I can't remember what I post here or not. And honestly right now I'm fucking panicking and trying to work but also trying to figure out what to do. And I'm just getting told I suck over and over again which is just making it worse.
I'm sorry I didn't give all this information the first time around.
Nobody is saying you suck. People are saying CALM THE MOTHERFUCKING FUCK DOWN. Losing your shit is helping nothing and it's honestly just annoying. You're 25, act like it.
Please. Next time you ask for advice about something on more than one occasion, and MMers give you tons of really good advice, and you choose to ignore it because you don't give a fuck? Don't act surprised when DUH, shit hits the fan. When will you listen, Bliss? WHEN?
Also, stop talking about being homeless. Even in your most recent post, you've admitted you have several other options. Living on the streets is not one of them. So cut the dramatics. Learn how to focus on what's important and leave that childish act behind.
Cut your entertainment budget. You don't need that if you are having difficulty keeping a roof over your head and getting yourself to work. Can't you take the money you've set aside for a new car, and use it as a big downpayment for a reliable used car, and finance the remainder? Then use your former entertainment budget to pay it off quickly, and voila. Shit. got. done.
I don't have money set aside. Like I said, I've only been working here a month. Long enough to catch up and pay my bills. I haven't even started contributing to savings or anything. I don't have anything to get me a car. I dont' have anyone to help me get a car.
NO people may not be telling me I suck but they're telling me I'm MUD, dramatic, etc. Sure I'm fucking dramatic. I'm stressed as hell and feel fucking alone. I don't have anyone to tell me it's going to be alright. I just want one god damn person to give me a hug and say it's going to be al-fucking-right. I don't have that.
If he's coming in unannounced isn't there a way to get a restraining order or something? It's probably got a different name, but there has to be some recourse for landlords breaking the law.
I didn't know I could call the cops. Considering it is his condo and all. But I will next time.
If you are genuinely concerned with your safety or your things, you need to leave and stay with one of your friends. Even if they are 45 minutes away and you have to share a futon with them and you both have to wake up 3 hours earlier than normal so that they can drive you to work. Seriously. This is what real friends do for each other. You need to impose on them. Everyone has been in a tough situation before, and if they haven't been, they will be at some point in the future and you can return the favor then.
I would love to impose on my friends but it's not an option.
Well, certainly dont call the police if you're being harassed, threatened and illegally evicted. Logic-smogic!
The police seem a bit extreme.
Maybe it is. However, it's just as extreme as claiming to be homeless because you refuse to do anything about the situation. Sometimes, one extreme deserves another. (Even if it is just on a message board.)
Nobody is saying you suck. People are saying CALM THE MOTHERFUCKING FUCK DOWN. Losing your shit is helping nothing and it's honestly just annoying. You're 25, act like it.
Please. Next time you ask for advice about something on more than one occasion, and MMers give you tons of really good advice, and you choose to ignore it because you don't give a fuck? Don't act surprised when DUH, shit hits the fan. When will you listen, Bliss? WHEN?
Also, stop talking about being homeless. Even in your most recent post, you've admitted you have several other options. Living on the streets is not one of them. So cut the dramatics. Learn how to focus on what's important and leave that childish act behind.
Cut your entertainment budget. You don't need that if you are having difficulty keeping a roof over your head and getting yourself to work. Can't you take the money you've set aside for a new car, and use it as a big downpayment for a reliable used car, and finance the remainder? Then use your former entertainment budget to pay it off quickly, and voila. Shit. got. done.
I don't have money set aside. Like I said, I've only been working here a month. Long enough to catch up and pay my bills. I haven't even started contributing to savings or anything. I don't have anything to get me a car. I dont' have anyone to help me get a car.
NO people may not be telling me I suck but they're telling me I'm MUD, dramatic, etc. Sure I'm fucking dramatic. I'm stressed as hell and feel fucking alone. I don't have anyone to tell me it's going to be alright. I just want one god damn person to give me a hug and say it's going to be al-fucking-right. I don't have that.
