In the same vein, I can't stand the one dad who PARKS in the drop off lane and leaves his car their while he walks his children to their lines and hangs out for the Pledge. The school even sends out email blasts that the parents are not to get out of the car and if your child needs assistance getting out of the car or you're one for longwinded goodbyes, to please park in an actual parking spot and walk your child to the line. This guys fucking does what he wants and I give him the goddamned death glare every single day. Every morning my blood pressure spikes.
Someone needs to actually go out to his car as he pulls up and make him go park. We had an issue with parents pulling into the bus loop to drop off their kids and despite a million emails, they then had to put saw horses up with a "guard" to keep parents from driving in. AND THEN, people STILL tried to drive in. The audacity of some parents floors me.
ETA: No matter how many emails are sent out, as long as they are generic, the person committing the "crime" will ALWAYS think "Oh, they don't mean ME!!!!".
The principal or someone needs to get the nerve up andjust go out and directly tell that parent that he can't park in the carpool lane.
Our school has bus drop off only in the front and parents are supposed to drop kids off in the back, on another street. Parents are repeatedly told this, and six weeks in, the principal still has to stand at the school driveway sometimes and tell parents to turn around and go around the back. It's not a big lot, either, so there's very little room to maneuver.
But the school won't dismiss walkers without a guardian picking them up so he couldn't walk alone if we were a block from the school, either. LOL,
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how does this work? How big is the school? The end of the day is a madhouse at DSs school!! I can't imagine them trying to keep the walkers inside waiting while they check off who has a guardian there and who doesn't. WIth the buses pulling up, some kids going to clubs, some going to after care... truly, the idea that the staff would really have to monitor all the kids to that level is intriguing to me.
It's not very big. About 300 kids and only goes to 4th so if there are clubs I don't know about them but maybe they start in 3rd or 4th? They dismiss kids to aftercare and the bus lines first. There's 2 dismissal doors, 1st and 2nd at one door and 3rd and 4th at the other. 1 teacher at a time comes to the door and doesn't let a kid go until she sees the parent. I grew up in NYC, so not at all with this coddling and kowtowing to parents. I would be much happier somewhere in the middle of kids being thrown to the wolves and this nonsense.
Yes, my 10 year old would know she is not at the right stop. My 7 year old may not though. And he frequently rides the bus without her. The added extra layer is that DS is on the spectrum and has an anxiety disorder. Dropping him off at the wrong spot would not have a good outcome.
I get your point but there are a whole host of reasons why it's a better idea to have a guardian at pick up/drop off for the younger kids. And there are plenty of other ways to foster independence.
Ok, but you're missing my point. If you want to drop off and pick up your kid personally every day from the bus stop, nobody is stopping you. Your freedom to helicopter parent or appropriately supervise (depending on the child, etc) is up to you. I dislike being required to helicopter parent. I'm a proponent of free-range kids as appropriate, but it's getting more and more difficult as childhood independence is practically criminalized. There needs to be an opt-out, the ability for parents to sign a waiver that says their kids don't need a parent at the bus stop. That's all.
In the same vein, I can't stand the one dad who PARKS in the drop off lane and leaves his car their while he walks his children to their lines and hangs out for the Pledge. The school even sends out email blasts that the parents are not to get out of the car and if your child needs assistance getting out of the car or you're one for longwinded goodbyes, to please park in an actual parking spot and walk your child to the line. This guys fucking does what he wants and I give him the goddamned death glare every single day. Every morning my blood pressure spikes.
Someone needs to actually go out to his car as he pulls up and make him go park. We had an issue with parents pulling into the bus loop to drop off their kids and despite a million emails, they then had to put saw horses up with a "guard" to keep parents from driving in. AND THEN, people STILL tried to drive in. The audacity of some parents floors me.
ETA: No matter how many emails are sent out, as long as they are generic, the person committing the "crime" will ALWAYS think "Oh, they don't mean ME!!!!".
The principal or someone needs to get the nerve up andjust go out and directly tell that parent that he can't park in the carpool lane.
