I'm so irritated, probably more than I should be, but I can't help it. I had an extremely busy weekend- it was fun, but crazy busy. We had people over on Friday, on Saturday I made a pie and we drove to philly for a party and stayed out until 1am (didn't get home until 2:30), then on Sunday morning I took Ollie BACK to philly for a birthday party at 10:30am, went to the park and took him grocery shopping before driving the 90 minutes back home again. I'm exhausted.
This morning I was painting, cleaning out closets, and putting clothes away since we're still unpacking boxes and getting settled. I finally get Viv down for a nap and plop on the couch and LITERALLY SAY THE WORDS "I can't wait to sit here and watch last weeks Greys and do nothing."
H- "want to have sex quick?"
Me- "I really just want to relax right now, sorry."
H- "Well come here- I'll rub you"
Me- "alright"
....30 seconds later....
H- "can I get a blowjob real quick?"
Like, wtf dude?! Read my social cues- or, just listen to the words coming out of my mouth! This is my hour or two hour break from parenting- I don't want to spend it servicing you if I'm not in the mood!
Then we fought about how he aaaaalways wants it and he doesn't understand how I don't aaaaaalways want it and how we only have sex when I want to. And now he's mad because I'm mad so I'm upstairs cooling off.
Like...if you need that release SO BADLY, I give you full permission (though you really don't need it) to go take care of yourself. But don't expect me to run around like a chicken with its head cut off and then blow you the second I finally get to rest.
I am actually angry for you right now.
Its not about only doing it when YOU want to. Its about recognizing that not every child-free, quiet moment is the PERFECT opportunity for sex. Its about realizing that when you give give give all the time, sometimes you just want to be in your own head for a minute.
Sometimes I don't know if I'm overreacting in these situations. We've had issues with out sex life before- his libido is off the charts and it's honestly tiring being married to a horny teenager. But it's been better recently, so it pisses me off when it just never seems like enough.
Post by prettyinpearls on Nov 23, 2015 15:20:01 GMT -5
And here I thought my H deserved a punch to the throat for waiting until our lunch date on my birthday today to take me shopping for my birthday present. You know, instead of taking the time out of his day to do it himself.
We have the same fights....except my husband waits until the lights are just turned off to question our relationship since we haven't had sex in 5 days.
"Where are we going?"
"Do you love me anymore?.....because you never want to have sex with me"
I get mad as hell and tell him to knock it off because I'm definitely not in the mood at that point. He rolls over and is snoring within 5 minutes and I'm laying there awake for an hour while staring at a dark ceiling. I hate those fights....they always start up when the light goes off. When I work all day, then come home to two young kids running around, I get no help with cleaning up or getting them in bed (unless I have to ask him). 11:45pm rolls around and I'm tired, you think I feel in the mood? No!
DH asked me last night if I wanted him to move out. This was his passive aggressive way of pouting because we didn't have sex. Now, he never initiated just dropped not so subtle hints (like patting my ass). So, it's not like I turned him down but he was still pouting about it.
I'm getting much more serious about the commune, guys.
Hugs meganew. I would have been pissed as well. You are 100% justified.
I would live in a commune of women. For real. Sign me up.
Sometimes I don't know if I'm overreacting in these situations. We've had issues with out sex life before- his libido is off the charts and it's honestly tiring being married to a horny teenager. But it's been better recently, so it pisses me off when it just never seems like enough.
Sometimes I don't know if I'm overreacting in these situations. We've had issues with out sex life before- his libido is off the charts and it's honestly tiring being married to a horny teenager. But it's been better recently, so it pisses me off when it just never seems like enough.
If I say I'm too tired for sex,where I do 1/2 the work and get 1/2 the benefits, you have got some mother fucking brass ones thinking you can follow up by asking me for a bj, where I'm stuck doing all the work for none of the benefits.
DH asked me last night if I wanted him to move out. This was his passive aggressive way of pouting because we didn't have sex. Now, he never initiated just dropped not so subtle hints (like patting my ass). So, it's not like I turned him down but he was still pouting about it.
I'm getting much more serious about the commune, guys.
Hugs meganew . I would have been pissed as well. You are 100% justified.
I would live in a commune of women. For real. Sign me up.
I have a friend who managed to get pregnant in a commune for women. I guess it was the UPS driver or something? (Not sure; we weren't friends when it happened.) Anyway, I think - despite how unappealing sex seems when you just want get your hour of down time - eventually I would feel pretty hard up if there were NO outlets.
Honestly, if my H was at home during the day I would spell it out plainly that there will be no sex during my down time unless I initiate it.