Fuck!!!!

[bliss]

Aug 27, 2012 15:09:03 GMT -5 EmilieMadison said:

And the "fuck count" is up to 41 44. That does not include any other cuss words, just fuck and variations of fuck.
Awesome.

fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck and fuckity fuck fuck fuck.

[EmilieMadison]

Aug 27, 2012 15:09:44 GMT -5 bliss said:

Now, did I answer everyone's questions?

-I don't have a relationship with my parents. They won't offer the shirts of their backs for me, let alone a room for a month.

-Giant lives 1 hour away

-Most my friends live in the suburbs and don't really have room. If I had a car it'd be a easier solution.

-I'm drafting an email to my landlord now to push back my move out date.

-I'm still going to look at 4 place tonight and throughout the week in hopes that I find something.

-I'm looking into extended stay/hotels for a week or so.

-I'm looking into buying a car now and living in it/couching surfing for a month.

-Everything is all pending. Depends on how much money I'll have.

-I've only been working at my job for about a month so I haven't had time to really save or anything aside from pay my bills and catch up on things that were behind when I was unemployed for 2 months.

Does that answer everything?

Yeah, everything except why you're bothering with all of this drama when you and your landlord know that you dont even have to move out for at least 30 more days.

[6fsn]

This info in the first post would have saved a lot of time.

[bliss]

Aug 27, 2012 15:08:21 GMT -5 jillboston said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:05:47 GMT -5 bliss said:

I know what the fucking logical answer. I also know the layout of my fucking city and where extended stay hotels are in reference to my god damn place of employment.

It's an option I'm looking into. It's not an option closer to work however.

I'm also still fucking looking at apartments.

And again, pushing back with my landlord. Although, I'm terrified he's just going to throw my shit out and change the locks.

This is against the law. But I think you know that. I think this is Mud - maybe everything was Mud. Good luck to you.

Yes, I know that. Doesn't mean that I don't think my landlord won't do it. My landlord is middle eastern, shows up without 24 hour notice and takes keys that he knows nothing about. I fucking wish this was MUD.

I know what the law is. Doesn't mean that I don't think my landlord won't disobey it.

[smock]

Weren't you living in your dad's basement a year or two back? What's changed since then? He would really rather see you homeless than give you a place to sleep for a week?

[jewel]

Aug 27, 2012 14:57:38 GMT -5 bliss said:

Oh and the application was denied for credit purposes. One of the applicants had better credit than me. Which means it's going to be even harder to find a place and/or I'm going to have to put down more money. It's just really fucking frustrating.

I can't win. And I get told by internet strangers how fucking terrible I am or how dramatic. You would be too if you had to deal with this bullshit all on your own no support. No help or no one to tell you it will be okay. Just people telling you how much you fucking suck. Which is a real win.

Remember when you were going to let your medical bills go to collections because you said you didn't have any need for good credit? Even if you did end up making other arrangements, this is a perfect example of why everyone told you the collections idea was terrible.

People have given you support, encouragement, and stellar advice. The first time you posted, the responses were better. This is the same story over again, just more [fucking] dramatic.

Everything will be OK, seriously. You will not be homeless. Stay in your current place until your landlord gives you a WRITTEN 30 day notice. You do not need an attorney or the housing authority to send him a letter stating so. I'm sure he knows that he is not legally evicting you right now. He's just trying to make your life miserable enough that you'll move out.

I do feel bad that you don't know a single person who can let you crash on their couch, floor, garage, etc. Like a PP, I'd let almost any acquaintance stay with me for a few days if their only other options was to be homeless. That sucks.

If you have a minute, sit back and try to get some perspective. You are a young, single woman with an education and a good job. You are struggling with a place to live, but luckily you only have to worry about yourself. Most people have gone through, or are currently going through, much worse in their life. If you end the freak-out and do your best to get through this time with dignity, you'll look back on it in 10 (or 2) years and laugh, or at least appreciate the crazy memories.

[bliss]

Aug 27, 2012 15:11:26 GMT -5 6fsn said:

This info in the first post would have saved a lot of time.

I can't remember what I post here or not. And honestly right now I'm fucking panicking and trying to work but also trying to figure out what to do. And I'm just getting told I suck over and over again which is just making it worse.

I'm sorry I didn't give all this information the first time around.

[meggers5]

Why does it matter that your landlord is Middle Eastern?

[Deleted]

Wait, what does the LL being middle eastern have anything to do with it?

[blahblah]

Aug 27, 2012 15:11:39 GMT -5 bliss said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:08:21 GMT -5 jillboston said:

This is against the law. But I think you know that. I think this is Mud - maybe everything was Mud. Good luck to you.

Yes, I know that. Doesn't mean that I don't think my landlord won't do it. My landlord is middle eastern, shows up without 24 hour notice and takes keys that he knows nothing about. I fucking wish this was MUD.

I know what the law is. Doesn't mean that I don't think my landlord won't disobey it.