Other parents have said something to him. He just doesn't even care. He's an entitled douche. I feel like the principal is usually there too, though I don't think she has ever said anything to him in person. I only use the drop off lane when we are running behind and I'm in my pajamas or not fit to be seen in public clothes, lol, and otherwise park in a normal parking spot and walk my children to their lines. But whenever I do use the drop off lane, and he's there, which is like every time, I get enraged.
Someone needs to actually go out to his car as he pulls up and make him go park. We had an issue with parents pulling into the bus loop to drop off their kids and despite a million emails, they then had to put saw horses up with a "guard" to keep parents from driving in. AND THEN, people STILL tried to drive in. The audacity of some parents floors me.
ETA: No matter how many emails are sent out, as long as they are generic, the person committing the "crime" will ALWAYS think "Oh, they don't mean ME!!!!".
The principal or someone needs to get the nerve up andjust go out and directly tell that parent that he can't park in the carpool lane.
Other parents have said something to him. He just doesn't even care. He's an entitled douche. I feel like the principal is usually there too, though I don't think she has ever said anything to him in person. I only use the drop off lane when we are running behind and I'm in my pajamas or not fit to be seen in public clothes, lol, and otherwise park in a normal parking spot and walk my children to their lines. But whenever I do use the drop off lane, and he's there, which is like every time, I get enraged.
I’d have a tow truck sitting there and tell him if he leaves his car, you’re towing it. 😂🤣 if only. But i hate assholes like this.
But the school won't dismiss walkers without a guardian picking them up so he couldn't walk alone if we were a block from the school, either. LOL,
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how does this work? How big is the school? The end of the day is a madhouse at DSs school!! I can't imagine them trying to keep the walkers inside waiting while they check off who has a guardian there and who doesn't. WIth the buses pulling up, some kids going to clubs, some going to after care... truly, the idea that the staff would really have to monitor all the kids to that level is intriguing to me.
Our largish school has a detailed daily table for each student. The teachers get it and know where to send kids. Some kids are drop off at the after school meet up and an aid supervises them until their club starts. The AP manages the bus students, though we don't have that many. Students who are not walkers go outside with their teachers. Walkers leave through a different door to prevent some of the log jam.
Ok, but you're missing my point. If you want to drop off and pick up your kid personally every day from the bus stop, nobody is stopping you. Your freedom to helicopter parent or appropriately supervise (depending on the child, etc) is up to you. I dislike being required to helicopter parent. I'm a proponent of free-range kids as appropriate, but it's getting more and more difficult as childhood independence is practically criminalized. There needs to be an opt-out, the ability for parents to sign a waiver that says their kids don't need a parent at the bus stop. That's all.
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I love this waiver idea actually!
Seriously. Mine are too young for me to even be thinking about this, but I think my mom would have been really annoyed if she had to meet me at the bus stop all through elementary school. By 4th grade I was walking home from the stop, which was probably 3-4 blocks away. There were plenty of us who walked home from that stop without parents present.
And I get that some kids require more oversight. I can totally see DS1 being responsible enough to do this at a young age, DS2 not so much. But that's why it should be left up to parents.
I'm kind of curious if you brought a signed note to the school if they would make an exception.
I'm judging people who don't get the flu shot (baring medical reasons) and (obviously) anti-vaxers.
Also judging people who use their cell phone at inappropriate times. There is this women at the barre studio I go to and she will keep her cell phone on her mat and check it multiple times during class and text. The other day she answered her phone while class was still going on. It was like the final stretch series of class, but still... if the call is that important, get up and go in the hallway to take it. She sat there on her mat just chatting away with someone after class had ended and everyone else was cleaning up their equipment. The instructor was so annoyed... I hope she said something to her afterwards.
I have no idea if this is the case, but a woman at my yoga studio is an ob/gyn. She brings her phone into class because she has to. Then again, she steps out to take the call.
That I could understand. But I know what this woman does for a living, as the company she works for does business with the company I work for. She doesn’t have a job that requires her to keep her cell on her at all times. The day she took the call was a Saturday morning and she was talking with someone about where to meet for brunch. I mean, Bloody Marys are important to me too, but...
