Eta: I just checked with my kindergartener. They just have to raise their hand and ask. The only policy is that only one kid can go at a time, unless it's an "emergency, like Katie had on Friday." Not sure what that means. Lol.*
*fyi, I am making no judgments and casting no aspersions on any other schoolchildren or their parents in my comments. JUST TO BE CRYSTAL CLEAR.
Can you imagine being in a room with your coworkers, you try to use the restroom, boss locks the door (which is the adult equivalent) and says no, and makes you wait so long that your only option is to shit your pants, sit in your shit and then try to slyly use the bathroom and clean yourself when it is finally time for you and all your coworkers to use the restroom together??? I just... no. That is awful.
I know, right? I'm silently hoping that bitch needs a pants person in the very near future.
When I was in first grade, the teacher announced that no one was to leave the room until he was done teaching this ultra important lesson. Anyway, I had to pee badly when he said it, but I was so timid that I dared not say anything. The minutes ticked by and I was in agony. Finally I just peed in my pants, hoping no one would notice - but of course we were all sitting on the floor, and I left a big wet spot on the carpet. The kids all teased me. The teacher sent me to the office to wait while my mom brought me new pants and underwear. When my mom asked me why I did that, I said "Mr. [Teacher] said no one was allowed to go to the bathroom." The principal looked livid. But...that was it, no one did anything that I know of, and my mom didn't escalate.
I would definitely make a huge gigantic fuss about this.
You might not have known about it but I can almost guarantee that the teacher got reprimanded behind closed doors.
Post by tripleshot on Sept 1, 2015 18:15:37 GMT -5
I'd be attending the next board meeting. In the meantime, I'd email all the board members and post on the school's Facebook page and tell all the parents I could what happened. Burn it down and do it swiftly and quickly.
I had a 2nd grade teacher who did this, and my parents told me to just walk oit if I had to go, and they would deal with the consequences and assured me they wouldn't be mad at me even if the teacher was. The teacher was just a bitch, and the principal set her straight. I can't even imagine if it were a POLICY that fucking ridiculous.
At the very (I do mean very) least, I would expect a detailed explanation of why the policy is in place, how long it has been in place, what instigated it placement and what other options were considered as not viable. I don't understand how a) millions of other kids can go to the washroom whenever they want and b) how an entire district follows this policy and it has never been an issue before.
This would NEVER happen in my district, lol...omg, it would be on the cover of the local paper before the ink dried on the policy. No.fucking.way.
This is such a dumb policy. How is a child peeing himself/herself LESS disruptive than just allowing them to go? They're 6! And it is the first week of school, they're distracted and not paying attention.
I am actually a board member for the PTA. I'm going to tell the ENTIRE story at our next board meeting and see what we need to do to make a change. If it truly is a policy that the teachers are following he can't be the only one. It only applies to kids who DON'T have a private restroom inside their classroom. He had a private one last year so it was a non-issue.
I would probably be on the phone to the fucking superintendent about that. It. Is. BULLSHIT.
Your poor kiddo.
I wouldn't even wait for the next board meeting. I think I'd be on the phone with every board member and the superintendent burning it down. The policy is unacceptable.
Post by balletofangels on Sept 1, 2015 18:25:10 GMT -5
Ditto go to the school board. Ours allows for community comments and the chair has open office hours. I'm so angry about this and I'm a pretty tough teacher.
So, so, so wrong in every way. I would be up in the Superintendent's face about this. Skip the principal and go straight to the top. Six year olds need to go when they need to go. I would be apoplectic. I am so sorry for your DS. His teacher is an idiot and so is the school district.
So, so, so wrong in every way. I would be up in the Superintendent's face about this. Skip the principal and go straight to the top. Six year olds need to go when they need to go. I would be apoplectic. I am so sorry for your DS. His teacher is an idiot and so is the school district.
That is completely unacceptable. Your poor kid. I'm so sorry that he had to deal with that. I would definitely escalate and go over the principal's head if he/she backed the teacher. I would be SO angry.
On DATE, my son, NAME, asked his teacher, NAME, for permission to use the restroom. She denied his request. Approximately X minutes later, he asked again, explaining it was an emergency. She denied his request a second time.
As a direct result of not being permitted to use the restroom, my son had no choice but to defecate in his pants. Moreover, he was so fearful of being reprimanded for doing so that he did not inform his teacher or any other adult at school and attempted to clean himself and his pants during the appointed time he and other students were finally allowed to use the restroom.
Both TEACHER NAME and PRINCIPAL NAME have informed me that district policy limits student restroom use to only three specific times a day and only as an entire class. Any deviation from this strict schedule requires a doctor's note, and the student must use a restroom in the office, not the restroom just steps away from the classroom.
This policy is unreasonable, untenable, and unconscionable.
No six-year-old should be expected to relieve himself on command only at three appointed times per day. No adult would ever be held to such an inane schedule. Even prison inmates may use the restroom at any time they please.
Please provide me this policy in writing and advise how it will be modified to accommodate basic human needs.
Post by formerlyak on Sept 1, 2015 18:41:15 GMT -5
I'd be calling the district. That's ridiculous! As a mom of a kid who had a tough time remembering to go at recess or lunch every day (I had to do a freakin' reward chart at home for him to learn that shit!), I'd be pissed if his teacher didn't let him go in an emergency. I even remember one day they were on lockdown because of a domestic threat to a teacher and they literally could not allow anyone to leave any classroom and he really had to go so his teacher hid him behind an easel and let him go in the trashcan so he didn't have an accident - and now all classrooms are equipped with little foldable camping potties for those types of situations.
omg. Your poor little boy. Even if that is the policy and the kids learn to adjust to it, it's the beginning of his first year of school. Make fucking exceptions for emergencies until they get the hang of it. But it's still a terrible policy, and I hope you take this as far up the ladder as it needs to go. I'm so sorry your son was put in that position.
I try to not have kids go during lessons, but you can tell when's kids gotta go and you let them go, no questions asked. And I'm not going to die on that hill. I've even had to call another teacher to rescue me so I could take an emergency bathroom break. You can't expect kids to just go three times a day on command. Emergencies happen. And I would be livid over this policy. Write a letter, call them, whatever it takes!