Who/What are you judging?

[Deleted]

I judge my sister for being self-centered. She's 16 years my junior and I've given her a lot of grace when it comes to etiquette over the years, but she's in her late 20's now and I've realized that it's not as much bad etiquette but more just her being self-centered and rude.

I'm also judging my neighbor who drives her kid to the bus stop every day. They live 2 houses away. It seriously probably takes longer to load up the car and drive there than it does to walk. I get it in the winter or when it's raining, but 70 degrees and sunny? Or maybe I just feel like a crap Mom because my kids walk every day and we live 2 blocks from the bus stop.

[MDmomof2]

Oct 3, 2018 12:03:41 GMT -5 @sameoldstory said:

It's possible we have the same neighbor! Also, she has a 5th grader - a very responsible one! I let my 2nd and 5th graders walk to the bus stop alone and feel badly because it seems like EVERY OTHER parent is there. Although to be sure there are a lot of little kids without older siblings and I can see having a parent wait at the bus with them.

[dochas]

The lazy slugs in my neighborhood do the same thing. No one lives more than a short block from the stop and they all drive and the kids sit in the car until the bus comes. I judge them in the winter and when it's raining as well.

In general I don't buy into this whole no judging thing. I'm judging all goddamn day.

[devonpow]

Republicans

Mitch McConnel

Lindsay Graham

White men in general

[bugmeetsworld]

One of my friends is an Assistant Principal at an elementary school. He sent me an invite on Facebook last night for a fundraiser. His wife is a thirty-one consultant and 15% of the sales will go to the school. This just seems so unethical. They are shady AF when it comes to money though, so I shouldn’t be surprised.

[zaneyzoo]

I'm judging myself as a mom today. My kid had an epic meltdown in the middle of downtown because she didn't get something she wanted. After preschool, I take her and my nephew to a little soda shop to get a treat and she got pissed she didn't get the right sticker and I picked the wrong candy. So she melted down - screaming - kicking.

I feel like I've spoiled her so bad that she threw this fit.

[snapoutofit]

I’m judging the asshole who tried to pull out around my son’s stopped school bus yesterday right in front of me as I stood at the end of the driveway. Like, didn’t stop until I got his/her attention by walking out into the street and told them “hey! Kids are getting off the bus here!” I had to shout it because they wouldn’t roll down their window. Idiot.



I’m also judging myself because I’ve had the whole summer off and am still off and my house is still cluttered, I didn’t work out or do anything productive really at all.

[followyourarrow]

An old neighbor. Her father in law passed away and the funeral is Saturday. She's asked the church to provide the family meal Friday night before the viewing, the meal after the funeral on Saturday, and a meal Saturday night. This is a tiny church with 75 ish people and lots of elderly. Three meal in two days is a huge ask! She's also demanding that they use real dishes and silverware, otherwise it doesn't seem like a real meal. She's also complaining that Saturday evening's meal is haystaks and not a "real meal" like meat and potatoes.

[Violet]

The parents driving their kids to the bus stop drive me nuts because the bus stop is at the end of my driveway... There's a solid 30 minute window in the mornings that I can't leave for work because the cars are clogging the road or blocking my drive. Then of course kids or the moms are just walking slow or talking in general so I usually can't back out of the drive after the cars move. Our bus stops are every half a block, there is no reason at all to drive your child or walk them at this time of morning. These are middle & high school children. Elementary is drop off only because we live 4 blocks away from the school.

Also on that note, the number of cars I see that run the school bus stop sign is insane. It's a neighborhood that you probably live in... stop for your children and your neighbors kids.

[woodgnome]

@sameoldstory my sister is 7 years younger than me & I have the same frustrations with her. I had hoped that as we got older, we would get closer but it’s been the opposite.

[ECB]

I live across the street from the bus stop so.... yeah, no driving! There are actually 2 families who live far enough away that I wouldn't blame them for driving to the stop and they don't.

My judgements - my brother. He's a diagnosed sociopath so I realize that how he is is how he is. But damn. He's dating a new girl - been on 4 or 5 dates. He can't tell my mother what she does for a living because they've decided that to ask each other questions without knowing each other and not knowing if they may be too prying is disrespectful.  So they are just learning about each other "organically".  





Asking "What do you do for a living?" being disrespectful is truly a new one. 

[CrazyLucky]

I'm judging DH. I handle at least 90% of the "mental load." Right now he is in charge of one thing, but he's "too busy." F that. I don't sit around all day doing nothing and I handle most of it. Just do it.

[oracle76]

I'm judging the font down board who wants to email her resignation for a teaching position. WTH?

