I was listening to an etiquette podcast and someone wrote in that they hate when people on dating sites contact them and want to talk about their work as small talk, because it's not interesting. Apparently, it's also kind of gauche to talk about your work in Europe. It's too much like prying into your financial status.
Eh, perhaps. There are PLENTY of scenarios where I never ask someone what they do, for various reasons. But I can't imagine dating someone and not having any idea what they spend their days doing. I think learning about the general concept of what one does is normal in getting to know someone, especially when you're interested in developing a relationship with them.
I am in the "don't ask interview questions" when I date. it drives my friends crazy because they will ask questions about this or that and I won't know. But, honestly, I do find that most things will come up organically.
I am also single, so, maybe my approach isn't working out to great. lol
I'm judging two moms in my first grader's GS troop. The first paid over $100 for her daughter (age 6!) to get pink highlights in her hair. She even called the school office to make sure they were allowed - like maybe the fact you wanted permission tells you it might not be appropriate?
The second mom handed me her permission slips and check taped together. I started to remove the tape and both papers and check started to rip. I just gave her a look and all she could muster was that she was out of staples! I've decided she must not be very smart.
I'm grumpy today and both of these had me highly irritated.
An old neighbor. Her father in law passed away and the funeral is Saturday. She's asked the church to provide the family meal Friday night before the viewing, the meal after the funeral on Saturday, and a meal Saturday night. This is a tiny church with 75 ish people and lots of elderly. Three meal in two days is a huge ask! She's also demanding that they use real dishes and silverware, otherwise it doesn't seem like a real meal. She's also complaining that Saturday evening's meal is haystaks and not a "real meal" like meat and potatoes.
She deserves to be judged.
And what is a "haystak"?
It’s like a burrito bowl. Rice, ground beef that’s seasoned, cheese and veggies.
I'm judging two moms in my first grader's GS troop. The first paid over $100 for her daughter (age 6!) to get pink highlights in her hair. She even called the school office to make sure they were allowed - like maybe the fact you wanted permission tells you it might not be appropriate?
The second mom handed me her permission slips and check taped together. I started to remove the tape and both papers and check started to rip. I just gave her a look and all she could muster was that she was out of staples! I've decided she must not be very smart.
I'm grumpy today and both of these had me highly irritated.
I’m judging you for judging both of these. How are pink highlights inappropriate?
And wouldn’t a staple rip both pages too? I guess a paper clip is the only acceptable answer, but looking back on my kids elementary days, many times I could barely get them fed, dressed, out the door. Don’t judge a mom who actually delivered check and permission slip on time!
I'm judging two moms in my first grader's GS troop. The first paid over $100 for her daughter (age 6!) to get pink highlights in her hair. She even called the school office to make sure they were allowed - like maybe the fact you wanted permission tells you it might not be appropriate?
I'm judging two moms in my first grader's GS troop. The first paid over $100 for her daughter (age 6!) to get pink highlights in her hair. She even called the school office to make sure they were allowed - like maybe the fact you wanted permission tells you it might not be appropriate?
The second mom handed me her permission slips and check taped together. I started to remove the tape and both papers and check started to rip. I just gave her a look and all she could muster was that she was out of staples! I've decided she must not be very smart.
I'm grumpy today and both of these had me highly irritated.
You’re really nasty when you’re grumpy.
I’ve had parents do the tape thing, all I had to do was slide through with a scissor and never had an issue. Guess I’m super duper smart.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
Well right now I'm kind of judging people who give snarky responses to "what do you do?"
I mean, I get where people are coming from with the dislike of the question, but if you don't want to answer, just say so or be vague or something. Don't make small talk more terrible than it already is by being a jerk about a common question.
I'm judging two moms in my first grader's GS troop. The first paid over $100 for her daughter (age 6!) to get pink highlights in her hair. She even called the school office to make sure they were allowed - like maybe the fact you wanted permission tells you it might not be appropriate?
What's inappropriate about it?
My 6 year old daughter had purple hair this summer. We had a deal if she got all good weekly reports from her teacher that we would do it. My son (10) had blue hair.
The lazy slugs in my neighborhood do the same thing. No one lives more than a short block from the stop and they all drive and the kids sit in the car until the bus comes. I judge them in the winter and when it's raining as well.
In general I don't buy into this whole no judging thing. I'm judging all goddamn day.
I don't really get the waiting with your kid at the bus stop. This was not the norm growing up. We knew people at the houses near the stop, so if we needed help, we knew where to go.
devonpow, I cannot see McConnel and not think he looks like a turkey.
Why can people judge moms who drive their kid to the bus stop and I can't judge pink hair at school? This board is exhausting sometimes. A judging thread is never any fun if you can't actually, you know, judge.
I will judge people who put tape on checks. I will be surprised if the bank will take it now, but who knows.
The lazy slugs in my neighborhood do the same thing. No one lives more than a short block from the stop and they all drive and the kids sit in the car until the bus comes. I judge them in the winter and when it's raining as well.
In general I don't buy into this whole no judging thing. I'm judging all goddamn day.
I don't really get the waiting with your kid at the bus stop. This was not the norm growing up. We knew people at the houses near the stop, so if we needed help, we knew where to go.
devonpow, I cannot see McConnel and not think he looks like a turkey.
Our school requires a guardian at the bus stop until 3rd grade.
Why can people judge moms who drive their kid to the bus stop and I can't judge pink hair at school? This board is exhausting sometimes. A judging thread is never any fun if you can't actually, you know, judge.
I will judge people who put tape on checks. I will be surprised if the bank will take it now, but who knows.