You're not listening. Nobody's offering you a hug because you keep cursing at us. But plenty of people have said CALM DOWN, it IS going to be alright. You AREN'T going to be homeless. Just breathe for a few minutes, and then start calmly deciding your next course of action.
I have to ask, though, how do you not have any money set aside for a car? You were talking about buying a car only a few weeks ago. How were you planning on doing that? Do you have any kind of an efund?
Why do you say that you have no fucking friends and turn around and say you do have fucking friends? You didn't say that your friends didn't have a fucking place for you to crash, you said you had no fucking friends.
I mean, fuck. Make up your fucking mind. At least keep your fucking story straight.
She also said she has no relationship with her parents, but in the OOTD post on S&B she's wearing shoes borrowed from her mom.
Like 5 god damn years ago. Not like I borrowed them last week. And the "borrowed" means never gave fucking back.
Well, certainly dont call the police if you're being harassed, threatened and illegally evicted. Logic-smogic!
The police seem a bit extreme.
So it's not extreme that your landlord is threatening to take your personal property from your home of residence where you have been paying rent and changing the locks? It's not legal and I would damn well be calling the cops if he tried to do that.
Well, geez, MM. Her parents wouldn't give her the shirt off their backs, BUT THAT IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT FROM BORROWING SHOES!!!!!
That was like 5 fucking years ago!!!!!!!!!!
DIAF smock! Seriously. Why are you even posting? You hate me too? Do you all just like to see me suffer? Seriously you all fucking feed right back into my god damn drama.
The car is the obvious solution to the story. Rent one for a week using a Hotwire deal (around $100), live with any friend that will let you crash on a couch, since you won't need to worry about transportation, and use that week to buy a clunker. I think you mentioned you are going to Vegas soon--cancel that and build up your cash reserves. Take on a PT serving job for immediate cash to get you into a new apartment. You can totally do this if you don't turn challenges into insurmountable obstacles.
I don't have money set aside. Like I said, I've only been working here a month. Long enough to catch up and pay my bills. I haven't even started contributing to savings or anything. I don't have anything to get me a car. I dont' have anyone to help me get a car.
NO people may not be telling me I suck but they're telling me I'm MUD, dramatic, etc. Sure I'm fucking dramatic. I'm stressed as hell and feel fucking alone. I don't have anyone to tell me it's going to be alright. I just want one god damn person to give me a hug and say it's going to be al-fucking-right. I don't have that.
You're not listening. Nobody's offering you a hug because you keep cursing at us. But plenty of people have said CALM DOWN, it IS going to be alright. You AREN'T going to be homeless. Just breathe for a few minutes, and then start calmly deciding your next course of action.
I have to ask, though, how do you not have any money set aside for a car? You were talking about buying a car only a few weeks ago. How were you planning on doing that? Do you have any kind of an efund?
ya I was waiting on the extra check for August, my bonus and another paycheck to purchase a car. This is all now going towards putting a roof over my head.
Well, geez, MM. Her parents wouldn't give her the shirt off their backs, BUT THAT IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT FROM BORROWING SHOES!!!!!
That was like 5 fucking years ago!!!!!!!!!!
DIAF smock! Seriously. Why are you even posting? You hate me too? Do you all just like to see me suffer? Seriously you all fucking feed right back into my god damn drama.
I'm sorry, Bliss. I just find your posts really, really hilarious.
Oh, and you probably don't remember this, but like two years ago I got all mad at HS for telling you to DIAF back on TIP. Remember that? Well, look. It's the circle of life.
DIAF smock! Seriously. Why are you even posting? You hate me too? Do you all just like to see me suffer? Seriously you all fucking feed right back into my god damn drama.
I'm sorry, Bliss. I just find your posts really, really hilarious.
Oh, and you probably don't remember this, but like two years ago I got all mad at HS for telling you to DIAF back on TIP. Remember that? Well, look. It's the circle of life.
