Who does the following in your household?

[fryjack2]

Just curious about the breakdown of child, house, and life related tasks and who ends up responsible for them compared to what households were like before the '70s or so. 

I'm also interested in knowing work make up-both work full time, someone SAH, part time, etc. 

-Pays the bills
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day.
-Does the grocery shopping
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.)
-Does the laundry
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc.
-Buys clothing for the kids
-Packs the kids stuff for the day
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids
-Communicates with teachers
-Manages car maintenance 
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to
-Plans birthdays 
-Makes dinner
-Housecleaning


I'm sure I'm missing a lot of categories. Feel free to add to the list. 

ETA: I missed standard categories for pets and lawn maintenance and house upkeep since we don't have a pet and live in a condo building. Oops! 

[thatgirl2478]

Um My DH packs DD1's lunch but that's it. All the rest I do 99% of the time. However, I SAH and DH works full time - so I have more time for this stuff.

[soozy87]

-Pays the bills Both
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day. Me
-Does the grocery shopping Both
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.) Both
-Does the laundry Me
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc. Me
-Buys clothing for the kids Me
-Packs the kids stuff for the day Me
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids Both
-Communicates with teachers n/a
-Manages car maintenance Both
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to Me
-Plans birthdays Me
-Makes dinner Me
-Housecleaning Me

I stay at home, H is self employed

[Deleted]

-Pays the bills Me
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day. N/A
-Does the grocery shopping Joint, BUT I MAKE THE LIST
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.) Joint, BUT I MAKE THE LIST
-Does the laundry Me
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc. Both
-Buys clothing for the kids N/A
-Packs the kids stuff for the day N/A
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids We do our own, N/A for kids
-Communicates with teachers N/A
-Manages car maintenance 80/20 him/me
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to Joint
-Plans birthdays Joint
-Makes dinner 80/20 me
-Housecleaning 80/20 him

Our physical chores are split evenly, but I do the mental lifting. We haven't really figured out how to change this, but he does recognize this, which helps.

[mlvmd]

I do all of that except drop off and pickup, I only do that once a week, and we split laundry.

ETA: we both work full time. DH sleeps during the day though so he finds it hard to call people and stuff (or so he says).

[Koala]

I do most of it.
We have a nanny, so some of the kid related tasks go to her.
DH does our laundry about half the time.
We clean up toys and the kitchen together in the evenings.

[shelbyann]

DH works full time (long hours and frequent travel). I work part time but am very part time at the moment and mostly have a SAH lifestyle.

-Pays the bills - ME
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day. - ME
-Does the grocery shopping - ME (sometimes outsource to Instacart)
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.) - ME
-Does the laundry - ME
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc. - ME
-Buys clothing for the kids - ME
-Packs the kids stuff for the day - ME
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids - ME
-Communicates with teachers - ME
-Manages car maintenance - BOTH, we each deal with our own car's needs
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to - ME
-Plans birthdays - ME
-Makes dinner - ME (lots of take out/delivery tho)
-Housecleaning - ME (occasionally have a cleaning service for deep cleaning)

I mean, I am not surprised at this. DH has very little free time outside of work.

[ECB]

We have a weird situation.  I work FT - normal.  DH works 2 weeks on, 2 weeks off.  So that plays a role in what w each do.  But I'll try to answer:


-Pays the bills
DH
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day.
Me when DH works, DH when he's off.  But I am the primary point person.
-Does the grocery shopping
Both
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.)
Both, but usually more me
-Does the laundry
Both
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc.
DH (we try to do this stuff when he's off)
-Buys clothing for the kids
Grandparents.     But really, this is "as needed" by whoever is available.
-Packs the kids stuff for the day
  Me when DH works, DH when he's off
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids
 I schedule but try to do it when DH is off
-Communicates with teachers
Usually me most often
-Manages car maintenance
DH
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to
Usually me
-Plans birthdays
Me
-Makes dinner
Both
-Housecleaning
Both


 

[nessness]

DH does his own laundry and maybe 30% of cooking and grocery shopping, 20% of cleaning. I do the rest of that stuff. He does do the majority of yardwork, which I didn't see on the list. ETA: we each handle maintenance for our own cars.

He works full time, I work 32 hours per week.

[estrellita]

Honestly, I'd say it's about 50/50 on most tasks. H makes more phone calls but I set up E's appointments and do more planning. H typically drops off and I pick up but it varies. He also cooks more but I clean more.

[AmyRI]

Both work FT, standard hours.