[mel]

Oct 3, 2018 14:17:12 GMT -5 oracle76 said:

I'm judging the font down board who wants to email her resignation for a teaching position. WTH?

I'm judging you for judging this. If I'm reading this correctly, you're judging the post from yesterday asking if it's ok to resign via email. You have no idea what her circumstances are that would make her consider this. 

[oracle76]

Oct 3, 2018 14:19:52 GMT -5 mel said:

Oct 3, 2018 14:17:12 GMT -5 oracle76 said:

I'm judging the font down board who wants to email her resignation for a teaching position. WTH?

I'm judging you for judging this. If I'm reading this correctly, you're judging the post from yesterday asking if it's ok to resign via email. You have no idea what her circumstances are that would make her consider this. 

Um..most fonts in this thread are judging someone/something without knowing circumstances.   OP didn't ask that the "judgements" be proven justifiable.  People judge. Meh.

[pantsparty]

My neighbor is having a baby shower from 4:30 to 7:30 AND we need to bring a gift AND diapers. This is her 4th baby.

I'm judging myself for going. I should have sent a gift and made plans. I didn't realize the time until yesterday, I thought I'd be able to get this done in the morning.

[icedcoffee]

Oct 3, 2018 14:19:52 GMT -5 mel said:

Oct 3, 2018 14:17:12 GMT -5 oracle76 said:

I'm judging the font down board who wants to email her resignation for a teaching position. WTH?

I'm judging you for judging this. If I'm reading this correctly, you're judging the post from yesterday asking if it's ok to resign via email. You have no idea what her circumstances are that would make her consider this. 

Seriously.  All she did was ask if it's ok.  There is literally not one other detail.  

[pantsparty]

Oct 3, 2018 14:11:12 GMT -5 ECB said:

I live across the street from the bus stop so.... yeah, no driving! There are actually 2 families who live far enough away that I wouldn't blame them for driving to the stop and they don't.

My judgements - my brother. He's a diagnosed sociopath so I realize that how he is is how he is. But damn. He's dating a new girl - been on 4 or 5 dates. He can't tell my mother what she does for a living because they've decided that to ask each other questions without knowing each other and not knowing if they may be too prying is disrespectful.  So they are just learning about each other "organically".  





Asking "What do you do for a living?" being disrespectful is truly a new one. 

This is insanity. How are you supposed to "organically" find out what someone does for a living? What a waste of energy.

[TR]

Oct 3, 2018 14:23:45 GMT -5 oracle76 said:

Oct 3, 2018 14:19:52 GMT -5 mel said:

I'm judging you for judging this. If I'm reading this correctly, you're judging the post from yesterday asking if it's ok to resign via email. You have no idea what her circumstances are that would make her consider this. 

Um..most fonts in this thread are judging someone/something without knowing circumstances.   OP didn't ask that the "judgements" be proven justifiable.  People judge. Meh.

What the fuck are you trying to say that is autocorrecting to “font”?

[oregonpachey]

My insurance company. They mailed a letter to my son, addressed it to him. They approved his upcoming surgery for a tubal ligation. Wut? That letter should be to me, not my 8 year old. Last I checked, he didn't have any fallopian tubes.

I get that people make mistakes but ugh.

[oracle76]

Oct 3, 2018 14:30:16 GMT -5 TR said:

Oct 3, 2018 14:23:45 GMT -5 oracle76 said:

Um..most fonts in this thread are judging someone/something without knowing circumstances.   OP didn't ask that the "judgements" be proven justifiable.  People judge. Meh.

What the fuck are you trying to say that is autocorrecting to “font”?

No autocorrect. Font = Member and/or Poster on other message boards.  You seem lovely.

[TR]

Oct 3, 2018 14:34:33 GMT -5 oracle76 said:

Oct 3, 2018 14:30:16 GMT -5 TR said:

What the fuck are you trying to say that is autocorrecting to “font”?

No autocorrect. Font = Member and/or Poster on other message boards.  You seem lovely.

I’m a fucking delight.

[mrsd2006]

Oct 3, 2018 13:31:11 GMT -5 followyourarrow said:

An old neighbor. Her father in law passed away and the funeral is Saturday. She's asked the church to provide the family meal Friday night before the viewing, the meal after the funeral on Saturday, and a meal Saturday night. This is a tiny church with 75 ish people and lots of elderly. Three meal in two days is a huge ask! She's also demanding that they use real dishes and silverware, otherwise it doesn't seem like a real meal. She's also complaining that Saturday evening's meal is haystaks and not a "real meal" like meat and potatoes.