The landlord does not have the legal right to change your locks, move your things or harass you every day. If he does these things you call the police and they protect YOU. He may have a legal right to put you out in 15 or 30 days, but that doesn't mean he gets to do it. It means he gets to present his case to a impartial JUDGE in a court who then may or may not order a notice of eviction. For some reasonable date in the future. And that order can only be enforced by a sheriff or other legal enforcement type agency. With even more notice. And all this only when your landlord bothers to get the legal process started - at his own time and expense.
So yes, you are going to be fine. And everything will work out.
In fact, he should be more worried that you don't stop paying rent completely since you are already leaving and he can't make the process along faster if you do stop.
I'm going back to fucking work. This is just taking up too much of my time.
Go ahead and bash me while I"m fucking gone. I know how much you all fucking enjoy it.
WHY are you so stubborn that you don't even recognize genuine advice when people try to offer it to you? Do you think that you can just talk to people like they're dirt and they're going to turn around and hug and coddle you? I'm sorry. You're 25, Bliss. That's not how it works in the real world. And before you come back and give me a "no shit, sherlock", THEN START FUCKING ACTING LIKE YOU KNOW THAT. Treat people here with respect when they offer you advice and care, and they will give you the same in response.
Did you really come here looking for advice or comfort? Because if not, and you just came to stir things up, why the hell are you acting like a bratty child and being all "talk about me like I know you love to!!!"? You're so frustrating! People are trying to help. TAKE THE ADVICE. Thank people for it and put it into action. Don't act like you know everything and shoot people down and curse at them. Since none of us are talking about being homeless, perhaps we know a thing or two more than you do. JUST PERHAPS.
I hope things work out for you. I really do. I know plenty of us are really trying to help, even with all the snark. But open your eyes and shut your mouth. You can't always have drama. You just can't.
If you are genuinely concerned with your safety or your things, you need to leave and stay with one of your friends. Even if they are 45 minutes away and you have to share a futon with them and you both have to wake up 3 hours earlier than normal so that they can drive you to work. Seriously. This is what real friends do for each other. You need to impose on them. Everyone has been in a tough situation before, and if they haven't been, they will be at some point in the future and you can return the favor then.
I would love to impose on my friends but it's not an option.
Not your first choice =/= not an option. Even if it sucks and is annoying and seems impossible, it is better than being homeless or living in a car.
I'm pretty sure you said that you make $42k a year - plus bonus- plus you make like $100 a night at your bar job. How do you not have a car or a place to live? And why, without a car payment for so long, do you not have more money in the bank? NONE of this makes sense.
This thread is ridiculous.
Also, Bliss, when have you EVER came here and got all puppies and rainbows? A board full of professional, smart women who care about their finances is not the place where you can tell a bunch of stories and just think no one will add everything up.
Also, reality check, life is hard sometimes and we must pay to put a roof over our head. This is not something that is just happening to you - we all have to do it. Yet, you complain about it like you are the first person in the world to have to find a place to live.
I think she's clarified before that she makes about 40k INCLUDING bonuses. And that she doesn't really do the weekend gig regularly anymore. Not that this really matters.
Still 40k is more than I made when I first started working...and I was in NY state, a higher COLA. I paid SLs, rent, and all the above. I made $32k. It was worse when I was in DC and made 23k and hade to commute an hour and 1/2 each way for el cheapo rent
Cry me a river. How is it difficult? It is called paying your dues. I appreciate all I have been through because it made me stronger. I didn't wallow.
I'm done now.
Haha. No kidding. I paid all of that right after college and had a (small) car payment and made 27k.
Also, I thought she ALWAYS drank for free right? So booze can't be where the money goes.
I would bet it goes towards drugs - cause she is most definitely on something.
Still 40k is more than I made when I first started working...and I was in NY state, a higher COLA. I paid SLs, rent, and all the above. I made $32k. It was worse when I was in DC and made 23k and hade to commute an hour and 1/2 each way for el cheapo rent
Cry me a river. How is it difficult? It is called paying your dues. I appreciate all I have been through because it made me stronger. I didn't wallow.
I'm done now.
$40k is more than I make NOW, and I have a car payment, rent, a kid to support (8 year old little girls are expensive!), animals to feed...the list goes on. (I am married, but still, he doesn't make that much either.)