-Pays the bills - me
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day. 60% me (all drop off, 1-2/week average pickup, DH 3-4 pick ups)
-Does the grocery shopping - I meal plan and make the grocery list. DH shops.
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.) - me.
-Does the laundry - me
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc. - split depending on the task.
-Buys clothing for the kids - me for the girls, some of DS's. DH sometimes helps with DS.
-Packs the kids stuff for the day - We prep together in the evening, but DH fills lunchboxes in the AM for everyone.
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids - I schedule and do 75% of appointments.
-Communicates with teachers - both
-Manages car maintenance - we each manage our own
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to - me
-Plans birthdays - me
-Makes dinner - 80% DH, 20% me
-Housecleaning - 75% maids, 15% me, 10% DH

DH also handles all of the yard maintenance and many of our house projects. I do the decorating (what little of it I do).

[dulcemariamar]

I SAHM

Pay bills: DH

-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day. My DH does 70% of pickup/drop off

-Does the grocery shopping 50/50

-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.).. This get done grocery shopping or together on the weekend

-Does the laundry. My DH does the laundry, I fold and put away.

-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc. DH

-Buys clothing for the kids. Usually together or sometimes just me.

-Packs the kids stuff for the day . Me

-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids. Both

-Communicates with teachers Both

-Manages car maintenance DH

-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to.. Both

-Plans birthdays Both

-Makes dinner Me
-Housecleaning I clean during the week except the kitchen after dinner. We split the work on the weekend.

Read more: pandce.proboards.com/thread/550498/who-household#ixzz4J7iL4XJc

[spunkarella]

Sept 2, 2016 13:04:57 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

Just curious about the breakdown of child, house, and life related tasks and who ends up responsible for them compared to what households were like before the '70s or so. 

I'm also interested in knowing work make up-both work full time, someone SAH, part time, etc. Both full time

-Pays the bills-pretty even split
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day.-TBD
-Does the grocery shopping-me
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.)-pretty even split
-Does the laundry-he mostly washes and I fold (or we dig through the clean clothes mountain
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc.-mostly me
-Buys clothing for the kids-me
-Packs the kids stuff for the day-TBD
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids-TBD, I will probably schedule and we will split taking
-Communicates with teachers-TBD
-Manages car maintenance - we handle our own cars mostly 
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to-me
-Plans birthdays- we both slack equally 
-Makes dinner-me
-Housecleaning-pretty even split


I'm sure I'm missing a lot of categories. Feel free to add to the list. 

[rootbeerfloat]

-Pays the bills
-- Me
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day.
-- Both
-Does the grocery shopping
-- Both, but more H
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.)
-- Me
-Does the laundry
-- Me
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc.
-- H, and he usually leaves work to meet them, too
-Buys clothing for the kids
-- Me
-Packs the kids stuff for the day
-- Mostly me
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids
-- I schedule, we split taking them
-Communicates with teachers
-- Me
-Manages car maintenance
-- Neither lol
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to
-- Me
-Plans birthdays
-- Me
-Makes dinner
-- H
-Housecleaning
-- Both

[archiethedragon]

Sept 2, 2016 13:04:57 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

Just curious about the breakdown of child, house, and life related tasks and who ends up responsible for them compared to what households were like before the '70s or so. 

I'm also interested in knowing work make up-both work full time, someone SAH, part time, etc. 

-Pays the bills
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day.
-Does the grocery shopping
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.)
-Does the laundry
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc.
-Buys clothing for the kids
-Packs the kids stuff for the day
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids
-Communicates with teachers
-Manages car maintenance 
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to
-Plans birthdays 
-Makes dinner
-Housecleaning


I'm sure I'm missing a lot of categories. Feel free to add to the list. 

W/H
50/50-Pays the bills

80/20-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day.

80/20-Does the grocery shopping

80/20-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.)

50/50-Does the laundry

100/0-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc.

100/0-Buys clothing for the kids

20/80-Packs the kids stuff for the day

100/0-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids

100/0-Communicates with teachers

50/50-Manages car maintenance

100/0-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to

100/0-Plans birthdays

50/50-Makes dinner

50/50-Housecleaning


W - full time teacher
H - full time job

3 kids - 3rd grade, kindy, preschool

[anna7602]

-Pays the bills- DH manages anything that is on auto-pay, I deal with one-offs like extra-curricular fees

-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day. DH does drop-off, I do pick-up. With our nanny, I'm the main point of communication, but if I'm not home when she arrives, DH handles it. 