She deserves to be judged. 

And what is a "haystak"?

[oracle76]

Oct 3, 2018 14:30:21 GMT -5 oregonpachey said:

My insurance company. They mailed a letter to my son, addressed it to him. They approved his upcoming surgery for a tubal ligation. Wut? That letter should be to me, not my 8 year old. Last I checked, he didn't have any fallopian tubes.

I get that people make mistakes but ugh.

WUT? That's at least worth a call to the insurance company to find out how that happened.

[icedcoffee]

Oct 3, 2018 14:34:33 GMT -5 oracle76 said:

Oct 3, 2018 14:30:16 GMT -5 TR said:

What the fuck are you trying to say that is autocorrecting to “font”?

No autocorrect. Font = Member and/or Poster on other message boards.  You seem lovely.

I have never heard this.  I even looked it up in the dictionary.  Ha.

ETA:  I didn't find anything that helped me understand.

[melissa]

I'm judging my sister who is two years older than me. She complains on FB that it is so tough being a single parent but I don't consider her a single parent when she 1. allowed her ex to legally give up custody but won't tell us that and 2. lives at home with my parents that help her out ALL the freaking time. She is such a drama queen and her friends feed into her. One of these days I really want to just tell her that she is not a single parent and to suck it up buttercup.

I'm also judging myself. I had a little health issue on Friday and now I'm overly paranoid about everything especially since I'm feeling a little off today.

[flex]

I'm judging the FB "friends" who replied negatively to my posts after the Kavanaugh hearing. One dude even had the nerve to tell me to ask my son how he felt about the subject. WTF? Two of the negative posters were women. Double WTF?

Buh bye "friends".

[msmerymac]

Oct 3, 2018 14:11:12 GMT -5 ECB said:

I live across the street from the bus stop so.... yeah, no driving! There are actually 2 families who live far enough away that I wouldn't blame them for driving to the stop and they don't.

My judgements - my brother. He's a diagnosed sociopath so I realize that how he is is how he is. But damn. He's dating a new girl - been on 4 or 5 dates. He can't tell my mother what she does for a living because they've decided that to ask each other questions without knowing each other and not knowing if they may be too prying is disrespectful.  So they are just learning about each other "organically".  





Asking "What do you do for a living?" being disrespectful is truly a new one. 

I was listening to an etiquette podcast and someone wrote in that they hate when people on dating sites contact them and want to talk about their work as small talk, because it's not interesting. Apparently, it's also kind of gauche to talk about your work in Europe. It's too much like prying into your financial status.

[icedcoffee]

Oct 3, 2018 14:44:19 GMT -5 melissa said:

I'm judging my sister who is two years older than me. She complains on FB that it is so tough being a single parent but I don't consider her a single parent when she 1. allowed her ex to legally give up custody but won't tell us that and 2. lives at home with my parents that help her out ALL the freaking time. She is such a drama queen and her friends feed into her. One of these days I really want to just tell her that she is not a single parent and to suck it up buttercup.

I'm also judging myself. I had a little health issue on Friday and now I'm overly paranoid about everything especially since I'm feeling a little off today.

Wait...What?  She can't force someone to parent a child.  If he wanted to give up custody it doesn't mean she "allowed it".  It's probably her only choice or the better option.

I feel like maybe there's more to this story because based off of these facts it seems a little extreme to be judging her.  Seems to me she is in fact a single parent.  She may have a good support system, but....still a single parent.

Sorry about the health issue.

[msmerymac]

I'm been judging one of the women I'm planning a baby shower with for months.

I'm the one who offered to host and have it at a restaurant, so I'm paying for it, while the other two hosts, who volunteered to help me, are doing decorations, cupcakes, games, etc. Anyway, this one woman thought everyone had to pay for their own brunch for some reason. I'm like, "No, I'm paying for it. It's all part of the room rental." Well, immediately after she found that out she asked the mom-to-be if she could invite her friend and her stepdaughter, neither of whom the mom-to-be knows. Thankfully, my friend is great at graciously turning people down. The whole shower is only 10 people!

Then she was pretty insistent on trying to sneak the baby's name onto the set she's putting together for a photo booth. The other woman helping us plan and I were both like, "Mom-to-be hasn't announced the name yet. If she wants to tell people at the shower, cool, but we don't want to advertise it anywhere."

The latest thing is that she asked if we were all wearing pink to the shower. No, Carol, *we* are not.

The room the shower is in is already pretty well decorated, too, so we legit only need, like, centerpieces, but this chick is like, "How about MORE TULLE?!" No.