My friend woke up in labor this morning, called me and told me to come. Less than an hour later she was holding her baby. No one made it in time.
I'm fucking green with envy. I can't even process. She seems made for this and I'm really seething with jealousy and emotion. Ugh.
Would you feel better if I told you how many stitches it took to put me back together after my delivery like that?
I can't. I didn't count because counting that high would make me sad.
To add salt to my wound, she had no tear. Not even a scrape.
I on the other hand, had a third degree tear down and a second degree tear across after 28 hours of labor. My OB wouldn't tell me how many stitches she put in. (wilted)
I got a very faint, but immediate, line on an internet cheapie first thing this morning. None of my other tests today have had anything, and there have been an embarrassingly large number of them. I need to step away.
My confession is that such behavior is absolutely ridiculous.
My friend woke up in labor this morning, called me and told me to come. Less than an hour later she was holding her baby. No one made it in time.
I'm fucking green with envy. I can't even process. She seems made for this and I'm really seething with jealousy and emotion. Ugh.
Firstly, holy shit. Did she deliver at home? Was it just her and her husband? Or you mean no support people arrived?
Secondly, (and I realize this may not mean shit from someone who had an easyish labor) anyone who has seen you with your guy knows that you absolutely fall in the category of "made for this". You are truly one of the most on-top-of-it moms I know.
Yes, planned home birth. Not planned to be unassisted, but NO ONE made it in time! I'm the closest, but I'm glad I missed it. I would have been freaking the fuck out if I was the only one from the birth team there.
And I love you. Needed to hear that today. (heart)
Oooh yeah I guess. Everyone should drink! Equal opportunity booze!
It's just another example of the myths surrounding breastfeeding. No need to make breastfeeding seem like it has a ton of rules! Also, it sucks that these myths persist, because it's why breastfeeding women get dirty looks and comments for drinking a beer while nursing, or even drinking coffee (yes, I got judged for both at least once!).
True, but maybe a formula feeder doesn't know that breast feeders can drink?
It's just another example of the myths surrounding breastfeeding. No need to make breastfeeding seem like it has a ton of rules! Also, it sucks that these myths persist, because it's why breastfeeding women get dirty looks and comments for drinking a beer while nursing, or even drinking coffee (yes, I got judged for both at least once!).
True, but maybe a formula feeder doesn't know that breast feeders can drink?
I mean, that's pretty clearly the case, but I don't know much about formula feeding, so I don't make generalized comments about it.
If my doctor/LC told me to eliminate dairy from my diet, I would quit BFing and be in the formula aisle in a hot minute. Newp.
I was so sad when we realized DD2 was having trouble with dairy, it's getting to be be frozen custard season! But I've found a lot of tasty dairy-free alternatives in the last 6 yrs as DS still has trouble with milk protein.
The worst part this time around is that I can't complain about it, at least in front of DS but DH has been buying me lots of dairy-free fancy chocolate, so at least I'm all set with desserts.
Now if I had to go soy free, with everything soy is hiding in, I would be very hangry.
Post by fortmyersbride on Mar 16, 2015 16:02:19 GMT -5
My confession is that since being dairy free for DD2, DH has brought home a bunch of tasty (and not cheap!) dark chocolate bars for me. DS keeps asking if I want to split them with him, since he is MPI and excited about all the new dairy- free treats. But I don't want to share my fancy chocolates.
I taught DD to say that she's hangry since she goes from fine to hangry in an instant, completely skipping hungry.
I'm not sure if this is a confession or a brag.
Yes!!! DD2 is like this too and I taught her the word as well like a month ago. She was riding around in the Costco shopping cart yelling "I HANGRY!!!!!" and getting lots of attention from strangers. lolol.
For some reason I really feel like my DD2 and your DD would get along really well. Maybe because they could just talk each others' ears off.
I taught DD to say that she's hangry since she goes from fine to hangry in an instant, completely skipping hungry.
I'm not sure if this is a confession or a brag.
Brag. We're working with E on recognizing his hunger. Now he says, "I'm hungry hungry!" which is a definite improvement over a few months ago, when he'd just go into meltdown mode. But he still confuses hungry and tired pretty regularly (he thinks he's tired when really we know he's hungry and needs a protein boost).
I taught DD to say that she's hangry since she goes from fine to hangry in an instant, completely skipping hungry.
