carseat gets too hot and she's miserable (TX heat, man). I know she'll cool down faster if she's FFing and the air can reach her.
Last week, when picking up DS from daycare, another one of the mom's was picking up her daughter. I hadn't seen her in a while… for whatever reason, maybe it was her outfit or just how she was standing, she looked really, undeniably pregnant. I don't know what's wrong with me, but I burst out "oh, are you pregnant again?" And of course she isn't. And of course I felt like the worst person on earth. i know never to ask… it was just a mental blip. Someone could just as easily ask me, I'm by no means thin. It was like a dumb reflex or something. Ugh.
I apologized profusely and she genuinely seemed not upset about it, but I'm mortified.
Oh! Real confession! I forgot to pay the mortgage this month until, seriously, yesterday. I always manually log in and pay it after the payday closest to the 1st of the month, but apparently totally forgot this month. We had more cash than I expected in checking a week or so ago, so I went ahead and paid off a 0% CC just to clear it out. Then I was looking over things again this weekend and realized my error. We had to transfer money from the CU line of credit to tide us over until a transfer from savings comes through. I feel like an idiot.
Edit: The payment grace period covers us through the 15th, so I didn't incur any fees or anything. I just feel stupid for not figuring out why we had an extra $2000 in checking even after paying CC balances from last month's vacation.
Last week, when picking up DS from daycare, another one of the mom's was picking up her daughter. I hadn't seen her in a while… for whatever reason, maybe it was her outfit or just how she was standing, she looked really, undeniably pregnant. I don't know what's wrong with me, but I burst out "oh, are you pregnant again?" And of course she isn't. And of course I felt like the worst person on earth. i know never to ask… it was just a mental blip. Someone could just as easily ask me, I'm by no means thin. It was like a dumb reflex or something. Ugh.
I apologized profusely and she genuinely seemed not upset about it, but I'm mortified.
I would be mortified, as well, but it happens. I wore a top last week that I realized (after getting to work) can make me look like I have a bump--it kind of flows outward from my bust. I stopped by another department to talk to someone I occasionally work with--I hadn't actually seen her since around Christmas--and I could tell she was totally wondering. She asked me in a particular tone, "What's new with you?" with a little grin, and I'm pretty sure a glance toward my midsection.
Post by suburbanzookeeper on Mar 16, 2015 11:33:39 GMT -5
I stayed an extra hour on my volunteer shift for an upcoming consignment sale last night simply to avoid bedtime. We had to wean over the weekend, per DS's dentist for his upcoming surgery and I can't handle the crying and pleading for milk. I nursed DD until 28 months and I thought my lazy ass could stretch weaning him until the end of the school year so I didn't have to actually get up early in the mornings with him.
Plus it gave me the chance to scope a ton of vintage books and movies for resale.
Losing the ability to pass off one kid to H and get free time is probably what I'm dreading the most about hypothetical #2. That and a potential horrific tear during pushing, lol.
Good news first: I didn't tear at all the 2nd time.
But yeah, the lack of passing off sucks. On Saturdays, DH takes DD out to her gymnastics class and then lunch while I hang with DS. By the time we all get back together around 3 or 4, DH and I both need a break, but all we can do is switch kids. We each get one weekend morning to sleep in or exercise and then we're "on" for the rest of Sat & Sunday.
I have to say that the baby is easy street compared to the 6.5 year old and most days, I am glad that I am the default parent to the baby.
Post by Willis Jackson on Mar 16, 2015 11:51:15 GMT -5
I haven't seen a kid get spanked in probably. . . 20 years? I did see a woman yell at her kid at Target about a year ago. I remembered it because it was so out of the ordinary.
Oh, another flameful: I roll my eyes when something comes out about how X might be harmful to kids in the long term, and people respond with, "Well, my kids seem fine!" Dude, if we're talking about something that may cause cancer or some other health problem, you're probably not going to see it when your kid's two years old. No, you don't have to take action on every piece of news that comes out, but it comes off as ignorant to act like the research is wrong.
why is this a dumb example? We have had to do this several times with dd2 because dd1's school has a concert for like every holiday.
I agree that a lot of parenting book examples are dumb but this one is very relevant to me IRL lol.