-Does the grocery shopping Me, except for the occasional quick stop I ask DH to handle.
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.) A lot of that comes through Amazon auto-delivery, but I set it up
-Does the laundry Me
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc. It depends. Both.
-Buys clothing for the kids Me
-Packs the kids stuff for the day DH makes DD's lunch and makes sure her homework is in backpack, etc. I'm responsible for DS's diaper bag
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids Me, since I have the more flexible work schedule and am usually the one taking them
-Communicates with teachers Both
-Manages car maintenance Um, neither. We just got a car in December and haven't taken it in for maintenance yet. We both went for a recent oil change and car wash. 
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to DH takes care of his family members, I take care of mostly everyone else. 
-Plans birthdays Me
-Makes dinner Me
-Housecleaning Me or a paid cleaner

[JRo]

We both work full time.

-Pays the bills
me
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day.
both (split)
-Does the grocery shopping
both
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.)
both
-Does the laundry
70% me/30% H
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc.
mostly H
-Buys clothing for the kids
me
-Packs the kids stuff for the day
me
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids
me
-Communicates with teachers
both
-Manages car maintenance
we each do our own car
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to
me
-Plans birthdays
me
-Makes dinner
70% me/30% H
-Housecleaning
outsourced

[imojoebunny]

I do everything on your list, except -Pays the bills. I pay quite a few, but DH pays the reoccurring ones (mortgage, utilities, taxes). I SAH. We have a very clear division of labor. I do have him pick up dinner a couple of times a month. I have even purchased a house and cars without him looking at it.

[Susie]

We both work FT.  The breakdown goes something like this:

Susie:
-Pays the bills
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day.
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.)
-Does the laundry
-Buys clothing for the kids
-Packs the kids stuff for the day
-Communicates with teachers
-Plans birthdays

Calvin:
-Does the grocery shopping
- Cooks dinner
- Packs lunches
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc.
-Manages car maintenance

Joint:
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to

Our house cleaner:
-Housecleaning

[lauralala]

DH helps with cleaning on the weekend, makes all required phone calls because I refuse, and is in charge of all maintenance on all things. He does bath time most nights. Everything else is me.

But he is out of the house 14 hours most days, and I really only work about 20 hours a week, though I use Friday for grading from home. When his schedule was more flexible he did a lot more.

[darnkatz]

Sept 2, 2016 13:04:57 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

My husband works 2 jobs. I SAH. 

-Pays the bills - We split this. 
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day. - I'd say H drops DD1 off at the bus stop or picks her up from the bus stop 1-2x a week. He usually is sleeping in the morning because he works until 3AM a lot of the time, and in the afternoon, he is usually gone by the time she gets home.
-Does the grocery shopping - Primarily me. He will pick things up when he can or goes with me if he has time.
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.) - Same as grocery shopping.
-Does the laundry - Me. 
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc. - This ends up being me most of the time because I'm the one who is home. 
-Buys clothing for the kids - Me. 
-Packs the kids stuff for the day - Me. 
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids - I always schedule it. He will take them if he can or go with me if he can.
-Communicates with teachers - Me. 
-Manages car maintenance - Him.
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to - Depends on who it is for. He's in charge of his own family and friends.
-Plans birthdays - We do this together.
-Makes dinner - Me, but to be fair, he is usually not home. He can and will cook if he has the time. 
-Housecleaning - Mostly me, but he doesn't have a problem doing housework and will do it when he can.

[noodleskooze]

Sept 2, 2016 13:04:57 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

We both work full time--DH is a teacher (home during the summer); I work in an office setting.

-DH Pays the bills
-One drops off; the other picks up. Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day.
-Either or both together Does the grocery shopping
-Either or both together Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.)
-DH Does the laundry
-Me Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc.
-Me Buys clothing for the kids
-Either or both together Packs the kids stuff for the day
-Either or both together Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids
-Either or both together Communicates with teachers
-DH Manages car maintenance 
-Me Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to
-Neither (lol) Plans birthdays 
-Usually DH/ sometimes me Makes dinner
-DH does day to day; I do deep cleaning Housecleaning

[sookie]

We both work full-time.

-Pays the bills
-Drops off/picks up from daycare
-Does the grocery shopping
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.)
-Does the laundry
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc.
-Buys clothing for the kids
-Packs the kids stuff for the day
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids
-Communicates with teachers
-Manages car maintenance
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to
-Plans birthdays
-Makes dinner
-Housecleaning DH does the outside lawn care and whatnot, and we have land so that does take a significant amount of time. He also does the dishes 95% of the time and puts away leftovers.

[scribellesam]

I'm a SAHM, DH works fairly normal full time hours but is gone from the house from 5:30am-5:30pm most weekdays. I do everything on your list except that DH handles the bills, car maintenance, yard work, and occasional dinner making (that I have planned and grocery shopped for). He will also help clean if I ask specifically for him to do a certain task.