I'm not sure if this is a confession or a brag.
Brag. We're working with E on recognizing his hunger. Now he says, "I'm hungry hungry!" which is a definite improvement over a few months ago, when he'd just go into meltdown mode. But he still confuses hungry and tired pretty regularly (he thinks he's tired when really we know he's hungry and needs a protein boost).
Now you just need to teach him to say "hippo" and you'll be set.
I taught DD to say that she's hangry since she goes from fine to hangry in an instant, completely skipping hungry.
I'm not sure if this is a confession or a brag.
Yes!!! DD2 is like this too and I taught her the word as well like a month ago. She was riding around in the Costco shopping cart yelling "I HANGRY!!!!!" and getting lots of attention from strangers. lolol.
For some reason I really feel like my DD2 and your DD would get along really well. Maybe because they could just talk each others' ears off.
Please! If I have to listen to/sing along with Where Is Thumbkin? one more time I'm going to scream
Because I had 3 hours from contraction #1 to 10 cm and ready to push. (Thankfully my water broke earlier so we were at the hospital, lol.) I am somewhat nervous about #2 coming, like, on the kitchen floor or in my tub. My midwife keeps telling me it will be fine. I think she forgets I live 25-30 minutes from the hospital, LOL.
Because I had 3 hours from contraction #1 to 10 cm and ready to push. (Thankfully my water broke earlier so we were at the hospital, lol.) I am somewhat nervous about #2 coming, like, on the kitchen floor or in my tub. My midwife keeps telling me it will be fine. I think she forgets I live 25-30 minutes from the hospital, LOL.
My first was about 13 hours from my first "hmm, I wonder if that little cramp is something?" to a baby. More like 6 hours of hard labour. He was occiput posterior, though, and DD was well positioned.
I had this moment in my bathroom where I had a contraction and made a totally involuntary grunting noise. I remembered that noise with #1. And that's when I tried to get them to get moving RIGHT NOW, but no one had arrived to take DS yet. Shortly after that it was pretty apparent that I shouldn't go ruin my Civic.
I know someone who spanked their child for wetting the bed at night while they were PTing. They've told this story to me proudly at least 3 times because It worked! Never wet the bed again! It breaks my heart every time.
I know who said that she was taking everything "fun" away from her daughter until she potty trained. All her toys, desserts, tv, fun outings etc. Her daughter had just turned two. I tried to suggest she just take a break from potty training and try again in a few months and she told me I just didn't understand, she'd tried everything and this was her last option. I tried again to say maybe she just wasn't ready, she was still young, my kids were older then her when they potty trained etc and she got mad at me. I normally don't side eye parents over their choices but this one I definitely side eyed.
I'm telling myself that overnight pee must have magic qualities simply unseen later in the day. Thank god it looks like DD is well enough to return to school tomorrow and I will have to actually work instead of pee on everything and be disappointed.
TBF, my period's not due for six days, so it's crazy early.
Im keeping fingers and toes crossed. I had a similar experience with a morning line, then nothing. It was just early.
If my doctor/LC told me to eliminate dairy from my diet, I would quit BFing and be in the formula aisle in a hot minute. Newp.
I always said that having to change diet was my line. Obviously I can't say for sure since I wasn't in that situation, but it seemed a lot worse than the 12 weeks of pain and 3 months of oral motor therapy I had to do for DS.
I have suffered from ulcerative colitis for almost 20 years. Diet modifications are par for the course in my life, so having to cut out a bunch of stuff while BFing to discourage recurring thrush, while annoying and sometimes frustrating, was still a lot better than the times when I've had to be on a liquid diet for weeks at a time. But I can definitely see how going gluten-free, dairy-free and just about everything else-free would seem insane to almost anyone else.
Post by waterchurch on Mar 16, 2015 17:06:55 GMT -5
DD was kind of fussy and nursing a ton and seemed frustrated at the boob. So I heated up just a couple ounces from my freezer stash but she didn't finish it. Instead of wasting it, I unscrewed the cap and let DS finish the milk. He turned around said "that's yummy!" I don't think this is flameful?
I know someone who spanked their child for wetting the bed at night while they were PTing. They've told this story to me proudly at least 3 times because It worked! Never wet the bed again! It breaks my heart every time.