[emilyinchile]

What does being Middle Eastern have to do with anything?

I am also still unclear on how your friends genuinely don't have room for you to crash for a couple days, but considering how everything else in this post has gone, I'm guessing the answer is that you'd have to sleep on an air mattress instead of in a king-sized bed or something like that.

[bliss]

Aug 27, 2012 15:11:18 GMT -5 EmilieMadison said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:09:44 GMT -5 bliss said:

Now, did I answer everyone's questions?

-I don't have a relationship with my parents. They won't offer the shirts of their backs for me, let alone a room for a month.

-Giant lives 1 hour away

-Most my friends live in the suburbs and don't really have room. If I had a car it'd be a easier solution.

-I'm drafting an email to my landlord now to push back my move out date.

-I'm still going to look at 4 place tonight and throughout the week in hopes that I find something.

-I'm looking into extended stay/hotels for a week or so.

-I'm looking into buying a car now and living in it/couching surfing for a month.

-Everything is all pending. Depends on how much money I'll have.

-I've only been working at my job for about a month so I haven't had time to really save or anything aside from pay my bills and catch up on things that were behind when I was unemployed for 2 months.

Does that answer everything?

Yeah, everything except why you're bothering with all of this drama when you and your landlord know that you dont even have to move out for at least 30 more days.

Because I'm afraid of how my landlord will respond. IE changing the locks and removing my stuff. I know it's illegal. Doesn't mean that he won't do it and then that will cause even more legal drama.

[bliss]

Aug 27, 2012 15:12:17 GMT -5 smock said:

Weren't you living in your dad's basement a year or two back? What's changed since then? He would really rather see you homeless than give you a place to sleep for a week?

Yes.

[cajunmom]

Aug 27, 2012 15:09:44 GMT -5 bliss said:

Does that answer everything?

Just one more thing.

Why do you say that you have no fucking friends and turn around and say you do have fucking friends? You didn't say that your friends didn't have a fucking place for you to crash, you said you had no fucking friends.

I mean, fuck. Make up your fucking mind. At least keep your fucking story straight.

[bliss]

Aug 27, 2012 15:13:25 GMT -5 meggers5 said:

Why does it matter that your landlord is Middle Eastern?

He's culture is different and I think that makes him difficult/different to deal with. Additionally, I don't trust my stuff will be safe if I push back. Which is why I haven't pushed back yet. I'm terrified of what he will do.

Based on what he's already done.

[jewel]

Aug 27, 2012 15:11:39 GMT -5 bliss said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:08:21 GMT -5 jillboston said:

This is against the law. But I think you know that. I think this is Mud - maybe everything was Mud. Good luck to you.

Yes, I know that. Doesn't mean that I don't think my landlord won't do it. My landlord is middle eastern, shows up without 24 hour notice and takes keys that he knows nothing about. I fucking wish this was MUD.

I know what the law is. Doesn't mean that I don't think my landlord won't disobey it.

And then you call the police, and tell them "My landlord fucking stole all of my shit!"

LOL @ the turns these posts always take.....Who knew Middle Eastern people even lived in SLC?

(ETA - to clarify, the ^o) = said in jest)

[bliss]

Aug 27, 2012 15:13:44 GMT -5 emilyinchile said:

What does being Middle Eastern have to do with anything?

I am also still unclear on how your friends genuinely don't have room for you to crash for a couple days, but considering how everything else in this post has gone, I'm guessing the answer is that you'd have to sleep on an air mattress instead of in a king-sized bed or something like that.

Because they live in a 1 bed with 1/2 kids or they live in their parents mil apartment and it's already cramped.

And like I already said, out of the way for me to get to work.

[krista]

Aug 27, 2012 15:15:38 GMT -5 cajunmom said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:09:44 GMT -5 bliss said:

Does that answer everything?

Just one more thing.

Why do you say that you have no fucking friends and turn around and say you do have fucking friends? You didn't say that your friends didn't have a fucking place for you to crash, you said you had no fucking friends.

I mean, fuck. Make up your fucking mind. At least keep your fucking story straight.

She also said she has no relationship with her parents, but in the OOTD post on S&B she's wearing shoes borrowed from her mom.

[EmilieMadison]

Aug 27, 2012 15:15:43 GMT -5 bliss said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:13:25 GMT -5 meggers5 said:

Why does it matter that your landlord is Middle Eastern?

He's culture is different and I think that makes him difficult/different to deal with. Additionally, I don't trust my stuff will be safe if I push back. Which is why I haven't pushed back yet. I'm terrified of what he will do.

Based on what he's already done.

Well, certainly dont call the police if you're being harassed, threatened and illegally evicted.
Logic-smogic!

[meggers5]

Aug 27, 2012 15:15:43 GMT -5 bliss said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:13:25 GMT -5 meggers5 said:

Why does it matter that your landlord is Middle Eastern?