But the school won't dismiss walkers without a guardian picking them up so he couldn't walk alone if we were a block from the school, either. LOL,
The stuff we learn here...
how does this work? How big is the school? The end of the day is a madhouse at DSs school!! I can't imagine them trying to keep the walkers inside waiting while they check off who has a guardian there and who doesn't. WIth the buses pulling up, some kids going to clubs, some going to after care... truly, the idea that the staff would really have to monitor all the kids to that level is intriguing to me.
Our school has a U shaped driveway the length of the school where the buses pull in and wait there for students to exit the front doors. The students getting picked up line up at the side door where the parking lot is and a parent has to go to the door and sign the clipboard next to the kids name and then the teacher manning that door yells inside for the student.
Our district requires an adult at the stop to pick up until 3rd grade. The k-3 school doesn't dismiss until 4:15 and during the winter it is beginning to get dark when some of the kids are getting off the bus.
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I’m judging the owner of the beach condo we rented through VRBO this week. It’s a fairly nice (but dated) 3 bed/3 br unit. There are handwritten notes taped on the walls EVERYWHERE. (Clean the sand from the tubs. Please remove makeup before retiring so not to stain the white pillow cases.) The kicker is she wrote on the inside of the kitchen cabinets with a sharpie, labeling where things go. Soup Bowls. Salad Bowls. Vinegars/Oils. Spices/Seasonings.
I’m judging the owner of the beach condo we rented through VRBO this week. It’s a fairly nice (but dated) 3 bed/3 br unit. There are handwritten notes taped on the walls EVERYWHERE. (Clean the sand from the tubs. Please remove makeup before retiring so not to stain the white pillow cases.) The kicker is she wrote on the inside of the kitchen cabinets with a sharpie, labeling where things go. Soup Bowls. Salad Bowls. Vinegars/Oils. Spices/Seasonings.
How in the world does every kid have an adult who can drop everything at 3:00 to be home?!
They don't. They stay for after care and aren't taking the bus.
Not necessarily. I was my brother’s aftercare for many years. He had to walk home alone from his school while I walked from mine (in opposite directions from our house, so I couldn’t get him) and we met at home. My mom hated that that was our situation, but formal aftercare was cost prohibitive. I would imagine that is still the case in many families.
I’m judging the owner of the beach condo we rented through VRBO this week. It’s a fairly nice (but dated) 3 bed/3 br unit. There are handwritten notes taped on the walls EVERYWHERE. (Clean the sand from the tubs. Please remove makeup before retiring so not to stain the white pillow cases.) The kicker is she wrote on the inside of the kitchen cabinets with a sharpie, labeling where things go. Soup Bowls. Salad Bowls. Vinegars/Oils. Spices/Seasonings.
Hmmm, is this the part where I get judged for letting DD walk home from school and be home alone for a half hour a few days a week starting last year when she was in 3rd grade?
Honestly, like pp's have said, there needs to be room for parents to use their own judgement. I know my kid. She's responsible and a rule follower. She knows which neighbors to go to in an emergency, and how to use the phone to call me, DH, or any other emergency contact on the board next to the phone. She comes home, lets the dog out, makes a snack, and reads for that half hour. DS, on the other hand, is not looking like he'd be able to handle that kind of responsibility, and will likely be going to aftercare until he graduates HS at this rate.
And just to add to the obviously wide range of school district policies on this, in ours only kindergarteners have to be dismissed to an adult, whether they're a walker or getting off the bus.
That is fair. I don't feel like prefacing every post with pardon my English. Not everyone is fluent in English.
I was mostly teasing. I do not really judge poor grammar because I, too, am guilty of not capping things that should be, not using appropriate punctuation and spelling things incorrectly.
It bothers me, but I do not judge it so much.
I wish I had the balls to point out every instance of poor grammar and misspelling I see on FB. Like when someone posts something so profound or some shit and they have a glaring error in the spelling I want to always go correct it. I never do.