Lots of exclamation points, so I know you are serious.
People are offering solutions and you are once again being a petulant child. There is no pleasing you.
Like I already fucking posted if those options were available too me I would.
Staying in a motel/extended stay is an option. However, that means I don't have a ride to work. So that really fucks with things as well. It's not just finding a fucking place to live it's also making sure I have a god damn way to fucking work.
Like I said. I wasn't looking for advice or fucking options. I know my options. And they are very very fucking few. Which is why I'm panicking.
Post by kangaroo11 on Aug 27, 2012 14:04:45 GMT -5
If my choices were sleeping on the street (since you don't even have a car to sleep in) or no beer in the fridge, I'm gonna go with, I'd prefer living a Mormon lifestyle to curling up in a sleeping bag on the sidewalk.
In all seriousness, what happened to finding out DEFINITIVELY exactly how long you can be in your apartment? As we all discussed when your landlord said you should leave, we told you to contact a tenant's rights organization immediately to find out for sure. All indications lead to you having 30 days from the date he told you to leave. Relatively speaking, that means you still have about 3 weeks to find a place, not 4 days. So keep looking, and tell your landlord that you know you haev 30 days, by law, and you won't be out until then.
After that, I suggest thinking long and hard about your situation of either not living near your job or not buying a reliable vehicle ASAP. You have a good job, a decent car is a viable option for you and you need to make it a reality. You cannot constantly be relying on this car pool to get to work, basing a potential apartment on whether or not your car pool will work out, or friends (who apparently are not real friends) to drive you places that you may need to go. Being a self-sufficient adult means having a mode of transport. If public transport is not a good option, you.need.a.car.
After you find an apartment and a car, I would also suggest working on making some new friends who actually care about you and have some sort of empathy, by the way. I really can't believe you are casusally sleeping with someone who won't let you crash at his place for a few days. You deserve better than that.
If my choices were sleeping on the street (since you don't even have a car to sleep in) or no beer in the fridge, I'm gonna go with, I'd prefer living a Mormon lifestyle to curling up in a sleeping bag on the sidewalk.
This.
And couldn't you just keep the beer in a mini-fridge in your own room?
I think it might be time for another GBCGBCN for you. You've been offered suggestions. Even if the friends/family thing isn't an option, staying in your current place IS an option. Instead of bitching about it, dig your heels in, stay put until you are officially evicted, and continue to look for another place.
I find it amazing that SLC's homeless population isn't higher given all the troubles you've had.
If my choices were sleeping on the street (since you don't even have a car to sleep in) or no beer in the fridge, I'm gonna go with, I'd prefer living a Mormon lifestyle to curling up in a sleeping bag on the sidewalk.
Not even those are available. Anymore. Trust me, I've been looking for those this afternoon as well.
Post by dancingirl21 on Aug 27, 2012 14:15:54 GMT -5
Bliss, what is the point of posting if when everyone suggests something, you shoot it down and start relentlessly cussing? I understand that you are panicking, but people are trying to give you legitimate options and you are just screaming with all exclamation points. What's the purpose?
In all seriousness, what happened to finding out DEFINITIVELY exactly how long you can be in your apartment? As we all discussed when your landlord said you should leave, we told you to contact a tenant's rights organization immediately to find out for sure. All indications lead to you having 30 days from the date he told you to leave. Relatively speaking, that means you still have about 3 weeks to find a place, not 4 days. So keep looking, and tell your landlord that you know you haev 30 days, by law, and you won't be out until then.
After that, I suggest thinking long and hard about your situation of either not living near your job or not buying a reliable vehicle ASAP. You have a good job, a decent car is a viable option for you and you need to make it a reality. You cannot constantly be relying on this car pool to get to work, basing a potential apartment on whether or not your car pool will work out, or friends (who apparently are not real friends) to drive you places that you may need to go. Being a self-sufficient adult means having a mode of transport. If public transport is not a good option, you.need.a.car.
After you find an apartment and a car, I would also suggest working on making some new friends who actually care about you and have some sort of empathy, by the way. I really can't believe you are casusally sleeping with someone who won't let you crash at his place for a few days. You deserve better than that.
No shit sherlock. Which is why this whole situation is so god damn frustrating.
I have friends who fucking care. My friends just don't have the fucking accommodations for someone to crash on their god damn couch.
I wouldn't let someone who I'm causally sleeping with crash on my couch for a few days. We are casually sleeping together not dating.
No I'm fucking irritated, stressed and sick of people telling me things I've already fucking done or tried. And then I get told I'm acting like a baby. Well, guess what I've already tried your options and clearly they aren't going to work out.
I'm aware I need a car. I also need a place to live. So I either buy a car and live in my car or get a place. Haven't really decided which is the best option for me.
So what was the reason they denied you? Was a better offer submitted? Was it a credit reason? Just seems strange since you seemed so confident that the apartment would be yours.
Your landlord doesn't have a legal right to remove you from your place of residence. They can get a court order from a judge but even getting a court date takes a long time, and then the judge gives you a long time to find a new place, and you can ask the judge for even more time after that. And then after all that it still takes weeks to get a sheriff to knock on your door and make you leave.