It was dumb because the dad resorted to spanking. I just feel like most examples end "and then the mom or dad spanked out of frustration". I might be explaining this poorly - I think the book is offering good tips but the examples are like "should Garry have murdered his wife or asked her to change the toilet paper roll when it runs out?" Hmm, I wonder!
If you think that is bad, then you should read Love and Logic. In one example, they basically tell you to let the family dog to starve/ give it away if your kid forgets to feed it.
Tabs currently open in my browser: gmail, gbcn, a different message board, kindle cloud reader.
Employee of the month.
I'm impressed it's so few.
gmail, different proboard, gbcn, gbcn, fb, pinterest, google (search term: plate rack), mint, amazon, google maps (directions, my house to vacation location)
this might be a light day for me. I have a serious problem with not closing tabs.
why is this a dumb example? We have had to do this several times with dd2 because dd1's school has a concert for like every holiday.
I agree that a lot of parenting book examples are dumb but this one is very relevant to me IRL lol.
It was dumb because the dad resorted to spanking. I just feel like most examples end "and then the mom or dad spanked out of frustration". I might be explaining this poorly - I think the book is offering good tips but the examples are like "should Garry have murdered his wife or asked her to change the toilet paper roll when it runs out?" Hmm, I wonder!
There was one where a toddler says he went to the drive-in yesterday but it was really two weeks ago and so he got spanked for lying Those kinds of examples were really distracting.
Last week, when picking up DS from daycare, another one of the mom's was picking up her daughter. I hadn't seen her in a while… for whatever reason, maybe it was her outfit or just how she was standing, she looked really, undeniably pregnant. I don't know what's wrong with me, but I burst out "oh, are you pregnant again?" And of course she isn't. And of course I felt like the worst person on earth. i know never to ask… it was just a mental blip. Someone could just as easily ask me, I'm by no means thin. It was like a dumb reflex or something. Ugh.
I apologized profusely and she genuinely seemed not upset about it, but I'm mortified.
I would be mortified, as well, but it happens. I wore a top last week that I realized (after getting to work) can make me look like I have a bump--it kind of flows outward from my bust. I stopped by another department to talk to someone I occasionally work with--I hadn't actually seen her since around Christmas--and I could tell she was totally wondering. She asked me in a particular tone, "What's new with you?" with a little grin, and I'm pretty sure a glance toward my midsection.
I do not plan to wear that shirt again!
I'm pretty sure someone offered me a seat on the subway the other day because I was looking a little preggo myself (I declined the offer). I was wearing my necessarily puffy winter coat. I just need to suck in and stop eating so much crap.
(This one is just dumb, but occasionally still relevant.)
Yes, so far I'm partly patting myself on the back for things I already do (like offering choices) and rolling my eyes at all of the "whatever you do, don't spank" advice. But I am just hoping for good tips overall. I think B having a bit of a speech delay has made it harder to do some parenting techniques - like open-ended questions just result in blank stares or babbling, lol.
do you think it's a real delay, or just a compared-to-gbcn delay? My DS wasn't talking much at all at B's age, but now at 24 months he's making sentences all the time. it's crazy.
Oh, another flameful: I roll my eyes when something comes out about how X might be harmful to kids in the long term, and people respond with, "Well, my kids seem fine!" Dude, if we're talking about something that may cause cancer or some other health problem, you're probably not going to see it when your kid's two years old. No, you don't have to take action on every piece of news that comes out, but it comes off as ignorant to act like the research is wrong.
Random: we were watching Call the Midwife the other day and there was a character with HG. The doctor gave her some medicine and she was all great, raving about how good she felt, everyone would be lining up for it. He said "It's called Thalidomide" and I was like "NOOOO!"
I bribed my daughter to cut her nails. Normally I do it while she is asleep, but as she gets older that's not really a possibility. I bribed her with nail polish, so now she has a pink manicure and pedicure. It is super adorable. I'm not sure if that's a confession or not?
I constantly ask DD if she wants me to paint her nails. She always says no
I'll trade you, DD ALWAYS asks me to paint her nails, even if I just did earlier that day.