[tulips]

I'm a SAHM. H is a project manager and works 50+ hours M-F and some weekends depending on project conversion schedules.

-Pays the bills
Me (I do day-to-day banking; h handles investments)

-Drops off/picks up from school
Me

-Does the grocery shopping
Me

-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.)
Me

-Does the laundry
Me

-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc.
95% me

-Buys clothing for the kids
Me

-Packs the kids stuff for the day
Me

-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids
Mostly me. H comes to as many dr appts as he can. He likes being there, too.

-Communicates with teachers
Me

-Manages car maintenance 
Me

-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to
Me

-Plans birthdays 
Me

-Makes dinner
Me

-Housecleaning
90% me

H does yard work, snow removal and most trash/recycling

[awick14]

-Pays the bills; mainly me, but he pays certain ones

-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day; no kids currently, but he will be doing 75% of daycare pickups/drop offs after baby is born.

-Does the grocery shopping; mainly me, but lately he has been because I'm working out of town

-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.) Me I do this with the grocery shopping

-Does the laundry; me

-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc; me

-Buys clothing for the kids; will be me

-Packs the kids stuff for the day; most likely him

-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids; most likely me

-Communicates with teachers; most likely a mix

-Manages car maintenance; him, but I will take my car in when needed. (He tells me when to take it in though.)

-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to; me

-Plans birthdays; both

-Makes dinner; both

-Housecleaning; mainly me, but he does lots too

We both work FT but I have a more flexible schedule, I work 4 on 4 off cycles where as he works mon-fri 7-4. So it's easier for me to do a lot of the stuff during the week when he's working.

[ebeth]

-Pays the bills
Me

-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day.
Drop off: me
Pick up: him

-Does the grocery shopping
We do this together

-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.)
Together.

-Does the laundry
We each do our own. Will need to figure out who does the baby's now that the AP is done. Probably me.

-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc.
If it's related to cable/utilities: me
Household repairs: him

-Buys clothing for the kids
Me

-Packs the kids stuff for the day
Me

-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids
I schedule appointments but most of the time we both take her.

-Communicates with teachers
Me.

-Manages car maintenance 
Him

-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to
My family or kid friends: me
His family: him

-Plans birthdays 
Me

-Makes dinner
Him

-Housecleaning
He cleans the dishes after dinner but otherwise me.

[drloretta]

Sept 2, 2016 13:04:57 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

Just curious about the breakdown of child, house, and life related tasks and who ends up responsible for them compared to what households were like before the '70s or so. 
Both parents working, I WFH DH drives to work
-Pays the bills Me
-Drops off/picks up from daycare/school or communicates with a nanny. Basically the daily logistics of childcare for any given day. Split depending on the day
-Does the grocery shopping Me 80% of the time
-Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.) Me 80% of the time
-Does the laundry Me 95% of the time
-Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc. Me
-Buys clothing for the kids Me
-Packs the kids stuff for the day Me
-Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids Me
-Communicates with teachers Me, but DH attends parent teacher conferences
-Manages car maintenance  DH
-Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to Me
-Plans birthdays  Me
-Makes dinner Me 90% of the time
-Housecleaning I'm the cleaner, DH organizes


I'm sure I'm missing a lot of categories. Feel free to add to the list. 

[bowies]

Pays the bills - Autopay? I'll pay one-off bills.

Drops off/picks up from daycare/school - My H always drops off, we share in pick up duties.

Does the grocery shopping - Both

Does the miscellaneous shopping (lightbulbs, toilet paper, dish soap, etc.) - Both

Does the laundry - Me but my H helps

Calls the appropriate people and sets up times for household tasks like cable set up, dishwasher fixed, plumber etc. - My H

Buys clothing for the kids - Me

Packs the kids stuff for the day - Both but my H is primary

Schedules Dr, dentist, and haircut appts. and takes the kids - Both but primarily me

Communicates with teachers - My H

Manages car maintenance - Both (each responsible for our own car)

Buys gifts/cards for family members for holidays and for birthdays you (or kids) are invited to - Both (each responsible for our own family), I do kid birthday purchases

Plans birthdays - Me

Makes dinner - My H

Housecleaning - Housecleaner; we both declutter (I am primary)

Dishes - My H is primary

Takes the garbage out - My H

Dog care - My H

Lawn care - My H is primary; I weed

Pumps the breastmilk - Me

Mails packages - Me

[jinkies]

My H:

Pays some bills (we have separate checking accts and split bills)

90% of lawn care

100% of day to day pet care (i do vet visits)

Packs kid lunches



I do everything else.

I work 32.5 hours a week, 15 minutes from home. He works FT plus some on-call hours, up to an hour away.