Just because. I just want to know what specifically is inappropriate to you. The pink? The highlights? The 100 dollars?
I don't really get the waiting with your kid at the bus stop. This was not the norm growing up. We knew people at the houses near the stop, so if we needed help, we knew where to go.
devonpow , I cannot see McConnel and not think he looks like a turkey.
Our school requires a guardian at the bus stop until 3rd grade.
Ah. We live walking distance to the school, so I was not aware of such rules. On a random note I wish we still had crossing guards in our neighborhood.
Post by Leeham Rimes on Oct 3, 2018 21:08:43 GMT -5
I’m judging myself. My kids fight all the time. I ask my friends and they’re all “my kids never fight. It’s all unicorns and rainbows and they love each other so much” so I just must be doing something wrong. Bah.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
Well right now I'm kind of judging people who give snarky responses to "what do you do?"
I mean, I get where people are coming from with the dislike of the question, but if you don't want to answer, just say so or be vague or something. Don't make small talk more terrible than it already is by being a jerk about a common question.
I met a guy at a party who was an army photographer who was leaving the military and going to culinary school to be a pastry chef and thought that was fascinating. Met another guy who does hair for movies. Then I was hanging out with other friends and asking what they do and my friend got mad and said I was rude so I dont ask anymore.
People have cool jobs I didn't know existed! I'm genuinely curious!
Why can people judge moms who drive their kid to the bus stop and I can't judge pink hair at school? This board is exhausting sometimes. A judging thread is never any fun if you can't actually, you know, judge.
I will judge people who put tape on checks. I will be surprised if the bank will take it now, but who knows.
I’m judging myself. My kids fight all the time. I ask my friends and they’re all “my kids never fight. It’s all unicorns and rainbows and they love each other so much” so I just must be doing something wrong. Bah.
I’m judging myself. My kids fight all the time. I ask my friends and they’re all “my kids never fight. It’s all unicorns and rainbows and they love each other so much” so I just must be doing something wrong. Bah.
Your friends are full of shit. I do think in many ways my girls can play together nicely and it happen more than it used to, but they continue to fight. C definitely likes to pick at her sister who she knows will give her a reaction. you are doing nothing wrong.
I’m judging myself. My kids fight all the time. I ask my friends and they’re all “my kids never fight. It’s all unicorns and rainbows and they love each other so much” so I just must be doing something wrong. Bah.
They’re lying.
ETA: my boys can get along amazingly. They can be the nicest, kindest, sweetest best buds. And then they can fight. I have a hard time believing siblings never fight.
I'm judging my coworker (who has a TON of health problems) because she went on a rant today about how Obamacare is awful and is the reason she can't get a proper diagnosis or treatment. I happen to know that she is going to be let go soon (which I genuinely feel bad about even though she voted for Trump) and now I'm wondering if she'll end up on an ACA plan because she can't not have insurance with all the medical issues she has.
I’m judging myself. My kids fight all the time. I ask my friends and they’re all “my kids never fight. It’s all unicorns and rainbows and they love each other so much” so I just must be doing something wrong. Bah.
My SDs fight CONSTANTLY. One is a senior, the other is a sophomore and if senior doesnt live on campus next year we are pushing for her to live with us so the girls can have their space (both live with their mom primarily).
Even when they arent together they are fighting over snapchat. Last time they were here they fought because one made a snarky comment about the others eyebrows on a selfie she posted ::sigh::
Why can people judge moms who drive their kid to the bus stop and I can't judge pink hair at school? This board is exhausting sometimes. A judging thread is never any fun if you can't actually, you know, judge.
I will judge people who put tape on checks. I will be surprised if the bank will take it now, but who knows.
Just because. I just want to know what specifically is inappropriate to you. The pink? The highlights? The 100 dollars?
Partially the 100 dollars but I would never ever send my kids to school with unnaturally colored hair. FWIW, the school office told her that they don't "prohibit it" but they don't condone it as it's a distraction. To each their own, but I'm still shocked she chose to do it.
I would consider it in the summer, but I would never pay more than the cost of a box of jello for it and I'm not sure how long that would stay in their light blonde hair.
Well right now I'm kind of judging people who give snarky responses to "what do you do?"
I mean, I get where people are coming from with the dislike of the question, but if you don't want to answer, just say so or be vague or something. Don't make small talk more terrible than it already is by being a jerk about a common question.
It's usually an innocuous conversation filler, much like the weather. Giving a flip response is dumb.
I was listening to an etiquette podcast and someone wrote in that they hate when people on dating sites contact them and want to talk about their work as small talk, because it's not interesting. Apparently, it's also kind of gauche to talk about your work in Europe. It's too much like prying into your financial status.
Not just in Europe. My husband deals with people of high wealth a lot and it's definitely frowned upon to ask they what they do because it's the equivalent of asking how they got their money. He says some of the guys will even answer with "drug dealer" or "money laundering" if they have a sense of humor. (This is not in a work place setting, he has an expensive hobby that wealthy people tend to have also)
I know that’s what they say about Europe but I’ve found that every single french person that I’ve had lengthy conversations with ends up asking what I do for a living so I don’t think it is as taboo as they say it is. Not sure if part of that is because I’m a foreigner and I don’t actually care at all, I just found it interesting.
Considering how many hours one spends at their job, I don't see how you do not ask about it at some point. Maybe not the first thing to ask, but eventually.
I keep imagining some girl scout mom giving me fucking stink eye over fucking tape.
Also, "not talking about your work" smacks to me of ppl who have more money than sense and their "job" is collecting from a trust fund while pursuing a masters in Renaissance Cartography.