I know who said that she was taking everything "fun" away from her daughter until she potty trained. All her toys, desserts, tv, fun outings etc. Her daughter had just turned two. I tried to suggest she just take a break from potty training and try again in a few months and she told me I just didn't understand, she'd tried everything and this was her last option. I tried again to say maybe she just wasn't ready, she was still young, my kids were older then her when they potty trained etc and she got mad at me. I normally don't side eye parents over their choices but this one I definitely side eyed.
Yeah, that sounds like an excellent way to make using the potty like a really fun time. I've never had a 2 year old, but I didn't realize they had such an understanding of consequences.
I know who said that she was taking everything "fun" away from her daughter until she potty trained. All her toys, desserts, tv, fun outings etc. Her daughter had just turned two. I tried to suggest she just take a break from potty training and try again in a few months and she told me I just didn't understand, she'd tried everything and this was her last option. I tried again to say maybe she just wasn't ready, she was still young, my kids were older then her when they potty trained etc and she got mad at me. I normally don't side eye parents over their choices but this one I definitely side eyed.
Yeah, that sounds like an excellent way to make using the potty like a really fun time. I've never had a 2 year old, but I didn't realize they had such an understanding of consequences.
This behavior is the origin of Freud's anal stage, and being "anal-retentive." I will never understand why people have power struggles with their young kids over potty training or what they eat. Fruitless and potentially damaging.
And to that end, I know people whose daughter wants to sleep in a "big kid bed," but they've told her she doesn't get to until she is potty trained, because "babies use diapers." She's 2.5. Why shame her and hold her back from other milestones?
Post by chickens987 on Mar 16, 2015 17:48:35 GMT -5
Brie and @notquiteblushing, you and my H need to have an irrational anger party. This morning he was raging because the weatherman was all "it's nice out, but WILL IT LAST?!" and MADE him stay to watch the forecast. Newsflash: it might get a little colder but overall, yes, it will last.
I've said this before, but I would take having a baby on my kitchen floor over a 22-hour induction during which I was confined to the hospital bed. I can't believe how much energy I wasted putting together a "what happens if I give birth in the cab" plan with my doula. But it was a good plan, dammit!
I'm kind of pissed at DH. Mondays are the days both of my kids are in school. I like to get a few non-kid-friendly errands out of the way, then window shop, eat something shitty for lunch since I don't have to set a good example (my plan for today was hot pockets, lol), and then take a nap before I have to go pick up DS2 from MDO. Well, while I was at the DMV this morning, H called to tell me that he didn't have any work to do today and he needs to use 38 days of leave before September 30, so he was coming home for the day and can we go out to lunch?
Totally ruined my window shopping/shit lunch/nap plans. By the time we got home from lunch I only had 45 minutes before I had to pick up DS2. H was all "go take a nap, I'll pick him up." Sweet! I fell asleep, then ten minutes later H woke me up to ask for directions to MDO. I started explaining and then he said, "Can you just come with me?" UGH NO!
Firstly, holy shit. Did she deliver at home? Was it just her and her husband? Or you mean no support people arrived?
Secondly, (and I realize this may not mean shit from someone who had an easyish labor) anyone who has seen you with your guy knows that you absolutely fall in the category of "made for this". You are truly one of the most on-top-of-it moms I know.
Yes, planned home birth. Not planned to be unassisted, but NO ONE made it in time! I'm the closest, but I'm glad I missed it. I would have been freaking the fuck out if I was the only one from the birth team there.
And I love you. Needed to hear that today. (heart)
I had a labor like your friend. I lived in constant fear of having a baby at Target.
A girl on one of the swap boards I'm on posted asking for any trailers or apartments that rent to felons, because she, her fiancé, and their baby need a place to live.
I'm judging. And I want to know what crime her fiancé committed. And why she's still with him.
I never buy or sell on that site (I use another one all the time) but I stay on there for the drama!
A girl on one of the swap boards I'm on posted asking for any trailers or apartments that rent to felons, because she, her fiancé, and their baby need a place to live.
I'm judging. And I want to know what crime her fiancé committed. And why she's still with him.
I never buy or sell on that site (I use another one all the time) but I stay on there for the drama!
If this were an FB swap group I would be stalking her profile to try and find his name and then googling, because I'm nosy too.