Oh, another flameful: I roll my eyes when something comes out about how X might be harmful to kids in the long term, and people respond with, "Well, my kids seem fine!" Dude, if we're talking about something that may cause cancer or some other health problem, you're probably not going to see it when your kid's two years old. No, you don't have to take action on every piece of news that comes out, but it comes off as ignorant to act like the research is wrong.
I need a concrete example to determine whether this is flameful or not.
Post by turtletop90 on Mar 16, 2015 12:22:57 GMT -5
I guess mine is that I sometimes pretend that I don't notice when DD picks her nose or puts her hand in her pants or eats food off the floor or any of her other gross habits. Most of the time (which is A LOT) I do correct her, but it gets tiresome.
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Employee of the month.
I'm impressed it's so few.
gmail, different proboard, gbcn, gbcn, fb, pinterest, google (search term: plate rack), mint, amazon, google maps (directions, my house to vacation location)
this might be a light day for me. I have a serious problem with not closing tabs.
I'm glad I'm not the only one. I feel like there should be a post- Whats open in your browser? I have gbcn, pinterest, gmail, jobsearch results, payroll (maybe the only real important one) & tmz (i need gossip!)
Oh! Real confession! I forgot to pay the mortgage this month until, seriously, yesterday. I always manually log in and pay it after the payday closest to the 1st of the month, but apparently totally forgot this month. We had more cash than I expected in checking a week or so ago, so I went ahead and paid off a 0% CC just to clear it out. Then I was looking over things again this weekend and realized my error. We had to transfer money from the CU line of credit to tide us over until a transfer from savings comes through. I feel like an idiot.
Edit: The payment grace period covers us through the 15th, so I didn't incur any fees or anything. I just feel stupid for not figuring out why we had an extra $2000 in checking even after paying CC balances from last month's vacation.
Confession: I never pay my mortgage until the 14th or 15th of the month. It always worked out better that way for pay days, and our lender encouraged it if it worked better for us.
ETA: I also routinely forget to pay our comcast bill every month for at least a few days. its probably my least favorite bill to pay, so i always forget to pay it .
Post by leonard131 on Mar 16, 2015 12:30:43 GMT -5
One more totally random confession that I will hide here because I could never say it in real life. Our good friend who I also work with and has a kid close to M's age just got a HUGE promotion to the C-suite. I am sooooooo freaking jealous because he is younger then me and made this leap. I now am having internal struggles of what the hell am I doing with my career. Also for the first time ever I am having thoughts that of course HE (as in he is a man) can do this because he has a stay at home wife who does 100% of everything related to their kid. I hate myself for feeling like this and thinking like this.
Oh, another flameful: I roll my eyes when something comes out about how X might be harmful to kids in the long term, and people respond with, "Well, my kids seem fine!" Dude, if we're talking about something that may cause cancer or some other health problem, you're probably not going to see it when your kid's two years old. No, you don't have to take action on every piece of news that comes out, but it comes off as ignorant to act like the research is wrong.
I need a concrete example to determine whether this is flameful or not.
Mostly talking about examples like a med taken during pregnancy, or something commonly administered to infants that is then found to potentially have negative effects. The Zofran lawsuit post reminded me (I didn't actually open it, but I can imagine responses going that way). I think some people just take scientific findings too personally. No one is judging someone who makes a choice that is generally accepted as safe, but is later found to possibly have a bad outcome for some (like @deej said), but I've seen people on this board get so defensive over this stuff.
For example, I had horrible reflux while pregnant. I took a Zantac daily to combat it. That med is/was generally accepted as safe, but I also knew it hadn't been around that long, so there certainly could be long-term health affects from it. I hope not, but if something comes out finding that there are, I will be glad to have that information. I did the best I could, you know? But I wouldn't scoff at the research just because my kid, at 2.5, seems healthy. Our bodies are complex. H's grandfather worked in a shipyard as a very young man and was diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis sixty years later. It was almost certainly caused by his exposure to those chemicals decades earlier.
The appraiser is coming to our house today, and i haven't cleaned. Like, I have dirty dishes in the sink, clean laundry on top of the laundry machines, and dirty laundry hanging out on my dresser in my room. I don't think i'm going to clean up any of it. I'm busy at work and have more important stuff to worry about. At least the buyers won't be here, right?