Holy shit. Your ex was brazen in his selfish stupidity, that's for sure. I'm so sorry. And having to drive her home after? And her audacity to tell you she's a good listener?! Ohmygod, I don't know how you didn't accidentally drive off the road in a rage.
Post by tripleshot on Jan 15, 2019 14:49:36 GMT -5
Holy shit. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. You definitely deserve better. I would’ve let her walk home or wait on the side of the street in the snow for the Uber. Like others said, you may not realize it now, but you seem to be handling it as best as you can, definitely better than I would have.
You are better than me. For real. In my sort of similar situation, I came out with a leather belt blazing. Not my proudest moment but no regrets either.
It sucks but I’m glad you get to see his true colors.
I wish you all the strength you need to take him to the cleaners and be strong for your children.
ETA: And I’m sooo sorry you’re having to go through all of this.
I keep replaying that moment and I can't tell you how disappointed that I went to thoughts like, "WTF?! I am the only f*&&ing adult in the house and now I have to change my life while not even wearing a bra." So many stupid thoughts as I willed myself out of bed and out of my room to go there... wish I would have thought of the belt or at least to punch my H.
I’m still enraged for you and you made me laugh at the no bra life changing moment.
I must say that I think you are stronger than me for being the adult and for having the will and strength to restrain yourself.
I didn't want to read without commenting. I am so very sorry that you are going through this. My exH cheated on me, but never so blatantly. I can't even imagine. You have more strength than you know, but remember to allow yourself some grace as your grieve the life that you are losing.
I am so sorry you have been thrown into this. One step at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time, you will come out on the other side stronger and better. Let us know how we can help.
I am so sorry. You really do seem like you are leaps and bounds ahead of the curve on this one though. There will undoubtedly be tough times ahead, but I have yet to meet a person who got a divorce say they made the wrong choice, and that their life is better for going through the rough parts.
And fuck your STBX, what a piece of total dogshit. Its unfortunate that these town assholes are going to impact so many people with their poor choices. Stay strong, you will get through this, and end up so much better for it.
Post by onomatopoeia on Jan 15, 2019 17:06:32 GMT -5
That's so awful, I'm so sorry. I actually gasped when I read that, how terrible for you. It sounds like you are surrounded by supportive people, I'm so glad. Lots of positive thoughts to you.
I am HORRIFIED on your behalf. I don't have any good advice other than to be kind to yourself and know that whatever emotions you experience from hour to hour are all valid. Peace to you.
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Post by shopgirl07 on Jan 15, 2019 17:35:10 GMT -5
Oh my god. I am so sorry. What a horrible betrayal, I can’t imagine. As some one who has recently been through a huge heartbreak, I feel your pain and I’m just so sorry.
I’m so sorry. I’m in the process of divorcing my cheating husband too and the thought of coparenting with him and his affair partner fills me with rage. You are doing great though, amazing that you gave her a ride home. Just shows what a great loss this will be for him as you clearly have more class than that trash.
It also pisses me off that so many lovely posters have had to deal with similar situations. I really hate cheaters.
Post by W.T.Faulkner on Jan 15, 2019 18:14:22 GMT -5
That is terrible. He is such an asshole, but damn, you are amazing.
I just want to add that children are super resilient — a lot of times, they adapt to change and stuff like this far better than we do. They’re going to be ok because they have a mom who so clearly has her shit together even after surviving the worst shock of her life.