He's culture is different and I think that makes him difficult/different to deal with. Additionally, I don't trust my stuff will be safe if I push back. Which is why I haven't pushed back yet. I'm terrified of what he will do.

Based on what he's already done.

So it's because he's Middle Eastern that he will disregard the law, not because maybe he's just a douche?

[blahblah]

Aug 27, 2012 15:12:45 GMT -5 bliss said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:11:26 GMT -5 6fsn said:

This info in the first post would have saved a lot of time.

I can't remember what I post here or not. And honestly right now I'm fucking panicking and trying to work but also trying to figure out what to do. And I'm just getting told I suck over and over again which is just making it worse.

I'm sorry I didn't give all this information the first time around.

Nobody is saying you suck. People are saying CALM THE MOTHERFUCKING FUCK DOWN. Losing your shit is helping nothing and it's honestly just annoying. You're 25, act like it.

Please. Next time you ask for advice about something on more than one occasion, and MMers give you tons of really good advice, and you choose to ignore it because you don't give a fuck? Don't act surprised when DUH, shit hits the fan. When will you listen, Bliss? WHEN?

Also, stop talking about being homeless. Even in your most recent post, you've admitted you have several other options. Living on the streets is not one of them. So cut the dramatics. Learn how to focus on what's important and leave that childish act behind.

Cut your entertainment budget. You don't need that if you are having difficulty keeping a roof over your head and getting yourself to work. Can't you take the money you've set aside for a new car, and use it as a big downpayment for a reliable used car, and finance the remainder? Then use your former entertainment budget to pay it off quickly, and voila. Shit. got. done.

[StJess80]

So, call the cops on him when he shows up unannounced. It's illegal.

[6fsn]

If he's coming in unannounced isn't there a way to get a restraining order or something? It's probably got a different name, but there has to be some recourse for landlords breaking the law.

[bliss]

Aug 27, 2012 15:15:38 GMT -5 cajunmom said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:09:44 GMT -5 bliss said:

Does that answer everything?

Just one more thing.

Why do you say that you have no fucking friends and turn around and say you do have fucking friends? You didn't say that your friends didn't have a fucking place for you to crash, you said you had no fucking friends.

I mean, fuck. Make up your fucking mind. At least keep your fucking story straight.

I'm sure you won't believe me but I meant to say "no fucking friends who can help."

I have friends. I just don't have friends who can help me. Or maybe I don't have friends. Whatever. All I know is that it's just me dealing with this. And internet strangers telling me how much I suck which really isn't helping my responses.

[bliss]

Aug 27, 2012 15:18:21 GMT -5 EmilieMadison said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:15:43 GMT -5 bliss said:

He's culture is different and I think that makes him difficult/different to deal with. Additionally, I don't trust my stuff will be safe if I push back. Which is why I haven't pushed back yet. I'm terrified of what he will do.

Based on what he's already done.

Well, certainly dont call the police if you're being harassed, threatened and illegally evicted.
Logic-smogic!

The police seem a bit extreme.

[bliss]

Aug 27, 2012 15:18:34 GMT -5 meggers5 said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:15:43 GMT -5 bliss said:

He's culture is different and I think that makes him difficult/different to deal with. Additionally, I don't trust my stuff will be safe if I push back. Which is why I haven't pushed back yet. I'm terrified of what he will do.

Based on what he's already done.

So it's because he's Middle Eastern that he will disregard the law, not because maybe he's just a douche?

No I never meant that because he's Middle Eastern he'll disregard the law. I'm just trying to give context to him and the situation.

But whatever. You just say on that comment.

[kadams767]

If you are genuinely concerned with your safety or your things, you need to leave and stay with one of your friends. Even if they are 45 minutes away and you have to share a futon with them and you both have to wake up 3 hours earlier than normal so that they can drive you to work. Seriously. This is what real friends do for each other. You need to impose on them. Everyone has been in a tough situation before, and if they haven't been, they will be at some point in the future and you can return the favor then.

[EmilieMadison]

Aug 27, 2012 15:20:08 GMT -5 bliss said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:18:21 GMT -5 EmilieMadison said:

Well, certainly dont call the police if you're being harassed, threatened and illegally evicted.
Logic-smogic!

The police seem a bit extreme.

Yes, THAT is the extreme part of this post. :-(

[nicoliae]

8-D Seriously Bliss, I'm around your age and I don't have nearly as many drama problems as you. You are immature and unwilling to accept any kind of advice. Basically you just want to whine and say fuck. So carry on, I'm sure people are done trying to help you.

P.S. Life gets harder. Good luck as you age!

[blahblah]

Aug 27, 2012 15:20:54 GMT -5 bliss said:

Aug 27, 2012 15:18:34 GMT -5 meggers5 said:

So it's because he's Middle Eastern that he will disregard the law, not because maybe he's just a douche?

No I never meant that because he's Middle Eastern he'll disregard the law. I'm just trying to give context to him and the situation.

But whatever. You just say on that comment.

But what sort of context does saying he's Middle Eastern actually give?