What is it about me that attracts lying liars?

[verycontrary247]

Dude I've been talking to/sleeping with for about a month. Was actually considering deleting dating apps and seeing him exclusively. Just figured out he's married.


Wtfffffffff

Why does this shit keep happening to me?!

[pantsparty]

OMG How did you figure that out?

[daisyn]

Broken picker

[isabel]

Yikes! I'm sorry.

[AHappierHour]

That's sucks

[Deleted]

Are you digging before dating? I recommend it.

[calle28]

Aww man, I'm sorry. That sucks.

[Dezi]

WTF? How did you find out?

[verycontrary247]

Dec 2, 2015 23:40:28 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

OMG How did you figure that out?

So, we met via Tinder. You have to have a Facebook to have Tinder.

I'm not the type to immediately try to be Facebook friends with someone I'm banging, but I was curious, so I looked him up and didn't find anything, which struck me as odd, so I logged into the fakeo account I made when sleuthing the last dude that did this to me and looked him up again. Tadaaa. There he was. So many coupley photos, very recent. Has been married since 2011.

The best part about it is the other day I jokingly made a comment that he seemed too normal, so he must have a secret wife or family squirreled away somewhere. So goddamned accurate.

[oliviapope]

What an asshole. I'm sorry

[rosiebear]

Goddammit. That sucks; I'm sorry.

There is not one thing wrong with you; it's them. Ass rashes

[verycontrary247]

Dec 2, 2015 23:50:43 GMT -5 @beachbella said:

What the actual fuck? I am so sorry. How did he get away with this for a month?

Like, we both had really crazy work schedules, so we've mostly been hanging out in the mornings before work and some weekends. That didn't seem off to me.


From what it looks like his wife is in the military as well, so I assume his availability on the weekend was dependent on her being on duty/working.

[elleblue]

Yeah, it's time to get into the habit of doing some light sleuthing before you get too involved. I'm sorry that is so incredibly sucky.

[wesleycrusher4ever]

Unfortunately, I think you have to "snoop" before starting the relationship. I met my SO online and after our first date I basically looked up his life story online. May be creepy, but I've seen so many of my friends get burned by liars

[verycontrary247]

Dec 3, 2015 0:20:07 GMT -5 elleblue said:

Yeah, it's time to get into the habit of doing some light sleuthing before you get too involved. I'm sorry that is so incredibly sucky.

I did originally. Typically once I have someone's phone number I'll look them up on Facebook with the find contacts feature thing. His didn't pull up with that and I didn't know his last name at that point so I dropped it. Didn't follow through again until now.

Ugh.

[elleblue]

Dec 3, 2015 0:26:36 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

Dec 3, 2015 0:20:07 GMT -5 elleblue said:

Yeah, it's time to get into the habit of doing some light sleuthing before you get too involved. I'm sorry that is so incredibly sucky.

I did originally. Typically once I have someone's phone number I'll look them up on Facebook with the find contacts feature thing. His didn't pull up with that and I didn't know his last name at that point so I dropped it. Didn't follow through again until now.

Ugh.

[pantsparty]

I am really sorry I mean shit, what can you do. It sucks that you have to think like this.

[pantsparty]

What do you do in this situation? Do you tell him you know he's married, or just stop speaking to him?

[verycontrary247]

Dec 3, 2015 0:34:03 GMT -5 peachy said:

Dec 3, 2015 0:15:27 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

So, we met via Tinder. You have to have a Facebook to have Tinder.

I'm not the type to immediately try to be Facebook friends with someone I'm banging, but I was curious, so I looked him up and didn't find anything, which struck me as odd, so I logged into the fakeo account I made when sleuthing the last dude that did this to me and looked him up again. Tadaaa. There he was. So many coupley photos, very recent. Has been married since 2011.

The best part about it is the other day I jokingly made a comment that he seemed too normal, so he must have a secret wife or family squirreled away somewhere. So goddamned accurate.

How come you could see him under the fake account but not your real one?

I'm sorry what a dirtbag. Did you tell him you know?

I figure he must've blocked me on Facebook right after we met because I was searching the same things

And yes, I did tell him I know. No response, but I guess that's not surprising.

[verycontrary247]

Dec 3, 2015 0:34:00 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

What do you do in this situation? Do you tell him you know he's married, or just stop speaking to him?

I asked him if his wife knew he was fucking other women.

[pantsparty]

Dec 3, 2015 0:44:45 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

Dec 3, 2015 0:34:00 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

What do you do in this situation? Do you tell him you know he's married, or just stop speaking to him?

I asked him if his wife knew he was fucking other women.

What an asshole. I'm so sorry

[lookingup]

I shit you not, verycontrary247, just tonight I found out a guy that I've been seeing and sleeping with for several weeks has a long term girlfriend. I am so ready to quit dating.

I'm sorry that happened to you. :/

[flex]

When I was doing the online dating thing several years ago, I met a guy in the military who supposedly wasn't married. We just met a couple times at lunch and he seemed very interested. But he made it abundantly clear we couldn't talk on weekends because that's when he "he need to focus on his kids on the weekend". It started feeling really suspicious to me so I just broke it off. This was before I was into FB.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry. What an asshole.

[mountaingirl]

I wonder if it is my BIL you were seeing! I need to do some more investigating but we are more than positive he has a gf somewhere. Are you in GA by any chance?


Dirtbag. Sorry honey.

[frkls]

What a slime face. I'm sorry.

I guess you attract some nutballs when you're that damn irresistible!!!!

[wambam]

Ewwww.

I'm so sorry.

[venice2007]

Damn! Sorry he was such a jerk!

[Monica Geller]

He sucks. I'm sorry you met a slime ball. You are awesome though!!

[papie]

What a fucking piece of shit. I hate him for you and for his wife.

I'm sorry, that hurts. I agree with more sleuthing. I don't have more advice, but it's not you, it's him. I agree with mp that figuring out what is the common grounds between him and other assholes might help you identify them better.