Don't leave if you don't have a place to go. Keep paying rent. Get settled as soon as you can, its not fun to feel like this. But don't move out. You can't be forced out but you can't return if you leave voluntarily.
Post by emilyinchile on Aug 27, 2012 14:21:00 GMT -5
I would let a friend sleep in a twin bed with me before I made her sleep in a homeless shelter. Oh wait, I actually have let friends sleep in a twin bed with me under much less serious circumstances. Your friends are pieces of shit.
OR
You are a drama queen who's going off the deep end for nothing.
honestly, I'd get a car and live in it for a little while. That way you keep your job and get yourself a place asap. I'd probably interspace living in the car with a motel night here or there to shower. All the while still looking for a place and eating PB&J.
I wouldn't let someone who I'm causally sleeping with crash on my couch for a few days. We are casually sleeping together not dating.
What happened to giving up sex? Apparently that's already gone out the window.
For real, evictions take time. You don't have 4 days to get out of your current place. They can't kick you out that soon. Tenants have way more rights than landlords.
In all seriousness, what happened to finding out DEFINITIVELY exactly how long you can be in your apartment? As we all discussed when your landlord said you should leave, we told you to contact a tenant's rights organization immediately to find out for sure. All indications lead to you having 30 days from the date he told you to leave. Relatively speaking, that means you still have about 3 weeks to find a place, not 4 days. So keep looking, and tell your landlord that you know you haev 30 days, by law, and you won't be out until then.
After that, I suggest thinking long and hard about your situation of either not living near your job or not buying a reliable vehicle ASAP. You have a good job, a decent car is a viable option for you and you need to make it a reality. You cannot constantly be relying on this car pool to get to work, basing a potential apartment on whether or not your car pool will work out, or friends (who apparently are not real friends) to drive you places that you may need to go. Being a self-sufficient adult means having a mode of transport. If public transport is not a good option, you.need.a.car.
After you find an apartment and a car, I would also suggest working on making some new friends who actually care about you and have some sort of empathy, by the way. I really can't believe you are casusally sleeping with someone who won't let you crash at his place for a few days. You deserve better than that.
No shit sherlock. Which is why this whole situation is so god damn frustrating.
I have friends who fucking care. My friends just don't have the fucking accommodations for someone to crash on their god damn couch.
I wouldn't let someone who I'm causally sleeping with crash on my couch for a few days. We are casually sleeping together not dating.
Well, then that is where we differ, I guess, because even in a casual situation, I would not want my fuck buddy to be homeless. If that is truly how you feel and act IRL, I am now not surprised that you can't find anyone to take you in.
Post by Daria Morgandorffer on Aug 27, 2012 14:27:00 GMT -5
I also truly don't understand how a twenty-something single person with no car payment can't manage to find (even temporary) lodging while making 40k per year. In Utah.
Why on earth are you SLEEPING with someone you wouldn't let crash on your couch a couple days? My God, I'd do that for just about anyone I know.
I know, really.
Heck, I would let plenty of people on this board sleep on my couch for a few days or a week if they needed to - some of you I have "known" for 5+ years.
Post by doublemint on Aug 27, 2012 14:34:23 GMT -5
I came out of lurkdom (was a semi-regular MMer - just have been trying to focus at work since the switch - which is now an epic fail) just to ask these questions:
1. Why are you SUCH a bitch to everyone - even those that are legitimately trying to give you advice?
2. Why have you completely COMPLETELY ignored everyone who is asking you if you looked at landlord tenant laws in UT and telling you that evictions take time? You will not be homeless in 4 days. He cannot throw your shit on the street unless you lied about your situation and you did get a notice, or your lease said differently, etc. Seriously. Do a little google searching, calm the f down, realize you have a few more weeks and then get back to searching. At the VERY least - please answer why THIS is not an option?!?
Post by lintscreen on Aug 27, 2012 14:36:17 GMT -5
I'm suspicious that you keep avoiding the question about your current living situation/landlord. What's the deal, are you being legitimately kicked out or not?
If it were me I might just put my belongings in a safe place and squat where I am until they call the law, lol.
Honestly, I think this is a very good suggestion. LOL
And she wouldn't even be squatting, IIRC. The landlord didnt give her proper legal notice to move out, therefore, her month to month lease is still in effect until he gives her the proper, written notice Which I believe is 30 days. So if he wanted her out on August 31st, he would have had to give her notice by July 31st.
All he did was say "This isnt working, you have to be out in 11 days."
Sorry, dude, but she doesnt. Not yet, anyway.
So, Bliss, if the story you've given us is the whole story and it happened the way you said it happened- DONT MOVE.
But, I know this is wasted advice because you dont really care. You just want the drama of "OMG, I'm gonna be homeless!" even when you aren't going to be.
You have a mother and a father living in SL, right? You seriously couldn't crash at one of your parent's houses for a few extra days? Yeah, it might mean a crappy public transit commute, but I'm sure it would be better than being homeless.